Greatest passion with the MM?

[rdnkgrl31]

WWI, once again you are right!!! I am ending this A. I have made my mind up, I am fed up w/ this situation. I am tired of the one making all of the sacrifices to see him, no sleep, leaving work early, etc... If he ever gets a divorce, which I doubt he will, then he can call me and see what happens. Not until then.

[stillafool]

Good for you. An affair with a MM is a one way ticket to nowhere. Stay strong. You will meet a single guy who will provide you with all the love and passion you desire.

[Izzar]

I just want to add my 2 cents. I am sooooo very happy I waited til my s/o was divorced before we started to share our passions for each other:love:

[Tomcat33]

An affair with a MM is a one way ticket to nowhere

 

Great line!!!

[Salicious Crumb]

Hi guys,

I've read some posts where people say that the passion they experienced with MM couldn't be rivalled by anyone else, or that they are worried MM was their one great passion, and this makes it harder to move on...how do you all feel about this?

 

Of course everyone thinks the passion is great and that they are in love with a married partner. New relationships are exciting. And when it comes to a married partner...they have been with the same person for so long, that a new person in their life is exciting and passionate.

 

The MM/MW would be just as passionate about someone else they would screw around with as you.

 

I think maybe its been much easier for me to move on that it is for others, as I think of it a different way.

 

Your MM would be just as passionate whether it was you or another woman. I hate to say it...but he is married...you are nothing special...at least to him. You can be special to someone who is not attached.

 

It felt so amazingly passionate being with MM at the time...I thought our feelings ran so deep

 

Don't confuse "feelings" with the thrill of sex with someone other than his wife.

 

- but now I look back and think that because there was so many lies coming from him

 

Of course...he is a liar. He is cheating on his wife and lying to the both of you....why would you want that?

 

I think - and I think it's a bit hideous that I ever let someone like that be intimate with me! My mistake, but I've learnt from it! If more people could think of it in these terms, surely it'd be easier to move on??

 

And thats the way to look at it. Being with a MM/MW is absolutely no good...unless all you want is cheap easy sex with no committments....then you'd have become no better than them.

 

Not to mention you are helping to destroy a family, or betray and hurt a fellow female.

 

So if you have moved on and chalked this up to a learning experience.....way to go!!

[Salicious Crumb]

I just want to add my 2 cents. I am sooooo very happy I waited til my s/o was divorced before we started to share our passions for each other:love:

 

Great for you!!! A wonderful victory over your SO's ex-spouse and children!!!

[Izzar]

Great for you!!! A wonderful victory over your SO's ex-spouse and children!!!

 

Sc,

It is great for me because I did not start a relationship with him till he was divorced. So yes, Great for me!!

[Tomcat33]

Your MM would be just as passionate whether it was you or another woman. I hate to say it...but he is married...you are nothing special...at least to him. You can be special to someone who is not attached.

 

God has spoken. LOL

 

c'mon what do you know what people feel in each situation?

 

 

 

Originally Posted by Izzar

I just want to add my 2 cents. I am sooooo very happy I waited til my s/o was divorced before we started to share our passions for each other:love:

Great for you!!! A wonderful victory over your SO's ex-spouse and children!!!

 

 

Some relationships are just not meant to last. It's not about "victory"

If it were then we are not allowed to ever break up with another human being because we don't want the next person to look back at us, as the LOSERS in the game of love? In the game of love we ALL risk losing, that's what makes love so special the fact that we don't know it it will be there for ever. If we did, and given human nature and tendencies, we'd all be bored out of our skulls in relationships, we wouldn't work at it at all.

 

Izzar - yes great for you, for waiting and doing it right! :-)

[Salicious Crumb]

Sc,

It is great for me because I did not start a relationship with him till he was divorced. So yes, Great for me!!

 

But you did have an emotional affair with him before he was divorced.

 

And why doesn't it surprise me that you have a "me me me" attitude and could care less who you hurt?

[Salicious Crumb]

God has spoken. LOL

 

c'mon what do you know what people feel in each situation?

 

Because if she was so special and he is sooo passionate about her.....why doesn't he leave his wife?

 

She even admitted she moved on because she realized she was basically being played.

Did you fully read her story?

 

And I commend her for doing the right thing. She learned from it.

[stillafool]

Of course everyone thinks the passion is great and that they are in love with a married partner. New relationships are exciting. And when it comes to a married partner...they have been with the same person for so long, that a new person in their life is exciting and passionate.

 

The MM/MW would be just as passionate about someone else they would screw around with as you.

 

 

Also I think it's the "sneaking around" that feeds his passion. Some get off on that alone. They love that feeling of getting away with something.

[Izzar]

Ok, SC, If you call him & I saying that we were attracted to one another but waited until he divorced, an emotional affair, then I guess you'd be correct.

[Tomcat33]

Because if she was so special and he is sooo passionate about her.....why doesn't he leave his wife?

 

She even admitted she moved on because she realized she was basically being played.

Did you fully read her story?

 

And I commend her for doing the right thing. She learned from it.

 

SC you are aboslutely right I apologize, when I first read the post it seemed like general comment I did not read it as you were refering to one case in particular. My bad...

 

 

But you did have an emotional affair with him before he was divorced.

 

this is similar to my situation in that I did not start dating the man until he moved out and got his own place, and showed me he was really seperating...I know I know still dumb move on my part BUT our EA started many months prior and I broke it off because what we were doing (emotionally speaking) did not feel right. Why should I feel guilty that he decided to end his marraige to get out, and yes be with me? Yes we were the catalyst in some respect, but it's not our fault their rel. was failing.

[Babybird]

But you did have an emotional affair with him before he was divorced.

 

And why doesn't it surprise me that you have a "me me me" attitude and could care less who you hurt?

 

SO let me get this straight...you(in general) can't cheat but you're still a POS if you leave your spouse because you met someone but didn't have a PA and were strictly friends until they left? Wow. I thought thats what people are supposed to do..leave before they actually cheat.

 

And you don't understand why all these people don't leave their spouses....you don't even like your W. You have no respect for her, no trust in her, and I have never seen you say anything about loving her....but you stay..FOR THE CHILDREN? Is that why?? You may never cheat but staying for the children is fine for you but not for a MM/MW in an A? Sounds like a total double standard to me.

[puddleofmud]

Hmmm, I sure that my greatest passion is always yet to come because *I* am so very passionate that this can't be contained. It just grows on its own on a daily basis and it matters little if I am "with" someone or not.

NO ONE could possibly contain me.

I don't have marginal sex; I have amazing sex.

Greatest passion my behind!

One can be with a partner for 50 years and still seek/ have the greatest passion w/ that sole partner!

Passion ends when you're dead. As long as one is alive passion is great and wonderous.

I am quite certain that none of my past partners ran away with "all of the the sex".

Frankly, they would be terribly disappointed to know that I still retain a vastly amazing amount of "the sex" (without them).

[Salicious Crumb]

And you don't understand why all these people don't leave their spouses....you don't even like your W. You have no respect for her, no trust in her, and I have never seen you say anything about loving her

 

Well when someone betrays you....love, trust and respect doesn't flow out of your ears.

 

Why should I respect and trust her after what she did? Love her?...hmmm...the jury is still out on that one.

 

And trust...even a therapist will most likely tell you that 100 % trust will never be gained back after cheating.

 

....but you stay..FOR THE CHILDREN? Is that why??

 

For the time being that is why yes.

 

You may never cheat but staying for the children is fine for you but not for a MM/MW in an A? Sounds like a total double standard to me.

 

uh...you didn't even make sense with that statement. I was cheated on....not the cheater.

 

And when did I say anything about a MM/MW not staying with the family?

I don't like it when a family is broken up because of the selfishness of an affair.....so you missed your mark there....whatever point it was you were trying to make.