Ex Girlfriend Long DISTANCE / Never want to hear from her

[New Hope]

Me and my ex girlfriend broke up in December because she wanted a break from the relationship. We had a 5 year history together of on and off the last year and half of it was serious and long distance because she ended up moving to Florida I was her first everything. In the month of December we broke up and reason we broke up was because of another guy despite her saying no, this dude is 31 yrs old shes only 19 and they work together. She has no friends in Florida, all she does is work, school and visit her parents because she is dorming so she felt lonely...after a month of no contact we ended talking on valentines day I made sure I dated other people because she ended up dating this guy and having sex with him, she told me about the sex afterwards because I went back to NC again and she called telling me she wanted to work things out, so the whole month of March we try working things out but she was to insecure with me and other women and she felt she came back to soon, so I told her if we dont workout we cannot be friends and im leaving her life for good!!! so she felt she didnt want to be held down so I let her go and she never hearing from me again!!! and we been in NC for over 2 weeks, I dont want her back after all the crap one's been thru..does anybody think she'll ever return again because it bugs me out how she just accept me not talking to her again and I know she ran back to the guy. It sucks shes not in person to really tell her how I feel, feel like knocking her out..anybody think she'll ever call again or even realize again her mistake? especially in Long Distance how effective is No Contact after what I told her, she even hack my myspace the other day any thoughts on that..

[kepners]

mate give it time!!

be strong be a man. shes young and she learnign how to swing from tree to tree. and shes just fallen off. just give it time.

 

remember u are her first, so regardless how you or I would and do see it as blokes. one thing i have learnt is the first for women is a seriously big mother ****ing deal!!! and she will NEVER EVER EVER FORGET YOU!!!! NEVER EVER!!!! she will talk about you till her dying day mate.

 

and she will be, give it time. if in say 6months or however long u still havent heard then u have a choice a lil myspace message or carry on and leave it or talk to her friends you know about her.... and that WILL get back to her!! and she will know ur still thinking about her.

 

mate shes only given you up because you ****ing said it and probably didnt chase her hard enough, shes only young and i am guessing she wants to know you REALLY WANT HER.as for the older bloke, its bvecause she know he is more stable mentally and more commited to her and more supportive and more exeprince.... listen the positve for his age thing i could go on, its they way sometimes.

 

give it time - be a man - dont be a slag - just give her time. trust.

 

K

[New Hope]

Thanks man, believe me I tried hard enough!!!, so I back off..it was just crazy man how she just accepted us not talking again in this life time again...thats the only thing that bother me to be honest...so I pulled the plug on her..so its best I remain in No Contact...I was just asking my question for someone to answer who had a smiliar experience...think she'll ever call me again because we did a month before no problem without talking, I think the real test will be once it hits 3 months and higher...when im seriously not in the picture...

[kepners]

listen i cut off from many people i always do it. and claire i proper ****ed up on... i miss her so. this really has nothign to do with this situation.

 

She will be on a ego thing. two men. YOU will be top of the TREE, ur the first buddy.

give the girl time, she only let you go because you said it. and shes got hurt ego and the older man is using this to his advantage... but it wont last, because deep down ur unfinished business.

my ex jess, i cut off with from her, just one day nothing from me... left it 4months. she knew i had ment someone else, but i came back to her, because deep down, she knowns i will always want her. i did, i used to think about jess when i was with zena.

anyways, u see jess didnt contact me, and i was gutted because i thought she would, but she has a strong family, and from the grandmother down they are fit and she has been brought up to think along shallow lines, but when shes away from them shes truely amazing. anyway i went back to her after 4months and she truely missed me, because she was calling me within a week etc.

and i want jess back so much, but i taking it slowly. but one month is nothing specially when she has someone else to focus on. i know u did for the ego boost and she double bluffed you. but mate, give it time. trust.

[New Hope]

Whats funny is my ex is called jess talk lol!! You know what I thought the same thing that me and her are unfinished business what is that she hack into my myspace again yesterday, what can that mean mate?...I believe you and I will give it time...im doing fine not talking to her, and she will be checking again because theres a girl whos after me like crazy and she does not like her...

[New Hope]

what you think kepners to my about post? from your experience....

[kepners]

Ok making a woman jealous works but then backfires when she draws you away from her other woman, then dumps you when shes finished pulling you. it a card you have to play very carefully. i tried it with my jess once 6 weeks ago... backfired almost, so i never mentioned it again, and even said two weeks later "why cant more women be like you jess". its truebut shes my ex she owes me nothing...and i can only keep trying to get her, but i slowly slowly and i am not dropping my gaurd to her. so her that you get jealous and she will use it... etc, its just proving ur a man that shes not getting to you its very very hard, but you have to do.

because it will work but when she does it back.. then it really hurts and you know when shes does its will be worse because there will be 2 or 3 chaps after her...

 

as for my space, just change ur password, nothing else for it, shes only chacking up on you if its her thats doing it.

 

just be strong and be a man. and seek not to demean yourself and sell yourself short. Your a man so act like one make. no 21st centry man, i mean a a little bit more Caveman trust that what women really want.

[New Hope]

why would she check up on me?? Im not going to bother making her jealous or anything...Im just gonna keep doing the silent treatment....and see how that turns out....

[New Hope]

any thoughts on my above post?

[kepners]

she checks up so she has the inside on you! nothing else. that does not mean shes interested, it means she just keeping an insider on you. which i would honestly stop right now!

but good luck man. let us know how it goes

[frenchie_Julia]

Hi guys,

 

I read with "passion" your posts. Actually I have a quite similar experience. I had a long distance relationship last year, and it was the most wonderful relationship of my life, but the most painful as well... Actually I live in France and my ex boyfriend live in London. We met during the summer 2005 and immediatly, we felt strongly attracted! So we were a "couple" all the summer.

 

However, I had to go back to France (I'm a student) whereas he stayed in London (he's a chef).We decided to keep in touch and have a long distance relationship. Oh my god, it was so gard! I missed him so much!! But it was really nice to text him every day, and hear from him all the day long. We met up 3 times from september to june.

 

But then, the worst....Some other guys started to lie about me and told him that I was a bitch bla bla... At the beginning, he believed me, but then no...It was so hard for me! I feel so bad... I came back to London this last summer but he didn't want to hear from me! So painful guys, trust me....

So, it's finished, but we didn't speak about that, that why I feel it unfair...

 

Now I can't forget him, I'm still madly in love with him. We would like to talk with him, but he changed his number phone...Life's so hard sometimes...

 

This is my story, I just want to tell a bit of it because I know you're suffering. But sometimes, you should wait, and listen what people have to say. We must be extremely careful and I should know to let a second chance...

[frenchie_Julia]

Hi guys,

I read with "passion" your posts. Actually I have a quite similar experience. I had a long distance relationship last year, and it was the most wonderful relationship of my life, but the most painful as well... Actually I live in France and my ex boyfriend live in London. We met during the summer 2005 and immediatly, we felt strongly attracted! So we were a "couple" all the summer. However, I had to go back to France (I'm a student) whereas he stayed in London (he's a chef).We decided to keep in touch and have a long distance relationship. Oh my god, it was so gard! I missed him so much!! But it was really nice to text him every day, and hear from him all the day long. We met up 3 times from september to june.

But then, the worst....Some other guys started to lie about me and told him that I was a bitch bla bla... At the beginning, he believed me, but then no...It was so hard for me! I feel so bad... I came back to London this last summer but he didn't want to hear from me! So painful guys, trust me....

So, it's finished, but we didn't speak about that, that why I feel it unfair...

Now I can't forget him, I'm still madly in love with him. We would like to talk with him, but he changed his number phone...Life's so hard sometimes...

This is my story, I just want to tell a bit of it because I know you're suffering. But sometimes, you should wait, and listen what people have to say. We must be extremely careful and we should know to let a second chance...

[kepners]

viva la france!

 

my old dears french. rents off there on tuesday.

[frenchie_Julia]

Nice french, but let me correct a small mistake: vive la france!

;-)

[New Hope]

Damn, I thought it was because part of her might still be thinking bout me!, its cool though to be honest....

[kepners]

of course shes thinking about you otherwise she wouldnt be doing it. just dont read to much positive in to the invasion of privacy! shes just keeping tabs on you.

[kepners]

Nice french, but let me correct a small mistake: vive la france!

;-)

 

listen whos got the french mum here,? ME ahahahah

[New Hope]

im getting rid of myspace to remove traces of me, let her wonder....because she keeps hacking into my stuff like crazy mate.

[smile95]

I have not had time to read all the posts afte the first one, but I was in a LD relationship and it just depends on the person. My ex still contacts me to mess with my head, so really, you should move on. If they contact you, it should be to get back together. Move on. If she comes back and you work it out, great...if not, you have already moved on.

[New Hope]

Of course im moving on! im doing my thing with other females...life to short to focus on one person...I erase my myspace because I dont be on it like that and my ex keeps hacking into it and gets one in trouble...after I told her I dont wanna hear from her again, like shes thinking bout me..im gonna let her wonder now cuz she has nothing to check and keep tabs on me....

[frenchie_Julia]

listen whos got the french mum here,? ME ahahahah

 

French are flinty about french spelling! Contrary to english...

[New Hope]

I just wanted to make u guys laugh on this one! how my ex broke into my regular email and saw a picture of one of the girls im dating...my ex needs to leave me alone....just wanted to share that...