pinkpippacat1 Posted April 12, 2007 Share Posted April 12, 2007 I'll try to keep this brief... Have a male friend who is married but we spend a LOT of time together (only met him literally 3 weeks before he was getting married...) We have kissed each other a few times and every time, we say we won't do it again but, of course, it happens again... A few days ago, we went away together to go to a concert and spent the night staying at another of my friends house. There was just the two of us who went to the concert and we spent the evening just being touchy-friends (holding hands, hugging - nothing more). We get back to the place where we are staying and are told we are both in the same room, where the only bed is a double (you can see where this is going...) We spent the whole night (and the next morning) just lying in bed, talking, kissing, hugging each other like the world would end if we didn't. Absolutely NO SEX though - it got to a point where we could a couple of times but we both agreed that couldn't go through with it because of his wife (both kept pants on all night and no touching of rude bits either!) We discussed what was going on a lot that night but seemed that it wasn't what we did say, it was what we didn't... Didn't dicsuss the possibility of it going anywhere other than us having to stop doing this because of his marriage. Didn't discuss what we want to happen. Didn't really discuss how we feel etc. Had SUCH a great time that night (and always do when see him) and he is amazingly sweet and caring - for example, he spent the entire journey back holding my hand... Anyway, know he should work on his marriage, and am happy for him to do so but I can't stop thinking about him. Really think he is the one... The things for me are the fact that if it was just a sex thing on either part, we would have just done it by now! Also, if it didn't mean anything, we would just clock up the first instance as a mistake and make sure it didn't happen again. I will still see him regularly (which is the hardest part - too many mutual friends) so just cutting contact not going to work. Anyone have any ideas how we can move on from this? Should we move on? Am scared of losing him from my life but also don't want to wreck his marriage... Don't know what to do! Link to post Share on other sites
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