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I went to see a Lawyer in the firm of Jeffery M. Leving. It'll cost me $7500 to do it but I will as soon as I have the money...get that DNA test. I am not going to give up my son without a fight.

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Dear A.N. my mountain lion,

 

I think I'm almost at the final stage of the grieving process, which means that I almost accept the fact of the breakup and that there is no hope as in relation to you. I WANT to be over you ASAP. I want to get back to the girl before I met you.

 

 

F.Z.

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Honest to god, I hate you. I hate you for what you've done to me and i hate myself for letting you do that to me. I used to be so strong and confident. You broke me down, word by word, into nothing. You used me in so many ways and then tossed me aside when you were ready to find something better. I am a person J, I have feelings...I would have never in a million years hurt you like this and leave you for dead. After every single time you hurt me - I was there for you. I was too good to you...and as I sit here crying over you - you are probably curving your appetite for alcohol & chatting up some new girl. I know you start therapy tomorrow, and i truly think you need it. Your cruel & evil. You think I was the cause of all your problems - it was your stupid family! Open your damn eyes.

I would have actually sent this to you - except youve blocked me on everything. Thanks.

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Hey how are you? I hope well :) To be honest I don't even know what the heck I'm doing here. All I feel is I miss you but I know you won't come back. I don't know it feels like the feelings are fainting away though. I'm happy about that :laugh: I hope soon I think of you as just my first love that got away and remember you with nothing but fond positive memories. I'm happy for you for finding someone that is special for you. It has been extremely difficult for myself though :(. Now, I just see everyone unworthy of my trust or even my attention. I don't even talk to anyone and you know what? It has been working. This girl that reminds me of you (except she has black hair) makes me think of you but I already don't even like her, ugh. I feel now that I won't be open to anything even friendship anytime soon. I guess to each their own, ey? Well I hope within your heart you still remember my name. Take care

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You were never any good for me, I was hooked on your looks at first and then you turned out to be smart and funny and all that jazz, and I couldn't help myself but wanted to put myself in your arms.

I just can't understand why you had to pretend with me and say you wanted to be friends and that we should still hang out and how great you think I am...when in reality you already know who you want and it isn't me.

I'm so mad right now because I told you the first time you tried to end it with me and I cried because we'd been drinking and I told you there's nothing that makes me feel worse than being rejected for unexplained reasons.

I would love to find out that you made a move on her and that she responded with complete disgust and rejected you and told you how you're just a friend and how it could never be anything else because she's not into you like that...that would make my goddamn day.

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You m0ther****ing d!ck

 

"you need to be beautiful. You need to not be emotional. You need to relax. You need to have more self esteem. You need to lose weight. You need to be more intimate with me"

 

YOU need to STFU.

 

last time I checked YOU ****ed up and I am giving you the second chance. Since when do you call the shots? You should be happy I'm even talking to you, let alone entertaining the idea of us after what you did.

 

I'm tired of catering to your needs on this second chance. What about me and what I need? You should be bending over backwards to make this work and for me to regain your trust. What about the ****ed up emotional state you left me in. You expect me to not cry or have low self-esteem after that? F you.

 

Oh yeah... I'm tired of listening to you talk about ***. Just stop. Tell someone who cares.

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i messed up and i contacted today. damn.

 

 

You can say that again. I called and told her how much I miss her friendship and want that back in my life. After that she told me she had to go and said bye quickly. I was breaking down and called her mom to ask her for advice (this is the first time ever I do such a thing or even talk to her for a length of time) she was so nice and I started telling her how everything has been and that it has been really difficult for me. She told me to give my ex time and that life does go on, it made me cry hearing how amazingly nice her mom is and how it seemed she genuinely cared about how sad I am over all this. I told her thank you at the end of the call and wished her a good night. Talking to her was nice I really appreciated her taking time to talk to me. I wish my ex would want me back and not others. It hurts throwing all our wonderful memories away. I have to though my ex doesn't want me back at all anymore i don't know what to do, yesterday I was feeling great and now I'm back in the gutters.

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You can say that again. I called and told her how much I miss her friendship and want that back in my life. After that she told me she had to go and said bye quickly. I was breaking down and called her mom to ask her for advice (this is the first time ever I do such a thing or even talk to her for a length of time) she was so nice and I started telling her how everything has been and that it has been really difficult for me. She told me to give my ex time and that life does go on, it made me cry hearing how amazingly nice her mom is and how it seemed she genuinely cared about how sad I am over all this. I told her thank you at the end of the call and wished her a good night. Talking to her was nice I really appreciated her taking time to talk to me. I wish my ex would want me back and not others. It hurts throwing all our wonderful memories away. I have to though my ex doesn't want me back at all anymore i don't know what to do, yesterday I was feeling great and now I'm back in the gutters.

 

yeah man im in the pits too. but the more we keep contacting them the more we push them away. staying strong during NC is the only way to get them back.

 

tomorrow i will start day #1 again.

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yeah man im in the pits too. but the more we keep contacting them the more we push them away. staying strong during NC is the only way to get them back.

 

tomorrow i will start day #1 again.

 

 

I agree that us contacting them pushes them away. I don't think NC is to get them back though, once they are gone I think they left and I hate that she isn't coming back, I wish if I didn't contact her she would miss me and how much I cared for her. In a sad way I hope the person she's with isn't what she wants and comes back but I know that the chances of that happening are pretty slim. I hope NC makes me just fix myself and not dwell on them.

 

This girl in my class looks like her and I told that girl today that she looks like someone I know. I hate it. I noticed my triggers are being out in public. When I'm home alone or with my family I'm good but once I go out I think of her only.

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2 weeks NC ... I won't contact him, but if I did I'd tell me:

 

You have your mother's temper and your father's balls.

You're a F-N douche bag.

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SimonSerenade

Well I geuss you got me down once again my darling, Thinking of you with others, Thinking that we'll never be again, The nightmare becomes more and more reality with each passing day, It's been a long time since I last held you and told you I love you, Now it kills me to think of others holding you instead, It hurts to know that I never cross your mind.

 

I wish you'd grow up and realise whats best for the family we made, I feel I'd be fine had I known I deserved what was coming to me but I did my damn best by you and I tried my hardest to be there even when you didn't deserve me to be, I know one day you'll look back at me in regret.. I just hope that day comes soon.

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day 7 NC

 

u hurt me babe, more than you would ever imagine. No, you werent the first girl i had been with, but you were truly the first girl i fell in love with. All the nights we'd stay up late talking about the future made me want to reach the stars for you, so i could give you what i thought you deserved. 2 years together, filled with bliss. lying with you made me feel as if everything was ok, even when grandma passed, having you by my side kept me grounded and at peace, it was as if i gained strength from your support. as i write this, we were supposed to be in barcelona, enjoying the world and each other, but in the end, everything was a lie. You know what you did, and it hurts me every day. u were looked at as family by every one in my home, and i yours, but you got g.i.g.s, and grew scared. i love you babe, but what we had is gone, i wouldve worked with you through the mistake, but your attitude in the following days showed me that the girl i fell in love with was an illusion. you simply latch onto people, and assume whatever personality traits that you think they desire, youre like an emotional leach. we almost had it all, but you succumbed to youre insecurity. ill alwasy miss the girl i knew, but the person that remains is a shell of that girl. good luck, see you next semester, and for your sakes, find yourself before you end up hurting yourself through meaningless trysts with people who dont care about you....... love, always(kinda, sorta, maybe) Stilicho

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so yea. its official, I'm the worst at going NC. I used to be pretty good at it before our son and before I realized how much I care for you. I'd do anything in the world to stop you from divorcing me, but my hands are completely tied. I don't want look at you as the enemy, but unfortunately you are. I don't know how long its going to take to get over you, and the fact I wont see our son every day, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to carry this pain for a long time. I always hear about husbands and wives missing each other and realizing they really do love one another and reconciling. This won't happen with us, no matter how much I want it to. Things happened that will never allow us to be together again in your mind, even though I know if you ever believed in us again things could be amazing for all of us. I don't think you know what love is because there is no way it could disappear as quickly as it did with you. You totally deny there is an OM, but I know better. Part of me will never forgive you for putting me through this, part of me will always love you, and part of me knows we were doomed from day 1 we were married. I tried really hard to love you the best I could, but you couldn't accept it and definitely couldn't reciprocate. I had no chance, no matter what I did. Now, unfortunately our son is going to miss out on having his father around a lot of the time. I realize now that from the day he was born it was 100% up to you whether I got to be around him full time or if I'd be his weekend dad. I wish I could've seen that before everything went bad. You saying to me my changes are "too little, too late" and and "i made my bed now I have to lie in it" is particularly cruel. I do wish you the best, hoping things go bad for you isn't healthy. I deserved a real second chance, but you never gave it to me. You admitted no one on this planet has done more for you the last decade than I have. Now you treat me like I'm some insignificant person you have to deal with. I know I would never treat you with such disrespect, ever.

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Buzzkillington

3 months since we broke up.

 

I feel sick as a dog and that was before I even realised it was... didn't sleep last night barely at all and again, hadn't realised it was dead on the 3 month mark. This has been the worst day since we split!

 

Like a month and a couple of weeks of NC.

 

People still tell me things about you even though I've asked them not to :( - because we had fun and I'm a laid-back person they seem to assume I don't even care. Please God stop telling people about staying with your man etc (people who tell me I mean).

 

I'm glad you're happy and well. When it gets to another month or so of NC I'll have got over this, got a better job and hopefully met some women I like, and started being a normally functioning person again. Should be ok anyway.

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So after almost four months you can't just stop? You were so destructive by just leaving me, leaving everything we've worked for, lying to me, lying to our family and friends. Why can't you just stop being so destructive? Why can't you just agree to the annulment? Why are you making it so difficult? Why can't you stop asking your parents for money? You're a thirty-five year old spoiled brat. I don't want to say it, but it's how you're acting. I thought you loved me. By continuing to treat me like this, you are showing that you are selfish, that you have no heart. I was moving on, doing really good. I wasn't thinking about you. I was beginning to plan things, talk to people, believe in myself. My attorney said, this is where it gets ugly. You want your things, you want some of the money, and your not going to admit to anyone in a legal forum what you did to me even though you've already admitted it to me, our families and some of our friends. Are you still lying? Are you making up stories? You're such a coward. You told me to get over myself when I asked why you'd abandoned me? You get over yourself. You are a selfish, materialistic, coward. I've thought about the selfish part for years, and now you've really proven to me that I was right all those years. But what I can't understand is why you've done this, why all the times I asked you why you were giving me the runaround, you'd say you weren't. Why didn't you let me leave when I wanted to? Why did you degrade me and ask me where I'd go. Why did you tell me I didn't have any friends? Why did you tell me if I gained weight you'd leave me? Why the hell did I stay with someone like you for so long? Why did I love you? Why did I believe in you? Why did I think you would do all the things you said you would? I just want to move forward. Everyone tells me you're my enemy, but I can't think of anyone I considered my enemy ever in my life. My heart doesn't work that way. I gave so much to you, and just because you've done this, doesn't mean you're going to make me a bitter, angry, money grubbing, aggressive, vengeful person. You filled me so full of pain that that's how I was for a week toward you. I'm embarrassed that I even yelled at you, that the emotions I felt made me react that way toward you. At least I told you what I was feeling. You told people my yelling scared you?! You told them that I got angry. What the hell did you want me to do? I can't believe I'm this upset right now, that I'm wasting my time thinking of you. You have done a horrible horrible thing. You did this. You are so selfish. What did you expect me to do? Smile? I can't believe you told me to leave, that you'd get a roommate. I can't believe you can't even face me. I don't want to feel this anger, this emotion. I want to live and have wanted to live for a while. I waited so long for you, and I believed you really wanted all of the things we talked about. I can't wait to travel. I'm planning things right now. I can't wait to do some of the things I wanted to do and you told me no. You've kept me hidden and controlled for so long. I was feel free. Being without you began to feel liberating. And now you have a hold on me again. Why can't you just settle things with me. I filed the papers because you said you didn't want me anymore, like I'm some kind of property that you can just throw away or give away or toss out. I'm not. I'm a beautiful, caring, honest and compassionate person. I've shown nothing but care for you. I worried that you were in trouble. I supported you even when you'd left me. Remember when you called to tell me you were applying to a new job? And do you remember what I said? "You'll get it no problem. You're good at whatever you do. People love you, especially there. You've done nothing but a good job and that's what you'll continue to do. You're a shoe in." And that was a month after you left me! I've been trying so hard to remember that there is good within you, that you are just moving down a different path. Why can't you just work with me? Why are you bringing back the pain? I don't want your things, but I do want to be able to move forward with some tiny chunk of security. Stop causing so much hurt. Stop being so angry. Stop and think. Look inside of yourself. I haven't done anything to you.

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i still miss you, i miss the way we could just talk about everything and anything. i miss the random "i love you soo much" messages you would send. I hate feeling like this.

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I used to love you. I used to think we would get married and have children together...but now, i am so glad that we are THROUGH. Your parents are complete pompous pigs and you aren't a very good electrician..infact, i never told you this..because i loved you and i didn't want to hurt your feelings...but my aunty had to find another electrician to fix the lights that you wrecked..so yeah, good luck with your crappy business!! Oh and by the way...i always thought you breath smelt funny..ta ta!:lmao:

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Dear S

 

I hope you and our son are well and safe where ever you are and whatever your doing. I am going to be just fine.

 

I have one woman on a muslim matrimonial site who wants to marry me. We are talking about having our families meet up in the next two months or so to see if we can all get along...and after that we may make an arrangement.

 

I have another woman who I met in a pole dancing class of all places.... a beautiful opera singer who is wonderfully creative and young. A woman I have known for six months now. We may be getting romantic really soon.

 

Plus I will soon have a MS and could be faculty at a community college...not glamorous but it pays.

 

You were great in your time...and our history together will always make me feel for you something I can only call love... but I don't cry if you want to play with another boy. Their are other kids on the block.

 

Take good care of our son. Exercise good judgement in what you choose. Because when I choose it won't be for fun...it'll be for keeps. Have fun. Because I am.

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let's try this again.

 

Day #1 NC

 

Hahaha, me too. Well pretty much a few days ago I caved in and called her, she of course did not answer, called her mom and she gave me dad's number (obviously she was at her dads house). I called her and I practically begged her to be my friend. She kinda just said okay and later that night I called her calmly and well we had a nice/small talk and then I told her I must go because I had homework. So thats how it is right now for me.

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Hahaha, me too. Well pretty much a few days ago I caved in and called her, she of course did not answer, called her mom and she gave me dad's number (obviously she was at her dads house). I called her and I practically begged her to be my friend. She kinda just said okay and later that night I called her calmly and well we had a nice/small talk and then I told her I must go because I had homework. So thats how it is right now for me.

 

i almost gave in again today. but i know it's the right thing to do. hoping for the best but expecting the worst

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