Dirk Posted April 17, 2007 Share Posted April 17, 2007 I still wonder why i can't manage to get a date? What's wrong with me? Older woman always comment me of how good looking i am. But girls of my own age don't seem to be attracted by me. I know that i am shy and i know that i don't know how to react when girls are around, but isn't there anybody that can give me some good tips to overcome this? is school a good place for meeting girls? I would appreciate the advise Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 It's gets annoying doesn't it? "You are SOOOO good looking!" "There must be something wrong with you!" "How come you can't find a good girlfriend!?!?" "If I were you're age, I'd be all over you!!!" If you are in high school, and you are shy, my experience was that school was a bad place to meet girls. This only left work to meet women for me. If you are in college, this opens things up a lot more. You have the opportunity to join any club you want, take whatever classes you want, and do whatever you want during lunch breaks, instead of being confined to the lunchroom, hanging out with the same girls you have known for the last four, maybe even more years while in secondary school. What worked for me was to completely get away from all the girls that I had known from my high school, and start meeting girls from my work, or even girls from other schools. Three years later, I still cringe when I see somebody from my high school, because I truly hated my high school experience. I'd say try work. At work, you are forced to be around girls, and you aren't put on the spot like say passing them in the hallway in school, and I was always about what my peers would think of me if i crashed and burned. At work, it gives us shy people plenty of time to think of things to say, and to build up courage, because you know you will be around them for at least a few hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dirk Posted April 18, 2007 Author Share Posted April 18, 2007 thx for the advise, but still..... It makes allot of sense the things you say and to give a better idea i am 21 years old. I don't work i still go to school. But i always feel somekind of pressure when talking to girls. It's like i am mentally retarded or something. Sometimes i impress myself to be able to talk to girls of my class whitout feeling any pressure. But when they are totally strange to me and beautifull, that when it becomes a deadly combination. I have got one bad experience with women. There was this girl i liked i waited 6 years for her and i finally got the courage to say i liked her. Then she said' i think we should be friends' you're such a good friend and i really don't wanna lose you. You know, i didn't believe a single word she said. After that i think, i lost the courage to ask any girl. I was very young at that time and buh it hurts. Opening up to someone and than telling you, no. Also every beautifull girl i have seen, are sorry for my use of words 'bitchy'. Know i don't know how to react or talk to these beautifull girls that i have never seen or met before. Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
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