Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[CopingGal]

After finding out what is on your facebook page, I now know, that I have to accept the fact that you truly have no conscience. You psychologically and emotionally abused me. Added to that you harassed me to the point that my roommate and myself had to threaten to call the police on you at least three times.

 

For you to emotionally traumatize me and do all those other things to me and then tell people that you would not change a thing about last year, makes me sick, angry, and very sad.

 

I'm sorry I ever met you. I don't know what you were in that fake relationship we had. You certainly were not my boyfriend. You were just someone who lied to me over and over again and then used me, then ignored me when he got tired of me while he cheated on me.

 

You make me physically sick and I pity your new gf...I pity her. You are a disgusting and worthless person who doesn't deserve to have anyone in his life.

[ridinbikes247]

We were married almost 5 years !! together for 7 !!! It's been 6 weeks since I've moved out. I still believed we could always work things out but I hated the things you did !!! All I asked you to do was appreciate the fact I am your husband !! You would wake up in the morning and take our little boy to daycare and not even say bye to me. You spent 4 nights straight with your friends leaving me home alone until midnight. You started ignoring my text and phone calls claiming you were "busy"

I told you I felt useless in the marriage and you said "oh well, I do what I want". Of course you do what you want, your a selfish bit*h ~!!! After I moved out we were doing alright for about 3 weeks. You would call and I would call you. We still said I miss you and love you. I even came over a few times just to hang out with you and our son. At the beginning of March you did a 180 . You went No Contact with me. Only texting. Thats when reality set in that we were done. We both agreed we werent right for each other. But then you started bashing me. You started saying I am a bad father and depressed and have issues. I am sorry I really loved you. Im sorry I communicate my problems to friends and family. You keep ALL your problems bottled up inside you, you may tell 2 people out of everyone you know.

Well here we are, march 17th. I never wanted to admit the fact you could be having an affair. I never once looked at your facebook or followed you or drove by the house. After last week, when you told me you want sole custody of our son and almost $600-700 in child support I seen that lawyer. She wanted to see your facebook and brung up an affair. We have blocked alot of people but you forgot to block a few of my friends. As the lawyer and I scrolled we found some really good evidence. A guy who live 45 minutes away became your friend 9 days after I left. And guess what !?! He loves horses too, just like you. You guys have no mutual friends so how did you meet him ??!! Anyways, We then clicked on your partying pictures. He commented on one from March 3rd. He said you look famialr with a wink face and you replied. yes, im unforgettable . . . I want to know who this guy is !!!!! but My lawyer does not want me bringing him up until court.....

Another few things we liked on your facebook !?! How about the pictures from a few months ago with you and your friends at the club, and your wedding ring is off !!! You can say you have been cheated on before and you would NEVER cheat but your actions are speaking louder than words !!! You got on birth control a week after I left because you said your "head aches" were acting up. I was so head over heels for you, i wasnt seeing the signs.... Some people tell me he is just some ramdom stalker guy hopefully. Some say you feel guilty and thats why you have shut me out. Some even say, you really want to be with me, but your friends have brian washed you to hate me so therefore you do not call or talk to me.. I dont know who you are anymore

[Bradly]

Seriously... What WTF is wrong with you? You haven't called your kids in Over a week!!! Do you have any idea what damage this is causing? I can understand why you would not want to talk to me, but to avoid your kids... That's just WRONG! Im so disappointed in you. I guess I picked the wrong mother of my children.

Edited March 18, 2012 by Bradly

[MarlaOryx]

How could you do this? How could you be so selfish?

 

You told me on the day you closed the door on what we had the simple truth: neither will find a replacement for the other. What we had was unique.

 

But you stumbled over your past too much. You couldn't move on from your ex-after 3 years? 3 years? It's not normal!

 

What hurts the most is that you are able to cut it away like it meant nothing. The corridors of your mind are fitted with impenetrable barriers that you can drop down at will. And here I am, missing you, missing the closeness we shared.

 

How can you do that? How can you have no empathy? How can you be so honest and so close to me, but so distant with it?

 

You took a hatchet to something great. And all for what? So you didn't have to understand your own emotions? You really are pathetic. I have never met a girl so paralysed by emotion, so inept with her heart. You will never love; you will only survive. Whilst I am hurting, whilst I am lonely, whilst I am digesting what you did; one day I will conquer it. And you will remain alone and inept. I will grow; you will only grow old.

 

WOW, Canary, this could've been written to my ex. I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain.

 

We both deserve better than this.

Edited March 18, 2012 by MarlaOryx

[gotye]

I just wanna ask how he is

[MarlaOryx]

When I'm angry, I want to say:

 

You said your other GF doesn't have the ups but she doesn't have the downs either? This is the same woman you considered breaking up with the week before you ended things with me. The woman with whom you have no emotional connection. No spiritual connection. The woman with whom you say you feel obligated to have sex with and you don't really feel sexually attracted to her? Is that what you want? Mediocrity? Then no wonder you wanted to step away from me. I am far from mediocre. I am extraordinary. I live life fully and I feel deeply.

 

When I feel love for him, I want to say this: 2nd Second Chance Letter that I'll never send.

 

When I'm confused, I want to say:

How could you say you loved me and adored me one day, spend the day with me laughing and loving and running through the mall, and then the next day be so different? How could you look at me with so much love that you had tears in your eyes one week and then the next look at me with such condescending contempt? How could you say that we worked so well only to say we didn't work at all the following week? How could you say you were happier with me around then you were by yourself and you wanted me at every auction, just for the next week to say you needed space and felt the need to step back?

 

That is emotionally abusive behavior.

 

I also want to know how he is, but then I don't.

I want to see him, but then I don't.

I want a text from him, but then I don't.

I want him back, but then I don't. Would I ever be able to trust him again?

Would he be able to put his ego aside long enough to even rebuild that trust with me? With my husband?

 

I'm getting to the point that I pity his other GF and what's in store for her if she ever lets down her guard. I pity the next woman who falls for his fake intimacy. For his deep need for love and intimacy and affection and ecstasy...only to find that he's just feeding from her. As my husband says, he is a parasite.

Edited March 18, 2012 by MarlaOryx

[marqueemoon4]

We were married almost 5 years !! together for 7 !!! It's been 6 weeks since I've moved out. I still believed we could always work things out but I hated the things you did !!! All I asked you to do was appreciate the fact I am your husband !! You would wake up in the morning and take our little boy to daycare and not even say bye to me. You spent 4 nights straight with your friends leaving me home alone until midnight. You started ignoring my text and phone calls claiming you were "busy"

I told you I felt useless in the marriage and you said "oh well, I do what I want". Of course you do what you want, your a selfish bit*h ~!!! After I moved out we were doing alright for about 3 weeks. You would call and I would call you. We still said I miss you and love you. I even came over a few times just to hang out with you and our son. At the beginning of March you did a 180 . You went No Contact with me. Only texting. Thats when reality set in that we were done. We both agreed we werent right for each other. But then you started bashing me. You started saying I am a bad father and depressed and have issues. I am sorry I really loved you. Im sorry I communicate my problems to friends and family. You keep ALL your problems bottled up inside you, you may tell 2 people out of everyone you know.

Well here we are, march 17th. I never wanted to admit the fact you could be having an affair. I never once looked at your facebook or followed you or drove by the house. After last week, when you told me you want sole custody of our son and almost $600-700 in child support I seen that lawyer. She wanted to see your facebook and brung up an affair. We have blocked alot of people but you forgot to block a few of my friends. As the lawyer and I scrolled we found some really good evidence. A guy who live 45 minutes away became your friend 9 days after I left. And guess what !?! He loves horses too, just like you. You guys have no mutual friends so how did you meet him ??!! Anyways, We then clicked on your partying pictures. He commented on one from March 3rd. He said you look famialr with a wink face and you replied. yes, im unforgettable . . . I want to know who this guy is !!!!! but My lawyer does not want me bringing him up until court.....

Another few things we liked on your facebook !?! How about the pictures from a few months ago with you and your friends at the club, and your wedding ring is off !!! You can say you have been cheated on before and you would NEVER cheat but your actions are speaking louder than words !!! You got on birth control a week after I left because you said your "head aches" were acting up. I was so head over heels for you, i wasnt seeing the signs.... Some people tell me he is just some ramdom stalker guy hopefully. Some say you feel guilty and thats why you have shut me out. Some even say, you really want to be with me, but your friends have brian washed you to hate me so therefore you do not call or talk to me.. I dont know who you are anymore

 

Sounds eerily similar. Some people are capable of unconscionable callousness. I wish to God I hadn't procreated with one. But there is nothing we can do but press on and grow. Hang in there brotha.

[mississippimom]

What I don't understand is why our exes do the "hot" and "cold" attitudes with us? It doesn't really matter who dumped who really. One minute, my ex is like emotional, angry, sad, quiet.....then I don't hear back from him for like 2 or 3 days and then it's like......"how are you doing"?

 

It's wishy-washy! Very frustrating. Just when I think he's going to "move" on and be "civil" with me, he starts on HOW I HURT him, yes, we've both hurt each other. We are both in a relationship with other people, and he's still HURT from OUR breakup. It's like, dude, you are living in the PAST.

 

No, I am not his gf anymore, maybe he wishes I still was. But it's like this, if our exes had changed some of the things that was causing our relationship to deteriorate (can't spell it), then MAYBE we would still be together.

 

Why don't they (when we are the dumpers), why can't they ACCEPT that they are at fault also as to why our relationships end? They tend to want to put the BLAME on you! Hell I told my ex, yes I know I've done wrong things too, but you need to look at yourself also.

 

VERY frustrating, it's like talking to a CHILD. No wonder our exes keep pushing us FURTHER away! They don't want to take responsibilites on their part as to WHY the relationship ended or WHY we made the choice to end it, like myself.

[redrose123]

I'm not going to send this letter but this is what I would say to him..

 

Well, it has officially been a month since we've parted and I have to admit it has been one of the hardest months of my life. I deleted all of our pictures off of my computer today and I cried the whole time because I realized that I finally have to accept that it is over and now I must try to put my heart back together and move on with my life. I promise you that I tried my best to give you what you needed to make you happy and I'm sorry I fell short and wasn't able to. I remember you saying just a short while ago that we loved each other and what we had was worth fighting for, but I guess you gave up on that. You didn't think I was worth it, but I thought you were and I thought what we had was stronger than this. Every day that has passed has been a constant struggle for me not to pick up the phone and tell you how much I miss you. I have wanted to ask you so many times how it has been so easy for you to forget me, so I can try to do what you've done and forget you as easily too. I think back on all the good times and the plans we made for the future and my heart aches. But today, I realized that I missed my love and my best friend and unfortunately, you stopped being that person a long time ago. The only reason I can think of as to how you were able to walk away so easily is that you never loved me. Loving someone who doesn't love me back has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with. I wanted to believe that we had this fairy tale romance, even though it was clear we didn't because I thought love was enough. In December, you'll graduate and it hurts because I was the one who was supposed to be there for that. I was always the one to encourage you when you thought you couldn't do it and I always believed in you and now someone else will probably get to share that moment with you. I know we had our fair share of arguments, but you know there was so much stress on both of us and I wish we could have held out for just a few more months because I know things would have gotten better. Right now I am filled with so many regrets. Honestly, I regret our whole relationship because all it's done is lead me to a broken heart and immeasurable pain. Every day I feel like a knife is being jabbed into my heart a little bit deeper. But, my hopes are that maybe one day I will be able to look back on us and instead of being filled with pain, I'll be able to smile. I've not only lost you, but I've lost an entire family and please let them know how thankful I am to them for always welcoming me and making me feel like a part of your family. I know they say people change and grow apart, but I never thought that it would happen to us. Don't worry about changing your phone number or anything like that because this will be the last time you will ever hear from me. I don't want to be filled with bitterness and anger towards you anymore, so I want to let you know that I forgive you and hope you find happiness in this world. Just know that I loved you with no less than all of me throughout our entire relationship and still do.

[Bradly]

Seriously... What WTF is wrong with you? You haven't called your kids in Over a week!!! Do you have any idea what damage this is causing? I can understand why you would not want to talk to me, but to avoid your kids... That's just WRONG! Im so disappointed in you. I guess I picked the wrong mother of my children.

 

Phew!!

I'm so glad I didnt sent this last night, I was drunk... She called this morning we had a nice talk.

[Kamila]

Hi,

 

It's been too long. I know you think about me you know.

But since you have another new girl, it must be easier to forget about me.

Is your ego that big that you had to go search someone else ?

Then again, it was I that left.

Nonetheless that doesn't take the pain away. I've watched the notebook and he's just not that into you. Beautiful movies, different genres, I'm trying to make sense of those emotions.

When you're alone it's the most confrontational.

I just want to talk to you. I seemed such a bliss to have you around and talk.

Well, I had two crappy weeks, luckily they ended good. I got pulled in different directions by my superiors, luckily the ceo managed to integrate me into a presentation task. He praised me alot afterwards, that really made my day and weekend.

I hoped you would have been there to see the down and then up.

 

I really miss you and hope you are well.

 

xxx

[CompletelyLost87]

Hey G,

 

How can anyone forget so easily.. all the great things that's happened to them. You think it was easy to be there to help you through every hard moment of your life? I didn't just do everything for you because of how I felt about you, I did it because it was the right thing to do. I always did everything because it was right. I never looked for you to reciprocate any of the same things. Ever. I have always been strong in every way, shape, and form in front of you.. because that's what you needed. And on the inside there were so many times were I was wounded deeply by you, but I sucked it up because I wanted to be the best partner possible that has ever been around. Maybe I failed many times, and I'll continue to fail, but atleast I tried. I always tried. Just once I wish you would have put even 30% of the effort into the relationship that I did.. but you never did.

 

More than anything, my only wish is that I could forget you. And I did.. until you contacted me again. And all those feelings came back. I moved on once.. and I pray I can again. I don't know what I deserve in this life, but I hope it's more than the way you treated me. Never once did I try to drink away the sorrow, or do anything to mask all the hurt that you caused me. I did my best to endure it.. and if you only knew how much pain you caused.. but I hope you never do see or realize what you caused. Because in the end, I want to be a civil human being and I wish the best for you and hope you find what you're looking for. And that you never do to anyone else, the things you did to me.

[youngster]

God I miss you. I know that we aren't meant to be, and I am working on letting you go. I know what I have to do and am seeking strength to do so. I just put on Burts Bees pomegranate lip balm and the smell and subtle sweet taste instantaneously reminded me of kissing your soft lips and gazing into you big beautiful brown eyes. I love what we had, I love who you were. I wonder if you think of me.

[Parlous]

It's only been three days since I've stopped talking to you, three of hardest days of my life. I've cried, god how i've cried. I miss you so damn much, its not even true. I still dont quite understand how you can just wake up one morning and decide that you no longer love me the same way. All our plans for the future, shattered and gone. Just three weeks ago you promised me forever, called me your soulmate and now you are gone. You said you want something different, whatever that may be but I have no doubt in my mind that no one is going to love you the way I did. I wonder if you miss me, I dare not ask, although it is eating away at me how we parted. I never thought that saying goodbye to you at the station after a great few days together would be the last time I saw you. That after all these years you couldnt even look me in the eyes to break up with me, you had to do it over the phone. I dont understand what changed, what happened to you. I have a feeling that you will come back one day, regretting what you've done and how you've done it but if/when that happens I will probably be already gone and moved on. But I will always love you, one way or another, you made me happier than I ever thought was possible for four great years, I just never thought it would end this way. I never got the chance to do so many things with you, maybe I still will but who knows. I still feel like you are the one, despite everything.

[coltsfan1]

Why.... still have the same question, but coming to the same conclusion.

 

It doesn't matter any more that's why. Hard pill to swallow, but harsh truths always are.

[Frank13]

I don't know what happened. I was doing so well. I thought I was pretty much over you.

 

Someone mentioned your name a few days ago and it didn't bother me. In fact to me they may as well have been talking about a stranger and I was glad it felt like that.

 

However, over these past couple of days it really crept up on me. It feels worse than day one or any day since. I miss you so much. I know you don't have any time, place, or need for me in your life so contacting you will do no good. Part of me wishes you would contact me to say you miss me, but I know that would not help anything.

 

I know I am nothing to you. So why am I relapsing?

[CopingGal]

Part of me is glad you are so sick. You deserve everything you get. I'm glad you've been in and out of the emergency and ICU. You really, really deserve everything you get.

 

I also am worried about you and feel sorry for you. But I must stay away. You have no conscience at all and you just kept hurting me and hurting me. I wasn't even important enough for you to celebrate my birthday...only one time in 3 years. I hate you. I'm sorry I ever met you. I hate what you stand for. I hate how you use women. I hate the fact that you are such a loser. I wish you were never born.

 

This time, you did not hurt me. I hurt me. I know better than to go to your facebook page. I did it any way. Your life is such as waste. You spend your life making sandwiches and drawing your autistic son into your deceptions so that you can cheat on women. I didn't deserve someone or something like you. You go from woman to woman and hop from bed to bed looking for acceptance, no matter how many times you lie and lie and lie and lie and lie and lie and lie and lie and lie. You always end up at the sandwich place because you can't keep a job. People who really get to know you don't like you. You are a brilliant man and can't do anything beyond make sandwiches because nobody wants to put up with your ridiculous personality. There is nothing wrong with making sandwiches. People do it. That's fine. But for you...you are different...because you want to be more and have the intelligence and the skill, but your selfishness and arrogance stop you every time.

 

You take and you take and you take. The couple's therapist said you don't respect women. She said a lot about you. She also thinks you are a liar and told me she did not believe anything you said in couple's therapy. I've made some huge mistakes in my life. Dating you was very close to the top of the list. I don't date losers anymore, so I will never be able to date you again. Thank goodness.

 

You are 100% USDA Choice, All American LOSER!

[coltsfan1]

I'm laying here up way to late and thinking of you. Been awhile since I suffered with this, I have no idea what has brought this on as of late. But it will fade I just have to give it time. Got the house and Harley on the way, plus new job this will fade just need to start the work week. I am also trying to get a certain young lady to have dinner with me, hoping she says yes. Dating other woman has helped me move on, not sleeping with them but realizing other woman find me attractive has truly help.

 

I might ignore you and you might have ripped my heart out but I hope you find whatever it is that makes you happy. You have the potential to be a beautiful and wonderful woman live up to it.

[CopingGal]

L,

 

You have proven to me time and time again that you are a worthless liar. Your facebook post proved to me that with all of the torture and devastation you put me through, you wouldn't change a thing. No matter what I do, you will feel this way. The only thing I can do is concentrate on my own life. When someone has no conscience, they are broken. I could get on my knees and beg you to be a better person, but you won't. You can't. You are broken. You live a very sad life full of secrecy and lies and using people up until there is nothing left.

 

It seems like you've pretty much lost everything and you will lose this new gf too. I can't imagine any women new to a relationship who would stick around someone who is so medically sick, it is a big deal that you've gone 10 days without being in the hospital. I stuck by you when you were homeless, throughout most of our relationship. I stuck by you all the times you stood me up, all the dates you cancelled, through your nasty attitude, through your lies and through your ridiculous excuses. You never appreciated any of it. You just took and took and took from me.

 

It was a mistake to go to your facebook page. I know that. Some people in this world are just damaged beyond repair. Some people in this world are just broken beyond repair. You are one of those people. I am not.

 

So go on and live your life full of games and lies. Go on and continue to use women. It's what you do. I got out. I am FREE. I am free from your lies, from your insensitivity, from your ridiculous excuses, and from your horrific behavior. I'm free from your psychological and emotional abuse. Gosh, I feel so sorry for you. Your life is so sad and pathetic. But it's what you deserve.

 

See ya. Wouldn't want to be ya.

[gotye]

How was your day?

[youngster]

I hate that I love you. I hate that I do this to myself. Seriously **** YOU!!! **** you **** you **** you **** you.

 

I hate you for toying with my heart.

 

Thatnks for using the asterisk LS. Sorry. I'm an emotional rage right now.

Edited March 19, 2012 by youngster

[Bradly]

The best thing to say to you right now is absolutely nothing!!!!!!!

[CopingGal]

You are dead to me.

[Tatatha]

I miss you. Be safe.

[Phanpooh]

i love you, now get out of my life!