Nervous...sometimes

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

I have a third date coming up with the man of my dreams. I am shy, he is a people-person.

 

I get really nervous when we talk either on the phone or in person. It's not all the time, just certain topics, like when we start to talk about what we are looking for, sex (especially sex), but when it's just 'things' or activities, I am fine.

 

For example, we were talking about birth control, and he said some things that wow'd me like how he respects me and some other very deep things, and I tried to respond and ended up babbling my face off and confusing the heck out of him.

 

Then he asked me if he embarrasses me and makes me nervous? I felt really awful because my brain was going at 100 mph and my words were coming out all mixed up. I knew what I wanted to say, but it didn't come out right.

 

Does anyone have some advice for me as to how to relax and respond and not be so nervous? I think it has to do with other guys not respecting me, and not being able to just say "hey, this is what I want, and if you don't like it, then I'm not the woman for you" but, I've never been able to get up the nerve to come out and say things like that.

 

I had stuff written down to tell this guy, and I didn't say it...and then HE said it, like he said the exact same stuff I wanted to say, and I was so shocked, amazed, overwhelmed and didn't know how to respond other than "yep good yep okay i'm cool with that" babble babble aaaghhh

 

So now I have to plan a date for Saturday and plan to NOT be nervous (i know, eye contact too)!

 

I need a crash course, can you help me?

[JCD]

Don't go into self conscious mode. Relax and think before you speak. That way it will come out with a meaning.

[Road Rage]

The rest of the story has been told JCD and it ain`t a pretty one:sick:

 

Welcome to the jungle.....