Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[Viv]

Please don't contact me anymore, you're an a******e and I don't care about my things! I don't want to ever hear from you again! You are a dishonest, lame, selfish waste of space. You've done this before and you'll do it again and again and again, every time you think that the person you are with isn't giving you what you are 'entitled to'. The best thing you can do is move in with your mother because at least then you will have the worship that you think you deserve, 24/7.

 

The fact that you had to slag your wife off to people, after telling them days before how happy you are, and that they believe you says it all. You think that because some of your friends validate everything you've done means that it's OK, it actually just means that they are a******es like you.

 

I hope you sort yourself out before you do this again.

[coolheadal]

Need to move on as you had wanted me out of your life. But you also need to know it comes at a price. I will not support you anymore. Car Insurance, Supermarket discount perks including gas discounts, cell phone, warehouse club members with discount on fuel will also be erased from your existence when it comes to my good name. You're rude, selfish, uncaring, evil, dirty, nasty, foul mouth, worthless, liar, can't be trusted, just a mean woman. I hope you get yours in the worst possible ways known to mankind! I am better without you after 13 years! I have my freedom now..

Edited August 22, 2011 by coolheadal

[Viv]

I love you, nite, sleep well xxx

[FinOuch]

I hope your trip was horrible. I hope it haunted you the whole time that I was supposed to be there with you. I hope the entire weekend was empty for you, and that you sat and wrestled with guilt and regret the entire trip. You should be in at least as much torment as I am.

 

It's not fair that I'm the one who had to suffer through the weekend when it should've been you. I wish I could force myself to not think about you, or all the stupid plans we had for that trip. I haven't been this tempted to go searching for updates on the internet for so long, and I refuse to give in to that urge. Absolutely REFUSE! I've done so well at blocking you out and I will NOT ruin all that.

[Stncldgent]

So sitting here, "our song" came on the radio. I really thought that I worked through all my feelings of needing you and was in the process of moving on. This trigger has set me back in my process because now I find myself wanting you yet again.

 

Ugh make it stop.......

[waliz]

I thought you were my "forever guy", I thought we were going to get married. How can you just tell me you want me to move out, and not even give me a chance to change. Only one other time in my life has been this awful. I want my fiveyears back. I want to be 43 and cute, not 48 and old. YOu lied to me about getting married and you lied about not remembering that.I'm sick at the thought of you and her sneaking around be hind my back. I'm sick to know that when I was out of the country you were running around with her. NO wonder you didn't have any interest in sex. I hate your guts. You have left me feeling fat, ugly and unlovable, and betrayed. I want to tell you all these things, and maybe I will. But for now I'm healing.

 

I'm still living with this guy for 10 more days, which makes no-contact difficult. But I can do this:

 

Sleep in another room

Avoid any talking.

He wants to be friendly so he doesn't have to feel guilty. -so don't even talk.

Be busy in the evenings (when not packing).

[ConfusedT]

Dear X,

 

 

I hate that I don’t hate you. I just want to be able to forgive and move on. I thought this was going to be easy, but it wasn’t and it isn’t at all. Everything I do reminds me of you, but unfortunately it’s only the good.

 

You cheated on me with her since the beginning. I don’t understand why you just couldn’t tell me? Why couldn’t you be honest with me and let me know you were seeing her behind my back? No wonder she was acting crazy, you were making her crazy. She was your side chic! She never left you alone, because you never made her. What about all the times she’d show up “randomly”, it was because you told her where you were. You lied to me so much and I gave you everything I ever had. I changed myself for you, I became submissive, passive and weak. I let you control everything, my house, my rules, I bent and compromised every single step of the way. You got arrested while you were with here and in my naïve state, I believed your story. I stood by you while you were in jail, against my better judgment and waited for you. When you got out, everything was different. You weren’t the same. We grew up in the same way, same lifestyle, but our decisions along the way changed our outcome. Our lifestyles are so different, our lives, our ambitions, everything =(. You started treating me like crap and disrespecting me, but I allowed it. you were emotionally abusive, but I stayed anyways instead of leaving because I felt dependent on you, like I needed you for my happiness. You never wanted to get married- you never wanted anything long-term?? Then finally, you told me the truth, but it was TOO LATE, I was too involved. I couldn’t separate the reality from the fairytale that we had been living.

 

You told me you did cheat on me, that you did get at other girls, that you did lie about that, that she probably was pregnant, that I brought you our of your character by “acting like a family”and doing things with my son and I. You told me you never wanted kids and that you could never love my son, after a year you couldn’t love my kid? The same kid you hung out with every single day, that played with you, that loved you like his own dad? That asked to see you and asked to hang out with you all the time? BUT YOU CANT LOVE HIM RIGHT? & you cant love me either?

 

How could you DO THIS TO ME? How could our entire relationship be based on a lie? I believed you, I trusted you, I put faith in you. I should have known better, I do know better. I let you get the best of me, I fell so in love with someone WHO I KNEW IN MY HEART couldn’t give me what I needed, but I loved you blindly anyways. You were everything to me and I lost myself in you. Realizing that everything was fake at the end destroyed ME, it literally took every emotional ounce of strength I had to even get through this, to keep going through this. You BROKE ME, I am BROKEN because of you.

 

& then after everything, after all the drama she created, after her sending you to jail, breaking your things, threatening me and everything! You up and LEAVE ME FOR HER! What did I do to deserve this? You have done SO MUCH WRONG TO ME that I don’t know if I can ever forgive you? I stuck by you and held on for a year hoping that you would change, in reality, you never wanted to change. You always wanted to live in that lifestyle- fast paced, easy money. You only see today, you don’t see tomorrow and at this point in my life, that is what is most important.

 

I have my son, who is everything to me and I subjected him to things that I promised I would never subject him to because that is the environment that I grew up in and I hated every second of it. But I did! I stopped focusing on what was right and what I deserved and started focusing on what I wanted. I let myself down and most importantly, I let my son down. I involved myself with things that are so beneath me and I just ALLOWED IT, like I didn’t care. What in the HELL was I thinking? Knowing how awful it was to be raised around that, I thought I would know better. I broke so many promises to myself and you broke so many promises to me too.

 

When you met me, I was independent and strong and you left me broken and weak! I promise you I’ll get back to that place. I promise you’ll see me and miss what we had, because I was the best thing that ever happened to you & the only person that doesn’t know that… is YOU! All of your friends & family, can’t believe what you did, but they knew you would. You don’t want a family and I am a package deal, I wish you would have told me that a year ago. I wish you would have been honest with me and told me you cheated and lied and betrayed me so I could have left and walked away with some pride and dignity, but I guess everything happens for a reason!!

I don’t wish anything bad upon you, because I truly love you, I fell in love with you, but I am finally falling out… It’s taken me a while, you put me through hell during our breakup. You lied more, betrayed me more and you left me when I needed you the most- when everything in my life went bad, it did and you just walked away. I lost my self-worth, self-esteem, pride, dignity and respect for myself because I allowed you to treat me bad and I still tried everything to fix things with you, begged, pleaded, after everything!!!

 

& I guess in the end, it comes down to relying on yourself for strength. My son is my source of strength. He is my source of unconditional love, I don’t need you anymore. I for some insane reason still love you, but I promise in my weakness, I will find strength and I will learn to love myself again, I will learn to be strong again and I will find myself again & this time, I won’t let anyone treat me that way again.

 

I’ve learned my lesson, it’s BEEN SO DAMN HARD to let you go even after everything you’ve done to me & said to me, but I’m finally at that point!

 

I have to let YOU go and move on and step off into the unknown without you: knowing that there with either be something solid to stand on or there will be wings and I can fly...

 

I love you, but I love my son and myself more! =(

Edited August 23, 2011 by ConfusedT

[cdh11]

OKAY, SO I broke up with you, and i admitted that i made a mistake. You wouldn't take me back. So i went out with this other guy to try to move on, and I ****ed him because I was so mad at you for not taking me back-wrong decision, I know-and we were going to get back together but when you found out about the other dude. What pisses me off is I find out you did almost the EXACT ****ING THING. and you get pissed at me? I hate that I can't say anything about it to you because it would make me sound like a creep and because I'm not even supposed to know. Your brother's girlfriend told me. because she's my best friend. Awkward huh? I can't have you completley out of my life because when she brings up him, i automatically think of you. but anyways, why do you have to comment on my ****? Why do you have to try to video chat with me? I told you that it's not good because it screws me up. and now everytime another guy asks me out, i want to throw up. i dont ****ing want anyone else. which i guess is a good thing. I dont want more than 2 notches on my belt. Just please stay out of my life, kay? I think we both know I don't really want you to, but it's the only way I cant move on and not be grossed out by other guys. ugh. fml.

[reimeivn]

i just need to vent tonight because it is your bday. i know you are having such a good time. and no i dont believe what you said.

 

i know you tried, i know it was hard for you, but i know you didnt put me first as i did. so it helped. for a moment i thought i was mean but then, hey you made me into that kind of person. and she was no way close to the ******* you were.

 

so yeah, i tried going out, i didnt want to go to the same place that i ll see a lot of international because hell i hate a lot of them. they were mean to me just like you.

[JB93]

You are a ****ing dumbass- see through the bull****- i know ur interested in someone else and just wanna **** him- dont try to hide the obvious- I am NOT a ****ing dimwit.

 

BTW- ur muslim, and we secretly dated for 2 years... I know you are ONLY gonna break more hearts and your own due to "not being allowed" to date anyone. In the end, (since u dont like muslim guys) you are gonna have to choose between your love, or your family. I hope that decision is the hardest decision is the hardest you'll ever make and it really ****ing kills you inside. You deserve pain

[Viv]

I'm in so much pain, I feel like I'm totally broken and I know I'm going to feel like this for such a long time. I know this because at the moment I don't even let myself think about how much I miss you and loved you, I stop myself from thinking about the future that I dreamed about, and it still hurts more than I can stand.

 

I wish you knew how bad I feel, even just to stop you from doing this to someone else. I know you've never felt like this, or you wouldn't have been able to treat me the way you have. I'm scared that next time I meet someone they will be the same as you, because I had no idea how cold and selfish you were until you left. I thought you were almost perfect?!

 

You've broken my heart and you're so happy? I want this pain to end.

[radiodarcy]

no i was not about to use the earthquake as an excuse to reach out to you to see if you were ok. i'm sure you're fine. you probably went to an earthquake party, hooked up with half a dozen girls and then went home to your loving and adoring and eternally faithful girlfriend who is perfect in every way that i wasn't and would never dare ask you for more than you're willing to give and would never disrespect you in so much as looking at another guy; although she's perfectly fine with you looking at and f**king other girls because she loves you so and wants you to be happy.

 

god, how i HATE you. go drop in a hole somewhere.

[Emilia]

I still miss having chats with you, even just occasionally. I hope you won't hate me forever and might even call me one of these days. I also hope I was completely wrong about the Army and it's a good move for you, it will kill me if anything happens to you. I honestly don't know whether one day you will be able to put everything that happened into perspective and realise that - despite how it all went - you have always meant so much to me. I will be in touch.

[Stncldgent]

So I just wanted to see how you and the Kiddo's are doing, It's been a while and even though you may not believe me I still care about you and your kids well being, and you know that I would do anything for you. Honestly I think I might be to the point where I am past wanting a second chance romanticaly with you because you have moved on obviously since you kicked me to the curb when you found someone to take my place.

 

What I really want is to have my friend back, all these years we were friends before we went down the road of being in a relationship, should be stronger than this. You were my best friend for 13 years and we could talk about anything at the drop of a dime. The relationship put un-needed stress on both of us. really it shouldn't have been so hard to transition from friends to lovers but for whatever reason it was.

 

I miss you my friend, give your kids a hug for me. Hopefully one day you will make time to have me as your friend again, I know that being friends with you I will have my moments of weakness. But I think I can work through it.

 

Just come back to me my friend, I miss talking to you.

[thesinisterjoke]

I know I'm the the one who caused all this mess. I know I'm the one who is largely responsible for the way I feel right now. I know I'm the one who broke up with you and said NC and then broke it and started dumping all my regrets onto you, and I know that was anything but fair. I know I said I thought we could be friends again soon, that I wanted it to work out because you're so important to me. I know all of that. But what I don't know and don't understand is why you did what you did with her, less than a month after you and I broke up. Was it a rebound? Was it just that she was there and willing and you wanted to prove to yourself you could do it? Or are you really over our two years of friendship and the 1year of happiness in a relationship this quickly? I know she's been your friend for longer than I have, that you two grew up together, but she's never been more than a friend before and to be honest, I've never liked her, which makes it all worse. I don't know what you two are doing now, because you're back at school 1000+ miles away, but just the fact that you spent your entire last week at home hooking up with her, and then spent your entire trip back to school texting me as though nothing had happened is enough to make me freak out. I had no idea you had fooled around (and probably had sex) with someone else. I was feeling nostalgic and lonely - that's why I broke NC that day - because after three weeks of feeling okay about my decision to end things with you, it all finally sunk in and hit me hard. I missed you so much that I almost considered asking you to take me back, even though I know that would have been a mistake no matter what your response was. But then I found out about you and her and now I feel like the biggest idiot. You have every right to do whatever you want with any girl you want - that much is true. And it's not like you rubbed it in my face - I found out from a mutual friend who felt it was best that I know. Maybe I would actually be better off not knowing, but I'd rather know and deal with the pain than be a clueless idiot crying over her decision to break up with her best friend when he's already moving on. What's so hard for me, though, is not knowing if you ARE moving on already, or if it was really just a casual thing you did to pretend you were ready to move on. I can't talk to you about any of this because right after I found out, I once again told you I wanted NC, and that I didn't want to even try to be friends anymore. I couldn't let you know that I knew about her, because I'm not supposed to know, so I had to be polite even though I just wanted to scream at you. I don't have a right to be angry, only to be hurt. And the only way I can get over you and get over what I know is to delete you from my life in every way possible, at least for now. You told me you really wanted us to be friends and that you were sad I was making this decision to give up, but you also stated that you "probably don't need me." Meaning, yes, you'd like to be friends, but if we're not going to be, you'll just get over it. And I'm sure you will. You have plenty of friends, male and female, and just because you and I have been close for so long doesn't mean we have to be close forever. We always thought our friendship, and later, our relationship, was extra special because of how different we were and how unlikely it seemed for us to be so close, but now I don't know if I feel it was ever that special. People always predicted we'd get romantically involved, and I always laughed it off and said no way, so I thought the fact that it did end up happening proved something, that we were somehow meant to be. But I don't believe in "meant to be" anymore. We had good times, great times, and we loved each other, but we also had bad times and all in all, I know there is someone better out there for both of us, probably even multiple someones. I guess I should just be grateful that I got to experience falling in love with my best friend, and that we made it through months of long distance without our feelings for each other wavering. In the end, I couldn't stay with you because I realized we do better apart than we do together. You're better at loving me from a distance and for short periods of time than you are when we're living half an hour apart and are able to see each other whenever we want. And that's not for me. I don't want to be with someone who disrespects me in front of his friends to save face, and who I share so few interests and hobbies with that all we do is have sex and watch TV and movies together. I want something more than that. I'm sorry that it didn't work out, because I desperately wanted it to, and I'm sorry if I confused you or hurt you more than I realized, but I have to accept that this is for the best and that letting you go completely is the only chance for me to ever consider you a true friend again.

[solobeary]

I think it's kind of a dick move that you never replied to my email. You are the one that asked me to email you in the first place, and I put so much effort and tears into writting something that showed that I still cared, but am very hurt by what you did, and can't be friends after you lying and treating me like you did, and said a nice goodbye. You could have responded with a goodbye.

[antinko]

Two months ago, I would have felt compelled to let you know I was going on a date with a girl who was prettier, smarter, more fun and appreciative, but now I wouldn't and won't. I've only met her once and I don't know her properly. Neither is she better.

 

You're special to me in your own way and what we had was unique. I don't feel the need to compare anyone else with you and I like to think that you won't compare anyone with me too. Heh, I know you will, though. Don't worry, I don't care. I would have cared a few weeks ago, maybe even up to two weeks ago if my journal is anything to go by, but I honestly forgive you.

 

I'd like to be friends with you at some point. I admit that I felt the urge to contact you yesterday, but I know it is too soon. I'm not giving it much thought, but perhaps a year or two will be enough time for us to speak as friends. Right now, I know that no contact and not seeing you is partially responsible for my current healing and state of mind. I need to cement these feelings and make them concrete.

[radiodarcy]

of course you can afford to be magnanimous and wish me no ill will and all the best that life has to offer. i gave you no reason to do otherwise. all i tried to do was love you and be there for you. and you sh*t all over me.

 

the good thing about that is that i'm no obligation to wish you a damn thing. aaaand i don't

 

and for crying out loud. quit feeling sorry for yourself and acting like the odds are stacked against you. you know the problem is you so f**king DO something about it. stop racking up casualties and then acting helpless and upset when people expect more from you. be a freaking adult. man up and get you sh*t together. and stop dragging people down with you. it's beyond pathetic.

[Viv]

I feel better this evening! No matter what you 'think' that I did badly in our marriage, the way you treated me makes you total scum. In fact the way you tried to blame everything on me to justify your behaviour also makes you scum. You tried to make someone that you say you love feel as bad as they possibly could in order to make yourself feel better?! I'm sad because the future I thought I had is gone, but at least I have never stooped so low as you did. I loved honestly and with all my heart, and I will be able to do that again, you will not. You don't know how to really love someone, to be honest with them and committed, and that is your loss.

[Dig0923]

A few days into no contact and you have no idea how bad I want to call you or have you call me and tell me that you want to be with me again. The sad part is you left me. You ****ing strung me along for the past month trying to pull the friend card out on me ONLY to keep me close until you were emotionally secure enough to throw me away.

 

It's just bull**** that once you knew your new interest's intentions you were ok to TELL ME you wanted no contact. You finally decided it was a good idea to NOW break my heart and force me out of your life when you got what you wanted with your new man.

 

I want to end up being friends with you down the road but I don't know if I ever can, knowing the pain I have and am going through now. I hope one day YOU go through this... You told me I did this to you, but I never left you and strung you along for a month because I was too selfish to take in to account your feelings. YOU did that to me.

 

When you realize what you had with me, I hope you come running back only for me to show you that I am better off without you. I love you so much still to this day but I will get over you and I know that this feeling will not last forever. I will continue my NC by coming to these boards and getting help from the members here. I hope that you miss what we had.

[Scirok]

Dear B

 

 

 

Hey I'm so happy for you I see you found a great guy he's 2 years younger then you. He's addicted to perks and spends 125$ a day on them and he also sells them to support his habit but don't worry cause you and him have a great future you a college drop out and him a high school drop out working at the deli were u met him and cheated on me you guys should have a nice life ahead of you Especially when he starts getting you addicted to

The **** he takes what a ****ing joke you are you choose this kid over your own mother Ooo you don't remember that ya he called your mom a ****ing cunt and too not tell him he can't **** you classy you got a keeper there hunny and when your mom told you to choose him or her and you choice was him and she kicked you out of the house and signed your car over too you cause she doesn't want to be responsible for the drug deals that go

Down in that car but don't worry it's not like he will be driving cause he has no licence but will surely use your car cause he has no car as well you grandmother should be ashamed that she had a part in producing something so disrespectful and allows her **** buddy to talk to her own mother like that Ooo yea and not standing up for your mother when she wanted to fire this kid but she couldn't cause she's only a manager and instead she quit and lost her job and now is on unemployment and depressed do you have any idea how sad you made your grandmother and mother along with my parents were all crushed by your stupid actions thank god your grandfather passed before all this so he didn't have to see how much of a slut his granddaughter is I should have know and listened to my friends that all ****ed you that I can't turn a whore into a housewife but you said that was just a stage and your done that obviously not I can't wait till you stupid ass gets prego from this douche or he cleans you out for all your money to support his habit and dumps your saggy tits and you come crying back or just jump on the next dick that's available like you alwas have but don't come crying back too me the gross **** your

Mostlikely doing with him right now i will never forgive your stupid ass you ****ed up the one relationship that was with a guy who wasn't using your loose cunt cause he was in love with you and trusted you with his heart you left a firefighter emt that bought u everything you own and wear it's a sad day in hell when you disrespect a persons only ambitions are to save others and help others and while he's out you screw around **** you and **** me

For ever trusting your stupid ass you are a disgrace and a horrible person to ever disrespect your bestfriend and betray him and you know what that saddest part is i would never take you back but I miss what we used to have and if i was honestly that bad of a bf or wasn't good enough for you you should have told me mistakes happen mistakes can be fixed by you going out and cheating on me with this ****bag you are scum maybe if your father didn't leave you at such a young age you wouldn't have such strong daddy issues and be able to stay single for more then 2 hours you ****ing slut I can't belive that **** and time I gave you over the last three years your a ****ing whore and I should have realized you wernt worth my time have fun with your drug dealing perk popping highschool drop out making ham and cheeese with you for the rest of your lives hAhahahaha and to your **** buddy J i didn't finish my whole sandwich from lunch you want those scraps too? Hahahah **** you both

[Yuzuki]

Am I the only one who's wondering how this all went so horribly wrong that we don't even say hello to each other anymore?

 

Where is that guy I had my first kiss with? The one I was ready to give my virginity to? And who is this cold person who's acting like I don't exist? What have I ever done to you to deserve this?

 

I feel like contacting you and gushing out all of these questions. I just don't understand...

[Viv]

I feel down today, I want to email you and ask you if you ever miss me, if you still have any feelings for me, because it's like hearing from you is the only thing that will make me feel better.

 

But I also know that contacting you will only prolong this agony so I wont.

 

When did I become this person who lets someone else destroy my whole world! I only did it because you spent so long making me trust you, if you hadn't made all those promises I wouldn't be here now. I HATE what you've done to me, I HATE how easy it is for you, I hate how I feel now.

 

Buddhism is right, attachments only bring suffering, I wish I'd read about it before I met you.

[radiodarcy]

i am so glad i'm not giving myself over to you to have you kick me around any more.

 

i hope you rot in hell.

[Rorschach64]

Dear N,

 

Uhm...uhhh...I don't anymore? Haha. Adios!

 

Sincerely,

R