Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 So after not talking to her for a whole semester, i finally picked up the phone and called her. We had a good chat and finally we set up a day and time to meet. I guess the whole reasoning behind my action was because i was bored and wanted to get back together. Anyway I noticed there were inconsistencies, her trying to appear busy and stuff. And the hugs were different..shortly after we broke up i got hugs with cheek kisses. Now it's just a hug...I guess she's afriad of slipping into the friends zone with me. When i saw her and when we had coffee, she looked average (or not as attractive as i last remember her). We had coffee at a place facing the window. Things were going great and we had pleasant silent moments. I dont know if it was the tea or cake she had, but the last 8 minutes or so before we left...something immediately changed in her body language/facial tones, and when girls would pass by the window she would check to see if i noticed them. Kind of like a dog in heat or god knows what. I couldnt help but feel a strong attraction towards her...a kind of intimate moment. I didnt panic but i noticed and didnt make a move. Shortly we parted and i gave her a hug. Since then i cant get her out of my head. Dont know why but during that moment, i asked if she was going to take pics of her friends at the bday party. What was strange was she suddenly asked if i had a facebook account. If i do meet up with her again ill definitely make a move. I dont know, should i follow up, say i had a good time and that we should do lunch/dinner sometime? or should i wait a week or so and ask her out to dinner? Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy and Jane Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 Do you think she might be looking for group sex, or a threesome? So if she looked less attractive after all this time, do you think that might be a sign that she isn't "it" for you? Also you said "I was bored" so I decided I might want to get back together....think about that for a little while. Anyway, good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 I think you misinterpreted my post. Anyway when i said i was bored and wanted to get back together its because im not seeing anyone and neither is she. When i saw her again i wasnt even sure why i decided to ask her to come out. And when we were sitting there talking i realized why i did and that old spark hit me again and i could see it in her body language also. Since i didnt make a move, i want to know if the best thing for me to do is follow up or call some other time when i have a date planned? because i know some girls do get offended if a guy doesnt make a move. I guess i was hesitant because i had a minor fear of rejection. Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy and Jane Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 Why would you call when you had a date with someone else planned? So you can tell her about it and rub it in her face? Please forget about this poor woman. Let her be. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 Why would you call when you had a date with someone else planned? So you can tell her about it and rub it in her face? Please forget about this poor woman. Let her be. If you're not going to read posts carefully then i see no reason for you to be giving advice on this board. Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy and Jane Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 I did. You are trying to get off on the fact that she is jealous of other girls....or at least that is what you are perceiving. and use it to your advantage. And your dog in heat comment is disrespectful and doesn't make any sense, dogs don't check out the male dog to see if he notices other female dogs, they don't have that kind of insight. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 I did. You are trying to get off on the fact that she is jealous of other girls....or at least that is what you are perceiving. and use it to your advantage. And your dog in heat comment is disrespectful and doesn't make any sense, dogs don't check out the male dog to see if he notices other female dogs, they don't have that kind of insight. You're talking in circles. If you want to bring your bitterness of the ex bf http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t117285/ to this forum, dont do it in my post. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 T&J reminds me of someone... Mydish, do you only want her or do you want a relationship with her? If you're both okay with FWB it's one thing, if not, you're both headed for some hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Teddy and Jane Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 You're talking in circles. If you want to bring your bitterness of the ex bf http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t117285/ to this forum, dont do it in my post. You're the one who's making absolutely no sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 T&J reminds me of someone... Mydish, do you only want her or do you want a relationship with her? If you're both okay with FWB it's one thing, if not, you're both headed for some hurt. Either, a relationship or a fwb. in the past she was the one that wanted the fwb and i wanted the relationship. Both of us wound up getting hurt from that. The strangest thing was there were no arguments or an official break up since it wasnt an official relationship. My only clue is that it's either her religion (being with someone the same religion as her). or her belief of her parent's expectations of her that's kept us from being official (she worries about what others think of her). So far from what i know about her and her past relationships, it seems its a mix of both. I guess i dont want to get sucked into repeating the past again. she has matured a lot since then, so who knows things could be different this time around - but i dont know if her outlook on religion/bfs/etc has changed. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 Either, a relationship or a fwb. in the past she was the one that wanted the fwb and i wanted the relationship. Both of us wound up getting hurt from that. The strangest thing was there were no arguments or an official break up since it wasnt an official relationship. My only clue is that it's either her religion (being with someone the same religion as her). or her belief of her parent's expectations of her that's kept us from being official (she worries about what others think of her). So far from what i know about her and her past relationships, it seems its a mix of both. I guess i dont want to get sucked into repeating the past again. she has matured a lot since then, so who knows things could be different this time around - but i dont know if her outlook on religion/bfs/etc has changed. Best way to find out is to ask. Don't live your life full of regrets of what might have been. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 Best way to find out is to ask. Don't live your life full of regrets of what might have been. Wouldnt the more conventional approach of making a move work better? It's always occurred to me that words are useless to a woman unless if its an action. Even so, what am i supposed to say or ask? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 Why make a move if you're uncertain if she's changed sufficiently? Continue seeing her on a FWNB basis and get to know her as a person again. Discuss it with her through normal conversation by bringing up topics of religion, relationships, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted April 15, 2007 Author Share Posted April 15, 2007 Why make a move if you're uncertain if she's changed sufficiently? Continue seeing her on a FWNB basis and get to know her as a person again. Discuss it with her through normal conversation by bringing up topics of religion, relationships, etc. That i can do, continue to see her on a fwnb basis (but i dont know if she's willing to do that because i know some people are unwilling to invest time in the opposite sex unless both are romantically involved). We had that discussion when we were together actually. ill take your advice and see what happens as i get to reknow her again. thanks tbf Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 15, 2007 Share Posted April 15, 2007 That i can do, continue to see her on a fwnb basis (but i dont know if she's willing to do that because i know some people are unwilling to invest time in the opposite sex unless both are romantically involved). We had that discussion when we were together actually. ill take your advice and see what happens as i get to reknow her again. thanks tbf Glad to help. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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