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[AcaciaStrain]

Sleep tight, and dream about me (:

 

Hope you find happiness.

[Viv]

Who are you?

 

When you promised to love me forever, when we planned on starting our family, when you said we would never split up because whatever happened we would work on it. Who was the person who vowed these things to me?

 

Are you really the person who just walked out, without even telling me anything was wrong? Who took all the furniture and the money, knowing I had nothing at all?

 

Seriously, one day you were my best friend and the next you're sending me emails written by your parents as if I would try and get your money? You mistook me for this thing that you've become.

 

But, you have tried to make out this is all my fault and I know that's not true, you can't take myself away from me too. I will look back when this pain has gone and be so grateful it ended now. I should have been the one to end it with you, at least now in my heart I feel like I have.

[Steven T]

Happy Birthday. I hope you have a nice day x

[blakjak]

I still love you, I still care about you. You told me you couldn't say it anymore because we are not dating... Me moving away has always been the main issue and cause of drama between us. I'm moving back to America in a year.... Not 2.... I am seriously considering us being back together with tht in mind.... Why can't you just visit me in London like you originally promised? Why are you uncertain now? I would show you the most amazing time.... I was evening planning on taking you to Paris for a short trip.... Not only are you throwing away an awesome chance to travel becoz of your wishy washiness.... Ur also stand to lose a very special and unique person from ur life for good x

[california15]

I miss you.

 

I don't know why, since I know we will never be a part of each other's lives again.

 

But I do. And the urge to tell you that is really strong right now. Maybe because I miss snuggling with you before bed, talking and exchanging little kisses. I'll never get that back.

 

Which is why I'm here instead of blowing up your phone. I'll get better and heal and move on.

 

Have a good night

[Nohbody]

I took the sign down to Snuggleville. It's due to be demolished next week, and they tell me a very nice bypass will be built right through it.

 

Thing about Snuggleville... there was only room for two. Too much space when the population went down to one. Thought I could keep the old place up on my own, but...

 

well you know. Things get away from you.

 

Thought about taking some of it with me. Something, you know?

 

But it would just wind up in the garage. Disused and covered in dust and if I ever looked at it would just make me feel that little tinge of sadness and loss that was.

 

I locked all the doors, and I set the deed down in a field somewhere. Maybe someone else will happen across it. No more trips to Snuggleville for me.

[coolheadal]

I don't miss the wife and who she is now. I won't call her. But she calls me. Thinks it cute to call and chat. But I think it's a waste of my time to talk to her. My world is peaceful and I am over 1,400 miles away from her wacko self. I am not going back there where she is. I don't want her to drive down to me here either. She told me on Friday when she has moved out of her house to an townhouse that she left my stuff behind. When I had asked her several times to send it down to me. She want's $500 to be deposited into her account (joint) I told her no! Send me my stuff and I'll send you the difference in real postage or have UPS come pick it up. But she won' t do nothing. So that's how she is.. She calls me up for stuff she can't figure out and such. I am not helping her again. I am not going to talk to her either.. Just let the call go..

Edited August 14, 2011 by coolheadal

[Cutiepants13]

Man! Does that fit my life to a t. I have been falling off the wagon lately and it isn't good...Always go in the past...Why do we always want to talk to them? Even though they have all hurt us in more ways than one. I have been cheated on, lied to, hit. And yet I still can't find a guy who is worth my time. I am independent and want a guy that can be my better half and be honest and just there for me like I have been for them.

 

Please help! any helpful advice!

 

thanks!

 

Britt

[Cutiepants13]

I don't miss the wife and who she is now. I won't call her. But she calls me. Thinks it cute to call and chat. But I think it's a waste of my time to talk to her. My world is peaceful and I am over 1,400 miles away from her wacko self. I am not going back there where she is. I don't want her to drive down to me here either. She told me on Friday when she has moved out of her house to an townhouse that she left my stuff behind. When I had asked her several times to send it down to me. She want's $500 to be deposited into her account (joint) I told her no! Send me my stuff and I'll send you the difference in real postage or have UPS come pick it up. But she won' t do nothing. So that's how she is.. She calls me up for stuff she can't figure out and such. I am not helping her again. I am not going to talk to her either.. Just let the call go..

 

 

Sounds like a lot of stress that is unneeded. Best advice I can give and yes I am young, she will eventually stop talking to you if you do not contact her. Go buy new stuff and make new memories with someone new! You can always buy new stuff, don't let her manipulate you into talking to her...she is holding your belonging over your head and that is her leverage for her to still have that little hope that you still care and want to talk to her. I have been through it, I had an ex who ruined all my belonging with bleach and I had nothing. Made me stronger. He also was holding my puppy over my head...exs do strange things to get our attention.

 

Hope things get better for you!

 

ps. sorry if this is written in the wrong place, I'm new to this, bare with me. (:

[coolheadal]

Man! Does that fit my life to a t. I have been falling off the wagon lately and it isn't good...Always go in the past...Why do we always want to talk to them? Even though they have all hurt us in more ways than one. I have been cheated on, lied to, hit. And yet I still can't find a guy who is worth my time. I am independent and want a guy that can be my better half and be honest and just there for me like I have been for them.

 

Please help! any helpful advice!

 

thanks!

 

Britt

 

Don't let them hit you that's not right. I know the wife tried a few times too. She's crazy. I won't hit back that's not me. I think those that hit are just plain bad! You can do better than that so can I. But you and I see to fall into a world where we think that the one we're with are the best but they're not! Just worthless and don't care about us. Mine has cheated and I have proof she did and tell others online the men what's she doing. I don't even want to think about it or show sadness around her. Too me that's just weakness and she'll make it even worst with jokes and rude comments.

 

Again take some advise don't be with a man who's hit you. They have no respect for you. I know the the hard way now about that. Once the respect is gone in your relationship they can come and go as they please and do whatever they want to you. Just need to stand up and say NO! OR JUST LEAVE THEM! I left her and she's left me. So it's 50/50.. But I am in my own home and at peace now. I should have never left my house sealed up for such a long time. Now it's just me and my dog and I had to leave the other dog with her. I hated to do that but I can't take care of two dogs as I was doing in the other house she had owned. Now she needs to take care of the other dog like she suppose too.

 

But listen go find someone you can be happy with and a man that loves you and thinks only about you! There shouldn't be anyone else to focus on it should be you! That's they type of guy I am, but now I need to find someone that cares about me as I will care about them too. Right now I can't think about that now.. I wish I could but just talking here and helping out make me feel better inside.

 

Take care..

Edited August 14, 2011 by coolheadal

[JohnEl]

i just want to know what the hell happened. im still so confused. me and my ex girlfriend were dating for three years. the last six months were long distance, three hours away. two weeks before she moves to the same city as me, and to move in with me, she dumps me via email and starts dating a guy she has only known for one month who still lives out of town!! what the hell happened? she said i didnt make her feel appreciated and that she has been miserable for a few months now. she never told me this! how was i suppose to know something was wrong when she acted like everything was fine? i would have fixed it if she told me she was unhappy? now shes in the same city as me, only two miles from my house, and she would rather be with someone who is 3 hours away and has only known him for 2 months now. ive been NC for two days now and im gonna keep it going. I didnt do anything to deserve this. i dont know what to do anymore... we were talking about getting married...what a mess.

[coolheadal]

i just want to know what the hell happened. im still so confused. me and my ex girlfriend were dating for three years. the last six months were long distance, three hours away. two weeks before she moves to the same city as me, and to move in with me, she dumps me via email and starts dating a guy she has only known for one month who still lives out of town!! what the hell happened? she said i didnt make her feel appreciated and that she has been miserable for a few months now. she never told me this! how was i suppose to know something was wrong when she acted like everything was fine? i would have fixed it if she told me she was unhappy? now shes in the same city as me, only two miles from my house, and she would rather be with someone who is 3 hours away and has only known him for 2 months now. ive been NC for two days now and im gonna keep it going. I didnt do anything to deserve this. i dont know what to do anymore... we were talking about getting married...what a mess.

 

 

Sounds like she's like my wife and told me the same thing at Chi's of all places. But you can't change her mine and they're found someone else they want to be with and don't want us anymore. Not much you can do about that. Sure it hurts but don't let her see it! Be strong about it. NC is a must stand by it! You can't even take her back if she comes back to you. Because now you know how she really thinks in her head. Who's more important? It's not you! It's her! That's the issue! You have and I have too.. Time to find someone else who only thinks about you and only you! There should be no other guy in her life it should be you! No.1 and not No. 2.

[Rorschach64]

Dear N,

 

GIVE ME BACK MY LAPTOP ALREADY! You say you are too busy to send it back but I constantly catch you on the internet using it, to sit on IM that we use to use to talk to each other! Are you trying to provoke me in to being an ******* towards you just to justify your feelings about breaking up with me for no reason? Are you holding on to it just because that is the only tie we have left to each other, a bloody laptop? Or is it simply because you are ungreatful thief? I just want to be done with you and your stupidity! You ended it and you have to live with your lies, deciet, and guilt! This is all YOUR fault, not mine.

 

Sincerely R

[Diatribes]

It's been almost a month since you left me, and I still think/dream/miss you every day. You hardly contacted me since you left, and were devoid of any compassion when you did yet you maintained contact with your ex while you lived with me those 3 weeks. I don't understand why you chose him over me. I know I'm better looking, better personality, better sex, better love... Why did you give him the chance to make that horrid relationship better, when you hardly gave me a chance to have a good relationship with you? Why did you progress our relationship to the level of being a committed couple, yet were never truly committed to me? All I ever wanted was to make you happy. You made me happy. I tried to give you my every thing, yet it wasn't enough to keep you wanting me. I told you I loved you. Why did you tell me the same, when you knew you didn't? Why did you ruin me emotionally, when you know I'm a compassionate person and only want the best? What did I do to deserve this from you? I have so many unanswered questions. I wish you'd answer these for me to give me some clarity so I could heal. I'm not going to ask you though, and will remain NC because I think that's what I need to do.

 

I still love you and it tears me up inside

[antinko]

Dear ex, I feel no compulsion to communicate with you at all today. I had an awesome day, but I don't even care about the fact that you'll likely never find out about it. I made myself feel good without you.

[danceallday]

I know no one has posted a reply in a long time, but I am new to loveshack and I thought I would put my two cents in.

 

Here are my questions for senior douchebag:

 

1 Was it worth it?

 

2. What part about being with me sucked? The part where I supported you emotionally and financially? The part where I took care of you when you were sick? The part where I fed you, cleaned for you, and was open to new things sexually? The part where I helped out with your Mother? The part where I got you the last three jobs you have had? The part where I tolerated your "I need space" crap? The part where I made sure your Birthday/holidays were very special? The part where me and my family accepted you unconditionally into our lives and homes?

[1Dunno]

It's been 9 days NC and I really want to contact you. Want to know how you are doing. But I know it will only end in more heartbreak for me. It's like the old saying "so close, yet so far". I miss you so much.

 

Talk about a rollercoaster of emotions. Hopefully i'm heading in the right direction though. "Two steps forward, onestep back..."

[poorguy]

I dont really have any urge to contact my ex because its now been over a year. If I asked her anything though it would be two questions-

 

1. Did you learn anything out there?

2. Was it worth it?

[coolheadal]

Why do you keep calling me to help you buy things you should already know how to buy! Get a life already!

[antinko]

/flail Yes, that's right, I'm flailing in your general direction because you reached out for my heart and you threw it all away...

 

Rawr!

 

/flail

 

Yes!

 

Ok, better now.

[dicky_fish]

The cugglebear really wants his cuggleduck back

 

I love you my darling and it feels like it's going to kill me xxxxxxxxx

[moontiger]

Tonight is one month. I keep having flashbacks to our last conversation--to exactly where you were standing, to how you told me you didn't find me physically attractive, and that physical attraction was important to you, and you couldn't stand it? Why do I remember exactly how your face looked?

 

Why is that evening burned in my memory and playing over and over on video reel? I can't seem to remember the things I need to remember.

 

Why does it still feel like you left yesterday?

[jeff2321]

So I found out you got engaged 10 months ago. You left in August of 2010 and by December of 2010 you had been obviously dating someone else and officially proposed to. I regret not proposing to you... you gave me 3 great years ( though for you they were probably grueling ). I am sorry i neglected you, I am sorry that I spent 2.5 years complaining about your weight, and I am sorry that I worked too much and didn't spend more time with you and your friends when you asked me too. I know why you left and I don't blame you at this point. I accept my part for why the relationship failed and boy has it been one hell of a learning lesson.

 

With that said, i must forgive myself and realize that life does go on. It has been a year and I have spent virtually everyday punishing myself for the things I didn't do right or for all the time I made you cry. I have spent days just depressed and laying on the couch sad about the fact that I constantly harped on you about your weight and the fact that you didn't lose enough for me to 'accept you'. After a year of basically living on my own with virtually no family around and a few friends, I know now what I have lost and what your new husband will be gaining. I know that I will never ever be able to forget you but I have to move on and I have to put this behind me. I haven't laughed in months because I've been sad and depressed over losing you, but the time has come to just let it go. You have obviously moved on with your life and I must as well.

 

Goodbye Laura... you will always have a special place in my heart.

[radiodarcy]

was just overcome by a very strong urge to e-stalk you. i even logged into the yahoo messenger account to see if you were online. you weren't. and just like that - - the wheels started turning: are you off today? did you delete me? and if you are off today and did delete me is it because you have a new girlfriend and you're spending that time with her?

 

and if you didn't delete me and aren't logged in because of a girl is it because you've just given up on me? just like that and let me drift away?

 

ohhhh the games the mind can play.

 

i even found myself *gulp* logging into facebook. but - - i didn't go through with looking you up. instead i scanned a few profiles of other people and logged off. i then stepped away from the computer and ate a candy bar. and now i feel - - fine. maybe it was a passing twinge. maybe my blood sugar was low. at any rate, i'm glad that's over.

 

maybe i need to go through those drills every now and then to remind myself of why it's so important i stick to NC. i only hope i can reign myself in before i go overboard.

[SimonSerenade]

Well it's officially been one year since you left me, goodness knows where the time goes, I geuss it's hard not to feel down about it, I really did love you, it felt like our time together would never end, that you were the one who no matter what would never let me down and turn to another, it still hurts how that didn't turn out to be a reality for us.

 

We had so many great times together that I'll always hold close to my heart, perfect times when time and space seemed like it had stopped just to admire how close we were, your the mother of my child so I'll always want the best for you and I'll always hold a place for you in my heart, you were special once upon a time, we were a family once upon a time, we were happy once upon a time, I geuss not all stories have a happy ending unfortunately.

 

A whole year and not one sign of weakness from you, not one bit, makes me wonder what on earth I meant to you and for you to shrug me off and pretend I never existed doing god knows what with god knows who while I looked after our son on the weekends, it killed me back then and killed every single happy image of us that I once held so close.

 

I remember all those precious times in the beginning where we'd talk forever on msn and on the phone, where we'd hold eachother close until we fell asleep, we'd even play games and watch movies together aswell as some pretty good anime's, we were so excited about our son being born, felt like time flied back right before our eyes, we were so happy when he was born, a new life had opened up for us, looking at you and him I saw my family and I never wanted to be away from that, life was good back then, I wish I could go back and relive those times every now and then.

 

I've been suffering from an inner ear infection for the last few months, sure made me look back and think how much easier it would of been if I still had you to comfort me and be there to see me through it, right now I just feel alone, in a rutt I just can't seem to get out of.

 

I hope your going to be happy in the future, I really do, thankyou for the good times, they meant so much to me and I'll carry them around for aslong as I shall live, I'm sorry things didn't work out, take care