Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[Wonderlandless]

arrgh i don't wanna contact any of my 40 or 50 exes for cheap sex, arrgh

 

:lmao:

 

Haha I needed that.

[Faded]

arrgh i don't wanna contact any of my 40 or 50 exes for cheap sex, arrgh

 

I was going to write something. But this made me feel better.

[LadyV]

10 days no contact. This is the longest we've gone, but this isn't about you, it is about me. I know you can't text or email me because you are blocked. It is better that way for me because I don't want to be sitting around wondering if you are going to contact me. I know I don't matter, you have someone new now, so I'm sure all your attention has been diverted.

 

I am feeling better today, but again, I just miss you, but am not about to break this promise to myself and contact you. I could easily call you, but why? Why would I want to do that to myself? I refuse to do it and allow myself to get hurt again.....

[Soul Bear]

I wish you would all let go your pride and contact your ex. Tell them these things you write on this thread.

 

 

TAKE NOTE-

Your head can often fool you.

It is better to listen to your heart.

The difference is that your head is the voice of reason and will lead you safely, but your heart will lead you to complete your dreams, even if it is not the safest way to go.

 

Our heads tune out the real messages and reinterpret what we hear.

[hopesndreams]

I wish you would all let go your pride and contact your ex. Tell them these things you write on this thread.

 

What makes you think we haven't? In my case, there's only so many times I can keep telling him the same things over and over and it falling on deaf ears, so I'll write here instead, saves myself the bother of trying to get through to someone who isn't listening.

[notalone]

I wish you would all let go your pride and contact your ex. Tell them these things you write on this thread.

 

 

It's not that simple. Most of us have tried....more than once...only to find that the other side isn't even listening. When someone dumps you, he/she obviously doesn't have any regard to your feelings. Going on and on about how much you love them will avhieve nothing other than boosting their ego.

 

If someone wants you, they will find a way. But mostly, they don't want.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I love being angry. Its such an EMPOWERING feeling. And no i'm not incredible hulk angry, i'm not serial killer angry, i'm not chav angry. I'm a calm angry. The anger of a person who can see through logic and reason why I do not deserve the way you treated me. I am writing myself this list to look in shock and awe at what I TOOK from you for over 6 months, after we got back together the first time, so I can remind myself what i'm NOT missing.

 

1. Stopped kissing me

Okay, so we used to kiss ALL the time. You know those kisses that last forever, literally half hour sessions. Well you stopped that. BIG SIGN right there. I had to ASK to kiss you, not just go in for the kill. You would give me kisses you'd give your grandma. You'd close your eyes, not even tilt your head towards me. SO LAZY. I made ALL the effort in those kisses. Your excuse? I'm tired, i'm stressed. Too tired and stressed to KISS? You aren't running a marathon you moron. MAN UP. One day you said you rediscovered your passion for kissing me, and kissed me FOR AGES. Um excuse me, REDISCOVERED? When did you lose it? Why did you lose it? Why didn't you EXPLAIN to me rather than give lame excuses? Truth hurts but lame excuses just make me laugh and lies hurt more. If you're such a MAN, why can't you be honest and brave, stop being such a coward. It wasn't my feelings you were afraid of hurting, because trust me I could take it, you were just such a scared, whiny little BOY. JEEZ. I was the bloody man in our relationship!

 

2. Stopped having sex with me

Okay I know you were stressed and tired (again - yawn). I know you worked 6 days a work and LONG days. You know I UNDERSTOOD that. I even thought it was selfish of me wanting sex with you. Thing is my lust and desire for you was crazy. A lot of guys here complain about how there girlfriend DOESN'T want sex. I was ALWAYS up for it. And I knew how to satisfy you. Now obviously something changed, I believe at first it was stress and tiredness, but come on, red blooded males can put that out of the way at least SOME of the time. Then you said its because your parents were next door - though we did it with them nextdoor COUNTLESS times before. Then you said why don't we do it at mine instead, whenever I suggested it at my house, you refused. And when I did 'force' and 'pressure' you into sex, it felt like you were a bloody rape victim, because you just laid there so DISINTERESTED, doing sweet F- all while I did all the work, throwing out all the stops and you just lie there like a sack of potatoes. In the end I got so bored of F-ing a corpse and of your lame excuses, that I stopped trying, wondering if you would start - no luck there. Just every now and then in a little boys voice ask for a BJ...which I also loved giving. I mean, if you had an excuse that embarrassed you like you'd gone off it...fair enough just SAY. If you had a bad excuse like you didn't fancy me, just say. I CAN HANDLE IT. I'm not a coward like you. But you just denied anything. Said you fancied me like mad...just tired, just stressed....but even when we went on holiday you managed it ONCE and that was me 'FORCING' you again. God do you know how unattractive it is when your bf tells you, he feels 'forced'. THEN SPEAK UP IN THE FIRST PLACE BOY! And just TELL THE TRUTH.

 

3. Lying about porn

I ask you if you stop having sex because you'd rather watch porn. I wouldn't even BE angry, i'm just trying to understand you and whats happening. And you deny it, YOU SWEAR, and you PROMISE me, you say you have 'no interest in it' and 'no time for it'. On your recent items there are 4 or 5 porn links...thats RECENT items, so don't say its old....so yes you are watching porn...so YES you are horny (can't blame a low sex drive now can you?) so WHY are you lying? Especially when I wouldn't MIND. All I ask for is some honesty. What do you think i'm going to do, gun you down because you had a w***? My god! Guess its easier to w*** over an actress (you know they fake that all right don't you?) than to invest time in a REAL girlfriend. In the end I preferred w***ing too because you were SUCH a bore in bed.

 

4. Taking another girl out to lunch

Taking your pregnant friend out to lunch, NEVER telling me about it. And then when I confront you about it saying it was only once...no twice...then *you can't remember*. Well I saw the conversations...it was way more than once or twice...funny you said once then changed your story....then couldn't remember how many times. You might as well be honest because you are SUCH a bad liar. Even commenting on the pregnant girls BREASTS - and then accusing ME of being sick for insinuating anything may have happened between you...you're the one making innapropriate sexual comments about a woman pregnant with another mans child. Guess its easier to deflect your 'sickness' onto me isn't it?

 

5. Keeping in touch with the model

You said you didn't like a friend I kept in touch with - so I dropped him. I said I didn't like your model friend - you said you'd dropped her. I DID drop my friend. You said you did and LIED. When I went on holiday I admitted I briefly danced (as in not even touching) for 5 seconds with a guy in a club and you went balistic. You forget to tell me you danced with her TOUCHING. Why get so angry then hypocrit? Then you said how she's so sexy, so this, so that. Um hello you have a gf? Then you said you were getting bored of sex with me....um maybe if you MOVED you'd enjoy it more? Then you said you would have KISSED her and when she comes down for uni you two will meet up. Well she truly is gorgeous and stunning, i'm not going to deny that...so try your chances. But trust me a girl that gorgeous won't settle for a guy like you. You called her angel, princess, OUR names. How DARE you. Then say you aren't even bothered about me. SAY THAT TO ME THEN.

 

6. Never seeing me fridays or saturdays. Saying those were 'your days', and spending them with me would make me unhappy....because we have too much drama...well YOU are the one causing it! Just never want to talk or solve it so it becomes drama....with me starting a convo calmly, you sighing and getting angry and then killing it so we end up not talking. That was YOU, not ME, so don't DARE call ME dramatic.

 

COWARD, COWARD, COWARD, COWARD.

 

You haven't even taken away my self-esteem. Being with you did. But now i'm free I feel SO strong. You did loads of great things for me but these things alone that you did towards the end make you a horrible human being, a TERRIBLE boyfriend. I was a student and I paid FOR YOU. I took YOU on dates. I brought YOU a rose on valentines day. You didn't want to spend your bday with me, you brought your lil pregnant friend an expensive present and not me, you didn't write me an anniversary card...and you say I didn't care? You just wanted me to give and give and give so you felt special. Well you are getting NOTHING from me anywhere. I can't take back the money I spent, the presents I gave, the affection I gave, the tears I cried, the time I spent...and I wouldn't choose to either, but I can take back the now. You are NOT the boy I fell in love with. For some reason he checked out, and this new you stepped in.

 

So goodbye to the old you, and F- off to the new you because I can't STAND that guy! I'm freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee from you! I've learnt from you how to be a WOMAN - strong, HONEST, faithful, mature and NEVER to take anyones crap! I was a doormat before...you've made me one of those strong, independent women that all those rappers can't stand! Weak men only want b***** and ho's! Sorry you can't take a real woman buddy, rather chase after the harmless little gazelles than a lioness! Ah well, i'd have had you for breakfast anyway little red riding hood!

[gypsi]

im so sorry for everything i truely am, i have changed so much plz give me another chance even tho i know youre scared il break your heart again..you are so ***in amazing!!!! come back to me.

[LadyV]

I want you out of my head. Things will never change, and I know that. I hate that I am curious to see if you miss me, or long for me, but I won't un-block you, nor will I contact you. It has been 12 days....12 days of me being strong, not going by your FB, or even checking on hers. I WILL get through this. You were just a phase if my life...a phase I need to get past and get over!

[bluewolf17]

Tony,

 

It's back to Day on NC. I never should have replied to your stupid meaningless text.

How dare you string me along like that. At least I was honest. I told you what a huge mistake I made in breaking up with you. I left you for two days, and I really, regret that. I have done everything I can to prove to you that I want to work on this 100%.

 

I was hesitant to start talking again, after weeks of NC, but you made me feel like there was hope. So we talked, and texted, we went on a few dates.

Now look at me, back to NC, and more hurt than ever. NowI just feel emberrassed. I told you I wanted you to be a priority, to love you like I should have. I did everything but Beg. I had to corner you, to get you to admit that "we are in diffrent places" and that you didn't want to be with me "right now". I wonder if I hadn't had asked you, how long you would have dragged this out.

 

Now I am just angry that I could have been at 2 months of NC, instead of back to day one. I hope you don't contact me for my birthday tommorow. I hope you just pretend its any other day, like everyone else on this planet. If you don't want to be with me, then you should leave me alone, and I will do the same. I know I messed up, and I tried to fix it, and you don't care to. That's your thing, and I get it. So if you don't want to be with me, then leave me alone.

[Chinook]

Thanks for the stupid 'don't forget about me' meaningless text message. Now feck off and leave me alone.

[brokenglass]

lol I looked at my phone records today and noticed your stuff was still attached to it, even though our plan is dead now. I now know why your half of the bill was over $200 that last month, because you were talking to him.

 

But you know, I should have known. You tried to leave me for him, said you were in love years ago, then changed your mind because you realized he was a douchebag.

 

Well, the 30+ calls to him and the 1000+ text messages back and forth don't surprise me. Verizon credited me for what you did anyway so it doesn't bother me anymore.

 

But it stings a little to see you're doing **** with him. It doesn't surprise me, or anyone else that knows the both of us, that you continue to this day to do things that make you feel better for right now and not the long term.

 

Bleh it doesn't even matter. I'm just happy I'm in a place in my life where I can laugh and smile about this. I'm a champion. Nothing can bring me down and this is no exception.

 

On a much lighter note, you and our son and your parents should be close to your vacation destination. I really hope you guys have a great time down there and I hope our boy gets a lot of sand and ocean water all over him. You deserve this vacation and I am very happy for all four of you to be able to relax on the beach for a week.

 

But D is still a ****ing douchebag and if you start dating him...grrr I'm not going there.

[Lisalisa2]

Still angry that you blamed it all on me and left. Why did you string me along? I hope the grass is greener. I hope you see your role in our relationship, your behaviour.

[Lisalisa2]

Soulbear, my ex left me after 10 years and is seeing someone else. Why would I say these things to him? What is the point? There will always be something more that needs to be said. But there is no longer a relationship.

[Nikki Sahagin]

You bumlick your guy friends so much, sometimes I wonder if you are secretly gay.......

[EmperorR]

Hey remember that ttrip we were going on?

 

well im going today to bad you couldn't make it:laugh:

[hopesndreams]

I'm not coping so there's nothing for you to be proud of. I am a complete

mess and feel completely devastated. I don't have the coping skills. What i

showed you was a lie, a front. Every part of me aches for you. i know that's

not what u want to hear and im sorry about that but i just can't bull****

anymore.

[dudemag]

i hope you get herpes you slut

[lonelypiscesguy]

Erin,

After 8 months of a rocky but overall enjoyable time together, and as it has been 2 months since you broke up with for being too selfish, something still eats at me; would a selfish guy look past all your baggage and try and see the sweet, vulnerable woman that I found? No, I think most guys would have RUN like the roadrunner in the cartoons. You dumped a LOT in my lap when I was getting to know you that first month. On disability? No job? Bipolar? Twice in rehab for meth? Recovering alcoholic? AND herpes? The truth, which I would never say this bluntly to you in person (still care about your feelings), is that you ALMOST scared me off. Oh, and living in a clean and sober group home? I looked past A LOT!!! I even told you I would support you if you relapsed, and you call me selfish?! I doubt you will ever look at my side of the coin, and your memory is so shot, either from the meth or the meds, that I bet you have already forgot how sweet you said I was for looking past all your s***. If I am so damn selfish, why would I have been willing to work on my being selfish? Do selfish men do THAT? I could always tell when you were a little manic, but I never said anything, for fear of hurting "The Princess". OK, little bitter now, but you should know how I feel, I should have a right too vent and try to make you see my side of it. You broke off 2 engagements, and I told you I would marry you if things worked out with us, so you kinda broke three. I trusted you to be faithful, and I am 95% certain you never cheated, but you are in fact a serial dater. I think your disease gets you sprung on a guy initially, then after a few months, you're bored and want to explore the jungle, right my little Lioness? I can't get over you, though I have to assume you are well over me. Whatever. I am starting to heal, and the NC you insist upon will truly drive the last nail in our coffin. I don't hate you, in fact, right now I still love you and wish you would call so we can talk about this. I still find you interesting and attractive, and I think you are making a mistake. I just hope you don't have to date a bunch of jerks before you find someone who is up to your too-high standards. Still bitter, I know, but I do mean it when I say that I don't want to see you hurt. For now. I do wish I could just get over you and not care about you anymore. But I know this takes time and I don't want to rebound into something, that wouldn't be fair to the next victim of my selfishness! Sorry, bitter again. Goodbye, Erin. You came into my life like a whirlwind and broke my heart, but I know I did some breaking as well. I really don't wish you any ill-will, in fact, I wish you the best and I hope you can find the guy that'll do it for you. You don't have the baggage you used to, but you're still a handful, so be careful and don't rush into anything. You've done that before and it ended badly.

[dudemag]

hey again. still miss you. still hate you. why wont you just get the **** out of my head already...

[fabulous_chk]

I just miss you. You were my world. You still own my thoughts. Hope to God I get over this insanity.

 

I want to call you right now. But I won't.

 

God is good to me. He will lead you back to me someday if we are meant to be. If not, He has other plans for me.

 

But I do miss you. I miss you. I miss you. I miss you.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I suppose I know that what I feel is true love....because nothing that you do....even though it kills it momentarily....can permanantly take from me the love I feel for you.

 

I worry about you, I feel for you, I care about you. I want you to be happy. I wish when you were a child, alone and in a foreign country, scared and bullied, that I could have known you and been your friend. I wish you could have truly trusted me. You always said you can't trust anyone, and you are always alone in the world. I know you truly believe that. But I would never have left you alone in the world. I would have looked after you...I promise. I know you want to act the tough man but you forget that I know you - I know you are scared, angry, insecure....I know you just want to be loved, to feel someone will prove you wrong....I tried so hard to show you....one day will you see I would never have hurt you?

 

Its weird we are so similar....

2 people who look at the world with weary eyes who couldn't believe someone could love me through this crazy life....so we both pushed away. You can push away as hard as you like - I will always love you.

[LadyV]

Found out that you never came home last night...It's okay though, because I am seeing things so clearly now....

 

I have found my way back to where it needs to be...My love for a God who is so wonderful and can take all the pain away....and am going strong on my faith that He will get me through this...You were NEVER good for me...You kept me from carrying on in my walk with God because you didn't believe. I fell for you, knowing that in the end, it would not work out, now I just have to work on me, my forgiveness onto myself, as well as focus on what is really important...

 

I know you don't understand, I don't expect you too...but I just pray that one day, I will be able to share with you, what you are already so currious to know...where my strength comes from, as well as my thinking. I do with you nothing but the best, and hope that you do find the happiness that you are looking for....

 

I realized last night, that I still have issues with my x-husband that have been so buried within my heart....I masked them with you, as well as with other things...but now, am doing all I can to really get through it...No longer going to bury things, but to really deal with them, and allow my heart to truly heal. I believe that things happen as they should, and you coming into my life was for a reason...although I didn't understand it, I see it now. It was supposed to happen this way so that the ball would be back in my court and I would make a decision....the decisions been made, and now I can walk with my head held high, I can look up and say..."Thank you Lord for the trials I face...It is because of them that I have found my way back to you, and no longer will I run from you, but to you...."

 

Go ahead, call me a Bible thumper or Jesus freak....I am not ashamed to walk the road that I am walking....I know and trust that things will be better....It is called having Faith, and love within my heart and trusting that in the end, no matter what, I will be okay....

[fabulous_chk]

I want to call your mom so badly right now...I want her to take care of me again...I miss her. It's Greek Festival - last year you and I got rained on. We had so much fun eating and mingling. I miss us. Do you miss me?

[lonelypiscesguy]

Once upon a time, a prince and a princess went to school together in a magical village where they became friends. Then, one day the prince left the village and the princess wondered what happened to her friendly little prince. For many years they thought about each each other, wondering what happened to them and what they grew up to be. The princess finally found the prince and this made both of them very, very happy! They were friends all over again, as if it was just yesterday since they had seen each other! Well, before too long, they decided they liked each other enough to become really close friends. They had fun and they grew to love each other, just like in a real fairy tale. The prince wasn't always as nice as he should have been to the princess, and this made her sad and angry. One day, the princess told the prince she couldn't be friends that way anymore because he was too mean sometimes. The prince agreed with the princess that he should do what it takes to be nicer to her and he sincerely wanted to be a better prince, not just for her, but to be a better prince in general. Now, the princess told the prince at one point that they could still be friends and the prince was happy to hear this. He still liked the princess as a friend and didn't want to lose her friendship, but the princess said she didn't want to be friends after all and this made the prince sad all over again. Can the old friends the prince and the princess be friends again, like they said they would? Only the princess can answer this...The End???