johan Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 It sounds like you can really only be with a woman who is exactly 40 then. Talk about narrowing the field. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 It sounds like you can really only be with a woman who is exactly 40 then. Talk about narrowing the field.Well I guess the personals have just become far less complicated Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 It sounds like you can really only be with a woman who is exactly 40 then. Talk about narrowing the field. Oh PUHLEEZE..you think if he narrowed the field to just 40 yearl olds that would be his only way of narrowing the field? I mean that would be bad enough but what about his self-pitying ways and his anti-social behavior? What about his self-destructive ways? What about his insane addictions to transvestites, alcohol and all things Nazi-related? That in itself would narrow it by a huge margin. He can widen his "field" to include 12 year olds to 80 year olds and his damn field would STILL be narrower than anyone I've ever known. Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 slightly random but I think this lady is hilarious but speaks some truth..check it out >> Exactly, what does one find "hilarious"??? I found it to be quite "clinical". Darlin: don't you have some nice dishes and a kitchen of your OWN? Can you not cook for yourself? Does your mom need to come over and teach you how to make a meal and invite friends over? Can't YOU make romance on your own? And then fold some wonderful male who meets all your hopes and dreams into your omelet? The ones you make on dreamy Sunday mornings with HIM--not the HIM you "wish" were there? The actual HIM that spent the night and woke up with you and stays until Thursday lest you kick his ass out for bagles or to walk the dog? Preferably a man who doesn't mind sorting the laundry? Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Oh PUHLEEZE..you think if he narrowed the field to just 40 yearl olds that would be his only way of narrowing the field? I mean that would be bad enough but what about his self-pitying ways and his anti-social behavior? What about his self-destructive ways? What about his insane addictions to transvestites, alcohol and all things Nazi-related? Women like challenges. Those are all endearing traits anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Women like challenges. Those are all endearing traits anyway. Yeah, I'm absolutely in love. :rolleyes: Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Yeah, I'm absolutely in love. :rolleyes: That's just the wine talking. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 That's just the wine talking. You know me all too well! Link to post Share on other sites
puddleofmud Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Women like challenges. Those are all endearing traits anyway. So, if you would please, supply exactly what traits / challenges "women" like? Or exactly what traits are so "endearing"? Being female, these are certainly things one would need to know.... Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Oh PUHLEEZE..you think if he narrowed the field to just 40 yearl olds that would be his only way of narrowing the field? I mean that would be bad enough but what about his self-pitying ways and his anti-social behavior? What about his self-destructive ways? What about his insane addictions to transvestites, alcohol and all things Nazi-related? That in itself would narrow it by a huge margin. He can widen his "field" to include 12 year olds to 80 year olds and his damn field would STILL be narrower than anyone I've ever known. Eveything you say is true and yet you criticize me for being self destructive. Am I supposed to lie to myself and run uphill when its futile? Im not so much self destructive as I've just given up trying to do things I can't. If a family and a healthy relationship is out of the question for me do I lose the desire for affection? Do I lose my appreciation of beauty? And just because you're attractive and have money and the things you want doesn't give you the right to judge me. Ive never judged you so harshly and you know it Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 Eveything you say is true and yet you criticize me for being self destructive. Am I supposed to lie to myself and run uphill when its futile? Im not so much self destructive as I've just given up trying to do things I can't. If a family and a healthy relationship is out of the question for me do I lose the desire for affection? Do I lose my appreciation of beauty? And just because you're attractive and have money and the things you want doesn't give you the right to judge me. Ive never judged you so harshly and you know it Wrong. You've judged me just as harshly. You've called me senile, a cvunt, old and menopausal. You've said I'm just a bored housewife. You've insulted me for the last time. I'm not taking it from you anymore. I wish you the very best in life. You know that. But I will no longer be your personal punching bag. Find someone else to abuse. I'm easily repaceable. It's sad to see you give up on yourself the way you have and I can't watch it anymore. I care too much. Good luck, Mark. Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted May 5, 2007 Share Posted May 5, 2007 If you need viagra you have no business being with any chick under forty Oh those sweet young things just love it when a guy pops one of those little blue pills. Link to post Share on other sites
Author voi143 Posted May 25, 2007 Author Share Posted May 25, 2007 okay i wanted help with this mini update...so I kind of slipped up and started sort of liking him..a little bit of a crush because I guess some of you were right..u can't completely block out feelings.. We were spending the weekends together and we planned on spending my birthday together coming up in about 3 weeks when i think I did something wrong.. I've always told him i know this will never work out because of our difference in age and the fact that this is just supposed to be for fun..He's told me many times he cares about me..calls me to check up on me and what he's doing during the weekend. The thing is at work I always ignore him..I have to because I don't want ppl to know. He started taking that as me not caring about him...So then I had a date this week...and he thought I was goign to lunch with a girl and I said no a guy..ever since wednesday he's been ignoring me...our plans we had today were cancelled..and I'm really confused..I sent him a letter saying what am I supposed to do..I can't be with you and the date sucked anyway..and I do have feelings for him but I think I need to start getting over him because in the real world its not going to work...he then replied: "Didnt know u were tryin 2 get 'over' me. Ummmm. Sorry your date didn't turn out the way u wanted." what did that mean...was this all because of the little date I went on..I thought it would not matter..I've called him twice today he does not pick up..and he said he cancelled our plans because he thought i was not serious. what did i do wrong? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 Nothing. He is playing you and you're letting him. Find guys, SINGLE guys your own age to date. This 51 year old married man is not worth your time, effort and energy. Plus, you'll never have a real relationship with him. You two have to hide and pretend so much, what is the point? You're so young! Don't waste time on the MM. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 So, if you would please, supply exactly what traits / challenges "women" like? Or exactly what traits are so "endearing"? Being female, these are certainly things one would need to know.... Ok... self-pitying ways anti-social behavior self-destructive ways insane addictions to transvestites, alcohol and all things Nazi-related Don't you think that all adds up to a catch? I know I do! Link to post Share on other sites
humblegirl Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 Yeah this MM is just starting to play with you. If you start getting serious about him he will know and start to back off. Leave his old a$$ alone and find a single guy. If it's older guys you like there are plenty of single ones out there too. I bet the people you work with already know something is going on between the two of you. It's so hard to hide. Link to post Share on other sites
lovely01 Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 your young go get a young single man instead of a 50 year old whose married. i am sure everyone in the office knows you are doing the boss. so come to your senses. find another job and control your self. do the right thing. let me tell you a story, my best friend met a guy while we where working at the bank he was 51 at the time7 or eight years ago she married him. she became a mother to HIS SONS BABY. she was 24 . 24 and she was allready a grand mother. does that make you sick or what. than after that she had 3 of his kids . than to top it off he has been married three times before her has 5 other children that are older then her. how would you feel if you found out your husband has been cheating on you think about that it hurts bad i mean bad grow up Link to post Share on other sites
lovely01 Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 where have you look for a single guy that doesnt what just sex. most men want a botty call. your a heartless person. Link to post Share on other sites
Author voi143 Posted May 25, 2007 Author Share Posted May 25, 2007 Yeah this MM is just starting to play with you. If you start getting serious about him he will know and start to back off. Leave his old a$$ alone and find a single guy. If it's older guys you like there are plenty of single ones out there too. I bet the people you work with already know something is going on between the two of you. It's so hard to hide. really?...hmm i didn't think he was playing me..maybe im just stuck in denial..i thought he was hurt because I started to try to date someone else because all of a sudden he's cancelling everything..as ifhe wanted us to be exclusive with each other.....would that deduction seem right?... thanks for your reply Link to post Share on other sites
Topper Posted May 25, 2007 Share Posted May 25, 2007 your young go get a young single man instead of a 50 year old whose married. i am sure everyone in the office knows you are doing the boss. so come to your senses. find another job and control your self. do the right thing. let me tell you a story, my best friend met a guy while we where working at the bank he was 51 at the time7 or eight years ago she married him. she became a mother to HIS SONS BABY. she was 24 . 24 and she was allready a grand mother. does that make you sick or what. than after that she had 3 of his kids . than to top it off he has been married three times before her has 5 other children that are older then her. how would you feel if you found out your husband has been cheating on you think about that it hurts bad i mean bad grow up Other then that last part about The cheating. Are you saying your friends older man is now cheating on her? I don't see anything that is all that bad about your friends life. it may not be the life you want. Thats great. but it is the life she choose. The Only question I have is she happy? Well another question is he happy? I don't have to ask. about you. By the way voi143 got any friends that would like to meet an older and not married man? Never hurts to ask Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 hmm i didn't think he was playing me..maybe im just stuck in denial..i thought he was hurt because I started to try to date someone else because all of a sudden he's cancelling everything..as ifhe wanted us to be exclusive with each other.....would that deduction seem right?... At first, we usually see things the way we want to see them. “Exclusivity” between the two of you is out of the question in this type of relationship. Remember --- he has another woman at home, too. Sure, while it may be convenient to try and erase that third person from the equation, pretend for a time they don’t exist, or try to imagine they’re somehow a lessor or insignificant factor in your courtship ... that marriage IS the primary relationship. While he may expect you to see him “exclusively” --- he’s certainly not in the position to offer you the same in return. It’s a one-way deal. HE can split his time between two women; but he will not take too kindly to the idea of you or his wife sharing your affections with another man. Sound complicated enough for you yet (???) I can see how his actions could be interpreted as “hurt” do to jealousy. I can also understand how viewing it that way might make you feel good for the moment (even more confident) regarding where you stand with him. You know that: “Hmmmm .... he responded to the jealously bait I dangled in front of him ... acted like a wounded little boy ... So that must prove he really cares about me. Right?” BUT ... another possibility is that this could be your second indication that he is a very selfish individual, and has a tendency to be very possessive, manipulating and controlling over the people in his life. If, like his own wife, he starts treating you like his property instead of a genuine human being, you could be headed for yet another self-deprecating life lesson that will only further jade your outlook on men and relationships in general. And I think this is what worries me the most. When I see so many women who come to this forum who mistake the controlling behaviors of some of the narcissists they fall for as “terms of endearment”. And before you know it, they are so cleverly schmoozed into complacency and submission, that they gladly resign themselves to years of living according to what someone else wants for them, rather than what they genuinely want for themselves. Trying so hard to justify to themselves why they should feel “okay” with being kept a “secret” in the real life of the person they love, and content with hiding in the shadows so that they don’t accidentally embarrassed their lover in front of his family, friends and work colleagues. You know --- all those folks who’s feelings and opinions really count. I just hope that you figure it all out while you’re still young, before you ever allow this to become you. And don’t allow this man to “own” you in the same way he feels entitled to own, control and manipulate the life of the woman he already has at home. He’s not your surrogate father, either. He doesn’t have any jurisdiction or say over your life. You’re single, unencumbered, and free of any commitments or obligations to him. You can do whatever you wish with your life, date who you want, go wherever you choose and he has no control over that unless you’re foolish enough to give it to him. And no amount of money or temporary “lifestyle” this man can provide is worth selling your heart and soul for. Vio, there are some really GREAT guys out there. You just got to stop shopping in the bargain basement. And just because a past relationship has left you embittered, doesn’t mean you should start deliberately choosing unavailable men in the hopes you can avoid becoming too attached. If you really want to protect yourself from further disappointments ... then you should be doing just the opposite! Right now, you’re only cutting your nose off to spite your face, and in the end the only person you really continue to punish is yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Seen_It_All Posted May 27, 2007 Share Posted May 27, 2007 because all of a sudden he's cancelling everything..as ifhe wanted us to be exclusive with each other.....would that deduction seem right?...Youth is truly wasted on the young. Truth is, Mr. Mid-Life Crisis simply doesn't want anyone ELSE sullying his play-toy. I actually know of men who WON'T divorce their wives simply because they REFUSE to let another man have them. Men are stupid and territorial like that. Don't mistake this typical male behavior for 'love' - it has NOTHING to do with it. Mr. Pig is having way too much fun dipping his wick in the Fountain of Youth to just give it up without a fight. I hope you're able to pretend that the pathetic carrot he's dangling in your face is a 7-course meal. Link to post Share on other sites
lovely01 Posted May 30, 2007 Share Posted May 30, 2007 no shes not happy she found him in bed with someone younger then she is now.i know it was mean what i wrote and i am sorry about that . hes married she could be with someone older just not married. Other then that last part about The cheating. Are you saying your friends older man is now cheating on her? I don't see anything that is all that bad about your friends life. it may not be the life you want. Thats great. but it is the life she choose. The Only question I have is she happy? Well another question is he happy? I don't have to ask. about you. By the way voi143 got any friends that would like to meet an older and not married man? Never hurts to ask Link to post Share on other sites
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