dj Posted December 26, 2002 Share Posted December 26, 2002 Hi everybody! Can you give me some advices: How can you know that a really seriously interested in you and want to get in to s deeper/serious relationship w/ you, or he just want to play games w/ you???? Please let me know, what I should pay attention to when I'm dating/ with a guy!? Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 26, 2002 Share Posted December 26, 2002 If you aren't able to detect honest sincerity in a person, you may not be ready for dating. It's very easy to identify people who are genuinely interested in you by the frequency of their calls, contact, etc. and by the attention they give you when they are around you. This is very basic stuff. Pay attention and you will quickly know when someone is genuinely interested in you or if they just want to get into your pants...and sometimes that's not so bad either. After dating for a period of time, it's always nice to ask them to verbalize their feelings for you if they haven't done so already. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted January 3, 2003 Share Posted January 3, 2003 You looking for red flags? Here's a few... 1. Does he introduce you to his friends, family, co-workers, etc.? In short, does he integrate you into his life? 2. Does he treat you well? i.e. does he plan your dates, call every or every other day, pay attention to your wants, needs, desires, etc. 3. Does he go out of his way for you? 4. Do you feel like you are *special* to him? 5. Does he push you too fast for sex or intimacy? 6. Does he avoid commitment discussions? 7. Does he call you his "girl" or "girlfriend"? 8. When you meet his friends, do they already know of you? 9. Does he take you out and insist on paying for everything? (At least initially...) 10. Does he give you all of his phone numbers (work, home, cell, etc.)? 11. Does he compliment you (for real, not just superficially)? 12. Does your gut tell you *something is wrong*? Etc..... Okay, more than a few! Will post more if I think of more later.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted January 3, 2003 Share Posted January 3, 2003 Just watch out for any unusual behavior. And don't dismiss it. For example....one of my former boyfriends was a "good" player. However, in the beginning I wish I would have noticed red flags...like.... *Not going out with me on a Friday night...but planning on meeting up with me later, and trying to convince me it was a "rare" thing that he'd do it...but then do it like every day. *Getting upset that I wanted to do something by going out...even though he was going out too... *And also watch out for guys who try to convince you that they "need" you to be with them and help them be a better person or boyfriend...so that whenever they screw up, they just make the excuse that they are "learning" and "REALLY sorry" Maybe these don't make much sense...but some guys are REALLY smart about playing...and REALLY good at talking. I guess it just goes back to the old thing....if a guy treats you well, and seems to have you as a priority in his life...than you probably are...but only though actions and NEVER through words. Link to post Share on other sites
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