CopingGal Posted February 12, 2012 Share Posted February 12, 2012 Hi L, F you Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 L, As time goes by I feel more calm about what happened...not every day and not consistently, but overall I am better. I gues it's because I feel so sorry for you. Having an underdeveloped conscience has undoubtedly made life difficult for you. It's too bad. But truth be told, that is your problem and the problem of the people in your life. I am so glad that that is not me. I once wanted to marry you. Now I know that I would have been unhappy and depressed all the time. I would have suffered and suffered and suffered. I don't deserve that. I know you will never understand why using people, lying to them constantly, ignoring them, and cheating on them are bad things to do. It's soo sad that this is the case. It's soo sad that you are that dysfunctional. I'll pray for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Greekman Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I miss you. Link to post Share on other sites
sadlittlebee Posted February 13, 2012 Share Posted February 13, 2012 I just miss my friend.. that's all. I hope that someday you'll realize what you had and what you lost. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Well it's Valentines day and you aren't going to hear s**t from me. I know I won't hear anything from you and that's the way I want it. Since we are done and there would be no point to it, it wouldn't even be an ego boost for me. I doubt you will even think of me today, and if you do, it will only be because you are glad I am gone. I am not going to wish you a good day or a bad day. I just don't care. Link to post Share on other sites
dicky_fish Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 They say Valentine's Day is the special day of the year where you tell the one you love the most just how much they mean to you. I wish I could do that today as I did every single day we were together. I miss you Fifi xxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
KJauron Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 I love you. I always will. But I'm tired of you hurting me. I'm sorry. This was for the best. Link to post Share on other sites
flyguy23 Posted February 14, 2012 Share Posted February 14, 2012 Well I guess I can move on now. After all the hurtful things you said today. After 5 years we are finally done and I need to move on for good. I doubt you will ever contact me again which breaks my heart, never thought we would end like this. Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 L, I feel good today. I have been so engrossed with schoolwork, I could not even go out to dinner with my roommate. But we had cake and we are going out on Friday. I felt pretty good today. I've just been so tied up with schoolwork that I could not do all the things I wanted to today, but I feel pretty good. It's not often I feel good when I have no one on Valentine's Day...but today I feel good and fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I miss you. I don't know why. I have been doing fine all day until now. I know you don't miss me. I feel like an idiot. Link to post Share on other sites
Frank13 Posted February 15, 2012 Share Posted February 15, 2012 I woke up fine today, but ever since, you have been on my mind all day today and I don't know why. I was doing so well moving forward. I don't have the urge to talk to you or want you to contact me. I am just getting tired of you being on my mind when I want you out of my life. Link to post Share on other sites
matta Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 hey, this is exactly what i need cause i have been really thinking about contacting my ex. i cannot begin to describe how am feelin right now. my heart is absolutely broken, i cant stop crying or sleep even though it has been 2 months. i think am going into depression. my on and off boyfriend of 5 yrs broke up with me over christmas because i strted to question if he was sleeping with his baby mother. he claims he is not but wants to keep me and him from her because when she previously found out she stopped him from seeing the baby. at the begining things were ok but after a couple of yrs i felt like its enuff time for her to know n deal wit it. he kept on saying no she hates u and she will stop me frm seeing my baby again and all that. again i left it but i couldnt take it any longer because i couldnt see where this relationship was going after all these yrs so we started to argue more often. eventually he decided to break up with me. i think the way he broke up with me is what is killing me. he suddenly cut all contact with me, deleted me from facebook, skype, blackberry everything without saying much. what really hurts me is that after all these years it is this easy for him to completely erase me. makes me wonder if he loved me at all. i really do not want to contact him because on all the otha times we break up i always call him and work things out or he will randomly contact me and we start seeing eachother again. plus i know he is probably not good for me so i shud really let him go. if only it was that simple. he is the first guy i ever truly loved and from the begining all my friends were saying he wasnt good for me but i never listened. now i cant really talk to most of them because they think am gona go back to him like i have done in the past. i really am ready to let him out of my life completely but i guess the lack of closure is what is making it all the more difficult. i sometimes think i shud call him and try and get sum sort of closure from him but i dont know if that is a good idea. it is constantly on my mind and heart is in pieces. will this feeling ever go away?? Link to post Share on other sites
matta Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 hey, this is exactly what i need cause i have been really thinking about contacting my ex. i cannot begin to describe how am feelin right now. my heart is absolutely broken, i cant stop crying or sleep even though it has been 2 months. i think am going into depression. my on and off boyfriend of 5 yrs broke up with me over christmas because i strted to question if he was sleeping with his baby mother. he claims he is not but wants to keep me and him from her because when she previously found out she stopped him from seeing the baby. at the begining things were ok but after a couple of yrs i felt like its enuff time for her to know n deal wit it. he kept on saying no she hates u and she will stop me frm seeing my baby again and all that. again i left it but i couldnt take it any longer because i couldnt see where this relationship was going after all these yrs so we started to argue more often. eventually he decided to break up with me. i think the way he broke up with me is what is killing me. he suddenly cut all contact with me, deleted me from facebook, skype, blackberry everything without saying much. what really hurts me is that after all these years it is this easy for him to completely erase me. makes me wonder if he loved me at all. i really do not want to contact him because on all the otha times we break up i always call him and work things out or he will randomly contact me and we start seeing eachother again. plus i know he is probably not good for me so i shud really let him go. if only it was that simple. he is the first guy i ever truly loved and from the begining all my friends were saying he wasnt good for me but i never listened. now i cant really talk to most of them because they think am gona go back to him like i have done in the past. i really am ready to let him out of my life completely but i guess the lack of closure is what is making it all the more difficult. i sometimes think i shud call him and try and get sum sort of closure from him but i dont know if that is a good idea. it is constantly on my mind and heart is n pieces. wil this feeling ever go away?? Link to post Share on other sites
moosekaka Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Dear *** I must have drafted this letter scores of times. Since there's so much baggage that its hard for us to talk, I figure me writing a letter to you would be best. At first when things ended I was in a state of shock and unable to process things rationally. After three months of trying everything I could think of to distract myself I finally accepted you were gone for good. I know I was selfish and put a lot of pressure on you because I was using you as a crutch to keep me interested in my work. The thing is that once I quit my job I realized how much time I had been wasting being stuck in that lab not doing something I was interested in. I guess it was easier to stay put than to face the unknown and scary job market. Before quitting all I wanted was to have closure with you, but the reality of starting over again after all those years in the lab quickly became the priority in my mind. I still think about you a lot, I still regret very much that I couldn't make it work and I am ashamed of how crazy I became in the end. Even though I used you as a crutch, I really did care about you and liked you a lot and I did try my best to teach you as much as I could. I guess the only closure I could hope for is that you don't remember me in a negative light, given enough time. I've come to accept that it just wasn't the right time or place to have taken you on given the state of my mind with regards to my work. I am truly sorry that I wasn't focused on my work and being the best mentor I could be. I know you will do a good job in whatever endeavors you take on and whoever works with you will be in good hands. If there is anything you need help with in the future I will always be glad to extend a hand. Sincerely, S Link to post Share on other sites
Hafer Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I just want you to know, that I´ve been dedicating to myself since you decided to leave, Im thinner, weightlifting has paid off, and Im still the same loving person, that one that gave you nothing but love. You have a new guy in your life right now, you met him only a month ago and jumped into something, cause you are so insecure and needy that you actually needed to fill the void. This new body and mind will belong to someone who really deserves it, and if you fail with this new guy dont even bother coming back, I might only use you for sex, but I will never be your BF again, you are jealous, insecure, needy and manipulative, traits I dont want in a GF Farewell, Claudia. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 hey poster MATTA i know youre new here. try posting your question in both coping and break ups. i think that will be more helpful to u and get u some answers. this post is mosty to vent to ur ex without them seeing it. like pretending you are writing to them. please try to post in the other sections so u can get the answers and support u need : ) \ good luck to u. we have all been there. it does get better Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 ps anyone still not getting alerts. look in your spam folders!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
coltsfan1 Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I miss you and I know full well I shouldn't, I no longer hope we will get back together. I have made my mind up that we will not be in each others life in any way. I truly hope you are happy but I do wish the first night in my new house was shared with you. But hey ill just spend it with some other girl. I do wish S would date me, she is so cute!! Link to post Share on other sites
sadlittlebee Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I hurt so bad. Just knowing that you're happy.. and you're with that new girl. How can you going from loving me and everything being good and happy, to leaving me with no warning for some girl you just met. How could you hurt another human being? Let alone one that you used to care about? I did absolutely nothing wrong. You even said so yourself. I'm funny, 10 times more attractive than you and this new girl, fun, gave you plenty of sex, always forgiving, always on your side, your friend, supported you in every possible way when you weren't deserving.. I tried to be so perfect for you. You didn't even break up with me. You could have at least had the respect to tell me the truth and tell me it was over. I had to find out on my own, after being randomly ignored by you. Ugh. It just hurts soo bad. I can't describe how I feel. At least I have myself. I'm talented, loving, and so much better of a person than you. You never deserved me.. I wish I didn't care so much about every single person on this planet. I wish I never wanted to help you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Hey areshole I finally blocked you . After re-reading your last emails I finally got the courage to do it . Saying that I am just filtering out the things I want to hear and that I do not listen . I am SO ****ing sick of you always telling me " You do not listen " like I am a child . You treated me like I was beneath you for our entire relationship . And even after you broke up with me . Then you have the nerve to contact me after seven months , saying you would give anything to be with me again , you want my children and want to spend the rest of your life trying to make me happy..then you say you were just depressed when you said that ??? then I am filtering out what I want to hear ? don't you see how twisted that is ? you also said I shouldn't pressure you or out that on you anymore because you are having a hard time. You know what that is ? Karma . For being abusive and controlling towards me and other people. I blocked you because I refuse to be beneath you and under your control . And I need space in my life for a real man who would never let me go . Goodbye for good . Link to post Share on other sites
lovelylashes Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 after i stood by you, through all the lies i was there for you. after almost a year together you dont even have the decency to meet up with me. ive tried everything to make you see how much i love you. and i know i wasnt perfect but i dont deserve how you have treated me. I cant continue to go round in circles texting you the same message in the hope you will change your mind. im done with you. no one will love you like i did i can promise you that. goodbye x Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Hey areshole I finally blocked you . After re-reading your last emails I finally got the courage to do it . Saying that I am just filtering out the things I want to hear and that I do not listen . I am SO ****ing sick of you always telling me " You do not listen " like I am a child . You treated me like I was beneath you for our entire relationship . And even after you broke up with me . Then you have the nerve to contact me after seven months , saying you would give anything to be with me again , you want my children and want to spend the rest of your life trying to make me happy..then you say you were just depressed when you said that ??? then I am filtering out what I want to hear ? don't you see how twisted that is ? you also said I shouldn't pressure you or out that on you anymore because you are having a hard time. You know what that is ? Karma . For being abusive and controlling towards me and other people. I blocked you because I refuse to be beneath you and under your control . And I need space in my life for a real man who would never let me go . Goodbye for good . You tell him sister! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I miss you...when you were pretending to be a bf who cared about me and who was trying. I missed all the good times we had...when you were pretending to be good, but lying behind my back. I miss you...I miss who I thought you were. I miss you so much. I want to contact you. I want you to be the man you were pretending to be...but you are not. I won't go back in that dark hole again. You belong in the darkness with the rest of the monsters. You are not good enough to be in my life. I will never grant you the privedge of being in my life again. You abused that privedge and you did not appreciate it. Now it is gone forever. Link to post Share on other sites
sadlittlebee Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Why is it always ***laksdfjoaiwfking 80 times harder to forget you in the morning?! Harry Potter isn't even helping anymore. And that's saying a lot. I'm really about to go all Carrie Underwood on your fugly little truck. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I miss you...when you were pretending to be a bf who cared about me and who was trying. I missed all the good times we had...when you were pretending to be good, but lying behind my back. I miss you...I miss who I thought you were. I miss you so much. I want to contact you. I want you to be the man you were pretending to be...but you are not. I won't go back in that dark hole again. You belong in the darkness with the rest of the monsters. You are not good enough to be in my life. I will never grant you the privedge of being in my life again. You abused that privedge and you did not appreciate it. Now it is gone forever. I know , that's the sucky thing , that we miss who we thought they were. You have such a good heart and you will find someone who will love you the way you deserve . It angers me that someone like you got so hurt by some fcked up twit. x Link to post Share on other sites
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