flyguy23 Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 It makes me sad to think we that we will never speak or see each other again. Makes me sad to think of you moving on to another guy. You seem great without me, its been a long time since we broke up and you made me think you wanted to back two weeks ago. I guess you were toying with me, something I never thought you would do. I don't know you anymore and I am not sure that I want to know this new person. I haven't been able to sleep a entire night for weeks now and thats the hardest part. I want my brain to stop thinking about you so that I can move on like you have. Link to post Share on other sites
dicky_fish Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 Today was supposed to be the day. I was meant to be a bag of nerves, but happy with you and your family. Tonight was supposed to be the night I was going to be happy... I still love you princess xxx Link to post Share on other sites
YuGr. Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 This is Christmas eve. Everywhere I look I see vivid memories of us. Hope Simon really is treating you like a princess, you deserve nothing less. I'm sorry I made you feel like you weren't good enough, but I think you know that already. I'll forever be thankful for the time we've spent together. I'll walk away and leave you the right to be with someone else and let the chips fell as they may. Hopefully one day our paths cross again, a day where I will apply everything you've taught me about relationships, to everything I've learnt myself afterwards to make us what we had the ability to be. Know that he will never love you like I did. Goodbye. Link to post Share on other sites
Eliana Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 Thanks for reminding me why I don't care. or Anytime. But I thought being married wouldn't be such a forgettable detail. Or maybe it is considering you married for materialistic reasons, and that didn't go very well for you. Don't you just love Karma? (insert evil laughter). Merry Christmas. or **** off. Link to post Share on other sites
karmaqueen Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 You hurt me too many times yet it doesn't make me feel better knowing you got what you deserve. Sort yourself out- you had it coming a long time. What you did was wrong and until you realise that and change your ways, life will not get easier for you. Link to post Share on other sites
punkinless Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 hey. you don't know this yet but your boyfriend of less than 3 months who you left me for and is treating you like dirt is getting you a promise ring for christmas. now he is either extremly immature, or he already knows with 100% confidence hes going to ask you to marry him. if you accept it you are just as immature as he is. and if you are just as immature as he is then i must ask you how you hid it so well from me for well over a year? wow. you 2 have fun in la-la land. when you grow the f*ck up and want to live in the real world you get ahold of me. and maybe, JUST MAYBE, if you pour your heart out and tell me over and over again how stupid and immature you were/are i just MIGHT give you the time of day. but you will NEVER have the trust back. thats gone. P.S. i think it's funny how you won't talk to me cause you know you f*cked up. and i think its even funnier yet when your parents still love me over your new boy. see ya in a few months to a year. you better hope i don't find somethin better by then cuz you'll be shyt outta luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Rimer Posted December 24, 2011 Share Posted December 24, 2011 8 years and you don't even bother to txt me merry xmas yet you wanna stay friends? Are you freaking serious! Link to post Share on other sites
EyeAlone Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Haven't thought about you in a while. Well, Merry Christmas ****tard. :sick::sick: Link to post Share on other sites
daisydukes Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Silly me wants to wish him a merry x-mas. Why would I want to wish anyone that lied to me a merry x-mas. Link to post Share on other sites
perfectlyflawed459 Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 I will not be texting or calling you to wish you a Merry Christmas because I know I must stand my ground with NC and stay strong. Wherever you are, whoever you are with, I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and that you are doing well. I miss you, sillyface. Link to post Share on other sites
sunflowering Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Honestly when we got back together, I imagined that we would last until at least past Christmas. Are you so afraid of settling for someone? You really think there's a magic girl out there for you? That's just for you? That would accept everything you do, and have all the same hobbies, and everything would just fall into place? I really tried, and worked to keep our relationship together. But you always felt pressured, suffocated, I know you did. That's why you asked for space. That's why you always told me you didn't know about the future. You didn't want to settle for me. When you felt like there might be something better. Although I haven't broken NC with you yet, since it hasn't been that long, why did you have to go and like my status? I would've much rather not seen your name on my wall at all... But instead of being mad at you, I understand how you feel. How college exposed you to so many new and interesting things that you've never experienced before. At least you're honest with me, and you can't even fake your affection. At least I could see something was wrong... Maybe somewhere down the road, we'll meet again. and maybe then you might've grown a little, and i might consider giving us a 3rd shot. But mostly likely by the time you realized what you actually want, I won't be there anymore. I hope you have a good Christmas, and I hope you're happy with your life. I sound so bitter, but I wish both of us happiness. Link to post Share on other sites
Lis007 Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 I just had the best day today... it was like we were a family again... Its funny how it was just all of us being together that counted... All day i had this overwhelming desire to hug and kiss you to throw my arms around you... but i was happy enough just to sit and watch you read the book I bought you and know you loved it. When we had to leave in the afternoon it just broke my heart leaving you at home... I had a cry because i was overcome with grief for you. But the kids said its Dads choice and he could have come you can't change that... I tried my hardest to change your mind - I don't think I have ever met someone as stubborn as you! You opened up your day for all of us to be together but then didn't want to celebrate with my family because it was too weird. I understand but i wish you had come... if would have been fine. Both the kids said it was just the best Christmas ever because we were all together... I love you you so much please try again... Link to post Share on other sites
tangledweb Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 We were on the brink. The brink of being a couple again. The edge of reconnecting in a ways that you can't while the children are young and needy. So many years we slaved and sacrificed for the kids. Now that they're of age and off to college, you bail. I'm heartbroken, and now I'm used to the hole you left in my life. I'll survive. But you left the kids too. You don't see it that way. I am blessed that they stay with me when not in school. I hope you feel the tug of your choice. While I am sad you chose to leave me, I'm furious because your relationship with the kids will never ever be the same. Even adult kids need a mother. I will find another woman to love someday, but she will never be their natural mother. It pains me to see them hurt. They hide it well, they're young adults. Even when you were in town, & you had the chance, the visits and calls were few and far between. They didn't do anything to deserve this. Now you're video chatting with them to wish a merry Christmas. What do you even know about them after a year. Wow 20 minutes. So go, go enjoy and become buddy buddy with the OM's kids. Lavish gifts on them and pretend they're your own. Tell them how cute, handsome, proud you are. But remember, you're only pretending. I thank God for the realization, 'I can't fix you'. I can't save you from yourself or your stupid decisions. I won't stand in the way of a relationship with our kids. But you have to want it. I feel immensely sorry for you and our kids that you apparently dont want much to do with them. I can't fix that. That hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
Eliana Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 You're so original *rolls eyes*. Go tell that to someone who cares. Loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Surfer Girl Posted December 25, 2011 Share Posted December 25, 2011 Seems you are doing what you always do....break up to make up....I give it 4 months max....until you deal with that fantasy honeymoon stage...and recognize a mature relationship....you will continue on that path....lucky for me....I recognized I have the ability to have some one in my life longterm...I am sad for you and me.... ... Take care.... At the age you are now.... I do not think you will change anytime soon. I so wish your parents had been healthy and not led you onto a path of hurt and heartbreak.... Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted December 26, 2011 Share Posted December 26, 2011 Congrats to you and her on your engagement. We've been legally divorced now for 10 days, I thought you'd wait until Valentines Day, but I knew it was coming. I'm surprised I'm hurt...I guess its because you "fell for each other" while you were still with me. It hurts because the boys are with you today and I feel replaced as a mother, but I know they love me deeply and she will can never be their mama...just your wife. I'm angry you can't be alone, I'm angry you rush into thing, I just want to shake the crap out of you...but what do I know. Y'all could be happily married for the next 50 years. What is next? Kids? Guess you'll have to adopt or reverse the vasectomy. Good luck with that. Link to post Share on other sites
daisydukes Posted December 26, 2011 Share Posted December 26, 2011 I didn't contact him nor did he contact me even though I was secretly hoping he would but why would I want that? He was a coward liar who couldn't admit he was wrong and turned everything around and made me look like a horrible person. Oh well good riddance to you jerk! Link to post Share on other sites
sao2 Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I think/hope this is the last I write to you in any medium. Before our last contact I honestly believed that one day, if your thoughts about relationships changed your view of me would change as well. Now I see that was a fallacy. I have been working through this for so long but now I know deep within me, that what I was asking of you was reasonable. Now I know without a doubt that that the only and most important reason we didn't work was because you didn't really want it to. I hope you learn that the easiest and least painful way to get rid of someone is simply to say, "I don't feel what you feel". I am ready to move forward now in a way I haven't felt in so long. I hope you never truly understand the pain you caused me because I do think you are a sensitive soul and if you understood what you did to me I don't think you could handle it. Best of luck to you. Know that you are loved, but I'll never believe that you loved me. If you felt about me, the way I felt about you, we would be together. Link to post Share on other sites
EyeAlone Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 I hate you. I don't care what you said. You were never over T*****. Stop comparing every girl to her. She dumped you because she wasn't attracted to you. You made it seem like she was still so into you. Whatever! She married that other guy. The hotter version of you and yet you still worshipped her toilet. I'm so disgusted with you. Actually, I'm more disgusted with myself. Why did I tolerate your behavior? UGH You made a comment during our final conversation: "You never knew how I talked about you." **** YOU! You never even talked about me to other people!!!!!!!!! I was a ****ing secret to 99.9999% of your friends! Thank you for painfully teaching me red flags: 1) Always glorifying exes 2) Keeping your girlfriend as a secret If anyone keeps me a secret while blabbing about their stupid ex, I'm gonna run. Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted December 27, 2011 Share Posted December 27, 2011 Merry Christmas It's now been 2 December's without you, wow how have I lasted!? lol last year was so much worse though I must admit, Christmas this time around was just a miserable day through being lonely, not being lonely without you. I've felt very weird lately, for the longest time I've had no interest in anyone else, had no desire to really even know somebody in that way, just purely wanted to be alone and to stay that way, that's changed now, maybe it hasn't changed in the way I would of liked but I talked to someone for a long long time, pretty much days on end, she's taken unfortunately but my oh my, I never thought I'd ever have that desire to talk to someone again or have those true genuine feelings for someone, it's renewed my hope that I will one day meet somebody and have all of this again, only this time I'll do it right, this break up has made me grow up so much and experience so much, I feel I have a lot more insight on things now that I wouldn't of given a second thought before. This seems to be happening a lot more since I started talking to that girl, a hell of a lot more, must be something to do with a confidence sort of thing, I know deep down I have a lot to offer someone and I feel now I can finaly put that on the table again for all to see, my aim is to have somebody special next Christmas and I'm confident of suceeding, I hope one day you find someone and be happy too. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I made it through Christmas. I did not call you. I did not even pick up the phone to call you. What would be the point? You would just throw her in my face again. It's the thing you like to do the most. Besides, it wouldn't be good for me to call you. You are a psychological abuser. I can not connect with you knowing that you abused me and abused me. I've been engaging in self-destructive behaviors: binging, staying up to weird hours, sitting in front of the computer all day. But the most self-destructive thing I can do is contact you, and I won't. In three years, this is the longest we have gone without speaking to each other. I hope I never see you or speak to you again. I hope your entire life collapses around you like it did some weeks ago. You don't deserve to be happy. You don't deserve to be content. The only thing you deserve is to suffer. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted December 28, 2011 Share Posted December 28, 2011 I made it through another day without you. I really wish you were the man I thought you could be. I even wish you were the man I thought you were. When I first met you, I never thought you would turn out to be a psychological abuser. I knew you were selfish and you could be insensitive, but I never thought you would psychologically abuse me. You told me you are a good man because you do more good than bad. You told me you are a martyr. I never met anyone who was so disillusioned about the kind of person they really are. It saddens me that you don't realize that you are a piece of scum. It saddens me that you conduct yourself in relationships based on what you can get from that person. It saddens me that you are a con-man who would tell any lie, no matter how outrageous to get what he wanted. What kind of life is that for your son? You are very sick and pathetic. And that disabled, old, ignornant alcoholic that you are dating is pathetic too. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 So you contacted me the other day way? You gave me some story about sending everyone in your contacts the same messages. Knowing the arrogant, egotistical man you are, you would never send a note to man saying "may all your dreams come true." My roommate things your are lying and only sent that message to me. I agree with my roommate. You got almost every single thing you wanted. You wanted to trick me- you did. You wanted to lie to me- you did. You wanted to cheat on me- you did. You said you found the woman of your dreams. So why do you keep on bothering me? Leave me alone and let me heal. You said you do not want me back. Good. Stop contacting me and leave me the Hell alone. There's no reason to contact me any more. Stop being so selfish and leave me alone. Link to post Share on other sites
jackmerridew Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 It's been one day of no contact. I'm worried that I'm only going to miss you more. I wish you could've given me what I wanted. All I wanted was a simple, commitment from you and things would've been OK. But because you couldn't give me that, I became more insecure, and it led to the behavior we both conducted that made us grow farther apart. I wish you weren't so inconsiderate of my feelings. I wish you were the woman whom I thought you would be, the woman that gave me so much promise not through her words, but through the kindness you showed me initially. Yes, I do want to contact you now. But I know it'll only bring us both pain. I wish it wasn't this way, but that's how it is. I love you. Link to post Share on other sites
setsenia Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 OMG, my dad is totally in need of this forum! He has been contacting his ex of 6 years that he was only together with for 1 year. For the longest time, he would stalk her and keep trying to contact her and make fun of her new boyfriend. He told me he still sends her Christmas cards and text messages, even though they were never on good terms after their breakup 6 years ago. We all think he's insane, because she obviously wants nothing to do with him, especially after the stunts he's pulled after their breakup. He just doesn't know when to let it go, LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
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