I can't stop thinking about her

[envyme]

Well, theres this girl at school... Unfortunately, she's not in my grade... But as i pass by the hallway, to go to my next class, i always catch her looking at me... But seriously, i don't know how to approach her at all since I know nothing about her... and im afraid that what if she doesn't even like me, i will be doomed by the fact that i'll see her for like another year or so in highschool... Someone please help, what are the signs to know if she likes me or not? I just can't help it, i like her too. But I am too afraid to take a risk, and if I do, I don't know what to say

[longlegzs80]

try giving her a warm, sincere smile while maintaining some eye contact. If she don't respond to you in the greatest of manner, it might mean she is shy or very insecure, or just down right not interested. You need to think of it like this, don't feel like it is the end of the world if she don't give you the time of day, because there are plenty of ladies in the world who would probubly love to go out with you and give you their undivided attention. Think of it that way if she doesn't respond to you being friendly.

[envyme]

i will give that a go, thx. want more advices please

[Green]

I need more details what grade are you in? what grade do you think shes in? Look if you can get over your fear of making a fool of yourself and having to face down a girl who turned you down week after week you'll actualy have a chance. If your in HS or Middle school you my friend are your worst enemy in getting this girl. Next time you see her just walk up to her and say Hi your always looking at me you must really like me smile when you say it almost as a joke if she blushs or gets mad its fine then just say my names ____ whats yours? then if she gives you her name say bye to her then her name____ then the next day say her name and ask her how things are going do anything to ask like 2 open ended questions to get her talking then say let me get your number so we could do something some time dont be specific and if shes says like what just say I dont know just give me your number say it confidently, if she says no but is still nice to you keep talking to her if she says no and seem mad or anoyed just forget her the key is what ever happens act like you dont really care and like your having fun whether ur being acepted or rejected act like your having fun dont let her see your nervouse

[Guest]

I need more details what grade are you in? what grade do you think shes in? Look if you can get over your fear of making a fool of yourself and having to face down a girl who turned you down week after week you'll actualy have a chance. If your in HS or Middle school you my friend are your worst enemy in getting this girl. Next time you see her just walk up to her and say Hi your always looking at me you must really like me smile when you say it almost as a joke if she blushs or gets mad its fine then just say my names ____ whats yours? then if she gives you her name say bye to her then her name____ then the next day say her name and ask her how things are going do anything to ask like 2 open ended questions to get her talking then say let me get your number so we could do something some time dont be specific and if shes says like what just say I dont know just give me your number say it confidently, if she says no but is still nice to you keep talking to her if she says no and seem mad or anoyed just forget her the key is what ever happens act like you dont really care and like your having fun whether ur being acepted or rejected act like your having fun dont let her see your nervouse

 

 

i'm grade 11 and she is i don't know 10, 9 i think. Thx for the advice. Maybe you're right, i should just stop worrying so much and have some fun

[envyme]

I need more details what grade are you in? what grade do you think shes in? Look if you can get over your fear of making a fool of yourself and having to face down a girl who turned you down week after week you'll actualy have a chance. If your in HS or Middle school you my friend are your worst enemy in getting this girl. Next time you see her just walk up to her and say Hi your always looking at me you must really like me smile when you say it almost as a joke if she blushs or gets mad its fine then just say my names ____ whats yours? then if she gives you her name say bye to her then her name____ then the next day say her name and ask her how things are going do anything to ask like 2 open ended questions to get her talking then say let me get your number so we could do something some time dont be specific and if shes says like what just say I dont know just give me your number say it confidently, if she says no but is still nice to you keep talking to her if she says no and seem mad or anoyed just forget her the key is what ever happens act like you dont really care and like your having fun whether ur being acepted or rejected act like your having fun dont let her see your nervouse

 

thx for the advice.. I am in grade 11 and i think she is 10 or 9... But you are right, i guess i should just have fun instead of worrying too much.

[JCD]

Trust me when I say that if a girl likes you she will not mind you being a bit silly. Go up to her and say hi and then ask her how her day is going or went. Don't put too much hope into her and you'll feel less stressed out. If you talk to her like you would with your buddies then even if she likes you she won't be turned off of you. She will be actually happy that someone took the time and talked to her. Girls like to talk and are happy when you talk to them and ask them questions about them, etc.

[Green]

let me know if you talk to her, remember just joke around and if she gives you even the slightest in like asking you what your doing this weekend or if you saw a movie say no I didnt see " " want to take me or I dont know what Im doing this weekend why dont you give me ur number so I can call u and let you know when I figure things out. rember always act busy, dont get too chitty chatty with her your not trying to be her gf, and when you talk to her play it like a game just have fun dont be embaresed at if ur friends might be looking and use ur age advantage to ur powers get her into a jr. party or something boom just dont be to seriouse and try to be laid back. and more important then anything else make a damn move today!!! and tell me about it dont lie, dont listen to urself if you say oh shes walking with a friend nows not a good time, ull never feel its a good time just go up and force urself to talk to her imdeadetly, just a few words plant the seeds flirt

[New Hope]

U will learn with time and experience about females...50% is trying 50% is succeeding you have everything to gain and nothing to lose!! always have a smile and be with positive energy..don't be fake..when she's alone and u happen to see it, look at her body language, to sense how she is feeling..pretty much ask for her email or sn..least harmful while shes writing it, tell her dont forget to write down ur number..if she refuses and asks for yours simply say i dont give my number out to strangers, smile and walk away...

[New Hope]

U will learn with time and experience about females...50% is trying 50% is succeeding you have everything to gain and nothing to lose!! always have a smile and be with positive energy..don't be fake..when she's alone and u happen to see it, look at her body language, to sense how she is feeling..pretty much ask for her email or sn..least harmful while shes writing it, tell her dont forget to write down ur number..if she refuses and asks for yours simply say i dont give my number out to strangers, smile and walk away...if u do get the number, say nice speaking with you and walk away, walk away, theres nothing more to speak about..and give it like 3 days before u call...Good luck

[EricOnTheWeb]

Well, theres this girl at school... Unfortunately, she's not in my grade... But as i pass by the hallway, to go to my next class, i always catch her looking at me... But seriously, i don't know how to approach her at all since I know nothing about her... and im afraid that what if she doesn't even like me, i will be doomed by the fact that i'll see her for like another year or so in highschool... Someone please help, what are the signs to know if she likes me or not? I just can't help it, i like her too. But I am too afraid to take a risk, and if I do, I don't know what to say

 

She keeps looking at you man!....ask her out to a school football game or something!...HURRY! don't let her get away!....Good luck!

 

(Eric)

[Green]

dont wory about getting a screen name or email, and you may never get her alone, so just hurry and do something and give us an update.

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

Approach her in the cafeteria and tell her, Hi, I always see you in that class. Hi! Hi! I'm Envyme. I'm Classgirl. Nice to meet you.

 

Then ask what class are you taking, are you a senior, etc. Think of some. Whatever you want to know about her.

 

Good luck,

 

Ariadne

[envyme]

ok today, i was walking back to school, because there was an event, and i saw her, and then i asked, are you going to "____" then she just said no, smiled, and walked away =(.... i'm so stupid i couldn't even start a good convo

[Green]

good try, she might of just walked away cause she was nervous try again dont wory about anoying her. if she gets anoyed shes just a bioch hot girls know how to turn you down in a way that makes you glad you tried, like the I have a boyfriend but if I didnt I would love to

[Ariadne]

=(.... i'm so stupid i couldn't even start a good convo

 

Oh, you did start a convo.

 

Hey, doing good.

 

Ariadne

[envyme]

well, i didn't see her that much today, but she doesn't even look at me anymore... =( can anyone tell me why, what did i do??

[Green]

who cares if shes looking just go up and flirt with her make a few jokes ask a few questions and the ask her for the number she may just be nervous

[envyme]

well.... i really think she is not interested anymore =(.. whenever I see her, she just doesn't even look or show any sign of interest...

[Green]

well maybe shes nervouse you might as well try all out, this could be the wimp out effect I was affraid you'd have using any excuse to justify to yourself backing out. There are many way to go up and flirt with her and do it in a playful way so whether or not shes into you it will just be fun for you. Make it a game just to see if you can get her to blush

[Ariadne]

Hi,

 

She doesn't want anything to do with you.

 

Sorry.

 

Ariadne

[Green]

Hi,

 

She doesn't want anything to do with you.

 

Sorry.

 

Ariadne

 

Theres no way you can know that from the information he's giving this guy is afraid to give it a full try in the first place.

 

ok today, i was walking back to school, because there was an event, and i saw her, and then i asked, are you going to "____" then she just said no, smiled, and walked away =(.... i'm so stupid i couldn't even start a good convo

 

Your right that was a horible conversation you've never even spoken to this girl and you come right out and ask her if shes going to an event. Take your time when your talking to her enjoy it flirt, make small talk, Start off with hi and smile at her, the say something like are you wearing a green shirt cause your in a creative mood(something silly and fun like that) just make a little small talk and do it real flirty*that mean u smile and try to get her to laugh and touch her like when you mention her green shirt maybe put ur hand on her stomach...

 

well, i didn't see her that much today, but she doesn't even look at me anymore... =( can anyone tell me why, what did i do??

 

You have to make some small talk, flirt, and then try to get her number, a girl wont stare and smile at you forever with out upping the anty you havnt had any clear signs of being rejected. Dont ask some silly question right off the bat like are you going to be at this event. and if you want to as some question like that do it in a flirty way, like "I hope your going to be at the blank event* remember nice relaxed flirty small talk and then try to get her number. If she refuses to give you her number or has to walk away from you then youve been rejected and it shouldnt matter to you because this girl doesnt even know you, and you should be flirting and asking out a bunch of girls, you focus all ur time and energy on one girl before either of you have decided ur in a exclusive relationship and you seem desperate. remember you are your greatest enemy over come your ridiculous fear of rejection and your in, a girl turning you down is cooler then not trying.

[Guest]

is there an update for this problem? I have a similar thing, but I am also interested on how this turned out.

[JCD]

I think if she was into you she would put up her 50% of the effort into meeting you. One thing I learned is that just because a girl looks at you doesn't mean she's into you. She might just like your looks and that's all. I'm a guy and I looked at pretty girls before but never asked them on a date because I wasn't interested in them romantically. They were just pretty to look at. I watched them and their behavior turned me off even before I thought about talking with them.

 

About rejection. When a girl rejects you then it really wasn't meant to be. Would you date a girl that went out with you out of pity or settled for you? I wouldn't.

 

Now, if this girl liked you she would have carried on the conversation with you. After saying no to going to event she would have asked you if you were going. Maybe she would have asked if you were going alone or with friends. You would say alone and then ask her if she would like to go with you and she would have said yes. Both sides try to keep the conversation going because each side wants to spend the time with the other.