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[dicky_fish]

Just a little work is all it would take for us to get back to how good things were. I love you so much and I just want the girl I fell for and wanted to marry to come out of this silly little phase of immaturity and realise that we are the best we'll ever have. You won't find a harder working and dedicated man, and I will never find someone who accepted me 100% the way you did. You never tried to change me and although we had our faults we were perfect for each other.

 

Night night my princess xxxxx

[brokendreamz]

Now I understand. **** him, he's nothing but a cunt and if you want to shack up with a bloke who would **** around behind his girlfriends back with an engaged woman the **** off and leave me the **** alone.

 

****

[radiodarcy]

as each day goes by i find that i really don't need you in my life as much as i thought i did. and i have to say - - it's a GREAT feeling. i admit though, i still think about you quite a bit. but i've been focusing on other things and that's helped a lot. i've developed a far deeper appreciation for my own interests than i ever have before.

 

i admit, while i don't feel as though i hate you as much. i still harbor a lot of anger towards you for the way you strung me along. i know i own a part in it in allowing you to do so. i guess when people are in love they find themselves in a fog. it's like that line from the smiths song "someone falls in love/someone's beaten up/and the senses being dulled are mine". *sigh* love really can be brutal

 

but i realize that being hard on myself isn't going to help me heal. and yes - - i need to let go of that anger towards you as well. i guess there is some pressure involved in being someone's first love. i wouldn't know. and at 35 i'm probably too old to be anyone's first love. but i still think with your experience you should have taken that into consideration. anyway -- what's done is done. and this is without a doubt done. i can't possibly enter back into a friendship with you now - - or possibly ever. too much has happened. and the last thing i want to do i run the risk of being your backup girl. i'm done with that and quite frankly - - i have better things to do with my time than be someone's latent booty call.

[KicksAndBricks]

(what a great thread!)

 

You broke up with me. I don't deserve to feel this way. Don't talk to me, don't text me, don't call me, I DON'T WANNA HEAR IT. Up and down, all over the ****ing place for two years now, I can't take this anymore. I want to forget about you. I want to be done.

 

You want to be friends, you are obsessed with being friends. "Can't bear losing one of my best friends" etc....oh get over it. Can't you see what you're doing to me?

 

Stop being so selfish and just leave me alone...

[bikinibeach]

i hope you die

[Maggotface]

I want to say things just to hurt you the way you have me but there's no point in it anymore. If we talk about things, if we don't, we still wont ever be together again and I can't get you out of my head. The best I can do is stay out of the house as much as possible and stay busy.

[california15]

I know this is immature, ( seeing as I'm hurting lately... especially since your combined birthday/4th of July/barbique is tomorrow and I'm not going this year because you're bringing her...)

 

but I hope the relationship you're in now does not last

[Nikki Sahagin]

Heard your mum has been really sick.

Apparantly you aren't talking to anyone about it.

Sometimes people reach out to each other when life turns dark. You didn't turn to me, so I guess I really am out of your life forever now.

I hope your mum is okay and that you are too. I hope you lead a happy life. I would have liked to have been there for you at this time, but as long as she's okay.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I guess everybody has a huge heartbreak, but some people salvage something from the wreckage.

 

Life's too short. One day - lets forget all the meaningless crap that angry, insecure people say and do and just chat as friends, like we once were before love and sex and all that complicated stuff can between it.

[dicky_fish]

I really missed you tonight. Such a big family gathering that you were meant to be part of was just awful to go through alone. Please, please my darling see the error of your ways, things were never so bad we couldn't salvage us. I love you so much my baba xxxxx

[TroyNJ]

Ronda,

 

How could u just throw away 15 years? Destroy our family, ruin us financially and rip my heart out? I gave you everything and then u left me when I needed you most!

 

**** you you piece of ****! I hope you rot in hell!

[kittycat95]

Dear man-whore,

 

As much as I miss you, I'm happy you aren't currently playing mind games with me as you usually like to do. I gave you everything. I was your support group and your angel (in your words) when you were dealing with depression and your issues. I was your best friend when no one else was there for you. And now I am a stranger. I hope karma gets you, bad.

 

No love from me anymore,

 

Your Stranger

[bikinibeach]

THIS KILLS ME, YOU KNOW THAT?

 

LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE DONE

 

i'm so sad

 

this kills me

 

how could you be so blind? i love you and i hope you get help and enjoy forever without me.

[bikinibeach]

today for some reason was really hard for me. i want you back. so badly. i wish you had changed. i would NEVER have that man in my life again.

 

i felt like we were holding on to each other, creating a life raft and an island in our own little world.

 

i wish you hadn't willingly let people destroy that. what we had was so special and unique.

 

love is a fragile thing.

 

but i am finding that indeed it does not just go away

[bikinibeach]

remember when you said you couldn't wait until we had little Dannys and Lucys running around? How I'd be the best mum. She won't be that. She has horse teeth. Horses are not good mums.

 

lol x 2400!!!!!!!

[proactivedreamer]

I don't want to be here. I don't want to be in this place. I miss you. I miss us. Sometimes, when I think about the future, I get scared. Even now, close to 6 months later, I am overwhelming petrified of life without you, life without adventure and purpose, and even without a "great love." When I look around me, this city, these people, the temperament that I must confront daily, I get stricken with great sorrow. I want to rise above this current state. I want to believe that there is something greater ahead. I want to feel life again, but I feel like I am dying. I just get so scared that it won't mean anything. when I think about the end of my life-whenever that may be-I get so afraid. I feel a real sense of terror. It scares me that this doesn't mean a damn thing,life. What does it mean to live and what will it mean when I die? I digress, but my point is, you are not here and life without you seems colorless, no longer vibrant, no longer lively. I realize that you are not everything but you are something to me, still after all these months, weeks, days, hours, and seconds, the memory of you, your spirit, your love for me, still encompasses me, still passes through my being. I want to know what it means, and I want to be open to other possibilities ahead but I feel great fear and dread. Something is amiss. Something grave. I want it back. I want you back. We spoke of making love again, what will it mean lips against lips? skin against skin? our touching, our passion, what will be the purpose of such a happening? We once loved, didn't we? Perhaps, I fell prey to an illusion? What I know is, what I am most certain of is that I miss you. So fully, so deeply, so truly, and it brings me to great sadness. I still love you, is it wrong? And what does it mean in this wretched world anyway?

[Mnesic]

**** OFF! Don't contact me because you have boyfriend problems and trying to seek emotional support from me , you cheated on me and left me so **** your ****. Stop sending me stupid texts like if I have your hoodie because your so transparent I see your intentions and everything. I can't believe you felt for this dude and you are already sleeping with him I hope he gets you pregnant and leaves you after he gets what he wants. I'm so much better off without your slutty ass.

[bikinibeach]

hm.

 

i think i've figured you out even more now.

 

i don't have any more respect for her (which is zero) but it wasn't her. it was YOU.

 

you claim your relationship ended because you TWO had no phyiscal chemistry...no, she wasn't sexually attracted to YOU.

 

so you decided to convince her to stay 'best friends' so you didn't have to lose her. how pathetic.

 

...then you decide to cheat on her! and she still wants to be friends with you? well, now that she has your testicles in her back pocket for the guilt you feel, why not string you along for the favours you were constantly doing for her? and the ego boost she must feel by having you chose her over your girlfriend time and again.

 

i can guarantee you, winning the time and affection from a loser like you will be the ONLY time a "woman" like that would EVER stand a chance to even come close to having one up on me...lol. and it was only because i let her.

 

that's why i dumped your sad ass to the curb.

 

i'm not sure what is going on in your life, i really don't even care to. regardless of what show you're putting on, i bet you cry tears of blood over having lost me. you will for a long time.

 

why?

 

despite the fact that you were a loser mama's boy who couldn't hold down a minimum wage job, i loved you for your mind and your beauty and your artistry. i believed in you and wanted to support you in building a future for yourself. for us. i would have accepted your illness, willingly, and helped you through it. i don't know what kind of spell you had over me but i thought you were physically one of the most beautiful creatures i'd ever seen.

 

i'm successful, funny, genuine, intelligent, educated, kind and thoughtful. i'm a great girlfriend who has no trouble gaining attention from the opposite sex (which, unlike you, i don't need to feel validated in my life. nor do i exploit it).

 

so yeah. you let all of that go for:

 

- a deadweight loser who will hold you and herself back in every way possible because you feel like a hero for 'rescuing her'. let's be real here, it wouldn't take much to 'rescue' a trainwreck like her and you aren't 'rescuing' anyone by allowing her to use you as a crutch and an errand boy instead of getting the help that she needs and learning to be an adult in this world. which i know WAY more about than she does.....and she's older than me. lol

 

how sad that her solution to this problem is to put up an online dating profile so she can find some other sap to latch onto. god i feel terribly for anyone who replies to her ad, he is in for a world of bull*****!

 

now i know what she meant when she said that i would be good for you. you need to cut the umbilical cord to her, stop tugging at her apron strings and become a man.

 

after all the above things i said i would do for you, that will never be one of them. i was not nor will ever be interested in becoming some man -child's surrogate mother, security blanket or teat to suckle at!

 

it would take someone, well, like her, to be willing to do that. someone who was cheated on and treated horribly by a loser..yet agreed to be 'best friends' with them after they broke up. hm.

 

guess what... you are almost 30 and you have not experienced a mature, adult romantic relationship. two years and living together does not equal that.

 

you are both very messed up.

 

i did however, invite this into my life and allow it continue.

 

i was sick when i met you (like attracts like?) but once i got healthy again, i couldn't get away from you and your miserable situation fast enough.

 

if you had miraculously somehow grew a set of balls to replace the ones she kept in a jar above her bed and made a few changes to set BOUNDARIES in your life, i would have waited for you.

 

you are a loser and an ******* but i still wanted to find that out for myself, not to have been shown by your basketcase 'best friend'.

 

it wasn't even 6 months really, 5, which isn't that long anyway.

 

i hope you, your crazy i****, your wildebeest buddy and your mr. ed girl friend are all as happy together as 3 severly messed up, delusional and confused losers can be

 

once my anger clears, you'll be someone whos last name i've forgotten.

 

by my birthday, i will have forgotten what you look like.

 

sayonara b1tch!

[marqueemoon4]

you think you're strong? nah, you just found another sucker to sponge off of because you can't do anything for yourself. when are you going to learn the difference between STRENGTH and CRUELTY? they're two different things. you think because you're with this other dude and you have control of our son you can be as heartless and cruel to me as you want? thats fine, but rest assured one day this is going to come full circle. our son will figure out what you are, i think at 4 he's already more perceptive and intelligent than you are.

[radiodarcy]

you know what your problem is? you have no sense of self whatsoever. that's why you have to look to other people: to fill the void. face it, you use people - - not because it makes you feel better. but because you're a person who is constantly looking for approval and acceptance from others and the kicker is, you're very good at getting it. you're extraordinarily intelligent; have a multitude of interests; are engaging; flirtatious; and highly intuitive. you can get pretty much any woman you want. that line you fed me telling me how you can't get women is pure BULL. you were just trying to come off as humble. it's just another role you play. you're anything but. you know how to walk that line between confident, swaggering wing man and appear vulnerable at the same time.

 

it's a winning combination. but underneath the act -- you're hollow. there's nothing inside you. there could be if you would be willing to let people in - - if you werent so busy trying to impress and entertain them in an effort to get them to accept you. instead, you use people to get the acceptance and love that you crave but you refuse to give it in return - - in part because - - you feel as though you have nothing to give.

 

so you use people (namely women), you drain them of whatever it is you're looking for at the moment: a shoulder to cry on, an ego boost, a bj - - whatever. then you quietly discard of them. not for good though. you are smart enough to keep them around for when you need them next time; checking in to make sure they are still available. it probably also helps ease your conscience; so you can feel like less of a dick for using these girls. even though that's exactly what you are doing.

 

make no bones about it, as much as you try to sell yourself as being the opposite, you are no different from any of the other players out there. you're just more clever about it that's all. it's not impressive it's sad. i've honestly never seen someone so deprived of a sense of self that they would stoop to such a level. it's unbelievably pathetic.

[amethyste]

you know what your problem is? you have no sense of self whatsoever. that's why you have to look to other people: to fill the void. face it, you use people - - not because it makes you feel better. but because you're a person who is constantly looking for approval and acceptance from others and the kicker is, you're very good at getting it. you're extraordinarily intelligent; have a multitude of interests; are engaging; flirtatious; and highly intuitive. you can get pretty much any woman you want. that line you fed me telling me how you can't get women is pure BULL. you were just trying to come off as humble. it's just another role you play. you're anything but. you know how to walk that line between confident, swaggering wing man and appear vulnerable at the same time.

 

it's a winning combination. but underneath the act -- you're hollow. there's nothing inside you. there could be if you would be willing to let people in - - if you werent so busy trying to impress and entertain them in an effort to get them to accept you. instead, you use people to get the acceptance and love that you crave but you refuse to give it in return - - in part because - - you feel as though you have nothing to give.

 

so you use people (namely women), you drain them of whatever it is you're looking for at the moment: a shoulder to cry on, an ego boost, a bj - - whatever. then you quietly discard of them. not for good though. you are smart enough to keep them around for when you need them next time; checking in to make sure they are still available. it probably also helps ease your conscience; so you can feel like less of a dick for using these girls. even though that's exactly what you are doing.

 

make no bones about it, as much as you try to sell yourself as being the opposite, you are no different from any of the other players out there. you're just more clever about it that's all. it's not impressive it's sad. i've honestly never seen someone so deprived of a sense of self that they would stoop to such a level. it's unbelievably pathetic.

 

Woah Sounds so much like my ex (or like what I think about him).

[radiodarcy]

lol. wow - - that harsh, huh?

 

i would so like to tell my ex all of this in person. but i know it would backfire. feels good to let it out, though. that's why this board has been a godsend for me. i'm not saying i was any better for staying in that position as long as i did. but i was (and still am) so in love with him i couldn't bring myself to walk -- until he showed me the door . but i've stayed strong and maintained NC for 4 months. being treated like that, it took a real toll on my self-esteem. i have no interest in going back to being treated like that again. he was always talking about other girls (both from his past and present) and i couldn't help comparing myself to them. again -- all part of his game. in fostering that sense of competition and insecurity he kept me on my toes. what a jack ass. it's so true, the more insecure a person is, the more they try and pawn off they're insecurities on others.

 

to be fair he does have a lot of good qualities and he does have the potential for self-reflection. but he's so insecure he needs the attention of many instead of one. so until he gets his sh*t together those good qualities aren't really going to be worth much of anything.

[amethyste]

Hope it's not the same guy

I'd like to tell him a lot of things in person too, but it has no point... I doubt he truly cares, or that it'd make a difference.

He had plenty of qualities too, qualities I'll miss - but my oh my, there were so many wrong things about him (things well hidden). It amazed me how a 33yr old man can pretend to be soooo mature & wise, when he isn't, and how he kept contradicting himself with calmness & mature lines. He uses people too; and while I have no idea if he has used me too, I don't wanna live with doubts, nor can I accept that he's using others.

I'm a very understandable and tolerant person, but I'm not willing to take any BS.

[radiodarcy]

lol.. nah - - i don't think it's the same guy. this guy's about to turn 36.

 

but yeah -- the whole calm, cool collected act is just a way of neutralizing their overall behavior -- thereby making them less accountable for their actions; so they can turn it around on us and make us look like the crazy ones

 

he insists that he didn't use me but at this point i need to take the reigns and apply my own interpretation to the situation. and as long as i'm dealing with the feelings that his actions created, that's all that counts. he's off and screwing around with other girls anyway so it's not like he cares anyway.

[SimonSerenade]

It's been a good while since I've posted here or even since I've given you a proper thought, Feels sort of like I've been walking around in a daze for the last few months just finding things to keep my mind far away from being on you, everyday numbing the pain more and more, I think I need a fresh start and need to get out of this house we shared, though I feel I'm over you for the most part, sometime's the memories come out to play, they never really leave as much as I want them too.

 

I'll admit that sometime's I miss you but other time's I have no idea what I'm missing because I don't know you anymore, it's a month off being a whole year without you, this break up's made me look at life through a completely different window so I think I need to thank you for that, I'm very rarely miserable now and I appreciate every little thing that I have, even simple things such as feeding the ducks with our son.

 

Life will never be the same and it hurts to know that sometime's, everything still feels weird without you and I feel I'm going to have a hard time letting anybody else in, in some sense I'm happiest single, it's the only way I know I won't get hurt, nobody should of been treated the way you treated me for the last few years, there was no love and respect what so ever, you just upped and left with nothing but lies to cover your tracks, refused to explain anything, none of that matters now anyway.

 

I know you'll never see this message and I know you'll never know what I'm truly thinking or feeling, I geuss I just want to tell myself and hope you feel it that I don't hate you, I'm not bitter over this anymore, I'm not angry, maybe a little sad but I geuss that's to be expected, I geuss I just hoped you'd of given us a better ending than what you did, we shared some special times together and I'll never forget those times, I'll always hold them close, I hope you find what your looking for and I hope that brings you happiness, I'm sorry I couldn't of been the one to have given you that.