Guest Posted April 14, 2007 Share Posted April 14, 2007 I'm currently in a LDR with a younger man who seems to have his head in the clouds about engagement and marriage. We've only been together about 10 months now, 6 of which we've spent apart with very sporadic visits, and while we're both on the same page about where we'd like the relationship to go, he seems to be in a rush to make things official and get engaged. I just finished my bachelor's degree and I'm now in graduate/professional school. He's still a couple years from his own bachelor's degree and neither of us is financially independent (living on student loans is not independence, in my opinion, even if it does mean I no longer "need" my parents). He has made perfectly clear that while he appreciates the fact that we can't get married until we're both finished with our educations, he sees nothing wrong with a "long engagement" and even has the whole proposal planned. His only problem? Not enough money for a ring just yet... I'm a woman who generally knows what she wants. I'm very much in love with my boyfriend and from very early on in our relationship I've been dreaming of this kind of committment. I see a real future with him, starting with an engagement. I just feel like it's too early to be quite so serious. We're young (I'm 24, he's not quite 22), living apart, and broke. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to gently suggest that I'm not in as much of a hurry as he is and that I'd like to wait another year or so? I desperately need some suggestions on how to help him be patient. We'll finally be back in the same city by August, and I'm not opposed to starting a real discussion with him about engagement and mariage once that happens. I just need major help getting him to understand that I'm not against the committment in the least, but that I need more time and am desperate for him to just give us more time. HELP!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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