Need Civilian and Liberals Point of View

[Curmudgeon]

Lert me begin by saying that she was chased out of it by the OB/GYNs when her partner was threatened with murder charges due to a stillborn delivery that was no fault of her own and my wife was threatened with prosecution for practicing medicine without a license; 100s of successful births notwithstanding. But before she left the field and after five years of hartd work and endeavor she sponsored and got signed a bill that licensed lay midwives in this state. She had to do a lot of her political work and televiswion and news print interviews underground because the Medical Board was after her.

 

My wife had always had an interest in childbirth and became one of the first women licensed in this state as a childbirth instructor, what's now called Lamaze. She and her ex moved to Arkansas where she worked with the University of AR to start certifying other women since she was the first licensed instructor they'd ever had. From there she apprenticed in midwifery and after a number of years of instruction and assisting at births became a full and then senior midwife. About that time she left her loser ex, returned to our state and continued to practice until 1985 when the medical profession went after her and her partner legally as well as forcing them into bankruptcy. They'd opened the first free-standing birth center in this part of the state so the doctors refused to see women on Medicaid and sent them all to the birth center. Medicaid payed almost nothing for all the prenatal, the delivery and postnatal care but as midwives they couldn't refuse the women as patients.

 

We'll be moving to the Ozarks or Appalaicha when I retire in a few years and my wife is going to get involved again in a supporting role, not as a practicing midwife. That's more intense and time-consuming than she wants at this stage of her life.

[Horse]

I don't have any intention of changing, but I do believe in adjusting for windage and such.

 

Improvise ADAPT and overcome... You are in a new environment facing new challenges. If you don't adapt, you will not overcome those challenges.

 

Getting the job done is not enough, if you piss everyone else off in the process.

 

Never made it past "Gunny" because of my attitude and mouth....

 

 

So your attitude didn't help you in the corps either? Maybe you should look for a job more suited to your personality. I really can't see you locked in a lab with a bunch of poindexters.

 

After 5 years in the Chair Force, I didn't really have any issues adapting to civilian life. I just had to tone my language down a bit and learn to be a bit less direct....

[justpassingthrough]

If you don't give a damn, then why ask?

 

Gunny, it's not just you. There's lots of ex-military folks in the same predicament. It's probably similar to going from being married to being single - the way in which you identify with yourself has to change to be successful.

 

I think you've found the rub of the issue in your own question, that being viewing life and those around you as part of a "civilian la~la land". I don't know about anyone else, but if someone said that directly to me, I'd be offended. It implies stupidity and ignorance, and I'm neither stupid or ignorant. See what I mean?

 

Civilians are overwhelmingly able to accept their history and character are not similar to those who spent time in the military, but the reverse is seldom the case.

 

I once read the most beautiful words of wisdom: "Our difference are not blemishes, they're beauty marks." Gunny, it's not a bad thing to be different. Maybe the first step is accepting you are different than those who don't have the same background.

 

And alpha, no, military folks usually don't get a whole lot in the way of help adjusting to their "new" life. As wrong as it is, it's also just another example of our government bending veterans over....