DJ Posted December 31, 2002 Share Posted December 31, 2002 Please help me to understand & know about dating guys. How do you know if a guy playing games or he is sincere? Most of the guys sound so sincere & honestly but how can you know they just pretending are truly honest w/ you? I just want to date a truly simple, down to earth & nice.....please let me know....please help me. Thank you...............and Happy New Year to all of you!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 31, 2002 Share Posted December 31, 2002 YOU ASK: "Most of the guys sound so sincere & honestly but how can you know they just pretending are truly honest w/ you?" You have to do like everybody else. Use your best intuition, go with your feelings, take chances and get lucky. There are no guarantees and no means of knowing for certain if a man is truly sincere until he proves himself. If you're looking for guarantees in this romance business, you're looking for too much. Link to post Share on other sites
opie_wonder Posted January 1, 2003 Share Posted January 1, 2003 go with ur heart... not ur head.. dont just listen to others... u have to go with ur heart, do u know why. b/c god guides your heart and you cant go wrong. use ur best intuition, and u will accomplish what u want. Link to post Share on other sites
dj Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 Hi Tony, I'm agreed w/ you that it take time to know a guy but honestly, I don't have much experience in knowing about guys. I appreciate if any of you could give me some tips how & what I should pay attention to when I date. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 2, 2003 Share Posted January 2, 2003 You say you want simple, down-to-earth, & nice Qualify those terms. What do you mean by simple? What consitutes Simple to you? Someone who like to stay at home rather than go to a club? Someone who would rather participate in an activity than watch it? What about Down-to-earth? Someone who literally likes gardening or farming? Or someone who values family togetherness, like kids, etc. What is your definition of "nice"? Someone who doesn't fight? Doesn't smoke? You need to qualify what you are looking for. Make a list if you have to then look at each thing on your list and figure out how you would be comfortable asking the guy the right question to answer if he fits your needs. Be blunt or be tactful - however you are in "real life" and if a guy can't handle it then he's not for you. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, possibly marriage, and don't want to waste time dating a variety of guys now and having fun, don't be coy and hint that you are not looking for that but looking for some fun at the moment. I've seen people do that just to "get the guy (or girl)" that they find attractive at the moment. The guy thinks he's just going to have some fun for a short while and the girl is thinking "how long will it take me and what do I have to do to manipulate him into marriage" It makes for a broken heart and hurt for both parties. You have to truly know what you want before you go out searching for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ann Posted January 3, 2003 Share Posted January 3, 2003 Don't just go with your heart, pay attention to his behaviour. See if there are any small lies, any uncomfortable feelings when being around him, does he accept you the way you are, is he reliable, dependable, is he there for you when you need him, does he respect you, what is he doing for you or do you end up doing more. Do his words match his actions? We tend to overlook small details in behaviour, especially when we are in love. But if we paid attention to them we could avoid a heartbreak. Link to post Share on other sites
Bizzit Posted January 8, 2003 Share Posted January 8, 2003 Originally posted by Ann Don't just go with your heart, pay attention to his behaviour. See if there are any small lies, any uncomfortable feelings when being around him, does he accept you the way you are, is he reliable, dependable, is he there for you when you need him, does he respect you, what is he doing for you or do you end up doing more. Do his words match his actions? We tend to overlook small details in behaviour, especially when we are in love. But if we paid attention to them we could avoid a heartbreak. This is so very true.. your heart can stear you wrong sometimes:( Good Luck to you Link to post Share on other sites
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