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[Leland]

I am tired of you texting me, asking how I am doing. You made a choice to end what we had, because you wanted to focus on finishing your divorce, concentrate on raising your children and getting right with God. I can understand all those reasons, but at the same time, we could've, probably SHOULD'VE remained friends only. Obviously you weren't ready to be serious with me, I helped you get away from the emotionally abusive husband. I showed you love, listened when you told me you would be LOYAL to me, LOVING only me and DEVOTED to me. All of that just comes off as lies and game now. I believed you, and that hurts worse than anything else. It's funny that you were worried about me dealing with other women, when you show how much you TRULY love me by breaking up by a text message. Hope you have a nice life.

[Tatatha]

I guess I am in the bargaining stage. There must be some way to address our issues together. I respect your stated needs and want to support them but my heart is broken and the skin has been ripped off my flesh.

 

I want to beg. I want to scream. I want you to tell me it is all going to be ok.

 

I am trying to accept my new reality. But how this hurts.

 

I love you my love. You have been twenty years of amazing. I am sorry you don't see us as worth twenty more. But I do understand and you should be happy.

 

All my warmest hugs as I know you too are suffering.

 

Tatatha

[ThatDudeXO]

You talked so much crap about your friends, told me how they're so annoying. How much you sometimes dislike them but suddenly they're your "favourites and besties" as if they really gave a crap about you.

 

You chose people who don't care about you that much and people you barely know instead of me, the one who thinks the world of you and would do anything for you.

 

It sickens me you made this decision because I thought you loved me enough to atleast let me know you weren't enjoying the relationship.

 

You either changed or you never loved me.

 

I hate you for this...

 

But I still love you.

 

But I don't want to love you anymore.

[CopingGal]

You scare me. I don't know what you are capable of. I don't know how deep your dysfunction runs. I don't know if there are lines you will not cross. I don't know if you gave me an STD. I don't know how many women you screwed behind my back. I already got two tests. Thank goodness they came out negative. You took pleasure...PLEASURE in running around behind my back. It was a game to you. You took pleasure...PLEASURE in cheating on me. You thought, if I was stupid enough to be duped by you, then I must deserve it.

 

You scare me. People with your type of personality get themselves in all kinds of trouble and do terrible things to innocent people. I don't know how deep your dysfunction runs. I don't know how deep your dysfunction runs. I don't know how deep your dysfunction runs. I say it over and over again because I feel strongly about it. I don't know how deep your dysfunction runs.

 

Oh, and as usual,

 

F you.

[mississippimom]

Dear.....Still thinking of that picture i saw of you and your new g/f. Boy did you gain some serious weight. Why did you put 'athletic' on all your dating profiles when you were huge when I met you? Muscle doesn't jiggle and hang that way, but I digress....In that picture, you appear to me more interested in your food than the world around you.

 

Today, I feel a little better because someone else gets to figure you out. I pity her because of what is to come, if you are the same with her as you were with me. Maybe you won't be because she has a lot of money and you can be the kept man you always wanted to be...*giggle*, did I just call you a 'man"? I wear heels that are bigger than your wicker wacker...and they are practically flats, LOL!!! Turn in your man card; for a dude who noticed that my roots needed to be done and to notice people staring at my shoes when we are out, you have some issues.

 

Do you still text the hell out of your ex wife and if so, do you hide that from your new sssssoouuuuulmate? And...sexually speaking, ol' floppy sack, I hope you're not just rolling over and going to sleep at 9pm because "I WORK ALL DAY!!!! CANT A GUY GET SOME SLEEP?" We psychos like intimacy, just so you know, even your psycho-to be. I call her this because she will be the next one you call by that moniker. Let the psychos unite!!!!

 

I'll be expecting a random text from you by Summer. Because that's how you roll. I hope you get golfball sized 'rhoids and that you g/f says something to you about the smell 'down there' on you. Like a porta potty on a sweltering day.

 

omg lmao! wow...he has issues

[marqueemoon4]

I feel like the bitterness and pain will never end. thanks for that.

[Jarrod18]

Dear --,

 

Realistically I shouldn't be writing to you now, last time I wrote was last week but before that was about 6 months ago. I'm not going to lie, I'm intoxicated now and I feel the need to state that as an excuse but no seriously.......well I guess it really is an excuse then.

 

Mabye I'm writing because I didn't pick up tonight, no thats not it. I could of picked up tonight but it was against my best wishes to do so. Regardless Im here now slightly drunk not thinking of you but after re reading my last 2 letters to you;I sit here thinking that writing to you is of some value. Mabye I'm wrong. Mabye writing to you(not sending it) is only good when I'm sober?Anyway I dont know but am going to try this.

 

I know what it is,

 

dammit.....thats right. You were my best friend...that is before we departed places. You were not completly trustworthy but I still trusted you completely. I miss that. You bitch. Sorry but its true. I have some good girl mates now, but its not the same; not because I dont trust them but because I cant trust them the same way I trusted you after 4 years. **** you because of that. **** you we're not mates. **** you for not trying. **** you for not valuing our friendship independant of our ****ing relationship. And **** you for leaving prematurely ...you will never know what that feels like until it happens to you... honestly its such a **** feeling( I dont expect you to empathise, but if it does happen I hope you think back and atleast understand how that ****ness comes about).

 

And **** you most of all..

 

For making me erase you..

 

wait..

 

 

Making me erase "us".

 

It's suprising how solid that last full stop felt..

Edited March 14, 2012 by Jarrod18

[Follower]

Its been over 3 months now and not a ****ing word, not one hint of remorse and not one hint of emotion from you,

 

Guess i didnt mean that much to you, must be awsome to be able to just drop somone thats been in your life every single day supported you every single day, done some of the worst jobs in his life for you, every single say and now NOTHING

 

You must be heartless but i know this isnt true

 

all i want to say is i ***ING **** ***, but this doesnt matter does it now?

Because you dont reciprocaite so cold you were to me so distant and you claim its my fault you left, ha that makes me laugh,

 

Mabye im writing this due to the 3 lagers or mabye i see that as an excuse to cover up that i miss you, but you know what i do. I Miss you, im not ashamed im happy to say it, it would be nice if you could say it too, but i guess you dont.

 

Yours Longingly Ryan.

[rootless]

I can't tell you how inept and ridiculous I feel venting my feelings into empty space. How tragic and stupid and disappointing I feel knowing that scattering my thoughts into a mute, unanswerable void has somehow become a viable thing, let alone a necessary one. I should be laughing this off as absurd, and insane, and completely unthinkable. But here I am, rattling over the keys like an idiot, because that's all I'm left with.

 

This is my predicament now.

Yowling on the internet about your ghost.

Like you're that kid who died from eating pop-rocks, or Bigfoot, or black helicopters over Roswell, or that forged Hawaiian birth certificate.

 

The purview of conspiracy theorists and hucksters selling Viagra, and a forlorn prince in Nigeria who only wants to give me a million dollars, no strings attached.

 

This is how badly sh*t has gone off the rails.

 

And the only thing I want to tell you is, "I love you".

 

But I can't.

 

My position's totally untenable.

 

If I contact you now, I'm creepy, and disingenuous; bristling with weird, afflicted, stalking ulterior motives. I twirl a handlebar mustache and slink on my tip-toes, accompanied by sneaky pizzicato violins.

 

If I *don't* contact you, I'm bitter and childish and seething with resentment.

 

If I tell you I miss you, it's a desperate, grasping, broken plea to get you back.

 

If I tell you that I care, it's confirmation that I'm spineless and accommodating, willing to look past any cruelty and offense, so long as it's dangled from your cool, white hand.

 

If I tell you I hate your guts, it's a bald-faced lie, but it frees you to fit me with the black hat you secretly need me to wear. To be the villain who deserved his penance and washed away your guilt.

 

If I tell you I'm disappointed and confused, it's the truth, but then I'm just the guy who won't quit whining that he got stood-up at the prom.

 

If I allow you in my life-- I resign myself to perpetuating a fraud. Feigning to be your friend, pretending I'm comfortable in my role as eunuch, slaying every dragon, but never getting to f**k the princess.

 

If I step away, and give myself room to heal, I'm a bad sport. A deserter. I'm petty. -- You extended the olive branch, Jesus-like, but me, the petulant toddler, I swatted it away. Oh, well. You tried to do the right thing. "Some people can't get over it."

 

When all I want to do is smooth your hair, tell you I love you, kiss you on the cheek, and then sidle off like Clooney back into the casino. Danny Ocean, bad-ass, wishing you luck and then quietly walking away, without a crease in my suit. Burned in your memory as the guy who knew how to lose with style.

 

But I can't do any of that.

 

Because you handled it like an a**hole.

An otherwise amazing woman who waited 'till the very end to sh*t on me.

 

And although every fact supports that I'm a perfectly sweet, thoughtful guy, who loved you to pieces, I can't be that, either.

 

I couldn't just be a warm, fleeting memory in the back of your head.

 

Nope.

It wasn't enough to end it.

You had to bring the hurt.

You had make me the guy who winces because someone *might* have said your name.

 

 

So, here I am, hunched over the refresh button in my tin-foil hat, circling photos of the second shooter on the grassy knoll.

 

Thanks a f**kin' bunch.

Edited March 15, 2012 by rootless

[sadlittlebee]

Okay so, I always said I wanted to have kids with you. Good thing I didn't! I wouldn't wish that nose upon anyone. Happy Wednesday though!

[Follower]

really really wanted to speak to you today, went to write you an email but had to stop myself, wish i had the balls to just cut you out completely like you have me but im struggling to take that final hurdle and stop thinking about you....

 

I know your much happier than you were with me and that will have to be enough.

 

I wish you all the love in the world i really do, your a much stronger person than i am.

 

I truely love you and always will yours

 

Ryan

[Bradly]

I found a bunch of old letters today in the filing cabinet. They were love letters to you when I was in college. What happen to us? We were so much in love! One of them even said the same what I wrote to you in the the card before you left. "you are the best thing that has ever happened to me" I love you and I miss you! Come home and lets start over.

[Follower]

I found a bunch of old letters today in the filing cabinet. They were love letters to you when I was in college. What happen to us? We were so much in love! One of them even said the same what I wrote to you in the the card before you left. "you are the best thing that has ever happened to me" I love you and I miss you! Come home and lets start over.

 

Hold strong brother! Thats a really rough one when you find things.

[robkris8079]

I have all the cards and letters in a drawer. I know where they are and avoid it like the plague. The worst one is the one I just got on V-day that said "we've spent 5 vdays together, I can't wait for many more. I love you with all of my heart". Then a week after getting that she started avoiding me like the plague .

[gotye]

Hey,

just wanted to know if you are seriously considering what I said to you last time, if you are thinking about me

I also want you to know you might have some dates here and there after me, but I am the only me you'll ever have and never will have that again

[CopingGal]

Hey bastard,

 

Just thought I'd check in with you. You know, you remind me of an enormous pile of garbage. You stink like one too.

[minee]

**** YOU! You told me you loved me and you wanted to marry me. Then you ****ing pull that **** and ****ing hurt me? How dare you hurt me. how dare you. You messed up and you couldn't fight for us because you had no excuse? You're not a man! You spit out lies, and everything i did for you was such a waste. i hate you for making me feel like this and i hate you for giving so much of myself to you. Well i'm not giving you that power anymore. I'm taking all that **** back. NO MORE will you have that kind of power over me, and you know what? I will find better and I'll do better. I hope your car breaks down you ass hole!

[coltsfan1]

Why is the only thing I have to say. Not why did this happen, not why did you do this or did I do that. Just why haven't I truly let it go..........

[padparadscha]

Why is the only thing I have to say. Not why did this happen, not why did you do this or did I do that. Just why haven't I truly let it go..........

 

Because when you are truly giving a relationship your best. Even if you have your flaws...if you are truly in this for the long haul and you envision a future with the other person, there is no way on earth your not shattered when all is lost. I have moved on from him. I have let go. Yet, the pain is there and I am trying to redirect my life. All this time it was "us" against the world. My goals and my aims were all about what we were going to do "Together." Now that together is lost, I find myself wondering about my next steps in life and where my future is headed. I dont want him back. Its over. If he came back it would only be lies and deciete. Yet my heart has not let go. I wanted to send him a St. Paddy's day card. Yet he did not recognize me Valentines Day. You see, you can move on and still not fully let go in your heart.

[canary123]

How could you do this? How could you be so selfish?

 

You told me on the day you closed the door on what we had the simple truth: neither will find a replacement for the other. What we had was unique.

 

But you stumbled over your past too much. You couldn't move on from your ex-after 3 years? 3 years? It's not normal!

 

What hurts the most is that you are able to cut it away like it meant nothing. The corridors of your mind are fitted with impenetrable barriers that you can drop down at will. And here I am, missing you, missing the closeness we shared.

 

How can you do that? How can you have no empathy? How can you be so honest and so close to me, but so distant with it?

 

You took a hatchet to something great. And all for what? So you didn't have to understand your own emotions? You really are pathetic. I have never met a girl so paralysed by emotion, so inept with her heart. You will never love; you will only survive. Whilst I am hurting, whilst I am lonely, whilst I am digesting what you did; one day I will conquer it. And you will remain alone and inept. I will grow; you will only grow old.

[gister]

Dear P,

 

For some reason I started thinking about you again, its been so long since the last time I did and it's been even longer since the break. I remember, how strong the odds were stacked against the long distance and us... I wanted to beat those odds, but i guess my luck ran out or something... Its almost ironic now that im here in college, I have a couple of friends that are making long distance work and they are happy; like we were... Then I think of how we ended up like this, disappearing from each others lives... Maybe it was bad timing or maybe it was just both of us making a bunch of bad beginner mistakes...

but when I think of you, i just remember how we started talking randomly over a random game we both enjoyed, how easily we connected, talking on the phone for hours and days, all the inside jokes we had, the happiness in your voice when we talked, the warmth in your smile when we finally met... The harsh and sad things we both said as everything was falling apart...

 

All of that feels like a lifetime ago... I've grown a lot from our relationship and from these past two years... I just wish you were a part of it and that you didn't feel like such a ghost now.

 

I know I never texted you back last year... Maybe you were just trying to reach out and maybe you werent... I never responded because I still needed time to think and to start putting my life back on some kind of track again... Theres so much i wish i could say to you now... But If this number I have engraved into my memory is still yours, I'd just call to wish you well and ask if you are happy with how things ended... But I know that would be wrong because we are just strangers and ghosts to each other probably by now...

 

If you read or ever find this know i will always love you and you will always have a place in my heart for you. I hope you are happy and that whoever you are with makes you happy. But now I need to move on... I need to forget... Because I want to love again

 

~G-

 

Sorry for long post had to get it off my chest

[coltsfan1]

FML 18 months and I am still here. My life is awesome yet I still wish I could share it with you. You don't even deserve it, someone should shoot me and put me out my misery. there are other girls and fun to have yet I still come home alone and wish you where here, we can't go back to that.

 

 

GRRRR................

[CopingGal]

L,

 

So you put on your facebook page that you wouldn't change a thing about last year? Wow, when the psychologist told me you had no conscience, I did not want to believe her. I really didn't. I wanted to think that you just had an underdeveloped conscience....at least, some little piece of a conscience. But you wouldn't change a thing about last year huh? Wow...lying to me repeatedly, ignoring me, pushing me away, tricking me, cheating on me, psychologically abusing me, emotionally abusing me, and then harassing me...and you wouldn't change a thing about last year? My God, you really, really, really are a psychologically sick man.

 

I feel so incredibly sorry for your new gf. Not only did she get into a relationship with a very medically sick man, she also got into a relationship with a man with sociopathic traits. You can run and jump from woman to woman to woman...but bed hoping will never change how dysfunctional you are. I'm staying out of relationships to heal. Go on and jump from one woman to another and make the same mistakes again and again and again. You are truly...and I mean truly...a pathetic simpleton.

Edited March 17, 2012 by CopingGal

[stitch702]

Resilience of the Heart

 

Maybe there's a reason why certain things have changed,

 

They turn just like the seasons as winter leads to spring;

 

Oh how these hands of time seem to slowly tick away,

 

And soon these memories of mine may slowly come to fade;

 

Heartbreak leaves a lingering feeling of darkness one cannot cope,

 

But time springs forth healing and a new array of hope;

 

Pick up the pieces of yourself and mend your broken soul,

 

And understand that having someone doesn't mean that you are whole;

 

Find your joy and your laughter, forgive mistakes and right your wrongs,

 

Learn to smile and love yourself, let it go and move along;

 

For there will be a day in which the sorrow will be gone,

 

And you shall stand in awe...

 

Admiring that inner strength and will to carry on...

[mississippimom]

K,

 

I knew you wouldn't talk again last night, and let me tell you why. Maybe you actually listened to me when I said you needed to give your new gf a chance. The talk we had yesterday on the phone, was it necessary? Yes, even though for the last few days, I've intentionally avoided you. I was doing it for ME, not to hurt you, even when you sent the text "you can't talk to me? it's as if you don't want to talk to me"......

 

It's not that I didn't want to talk to you, since our "arguement" last Sunday, I felt that there was nothing left to say. You had been bugging me about my jewelry that you seem to have "forgotten" that I already got it all, the day I was moving out. I explained to you for the reason I was "avoiding" you, was that it was too painful. This whole breakup was painful but at the same time, it's taught me what I deserved and what you deserved. I hurt you, you've hurt me, we are now "even" is what I said.

 

Notice on the phone I didn't ask one question about your new gf or how things are working out with you 2? However, you just had to bring up "Greg" (for those of you reading this, Greg is not his real name btw, lol)

 

As you know, "Greg" has planned in the last few months to move down here in 3 weeks. It doesn't matter where he's going to be living or what, it matters that he wants to be with ME. However, last year when I moved out of our place, and into my OWN, by myself, I slowly pulled myself away, creating distance. But you kept pushing the issue of keeping our serious relationship. I said I needed "time" and "space" to figure out what I wanted and what I deserved in a REAL relationship. I didn't want to know about your new gf, the one you've met a month ago and just moved in with her, now 4 weeks ago. I don't want to know how you 2 are doing because I have moved on with my life. I said that I loved you, in which I still do, but not enough to go back to start all over, because even if we did do that, you would never let things that happened GO.

 

I asked for your forgiveness as I have forgiven you. But you have to LET it GO. I said that we should give our significant others a "chance"......however, you are still HURT by us splitting apart. You made some mistakes, I've made mistakes. We are only HUMAN, K.

 

You say you're moving on with life, I understood that, but if you're still harping over what happened with us, then no, you are not moving on with life. Will we ever get back together? I can't answer that but please, do not wait for me. If it is meant for us to get back together, God will find us a way to do that. Don't wait any longer. As for being "friends", notice yesterday was the first time I didn't bawl on the phone? It's because I'm strong now (or try to be). I even said "if you wanna finish talking, holler at me later" .....well later turned into a Friday night and I didn't cry last night. I told myself when we hung up, naw, he ain't going to do it. Maybe it is still painful for you. I understand and I have forgiven you for giving up on us, months ago.

 

I'm not mad at you or angry. I've forgiven you. Can't you do the same?

 

(my name)