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[Viv]

I'm really struggling today, I know you will only make me feel worse, so I'm going to make a pact with myself not to contact you today, and hope that I feel better tomorrow. Roll on the day when you're gone from my thoughts. I will be strong.

[SimonSerenade]

Hey IfIknewThen

 

I've been wondering about you too, aswell as some other people who where on here and suffering last year, amazing how much of a difference a year makes, I never thought I'd come this far but I pushed myself pretty far and had a lot of time to think and do some soul searching, the peace I have now is a real god send as I never thought I'd get over those bitter feelings but I did, I think Labyrinthitis gave me that final push, I was proud of myself for just going into a shop for some bits n bobs when it was at it's worst, I feel it's settled down a lot over the last few months, if I'm in my comfort zone it's not half bad but when I'm outside and there's plenty to look at I get really dizzy, I get major lag in my motion handling too, almost like switching my vision from a plasma tv to a shoddy run of the mill lcd lol best way I can describe it anyway, I'll look into VEDA, thanks for the advice, I feel for anybody who has to go through this sort of thing, it's made me see just how great things are in life and how much I took them for granted and since then nothing else has seemed important.

 

How have you been anyway dude?, I do hope you recover sometime soon, for me I got diagnosed with uncompensated labyrinthitis as it didn't go within the time period but after doing some vrt exercises and physical therapy I've felt much better, even just having a phyciatrist to talk to about the anxiety has helped me quite a lot too, inbox me your msn or your facebook or something and we'll have a good chat and a catch up, hope your well dude ^.^

[marqueemoon4]

I never knew that short of serial killers, sociopaths and just plain psychos that any "normal" person had the capacity to be so blatantly uncaring. You've changed my perspective on everything. How in the world did I get tricked into believing for 8yrs that you were a caring, thoughtful and rational human being??

 

You think you're too good for me? You think your time on this planet is more important than mine? You think you're more important to our son than me? You are dead wrong, and by continuing your horrid treatment of me you're only showing that YOU are the one who is angry, resentful, and unable to forgive. What a horrible way to go through this short life we have.

 

You have burned the bridge and pissed on the ashes. You have hurt me in ways I didn't know were humanly possible. You really think you can carry on like this for the next 14yrs? I feel really, really sorry for you. You're a nasty, vindictive person who only cares if there is something in it for you. Damn you for making me care about you.

Edited September 28, 2011 by marqueemoon4

[littleme]

I can't believe that the man I knew better than anyone, that I loved (still love) for 9 years now talks to me and treats me as though I mean less than nothing to him. You lied to me for weeks while our relationship was ending. You spoke to another woman about our problems and listened to her rather than give me the chance to work with you to heal our relationship.

 

You had way too much contact with each other for people who were 'just friends' & then tried to tell me that she was so nice & if I'd met her under different circumstances I would like her. How is that meant to make me feel? How could I battle against someone who was filling your head with words that you wanted to hear, listening to you talk about how unhappy you were & then thinks that writing you flirtatious, inuendo filled emails was a way to be a good friend? How can you not see that even if our relationship was already past breaking point that that is sticking the knife right into me & causing extra pain?

 

I hate that I'm lying here at night thinking about you, wondering if you're both curled up together. Wondering about the times she's laughed at me behind my back when you've gone back to her & told her about yet another lie you've fed me. Because that's how I feel now, that everything you've said to me over the last three months has been a lie. A lie told to ease your conscience, a lie told so you can pretend you were a good guy because we had an amicable breakup, or a lie told so that you could keep me onside & carry on borrowing money off me.

 

You're not the man I love, but I can't just switch those feelings off, just like I can't switch off the hurt & betrayal.

 

One day you'll remember that I'm a good person, that however much our relationship changed and wasn't working for you it was no excuse to act like this. And you'll learn that you can't just shift all the blame on to me to make your actions justified.

 

I hope you'll miss me, I hope you'll feel regret and one day I hope you'll find out how this kind of pain feels.

 

I've deleted your number, I don't want to know where you are and the sooner you move away the better. I need to heal, and I now have extra wounds to heal too while you're off thinking you're making your life better.

 

PS. My mum said you looked like **** when she saw you the other week. Good.

[radiodarcy]

for once, this is not directed at the ex. but the guy i met over ok cupid last week: constantly badgering me for sex is a surefire way of not getting any. as i told you before i need time to build an emotional connection with someone before i even consider doing that. and one week of chatting and a meet up for coffee isn't going to cut it.

 

it's a shame because i really did think you were a cool guy. i'd never met anyone anyone who does MMA - - let alone a vegan MMA fighter. i'm not into MMA but i thought that was a pretty cool combination. not to mention we're both on the same side politically and into animal welfare (i haven't been able to find too many guys who are share those beliefs)

 

so it is disappointing that the only thing you're only interested in "one thing". yes - - i understand you're a guy and that's what guys think about. but there is more to me than that.

 

i do wish you had taken the time and consideration to discover that. instead you've chosen to make repeated comments about my body and literally told me you would like to use me a sex toy.

 

i do thank you for letting me see this side of you as early as you did. and again, i wish you luck in your future endeavors. you're going to need it.

[Lis007]

For the good times we had and the amazing love we shared before we hit the 20 year mark I am soooo thankful... I am blessed to have had love and felt so strongly and been loved back. Thanks for a wonderful life together.... the amazing family we created and the great way we have parented through this.

 

I have been so hurt and broken over our loss and I know you have to which is why its been so hard for me to accept that we are no longer "Us"... I can't make you love me, I can't offer you anymore than me, I can't change whats happened, I can't turn back the clock...

 

I can accept where we are and finally move on because I have no choice...

 

I am sorry this is where we are and wish you every happiness in the world and I hope you find what you are looking for.

[abuckeyeleaf]

Z,

 

How does it feel now that the tables have turned? I told you I wasn't going to chase you, so now you're making up BS excuses to see me. Why? We don't have fun, remember? Oh, so now that you're sitting at home alone everynight with no company except that big bottle of Johnny Walker, you've got time to look at my facebook page, huh? See all the fun I', having without you? You were exactly right, it's not me - it's you. You called me crazy, I can't wait for the day when you truly meet a crazy bitch.

 

Yeah, I was your first. Good luck finding a girl who is going to humor you by telling you you've got a big c*ck. And will be able to keep from laughing when your head bobs during sex and makes you look like a horse. Remember when I showed up to your place on your birthday in a trench coat and corset? Or your introduction to roadhead? What about when I let you bang me on the desk of the coworker you can't stand? Remember that? Good luck finding it again.

 

I hope when you meet "marriage material," that she's willing to overlook your bitch tits and your hairy back. You'd be lucky to find another girl who wasn't completely repulsed by shaving your back so you could lay by the pool without animal control being called.

 

And everytime I shop and see the ***** that you use on sale, I'll laugh becuase I know you're paying full price. Thanks for freeing up some space in my coupon binder.

 

And did I ever tell you that I almost stopped seeing you after the first time you kissed me? I didn't really appreciate being slobbered on. Most of us learn how to kiss before we're 23 years old. Granted, most of us also get laid before that age too. Why did I keep seeing you? Oh, because you were my rebound from my ex. Yeah, my ex Bobby, had he wanted to get back together, I would have dropped your ass. Let me quote you from last week, "how's it feel to have hurtful ***** thrown in your face?"

 

But that's enough. I've gotta go, my daddy issues that you hate so much and I don't have time for this anymore. Between my friends, my career, the home I own. my pets and the 10k a year more than you that I make, there just aren't enough hours in the day. Next time you're on facebook, which is likely everynight that you sit home alone and lonely, don't bother looking at my page, because I sure as hell won't be looking at yours.

 

<3, L

[dicky_fish]

I don't know what to do without you xxxxx

[IfiKnewThen]

Dear blank___________

 

who cant even write my name, so i will not write yours.

 

please read marqueemoon4's post here on sept 28th. he took the words right out of my mouth. OMG i couldnt have said it any better. read it and reread it. nameless person who cant even write mine or give salutations of any sort, as if i never even existed.

 

wow.

 

i think i am going to read his post again. i cant believe it. he sounds like he was married to your twin sister. how do you like being in the class of the unforgiving?

 

signed a person who knows who she is. you dont have to write my name.

at least the Lord still recognizes it. for all the times i have had to turn to him. thats the name i call out to now as much as i can to get thru this.

[IfiKnewThen]

and deleting another name on the internet. i dont even bother you? really, i have no words left to describe it all.

 

how many knives can you twist in someone so recklessly...when they NO longer deserve to be treated this way.

[veevee]

I miss you so much, I love you so much.

I would do anything to have you back.

Imagining you with other women kills me, althought it's my mistake caused all these mess, although I have nothing to do with you anymore, I have no right whatsoever in you world anymore.

But I cannot help thinking of you. I'm helpless and desperate

I don't know how I can get out of this obssessive state but I really want to and need to.

I guess you are done with me, I cannot change that.

I love you so much and goodbye for good.

God I feel so strengthless. I really want to kill myself.

[sao2]

You don't get it. For so long I really thought we had the potential for something amazing. I spent 4 years chasing it with you. You spent those same four years resisting while assuring me you felt it too. You explained it away saying you just needed more time before the next step.

 

At the end I said it was time to move forward or move on. The least you could have done was accept responsibility for not wanting to move things forward. Instead you continue to blame me. As if what I wanted from a relationship, companionship, commitment, communication, and yes, sex, were so radical and unrealistic that you couldn't possibly be expected to accommodate.

 

Despite it all I still think the best of you. I think you have some issues to work through, but I still think you are an amazing woman.

 

Ironically, my narrative that you just didn't feel the same way is true. I would give anything to have you walk through my door tomorrow saying you wanted to try. You feel I am a self centered ******* who's every word was insincere because in the end I told you to **** or get off the pot. I was in love with you because of who I thought you were as a person. Apparently, you were in love with me in spite of who you thought I was as a person. That's not love. If you didn't see me as an amazing person, you didn't feel the same about me as I felt about you.

 

When I said you would one day regret this I didn't mean you would regret letting me go. I get that you are not and were not in love with me, I meant you would regret the unconscionable way you treated me. All because you are stuck in this ridiculous mindset. I know you are a great and logical person, that is the person I fell for, and when that person looks at our situation objectively, she will regret the way the way things went down. If that regret doesn't come eventually, than you were never really the amazing woman that I thought you were and what I thought were some issues you had to work through are obviously a much larger part of your personality than all the other amazing qualities I saw in you.

[Niaka44]

I noted the 1 month mark of NC and the 2 month mark of our breakup without thinking much about them, but I've lost track of how many weeks it's been for both. I can't be bothered to count anymore. I still miss you sometimes, but I'm at peace with the way things are. Yes, I do regret that our friendship couldn't work out, but there's always a chance we'll talk again someday, and even if we don't, I know we'll be okay. We are okay.

[JRock8732]

Why the **** can't you let that **** go? I cheated on you and told you mean and nasty **** about your family and the fact that you're broke, and you think I should EARN your respect? I WOULD try to but you keep throwing that **** in my face and I don't appreciate how you try me. You don't let me try when you give me that ****. I really did care for you, but those feelings are gone. It's so pathetic that you had to dump me through text. You keep putting yourself in your own trap, and now I don't want **** to do with you. I hope your boyfriend is cheating on you with another girl and you become a single soon to be mother. I wanna see the day that your mom laughs in your face for being broke and can't feed your own child. I remember back then you said you wanna wait until you get married and look who's the ****ing CONTRADICTION NOW. Having a kid at the age of 19, what the ****. It's probably the only thing left for you to do...well have fun w/ all that crap, don't pull me in the mix asking for money you goldigging trick...

Edited October 4, 2011 by JRock8732

[Almond_Joy]

I got your email today and am sorry to hear that your trip to Tasmania to visit the guy you met Playing World of Warcraft did not turn out as well as you'd hoped. Not your fault I suppose, I mean who could have known the mansion he was living actually belonged to his Grandmother, not him, and she was in the process of kicking him out. I'd love to give you the money to fly back, but I know how much you value your independence and freedom.

 

Speaking of money, my Columns I've been struggling to get published for the last five years have been picked up for syndication in 100 newspaper and five magazines, and a literary agent really likes the first chapter of my book. She thinks it has "Movie" written all over it, with George Clooney as the lead role.

 

She also says I appear to be in amazing shape, and asked me if I was free for lunch to discuss my workout routine and maybe work on another book about "Fitness tips for Survival after Divorce". I had to tell her that it I would have to share credit with a wonderful fitness instructor, a virtual amazon who wondered how a great guy like me was single. We've been living together for the last six months, on top of being lovely to look at she takes great delight in doing for me all I used to do for you, you know like make you coffee and breakfast in bed on the weekend so you could sleep in, give you back and foot rubs etc.

 

I'd like to write more, but I have a plane to catch. Since I won the 649 a week after our papers were final I decided to do all the traveling we had talked about doing when the kids were older (they send their love). I must admit I will be a little nostalgic barging down the Seine on that Gourmet barge tour without you that we had always dreamed about, but it's better that you followed your dream of a new love and independence.

 

I wish things could have turned out better for us. When I said those vows before God and family , "For Better and Worse and Richer and Poorer" I truly meant them. I wanted nothing more than to spend my life with you until "death do us part". As much as it hurt me when you left, your happiness was all I cared about and if I was not part of that I would have to let you follow your heart. I'd like to keep in touch, but we will be out of the country for at least six months, I'll post some updates on Facebook.

 

Signed

 

Xhusband

 

love it!

[B_55]

T,

 

Every day I think about what we had, and how I ruined it. It's the hardest thing in the world not to beg you to take me back. Even know, knowing that you had almost just as much to do with us falling apart, I want to take the full blame. I would take it all just for another chance with you! I know I was a horrible BF, I know that I was impatient with you... But you have to admit that with what I was giving up for you, I didn't have a lot of patience left. I spent all my money paying for our apartment, you'd rather play wow than get a full time job to help out, and you never gave me you.

 

We fell apart because I was always stressed about money, and you never did anything to help relieve that stress. You told everyone that I only ever wanted sex from you. But if that were true then why did we never have it? It kills me to know that you were unfaithful to me, that you'd rather be with someone thousands of miles away. It hurts that you didn't give me a second chance. But most of all it hurts that you never tried to make things better with me.

 

Even with all those petty things, I would take you back in a heartbeat. I found the woman of my dreams, but she didn't find the man of hers. I see what I did wrong, I've changed so much in the last two months. I volunteer, I am eating right, I am working out, and I am learning a new language. I would write your name on the moon if you would only give me the chance. Give me the chance and I know I can make you happy.

 

55

[samphs]

sadly enough he is online and this is what I would say:

 

Hey

just wanted to let you know cat is doing great in his new home and is very happy. I hope your lessons for drums went well. I miss you a lot and I wish you would talk to me once in while to know how you are doing. I wish I could go back to the way things were and to the point were it all went wrong and revert all of it. More than anything I just miss your company, I feel so lonely waking up all by myself, I miss your smell. Please initiate contact with me, pleaaaaase just do it..... I miss you, you have to miss me too, I know you do

[B_55]

I miss you so much, I love you so much.

I would do anything to have you back.

Imagining you with other women kills me, althought it's my mistake caused all these mess, although I have nothing to do with you anymore, I have no right whatsoever in you world anymore.

But I cannot help thinking of you. I'm helpless and desperate

I don't know how I can get out of this obssessive state but I really want to and need to.

I guess you are done with me, I cannot change that.

I love you so much and goodbye for good.

God I feel so strengthless. I really want to kill myself.

 

I feel the same way with my ex, but you have to realize it's not just you that caused the problems. There are reasons for everything, try to figure them out. I fell into a depression, which lead to me not treating her like what she deserved. I can look back now and see that I fell into that depression because she was super insecure about herself.

 

See what I'm trying to say? No break up is completely one sided.

 

All you can do now is find a reason to live for yourself, to fill that void that they took with them. Volunteer, work out, write your thoughts down, but don't ever give up on yourself. Even if it doesn't feel like it, you can always be a better person.

 

-B

[B_55]

I got your email today and am sorry to hear that your trip to Tasmania to visit the guy you met Playing World of Warcraft did not turn out as well as you'd hoped.

 

Ha Ha, I'm starting to think that game ruins people. I'm glad to be done with it.

[SimonSerenade]

Once again I'm up at stupid oclock thinking of good ol times, not just with you but best friends, people I didn't even know, ex girlfriends and even just with my own company, life has so many good times yet to be experienced and I honestly can't wait for my next roll of times I'll never forget.

 

I seriously hold no grudge against you anymore, it feels great to have finally let all that go and to have moved on and found peace with all of this, a part of me will always miss you and will always cherish the memories of us deep down in my heart, you gave me times I'll never forget and a beautiful little boy, as far as I'm concerned, there's no regrets for our moment in time together, once upon a time you was a wonderful kind and thoughtful person who held my heart dearly, time changed and so did we unfortunately.

 

I'll never forget our first christmas together and flipping a coin for who gets to play the new Prince of persia game first, even though it was technically a present from you to me >.> aha and who can forget those great times we had staying up late at night talking, it dosen't seem like so long a go yet at the same time it seems like a life time a go, I truly hope you find somebody who can make you as happy as you made me in those moments, I'm confident that you'll turn on the style and do it .

 

I really just wanted to say that I appreciate everything you did despite how things turned out in the end, time on this planet is precious and to have had so much of your time means more than you know to me, I hope you find the happiness and love you deserve one day.

[fuzzbella]

I can finally say im over you .

[dicky_fish]

Happy Anniversary sweetheart.

 

If we'd got this far tonight I would have got down on one knee and asked you to marry me.

 

Being without you is hell on earth and I wish you could make that pain go away.

 

I love you forever xxxxx

[tictacdudemanbro]

D,

Sorry about everything I did to you. It was really unfair, I know. I was really stupid at the time, and only wanted one thing, and that is what you gave to me. I never got bored of you, just wanted to move on I guess, and I did. I continued to use others..and I feel really bad about it. I know that you moved on finally, but I really want to apologize for hurting you. That day I broke up with you and you called me crying for 2 hours trying to get me back, but what can I say? I am an emotionless ass like my Dad which is by any means not an excuse. If you are somehow reading this, I still think about you, and I see you driving around town at least once a week. I may be married now, and finally settled down with the one that I love, but I still want to tell you that Im sorry.

[karmaqueen]

WTF you worthless degenerate. How can you lie to me for 15 months and expect me to be there for you now?? You have no morals and no conscience and why should I forgive you when you do nothing for me, even now? Go back to your pregnant woman and put all the energy you have into getting another job and providing for them. Stop sitting on your @@@@ feeling sorry for yourself and DO SOMETHING!!!! I am finally free of you and thank goodness I didn't have the misfortune to fall pregnant like she did. If you are human, you should be bending over backwards trying to help her and your onborn child, NOT calling me and saying sorry and bla bla blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[flyguy23]

Each day that passes and we don't talk it just makes me so angry with you. To think that a girl I dated for 5 long years no longer wants anything to do with me. How can someone say they love you and that you are the most important person to them but then one day you no longer talk to me? Its so weird to me bc I would have never done this to you, bc I actually meant it when I said that I loved you. You didn't.