Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[ladeedee]

Hey! So it seems pretty realistic now that you may have cheated on me and lied straight to my face about it. I wish I dumped you long ago. I hope you get what you deserve.

 

I hope you enjoy being single and I hope the next girl knows all about you.... I hope she knows better than I did.

[marqueemoon4]

Hey! So it seems pretty realistic now that you may have cheated on me and lied straight to my face about it. I wish I dumped you long ago. I hope you get what you deserve.

 

I hope you enjoy being single and I hope the next girl knows all about you.... I hope she knows better than I did.

 

you can always tell her

[silvermane187]

Get out of my head.

[betterdeal]

I'm moving in the not too distant future. A major consideration in that has been to not bump into you again. Each time we met over the past year, it quickly became apparent that you are still self-medicating and still involved with lots of men. I find it strange that you would tell me about the other men in your life immediately after hinting at you and me getting back together.

 

Truth is, we never really were together. I had a lot of past business to finish, and growing to do, and I thank you for the effort and patience you gave that helped me with that. So did you, and I never felt as though I was able to deal with that with you, fully. I guess we both needed to offload and express to someone, and we were both in the right place at the right time. I hope you gained as much from it as I did.

 

We had a magical couple of months, after the first six or so where you kept me at a distance. They were beautiful, innocent times. But one swallow does not a summer make. The rest will turn up eventually. It's a matter of timing. I hope you see this too, instead of desperately clinging onto those glory days and being so angry at me. Letting go will set you free.

 

Did I take that away or did I give it to you? Or, did we create something beautiful between us?

 

I remember those days fondly, but I cannot forgive your manipulation and aggression yet. It's a self-preservation thing, because you haven't changed in a year now.

 

Anyway, I thought I'd let you know I'm leaving this town. I've lived on the periphery for a year, giving you the space you told me to give you, and that I wanted too. But that niggling feeling that I'll bump into you at just the wrong moment is there, at the back of my mind, and it makes any socialising a bit stressful.

 

I wish you the very best and that you find the peace and love you're looking for.

 

Good bye.

[ladeedee]

Stay away from me. You upset me and there is nothing you can do to fix anything. I never want to speak to you again. You don't deserve me and I wish I dumped you cold-hearted when I had the chance.

[IfiKnewThen]

I wish I dumped you cold-hearted when I had the chance.

 

wow dont we all feel this way..

[ilovedhim]

Why did you always have to over react to everything? I never cheated on you. just needed time to sort through my feelings. you hurt me. but you dont care about me. you were so verbally abusive the last time we spoke and hung up like you never cared. you didnt even care enough to talk through it. as if you wanted to hear me say I want this to be over so you could be free. well you're free.

 

I will never contact you again.

[huskers11]

Dear K,

 

Since seeing you for J's birthday a week and half ago, I have realized how angry I am at you. I hate you for everything you did to me. I hate that you either faked your feelings and the intimacy we shared, subsequently leading me and on and breaking my heart or the fact that you are a scared little boy you cannot handle having a real relationship. I do not believe your breakup excuse, I think it is complete bull****.. But that does not matter. You hurt me more than anybody has EVER hurt me.. More than I ever thought I could be hurt by ANYone.. I feel like our relationship was one sided and I was used as a means to get it in! For that reason, I regret ever dating you. I regret I let myself believe you could be the one and fall for you when you never had any feelings for me.. you never intented on developing them.. For that I hate you! I wish I could take it all back and be indifferent towards you but since I can't please leave me alone. We have mutual friends and I want to be civil but being civil for me meanings being in the same room without talking to each other. I honestly don't want anything to do with you and I do not ever want you in my life at this point in time.. I don't let people in very easily and you knew this and destroyed my trust anyways.. People do not get a second chance and I do not know If I will ever be able to let you back in on any level but please do not talk or contact me until I'm ready to do so, which may be never! I honestly wish I could chop your balls off and shove them down your throat.. I am that angry with you! You are a coward and a piece of ****! I deserve better than this.. I deserve better than you!

 

A

 

PS You never deserved my heart! You claim you cared about me and I was your only girlfirend to ever genuinely care about you.. Well by not wishing me happy birthday, you showed how much you ever cared about me, which by the looks of it was not at all! So **** YOU!!!

[make me feel better]

i hate how you can pretend you didn't hurt me at all. why are you so selfish and heartless to me? we have been together for 7 years. how can you just leave and not give me a reason then move on with your life, enjoy your life and pretend that i don't exist.. that you didn't left me heartbroken, shattered. i don't understand you... you told me you would stick by me... why did you have to lie to me? do you care about the people that hurt, or that you hurt them? you can blame me for wronging you but nothing i have ever done to you can compare to what you have done to me... you tore my heart out, pretend our precious years together did not ever happen, went back on your words. i don't blame you for not loving me.... i blame you for not caring that we've spend 7 years together and leaving the way you did...without giving me any reason and moving on with your life pretending that you didn't hurt me at all. i have feelings to you know? how can you be so cruel to me? you don't know that everyday i think about you, i cry everytime i think about the times we were together and how happy we were. i want to die cuz i've lost you. why did you have to go and end our friendship over stupid arguements and over your jealousy. i hate how stubborn, irrational, and unreasonable you are. one of these days you'll realize you've wrong me and you've thrown away our precious 7 years of friendship... you'll come apologizing to me and i will tell you how much i was hurt by you and how cruel, uncaring and heartless u were to me... and i wont ever forgive you for it. *cries*

[worldgonewrong]

You frustrate the hell out of me, but if you made any overture for reconciliation, I would fully commit with all my heart and soul.

[marqueemoon4]

i officially have nothing to say to you.

[reallyconfused2542]

as much as i complained during the relationship and knew it wasn't right then i would do anything right now to have you back in my arms

[reallyconfused2542]

im waiting for you to contact me,maybe and probably foolishly, but none the less im waiting. i really want to tell you when you do that i would have given you everything to make you and us happy. when and if you do contact me i will probably tell you that you threw it all away and for what? because you needed space? you did try and talk to me and maybe i didn't take you seriously and this is what you needed but you didn't need to treat me like his in the end. its really your loss and i hope that ill have the strength to tell you that if you txt me again

[reallyconfused2542]

and you used to say sorry for making me feel like **** all the time by ignoring me or leaving me out but did you ever really mean it?i mean you kept doing it over and over again and every sorry i would just accept. why is it i was able to be forgiving and willing to wait for you to learn but you cant seem to be the same. sorry doesn't mean **** unless you try and change it. at least i was honest with you when i said i had a hard time saying i love you or thinking about the future. i really hope that for your sake you can do a little soul searching and figure out that i wasn't the bad guy all the time

[betterdeal]

You will get there, in the end. Just remember it's a marathon, not a sprint, and bearing grudges just means you still have fear or pain inside. Learning to let go of these in safe ways will help you to find happiness.

 

I hope you find a way to grieve the loss of your ex. His suicide was just a form of insanity. A permanent solution to a temporary problem. It was not your fault. Neither was it his. It was circumstances. I hope you forgive him sooner than later, and let go of that ghost.

 

Take care, sweetheart.

Edited April 27, 2011 by betterdeal

[adagio012]

Thanks for being a complete jerk on that day when you decided to quit on us... i wondered if any the things you ever said the day before or the day before that were lies. You disrespected me in some aspects within our relationship and were too stubborn and arrogant to even compromise and work anything out. You don't understand why i'm unhappy.. and i'm unhappy because of your character. I'm glad that you even notice and admit that you're a horrible person, but yet you don't feel sorry at all about it. Why was it during the last week I start seeing more of the negative side of you?

 

Truth to be told, I was about to leave you last month but I overlooked some of the things you did that hurt me and believed that things will change or get better. Guess I was wrong and you decided to cut the string before I even did.

 

Although I do miss your old self that you were in the first 3 or so months of our relationship (that was the character whom i fell in love with), I guess these first few days of no contact has made me realized this was a chance to find somebody else who is not like you... and I do deserve someone better.

Unless you realize how much pain you put me through and willing to be a better person, I refuse to take you back even if you do miss me and wish to come back to me.

[Kaito]

Whenever I even THINK about missing you, I remember the times you hit me, called me terrible names, built me up and then cut me down. I remember how you lead me on, lied to me, was hostile to me even though I did nothing but support you. I remember how you were selfish, talking only about your dreams, letting me cater to your lazy ass. I remember the way you beat the dog until he screamed and cried for you to stop. I remember how you called your 6 year old son a p***y, pushed him forcefully so he hit the ground when he accidentally hurt you by climbing on you while you laid down. The way you frightened me, threatened me, and complained about me. Why didn't I love on you more? Why didn't we have more sex? Its hard to be attracted to someone who's only emotion is ANGER and RAGE. You promised to get better, but did you? Did you ever REALLY understand what was wrong? I don't think so. I think it was all part of your plan. After all, I was your ticket to the "perfect life". You had the perfect girl, the perfect house, the perfect pets, and were working toward the perfect career. All perfect, perfect, perfect, just for you. I worked my butt off to be better for you, to make you happy while you sat around depressed playing video games all day and getting so fat you can barely breathe. I became fit, beautiful, and rose above all challenges to become a wonderful woman... despite this I NEVER cheated on you, even if I could have easily. I don't deserve to be called "nothing", "slow", "stupid", "c---t", "wh--e", "b----", "dumb f---"... the list goes on of terrible things you've called me when I was totally at your mercy. I'm sorry... how am I all those things simply because I wasn't up to your standard playing an online video game?!

 

I hate how you never listened to me. Remember that time we were stuck in the snow with the Jeep? You call it your worst memory. Yeah, its mine too. I am thankful everyday that you didn't kill me out there, that it wasn't worse. I was totally at your mercy... no phone, stuck in 3+ feet of snow easily 3 miles from anybody who I could get for help. Do you remember the details? You were pushing on the hood of the vehicle so the tires would grab. You told me to drive forward. I said no, that it was too dangerous... no way I would risk running you over! I'd rather walk and get help!! What did I get for worrying over your safety? I got slammed in the door. My head hurt for at least two weeks and was swollen for at least a month. I was terrified. Oh... oh... and lets recall... what happened when you FINALLY took my advice about how to get out? Oh... wow! WE GOT OUT. You think you would have learned to listen to me then, but clearly not.

 

I guess you wised up a little bit. The physical abuse stopped... but verbally, emotionally, you were just tapping the surface of how to be controlling. You threatened me, saying how easily you could snap my neck, that there was nobody around to help me. Your excuse? That you had been drinking tequila, and "come to think of it, the last time I had tequila I got in a fight!", and that tequila made you violent. Really?! REALLY?! You are so pathetic.

 

I'm sorry... I never called you names before. I always was kind and encouraging to you, so this might come as a shock. Even now it feels wrong to say these things, even if they are true. I really hope you get serious therapy. I know a lot of bad things happened to you in your life. Get help. Please, for the sake of your smart, loving, beautiful son -- who I will miss dearly.

 

Fix yourself.

 

 

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(this post was the best idea ever... thank you. I'm not having NC yet but this sure felt good, and I will probably be coming back here!!!)

[Username37]

Almost a year and I got stuff to say

 

Looking back, you're were pretty demanding and completely misunderstanding and only cared about yourself. I felt like I didn't really matter to you and you only kept me around because you needed a date to prom/homecoming etc.

 

A year now and I feel stronger. My mind is more open and I know that I can get over anything. I wish we ended better. I mean cmon....a first love relationship, in our teenage years, that lasted 1.5 years and it ends OVER the phone and started by a cake that you later told me was expired? Come on, you're valedictorian for our ****ing class and you don't see how that's stupid?

 

I truly feel bad for your new boyfriend. He's completely whipped and attached to you. You're both obviously are gonna break up after high school, why not do it now? Save him the heartbreak because God knows YOU'RE not the one that's gonna be. Seriously do you expect HIM to do it? You're using him, and that's totally ****ed up.

 

I would like to finally say that you can go through life thinking "I know how Username37 feels" but in reality, you don't. You read all those books and watch all those movies and TV shows about heartbreak, but you don't know how it truly feels. You don't know the feeling of the person that told you they will always love and care for you suddenly telling you to **** off and you especially will not know the feeling of your first love making out with some new guy 3 weeks after a break up.

 

You put me through hell. I lost 10 pounds and you took most of my friends away. All in the summer time. At least I found help (LS!) and discovered who were truly my friends. Obviously you were not one of them, as much as you thought you were. I'm not your friend and I certainly am NOT a family member of yours. I'm that guy that you flaked on, lied to, and strung along.

 

You're a sick human being. Probably in your genes.

[flowergirl333]

Dear K,

 

I knew there was something wrong when you said you wanted to break up with me out of the blue and then decided to take it back because you regretted it. Stupidly, I took you back. After I knew the relationship wasn't going to work out. I wish I found the guts to dump you long ago when I wanted to. Instead, I hoped that it would get better and tried really hard to work on it. But the thing is you need two people to work on a relationship. All you did was string me along telling me things that would keep me coming back to you while you flirted with girls in the meantime. When someone finally started to flirt back with you, that's all it took for you to give up on us. Who are you to be jealous when I hang out with my guy friends after you told me you had a crush on some other girl which was the reason you ignored me for 2 weeks. Who are you to not trust me? What you think I'm like you? I am so much better and I deserve someone much better but I was stupid, still believing that you would change for me because you told me you loved me and only liked her. I was pathetic the day you broke up with me begging and pleading. Now that I look back on it I feel so disgusted for making myself like that for a pig like you. I hope you find what you are looking for cause I know I am never looking back. The break up was a wake up call. You want to be friends? Why so you don't feel guilty? You disgust me.

[Blueberry7691]

J-

 

I feel like killing you right now for the way I feel. I hope you go through the same f ing rollarcoaster ride I'm going through. I'm so sick of it!!!

 

I actually feel like picking up the phone and calling you!! WHY SHOULD I? IT'S ONLY BEEN 4 F ING MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

I F ING HATE YOU!!!

[reallyconfused2542]

i don't know or understand why thing have to be this way. i told you that i wanted to change and start over with you and you said you were up for that. why the switch in a week to say that you didn't want that anymore. why couldn't you just have been upfront then and said no more. you sit there and want me to show emotion and all of this to you but when it some to talking about things that bother me your a coward and give me nothing back but im sorry. im sorry was said by you quite a bit because you did what you said i was doing to you. in one ear out the other for my complaints as well. its not ok for you to ask me to do something for you when you cant even show me a little bit of respect. i wanted to break up with you quite a bit throughout the relationship and for some reason i couldn't get the stomach to do it. i should have done it when i had those feelings, maybe i wouldn't be hurting so bad today. but you begged and pleaded telling me i was making a big mistake and crying for me not to go. and of course every time i took back what i said. we were beautiful together and at the same time toxic. i want to have a clean slate to start over with you but i feel like you think that you did nothing wrong and that it was all me being selfish and giving up on the relationship. i hope you use this time before you get into a new relationship to figure out how you works because its going to be a long tough road of heartache ahead of you if you don't. would i take you back?absolutely i would if i knew that things would be different. we were amazing together and i know we could have had a great future together. i know though that if we don't ever get back together that i will have an amazing relationship with someone new because when i do get in another relationship i will have a better understanding of myself and what i need to do to make things works. it will be sad that you cant be the one to get those feelings from me but i guess thats how life goes.......

[Blueberry7691]

J-

I feel a whole lot better after I told you what I did. FINALLY, it took ME 4 months to bring it up. I had to be the one to bring it to the surface because you are too much of a coward to do so.

 

It's amazing to me, that you are 100% aware of what happened so I can't even blame your stupidity for not bringing it up.

 

You were just avoiding conflict as always... maybe it'll go away and we'll get back together like before. The difference is my friend, that I have had 4 f ing months of SH*T to deal with bc of you.

 

There is NO WAY in hell I will go back with you. And for what?? I can make a list of the reasons you are not good for me. Holy SH*T!

 

I don't expect to hear from you. I hope that I can maintain NC. I definitley have a hard time with it but for some reason, right now, I feel liberated.'

 

I've been wanting you to bring up the topic for months but you never did. I finally do, and guess what? I FEEL FREE!! And to top it off, unlike other times in the past 3 years, when I would run to the chance of getting back with you, this time, I did NOT hesistate at all to tell you, IT'S OVER, I'M DONE. THERE IS NO GOING BACK. And I know your silence means you are shocked that little ole me would say that to you!!

 

Well sorry dude but you've had 4 months to make it right and you never did. 4 f ing months.... and in those 4 months, I have contacted you. YOU stupidly never took advantage of it and try to talk to me about it. NO.. YOU took the easy way and rode it out. You rode it out to the ground.

 

Screw You! I'm done. May God give me the strength to never contact you again!!!

[SimonSerenade]

Amazing how it's been so long since we last spoke, how well I've maintained no contact, don't even feel like no contact any more cause I'm not even tempted to contact you, I feel I've still got a bit to get past yet before I'm completely 100% over you but it's amazing how far I've come, I thought I'd be pining for you forever, no contact really does work, will have to use that from now on, seems like the only way to ever really maintain your dignity, pride and respect, I hardly even think about you any more, not like I used to any way, you still find your way in every so often over little things like beautiful songs and films that we used to watch and love together and then one thing leads to another and I'm looking at things and remembering more and more, I think it's safe to say that I'm probably not your one and only any more and that's a shame because back then I'd of given anything to have stayed that and made things work for us, this isn't my mistake though, it's yours, we had it all made out, all set up, everything was in place and you messed it all up and discarded it time after time, one day you will grow up and realise that and when that time comes you'll know that you blew it cause there's no going back for me, I don't even care about relationship's any more, I'm happy with it being just me and Lucas and that's it, I'm rather enjoying my time alone, no worries and all, feel's good, feel's right, just like it was back before I had anybody, just me, games consoles, films and bed early and up early and all the same again, I hope you find what your looking for either way, it would be a shame for all of this to be in vein, what a waste it would be.

[knathema]

STOP IT... throw your phone away. SHE LEFT YOU FOR SOMEONE ELSE. STOP IT

[Blueberry7691]

J-

 

I really don't have anything left to say. You had your chance. And I know you will regret your lack of action. It's truly for the best and I'm glad it's over. I'm sure we will bump into each other and I hope when that day comes, I'm stronge as a rock and look at you and feel nothing.

 

Take care.