pelagicsands Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Everyone loses in the end. I take your point - I really do. But let's look at this pragmatically, instead of emotionally. OW gets a part-time penis. It's the best she can do. Win. MM gets two mouths on his penis. Win-win. (But maybe he wishes they were both on there at the same time. You can't have everything.) So far, that's two out of three. BS gets something, whatever that might be, and is happy enough. (Let's skip over the issue of her being unaware of OW - a huge caveat.) Sure, she might leave if she knew about the OW. But, despite not getting all the energies from her husband that she is entitled to, she persists with the relationship. Because she actually understands the meaning of the word commitment, or because of the children, or for whatever reason. And she gets to put her mouth on a penis. Cool. So, all in all, that's kind of a draw. Overall, that's 2.5 out of 3. Not too shabby. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I don't think I am a bad person & It's not the worst thing someone can do. Does anyone else agree? Is being the OW the BEST that you can do? Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I take your point - I really do. But let's look at this pragmatically, instead of emotionally. OW gets a part-time penis. It's the best she can do. Win. MM gets two mouths on his penis. Win-win. (But maybe he wishes they were both on there at the same time. You can't have everything.) So far, that's two out of three. BS gets something, whatever that might be, and is happy enough. (Let's skip over the issue of her being unaware of OW - a huge caveat.) Sure, she might leave if she knew about the OW. But, despite not getting all the energies from her husband that she is entitled to, she persists with the relationship. Because she actually understands the meaning of the word commitment, or because of the children, or for whatever reason. And she gets to put her mouth on a penis. Cool. So, all in all, that's kind of a draw. Overall, that's 2.5 out of 3. Not too shabby. You rock. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 (Let's skip over the issue of her being unaware of OW - a huge caveat.) huge caveat is a huge understatement. The fact that the betrayed doesnt know is the biggest factor in every affair. But of course everyone has there own way of thinking... but i am curious....why dont yuo NOT skip over the issue of the wife being unaware of the OW. You seem to have all the selfish answers for the cheaters....but what about the ones who will be hurt the most. You can look at affairs without considering the emotional issues... Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 huge caveat is a huge understatement. The fact that the betrayed doesnt know is the biggest factor in every affair. But of course everyone has there own way of thinking... but i am curious....why dont yuo NOT skip over the issue of the wife being unaware of the OW. You seem to have all the selfish answers for the cheaters....but what about the ones who will be hurt the most. You can look at affairs without considering the emotional issues... For anyone not used to Pelagic's writing style, his tongue is always planted firmly in his cheek. (I hesitated writing it that way, but didn't know how else to put it!) Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 For anyone not used to Pelagic's writing style, his tongue is always planted firmly in his cheek. (I hesitated writing it that way, but didn't know how else to put it!) I know he is...I have read his stuff..... I guess I am too much of a 'do the right thing' kinda person.....but I guess its relative to what I think is the right thing to do. everyone has there own way.... Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I know he is...I have read his stuff..... I guess I am too much of a 'do the right thing' kinda person.....but I guess its relative to what I think is the right thing to do. everyone has there own way.... He's also a 'do the right thing' kinda person. He just gets his point across more creatively. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 For anyone not used to Pelagic's writing style, his tongue is always planted firmly in his cheek. (I hesitated writing it that way, but didn't know how else to put it!) Yeah, his tongue is planted somewhere..not sure which cheek though. As for the OP. Yes, I agree with what BO said. And although you may not be a bad person, you absolutely are lacking in the character dept. But I understand why. You were obviously not brought up well since your own family sees nothing wrong with this behavior. How sad for you. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 He's also a 'do the right thing' kinda person. He just gets his point across more creatively. sorry...but you wont reel me in to this one....LOL we may very well be a do the right thing kinda person... but IMO.....justifing it by stated all the PROS for said cheaters and skipping over the fact the wife doenst know is hardly a do the right thing stance to me. but who am I....just another person with an opinion..... Link to post Share on other sites
hurting_in_nw Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 BS gets something, whatever that might be, and is happy enough. Unless of course that something is herpes, genital warts, or HIV. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Unless of course that something is herpes, genital warts, or HIV. we are suppose to skip over that....we are concerned with what the cheaters get out of cheating which is more penis attention. We have to look at this with selfish eyes....I mean God forebid we considering the aftermath and consequences. Link to post Share on other sites
hurting_in_nw Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 we are suppose to skip over that....we are concerned with what the cheaters get out of cheating which is more penis attention. We have to look at this with selfish eyes....I mean God forebid we considering the aftermath and consequences. Pearl Jam fan by any chance? I noticed your username... Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Pearl Jam fan by any chance? I noticed your username... Ben Harper said it best when he helped sing Indiffernce with them at MSG in Jul 03. "This is the greatest band in the world" Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I don't think I am a bad person & It's not the worst thing someone can do. Does anyone else agree? What does it matter what a bunch of strangers think of you and what you're doing in your life? Obviously you don't see what you're doing is wrong and you don't feel bad helping him cheat on his common-law wife. You may not be cheating on her, but you're enabling him to cheat on her. Link to post Share on other sites
hurting_in_nw Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Ben Harper said it best when he helped sing Indiffernce with them at MSG in Jul 03. "This is the greatest band in the world" Good to hear! They're my favorite band too...been to about 20 shows since '98. When I get private message abilities we'll chat more! Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 What does it matter what a bunch of strangers think of you and what you're doing in your life? Obviously you don't see what you're doing is wrong and you don't feel bad helping him cheat on his common-law wife. You may not be cheating on her, but you're enabling him to cheat on her. cheaters dont like to hear the truth WWIU Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Good to hear! They're my favorite band too...been to about 20 shows since '98. When I get private message abilities we'll chat more! awesome...they are my favorite too. Only been to 5 shows, but all memorable. pasing on Lolapalooza....they are playing Sunday night...but i just dotn like the festival setup...I;d rather have a seat. I am hoping for a Alpine Valley 2007 show...but they say Lola is the only US show this year. Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 If you are happy and feel all right about it as well does your friends/ family then who cares? Pearl Jam reference: "She lies and says she's in love with him; can't find a better man, can't find a better man She dreams in colour, she dreams in red; can't find a better man....." Link to post Share on other sites
kepners Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 a wot? HAHAHAH "OW" WTF! HAHAHA sorry no idea. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 I'm not the one cheating on his wife though. And I'm not looking for validation. This forum says " Support for those involved with a committed partner" here we go again.... Link to post Share on other sites
kepners Posted April 13, 2007 Share Posted April 13, 2007 Ben Harper said it best when he helped sing Indiffernce with them at MSG in Jul 03. "This is the greatest band in the world" oh my days, i used to live by that band... nirvana... smashing pumkins.... pearl jam... rage... janes addiction... these are bands of my youth! these a bands that kids of today still live by. i guess i was lucky to have grown up in KURT COBAIN's Raine. Still a Vacant Throne... Given to fly was the last great pearl jam track... and that was almost a 100% rip of a Led Zepplin... to the point where i dont know how they were NOT sued, because everythign was pretty much the same!! cept lyrics. but melody and everything the same. K Link to post Share on other sites
BenThereDunThat Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 sorry...but you wont reel me in to this one....LOL we may very well be a do the right thing kinda person... but IMO.....justifing it by stated all the PROS for said cheaters and skipping over the fact the wife doenst know is hardly a do the right thing stance to me. but who am I....just another person with an opinion..... annnngtytyxlxlxoyyy....I'm not trying to reel you in. I respect you, I always have since whenever I first started coming to LS, I still do. What I was trying to say, without getting Pelagic into trouble, was that he did the pros and cons as a way of saying "F" you, dumb sh*t, here's what you get out of the whole deal....which is a BIG FAT ZERO. Some people need things to be more LITERAL. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 You rock. :love: You rock more, because you got respect. Link to post Share on other sites
bigblueeyes Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 . My wife cheated on me. And she was a good person. She has lots of freinds, everyone ask her for advice. People like to be around her becasue she just is a pleasant to be around. She helps people, is liked at work, etc, etc. She lights up a room. During our recovery, during my angry stage....oOne day she says to me. Why do you hate me? . I am a good person, people like me, my friends and family all think I am a caring person. I dont talk bad about people and everyone says I am fun to be around and that I am a good friend. I looked her straight in the eye and said. "maybe its becasue I am the only one who knows you are a decietful, lying, cheating women" she didnt have too much to say after that. This speaks volumes. Thank you for saying what I think a lot of us think, both OW/OM and BS's. THANK YOU!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 So what you're saying is if some other woman was boinkin' your dad, for example, your mom would be okay with that? If some other gal was boinkin' your sister's husband that would be fine with her? Sounds like a major f--- fest in the making. Y'all live in the Smokey Mountains? Great post except for that last question. Shame on you! (By the way, that's SMOKY Mountains...not "Smokey.) Link to post Share on other sites
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