chrissymcal Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 my ex and i have been broken up for two and a half months now...we still talk. mostly via text. some days hell want to talk talk talk, others he wont. some days he ignores me, sometimes for a whole week. i find if i dont respond to his messages, it makes him talk more...recently hes also unblocked me from msn...he comes online, but when i go to message him, he goes offline =\ ...doesnt block me or anything...just goes offline....ive got him on block now...because im kind of sick of this game... which brings me to my question; i want to take this to the next level...hes said he wants to hang out...and im thinking if we hang out, we can finally have the talk we really need to have...but i think hes afraid to talk to me yet...or to see me in person...ive asked him once before, and he said he 'wasnt ready yet'.... i want to send him an email, something that says i know this break up had to happen and that we need our time apart...but id appreciate it if we could actually spend time together blah blah blah. what do i say??? should i say nothing??? Link to post Share on other sites
New Hope Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 First, if he;s not ready to talk! then NO CONTACT HIS ASS for a month or longer if must...no txt, no aim, msn, yahoo, emails, no nothing...dont tell him you gonna vanish, just do it...treat him like a friend, sometimes u call, sometimes u dont (This only applys for every three times he calls u..keep the convo short and simple no relationship talks...u a busy women now to be talking so much on the phone make sure u dont call him). give him time to miss you and think about you..practice being "aloof" and "apathy"...No contact will be hard at first but u can do it!! u need time to heal and focus on yourself...go have fun and date other people, keep it light..life to short to focus on one person..being in a relationship only enhances your happiness..u was once happy before him..u can be happy without him!!! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 my ex and i have been broken up for two and a half months now...we still talk. mostly via text. some days hell want to talk talk talk, others he wont. some days he ignores me, sometimes for a whole week. i find if i dont respond to his messages, it makes him talk more...recently hes also unblocked me from msn...he comes online, but when i go to message him, he goes offline =\ ...doesnt block me or anything...just goes offline....ive got him on block now...because im kind of sick of this game... which brings me to my question; i want to take this to the next level...hes said he wants to hang out...and im thinking if we hang out, we can finally have the talk we really need to have...but i think hes afraid to talk to me yet...or to see me in person...ive asked him once before, and he said he 'wasnt ready yet'.... i want to send him an email, something that says i know this break up had to happen and that we need our time apart...but id appreciate it if we could actually spend time together blah blah blah. what do i say??? should i say nothing??? Did you notice something? When you don't respond to his every whim, he seeks you out more. Do you want to be dumped again? Learn from your past. He is the one who needs to earn YOUR time back, not the other way around. He said he isn't ready? Fine. Live your life and definitely go NC with him. If you maintain contact with this guy you are going to be his "backup plan" in case some of the other women he is talking to do not work out. Are you happy with being second best in someone's life? I sure wouldn't be. Respect yourself and others will respect you. Love yourself and others will love you. Cheers. Link to post Share on other sites
New Hope Posted April 16, 2007 Share Posted April 16, 2007 CailGuy I must agree!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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