InjuredHeart Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Is it normal to feel sick, nausious (if thats a word), jealous, mad, nostalgic about ex after recent breakup? Wondering what they are up to? I think i have to much time on my hands to worry.
Davis Posted April 20, 2007 Posted April 20, 2007 Yes, that's all normal. It hurts and it sucks. It will get easier and less painful. If you have too much time on your hands, get busy! Go see friends, go play sports, go see a movie, go visit family. Do things that keep you mentally occupied1
MikeC Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 It is very normal. But, if you want to heal faster, socialize and stay busy. DO NOT contact your ex whatsoever. After about 2 weeks or so, you will feel a whole lot better. I'm saying this from experience. Thought I would never get over her, but by socializing and staying busy, I have moved on.
Guest Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 you got over someone in TWO weeks? was this a serious relationship? its taken me 2 months so far after a 3 year relationship and i still miss them like crazy.
MattNZ Posted April 22, 2007 Posted April 22, 2007 Agreed - it's really not easy in the slightest! Time is a great healer, but in the mean time you need to motivate yourself to get out and keep busy. On Saturday, I was feeling blue (was hungover which didn't help!) but got myself out to the gym and then a friend asked if I wanted to play golf. Really just felt like wallowing at home for the afternoon but knew it was better to get out and about and distracted. The initial feelings you are experiencing now are all entirely natural and part of the grieving process but with time these will diminish.
SuziwithaQ Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Is it normal to feel sick, nausious (if thats a word), jealous, mad, nostalgic about ex after recent breakup? Wondering what they are up to? I think i have to much time on my hands to worry. I'm feeling this exact same way Good luck to you and hang in there.
smwhtshy Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Injured heart, its very normal to feel sick while healing, kinda like that feeling in your stomach when you're going down in a roller coaster, but all the time:rolleyes: It does get better, there is a technique called "ratcheting", where when it seems like you're not be able to help feeling sick or dwelling on it, ratcheting is doing something else untiil it goes away or lessens...kinda like being in the store, and having to use the john, but on the way up the escalator, you see a sale and stop to browse, and then ten minutes you think oh yeah I was on my way to the bathroom. It does help. Try that, and as others suggested, stick with the NC if at all possible, because any contact is going to set you back, and also give you something else probably to feel sad about..plus, he doesn't know that you haven't been moving on without him, maybe getting over it just fine, but contacting him will erase all that. Good luck, you're on the right track...
Icantletgo Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 After finding out my ex had cheated on me I was miserable. I couldn't breathe, I couldn't concentrate. I didn't want to do anything except eat, sleep, and lay down. There were times when i felt like it hurt to walk. It takes time and GREAT friends to help you through this. Even though I didn't want to leave the house and face people, I made myself go to my girl friend's house to watch movies and just have an icecream/junk food fest. It took about 2 weeks for me to feel better...and that is when my ex contacted me...and now i'm starting the healing process all over again. It takes time but you have to push YOURSELF to get over it.
Guest Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 of course all of those emotions are normal. when my boyfriend broke up with me, i literally could not eat for a week (and subsequently lost 8 pounds) because i felt sick to the stomach and thinking of food made that feeling even worse. speaking on personal experience there isn't much you can do about these feelings except for address them head-on. the only thing to do in these situations is to try to accept how you are feeling and try to deal with it - crying a lot helps most people. a lot of people find that if they throw themselves into their work and keep up with their responsibilities to themselves and others, it helps make things better and keeps your mind off of what your ex is doing). for me, i know i had to take my ex off of my facebook because i was going crazy looking at what people were saying to him, how he was talking to others, etc. it seems small, but it makes a big difference if you sever any ties that would link you to thinking about what he's up to. what you're going through is perfectly normal, and i hope that you do feel better!
krzr Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 ive been no contact for almost 3 months now and i still get the stomach pains sometimes (got em right now). gets hard when she calls or txts to break the no contact or when her family does. been dificult lately dunno why i really want to contact her but i fight the urge off everytime its best. its not easy i think about it sometimes and i wanted to marry this girl and know im dealing with the fact that i may never speak with her again.
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