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[layla1983]

I saw a movie yesterday that we watched together once that I know you liked even tough it's a chic flic and the song reminded me of you so MUCH

 

One fine day

You'll look at me

And know our love was

meant to be

One fine day

You're gonna want me for your girl

The arms I long for

will open wide

And you'll be proud to have me

by your side

One fine day

 

I love you Ryan

[SweetyBear]

Shame on you for trying to make me feel like I was lacking trust and commitment when it seems now that I had good reason for my hesitation in believing in you. Seriously. Shame on you. I will get over this and I will learn to put my trust in someone who deserves it. Clearly, you do not. I will never understand because I do not lie so easily or so well.

[SimonSerenade]

I wish you'd just get your ass out of my mind, to think it was just a mere phone call that brought me down to this level again, I'm not completely devastated like I was in the begining and I'm not tempted to contact you, infact I hope I never have to see your face ever again cause it's just not the face I remember so fondly, all the memories are rushing back to me and I think that's what saddens me the most but maybe the end of this pain is near and maybe that's why it's hurting like this because I'm finally accepting that it's well and truly over for good, I don't know how you so easily forgot about me and everything we had but that's just the way it is, I feel if you handeled this so much better and prevented this pain then we could of been friends but after how you treated me I know for sure there's no way back for you in my life, I deserve so much better.

[brutalglide]

Ex-gf just texted me today/called/broke NC (on day 3).

 

Ignored her IM that didn't mean ****, basically her trying to start a convo. Pretty sure ignoring her got her going good cause she posted something about don't love you anymore on her facebook. That disappeared after 1-2 hours (guessing she deleted it lol). And then she started to blow up my phone with text messages saying how I was a great guy and hope I find someone to be happy with and goodbye. Then says some crap about if I'm choosing to hate her she has nothing to say, but to take care of myself and know that she never regretted dating me.

 

Just needed to rant. Can't believe she's ****ing texting me this ****, as if she's trying to make me feel better that she broke up with me. Instead she's just making feel worse. On the other hand, why would she post an update to her FB saying don't love you anymore then delete it later (probably in fear that I'd see it?). Then text me all that stuff. Ughh, **** I just want to tell her off and be like don't ****ing call/text/IM/email me unless your saying you made a mistake and want me back.

[Flowerzzz]

Change your address you lazy moron!

Oh, and I am keeping your coffee table and your dvd player. But I will probably keep throwing away your mail.

[TryTryAgain]

Almost broke down and contacted you today. Um, let me clarify...I did break down, but I did not contact you. For some reason I thought I was going to run into you at the grocery store too. You weren't there obviously. Very weird the way I let you have control over my mind, yet you aren't even physically in my life.

 

I'm still so very disappointed in you for the way you acted. I gave you another shot, and you failed once again.

[SweetyBear]

I am so not proud of myself for calling you yesterday. My emotions, hormones and questions all seemed in league against me. Next time, I will be stronger. Today sucks. It just does.

[silvermane187]

The more I think about it the more disappointed I am in you. Three years and you decide to throw it away like nothing. How could you spend 3 years with me before figuring out you didn't love me. I'll never forgive you for the lies you told. The whole "poor but honest student" front you put on is only 50% true. You'll always be poor in character after the way you cut me off. I take back what I said about always being there for you. Die in a ****ing fire you cold hearted bitch. Have fun turning out fat and lonely like your mother in 20 years.

[SimonSerenade]

I still miss you and I still feel for you, the thought of you with someone else still kills me, to think I'll never get to kiss those pretty little lips again or hold you in our bed, still kills me but I'm slowly and surely getting over it, things may never be the same again with someone else but I'm gonna damn sure try to make it special, what upsets me most these days is looking at pictures of our son when he was first born and you deprived me of that precious time with him, I'll never get that back, he's my first and only child and you completely ruined that experience for me, I'll never get an apology for any of this cause in truth your nothing but a self obsessed egotistical ass who will never grow up cause you'll always have people bending over backwards doing it for you, the only tragedy here is that your too dumb to see it, regardless I wish you nothing but the best but secretly I hope you come to regret this one day, if you never do then your not the person I remember so fondly anymore.

[Graceful]

This is not for my ex. This is for a non-romantic friend who has truly hurt me:

 

You reached out to me and I gladly and generously offered you my friendship when you said you needed it. I was totally understanding how your heart ached after your breakup, even though you were never really clear of the timeframe and I didn't know how long ago she had left you. But since the first few days you said you'd love to be my friend, you have done nothing but cause me a lot of pain and hurt me, and I just do not know why. If you changed your mind about wanting my friendship, you could have just told me. Have you been so jaded by your ex and your other bad relationships that you just don't trust anyone, even me? I tried to follow your lead, but you just kept playing cat and mouse with me, to the point that I didn't even understand what you wanted from me. I still don't. I might never. Your last message to me was so snarky and imperious that my jaw dropped. Why did you speak to me like that? I do not allow someone to speak to me in such a snide manner and had to tell you that I would not tolerate that tone. Was that left over snarkiness for your ex? I AM NOT YOUR EX. I am the best investment in friendship you could ever make, and you blew it, yes you blew it.

 

I did nothing but try to show you that I cared and wanted you to recover and be happy. Why you ever came to me and asked me for friendship baffles me, based on the way you have treated me. I feel like cr*p today, I really do. I do not like to leave off with anyone on poor terms, and have not decided what to do, and I think it's best if I just think about this for a few days. I am still very upset with you, but you know something? I don't think you meant to hurt me, I think it is just a by-product of your lack of trust and your own fear of opening up and letting someone in. Even me. Cannot believe how badly I feel, and I have never had a problem like this with a friend, so as much as I have to take some responsibility, I know I am not at fault here. For the time being, I need to keep my silence until I clear my head and decide how to proceed. Not sure if that means contacting you, or if I should just go NC, but for now, it definitely means NC and I feel comfort in my silence.

[petal11]

angry so angry today.. all i could was think of telling you how shattered i am but what good would that do i wont hurt myslef more or let you know how empty and lost i feel... the reality is you behaved like a selfish inconsiderate and insensitive bastard at the end. xmas was a joke, you were pretending and lying..to me and to yourself.. and now you have a new life, a new love and want to be friends.. so you can feel good about the way you behaved and tell yourself you're the nice guy and how difficult i am...DMAF..Im proud i didnt contact you after you snet me that horrible msg ..

i ve cried a million tears ... it grieves me beyond words that i dont hear from you or see you.. im just so angry that someone i thought i knew so well could behave that way...................aaaarrgghhh .. going to yoga tonight tat will give me some peace

[LD1981]

All I want to do is tell you how much I love you... it's hard holding back. I sit here at night, right beneath you, trying to hold back tears, but they overwhelm me so much... I can see the way you look at me when you think im not looking, i can still see the love in your eyes... why can't your heart rule your head??

[radiodarcy]

i highly doubt you'll care one way or the other but just so you know -- i'm staying away because i love you. not because i hate you or am angry at you - - although there are times when i do feel that way - - but i suspect that'll fade away eventually. i just can't be friends with you now that i know you're bound and determined to move on with someone else. i need to move on too. and i can't do that if we continue to be friends. why you can't seem to get this logic i don't know.

 

i have a right to decide how i want to be treated and what i will put up with. and i've decided that the following are not acceptable:

 

being your back burner girl

being a friend with benefits

being outright friendzoned

being an "option"

 

would YOU put up with any of the above from someone treating you that way? didn't think so.

[worldgonewrong]

How can you throw away 20 years together?

You ARE family. That does not disappear overnight because you wake up & decide so.

My God, you have stepped all over my soul.

[TryTryAgain]

I still love you despite your shortcomings. I still love you even though you treated me poorly through this last attempt at reconciliation.

[lolo1234]

You're a f'ing loser. You chose the easy way Out. You think this is going to be easier but it won't . You will see in time that you left the best thing you ever had. The life you have chosen for yourself is not going to bring you happiness.

As time goes on I am more and more grateful you left our relationship. Thank you for not letting it drag On any longer. You really did me a favor because now I can see you with a clear head and see you for how truly the f'ed up person you are. And your family is a dysfunctiOnal mess. Thank God I will never be a part of that family. You are a sad sad person. I hate you sometimes but more often than not I pity you.

[SweetyBear]

I feel so foolish. I thought I could just contact you and get some answers and now all I have are more questions. I have come to the conclusion that the only way I can get over you is to accept that you aren't who I thought you were. So weird though that I still crave some kind of proof. I know I was miserable and that you did not treat me how I would treat someone I love. You'd think that would be enough to just walk away and let go. I have no idea why it's so hard. I suppose I'm still mourning for the future I thought we would have rather than the present that was making me a mess.

[radiodarcy]

*sigh* oh, xxxxx how i love you. i wish you would give me a chance

[Graceful]

For the friend who did not turn out to be a friend at all:

 

You are a huge disappointment to me, more than hurting me, I feel like you stole something from me. I feel pity for you. You have to pretend to be something that you are not to get someone (like me) to like you, and be untruthful, that is truly sad. I feel you took advantage of my kind and generous heart and lied to me to get me to like you under false pretenses, just to draw me in. I feel betrayed and misled, like you set a trap for me, only for it all to come to a crashing halt over that one email, and the final email, that showed me your true colors, who you really are. You think that you kept yourself hidden from me? Oh, well, you really did underestimate me there, and you clearly had no idea who you were dealing with. It isn't always what you say or do that reveals who you are, it is just as much a matter of what you also do not say or do not do that reveals the truth about a person as well. I hope you don't prey on some other kind and caring soul the way you did with me, because you do not deserve someone with my integrity, character and honor for a friend. You simply do not. As for your ex, she's not a person of character either, although I never said anything. And I suspect that that final blow to me, was really meant for her, your wrath that came through, that was meant for her, wasn't it? You blew it with me, so totally blew it. And now I am going forward, when you will be stuck in your world of deceit and games. So sad.

[LostMyHeart]

Dear M,

 

I am writing this letter to share my pain in order to find acceptance, forgiveness and love.

 

Right now, I feel angry that you didn't treat me in a respectful manner. I feel angry because you were not completely honest with me about your feelings or your intentions. I feel angry when I think about how you disrespected the status of our relationship. I don't like being rejected. I wish you could have loved me.

 

I feel sad that you are not a part of my life anymore. I feel sad because you were a huge part of my life and happiness. I feel sad when I think about how much you meant to me. I wanted us to stay together, I wanted you to love me. I expected you to love me too based on your actions.

 

I feel afraid that I have been a foolish. I feel afraid because I don't know exactly what I did wrong for you not to love me. I feel afraid when I think about life without you. I do not want to be alone. I need your love and your friendship.

 

I feel sorry that we are not together anymore. I feel sorry because I can't make you love me or fix what is broken now. I feel sorry when I think about all the good times we shared and know they will no longer be there....you were those good times to me..you were my heart. I want you to love me, I want "us". I hope I can learn to let go..in love..for you.

 

Love,

 

M

Edited March 26, 2011 by LostMyHeart

[LikeCharlotte]

O,

What are you doing? What am I doing? We are friends now? No. We are not and we never were. You didn't want that. I don't feel anything one way or another about you, friendship or the short relationship we had yet I want you to think that you made a huge mistake. You did. You were totally wrong about me & us. We could have been strong by the time the really hard things came along.

 

Your shortsightedness made it possible for me to know what and WHO I really wanted. Thank you. I am a totally different person because someone had the courage to stay with me when things got hard. I look good now, right? Do I seem healthy in mind and body? The whole world is opening up for me for the first time. I know you are going to wish me luck but I don't need luck. I have everything I will ever want or need unfolding before my eyes and I can barely believe it.

 

I am never going to look back but you will. You may have another chance someday with someone but it will never be me. For your sake the lesson should not be forgotten. When you find something that good NEVER EVER let it go.

 

-Charlotte

[0hpenelope]

Dude, really? REALLY? You have yet to delete me from your Facebook list of "friends." I can do that just as easily but uh... I don't want you to know that seeing anything of you affects me and by making the deletion, you will know that I'm still affected.

 

I figured since you're the one who wants us to be broken up, you get to do that. Be the one to delete me from Facebook because I cannot, for the life of me, find any good reason to keep me on there as a "friend." I've no idea. If it's for a girl you re-connected with or recently met, I already know she's a downgrade.

 

You can call me a year from now and I will still NOT want you as a friend. Because the friends that I have? They don't quit me. They work out our relationship problems and you... you told me I'll be like your "second best option" if you come back to me. You don't say that about people you want to stay friends with and also? How wrong you are! You'll realize this someday.

 

I want you to date and sleep with as many girls as you can, do you understand me? As many girls as you can, because you'll be hard-pressed to find another girl who is like me: loyal, sticks with people through thick and thin, smart, and actually knows how to cook. Oh you know you love the food I've made for you. Good luck finding a girl that's a right mix of logical and emotional like me! As many girls as you can. Seriously. Knock yourself out! Go to town brah and enjoy yourself!

 

You want things to be so easy... Life doesn't work out quite that way and for the things you're holding close to you now, you will realize that you will have to let them go completely, too. They don't keep you warm at night now, they won't keep you warm at night in the future. You are such a quitter.

 

Send me crumbs of contact, darling, and I'll shove the whole damn pie down your throat! I hope it gives you h*ll when you see me on Facebook. You will be the ex-boyfriend that people will feel pity for because you gave up a good thing and you couldn't see it.

Edited March 27, 2011 by 0hpenelope

[SimonSerenade]

Not much to say to you to be honest, I'm sorry to hear about your dads heart attack, seems like your life going good streak might be turning a little bit sour, I wish you'd of ended things respectfully and gave a crap, I don't exactly like us being in this awkward stage where we don't talk, after all we went through together and all we felt for eachother, seems now were nothing more but strangers, I hope you one day phone me up, give a heartfelt apology and put things right, geuss that won't happen for a good couple of years though, I hope by then your well and truly a fully mature woman and I hope you realise what you did to me and feel shame for how you treated me through this, life still feels weird without you, don't think it's a feeling I'll get used to any time soon, it still hurts when I think of you with someone else, I'll always look back and know I was the first one there, now I'll never be the last, I'd of cherished that forever, it's not my problem anymore though really, you chose this fate and if you one day regret it then that's your problem, I'm going to move on regardless and never look back cause I know I did absolutely everything in my power to make it work but for some reason you kept changing and pushing me away, rejecting my love constantly and for what reason?, I sure as hell can't think of any, I move on knowing full well I gave my absolute all and did my best, I'd be very sad now if I couldn't say that, if you want to waste yourself on other people then go ahead but let me tell you, you will never ever find anybody like me again who felt what I felt for you and did what I did, I always put myself out there to make you happy and always stuck around when it got tough, can't see anybody else doing that for you, you tore our family apart for selfish reasons, I hope you can live with yourself, in your shoes I'd have absolute 0 respect for myself having to live with that, You deprived a father of precious time with his son and vice versa, one day you'll want that family life again and geuss what?, I won't be there in the future to give it you because somebody else more deserving of it will come along way before that, have a good life, I sure will.

[betterdeal]

I can't forgive you.

[Bluesnow34]

So I saw that you were on facebook and that brought me back to square one. I see people on your friends list that you said didn't need to be in your life. Yet, they are there and I am not. We agreed to try to be friends but your actions have shown otherwise which kills me. We broke up on good terms. However, you act like I never existed, like "we" never happened. You have completely erased me. That hurts more than you will ever know. How could you do that to me or to anyone for that matter? You said you are strong but your a weak little boy. I have spoken to several male friends who say that your reasoning for tearing us apart was a weak ass excuse and if you really loved me the way you said you did, you wouldn't have given up. It makes me think you were just a lie, everything you said was a lie just to reel me in for some sick game as your entertainment. And I fell in love with this lie. Would it hurt you to know I have talked to several guys? I am trying to get back out there but you made it so hard. I'm having a tough time opening up to anyone at all for fear they will do the same. I compare them all to you and none of them measure up to what you were. But now in thinking...I don't want them to be like you. I don't want them to give up on me, to make me feel like I'm not worth any effort, to act as if I don't exist. I want you out of my head and my heart. I want the uncertainty you brought to me gone. I'm so tired of feeling this way.....god you have such a cold soul.