confuse/need to vent!!

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Hello all, I've been married 3yrs. but together for the past 8 yrs. My issue is NEGLECT. Our life was great we were able to go everywhere at anytime but about 1 1/2 ago we had a baby. Beginning of many problems (i guess). i had a very difficult pregnancy where I was put into bed rest therefore gained over 100pds. I went from 130 to almost 240lbs. at the height of 5'5 in eight months, baby was a month early. Now I work, take care of our daughter and my OH daily.

 

I know he loves our daughter no questions ask. The thing is my OH used to be very loving, romantic,and sexual. Now our daily routine is coming home from work, playing with our daughter a little bit then going to bed. We used to have the little talks before going to bed the playfull wrestling in bed and the laughs. I've talked to him before about feeling this way, Hes answer was "I'm just tired" shouldn't I be the one saying that?? WTF excuse my language, he comes home play with our daughter then goes to bed as I come home I feed our daughter,bath her, prepare his food, clean up (I guess this is where SUPERMOM comes from) while he watches TV or go surfing in the net.

 

At times I've know that I've neglected him because the attention/focused is with our daughter vs. him. I've felt guilty that he feels hes set aside. I also believe that he's a grown man who can take care of himself and be selfless enough to know that our daughter needs will have to come first.

 

I don't feel the LOVE from him lately, he feels cold and preserved. Oh our sex feels like on occasions only not including holidays (very limited). To me I think it might be the weight issue, My OH past friends(ex's) are all size 0's or 1's now to see me (170 lbs now) like this might be a turn off to him.

 

Any thoughts are greatly appreciated????