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[jennisfora]

another night that ill be sleeping alone, trying not to wonder where you are and if you are with someone. a mutual friend told me you were still single, and going to be doing some traveling, she also told me basically, to forget you, and that maybe after you sort your life out, you might come back, but to not take it personally.

 

i know she was trying to help and be kind. but how can i not take abandonment personally? why did you feel you had to ditch me to travel? why did you feel that following your dreams and being with me was mutually exclusive? i dont understand. part of me is relieved you arent iin a relationship, part of me is sad because it means you would rather be alone than with me, which is a horrible feeling. i tried so hard, but trying isnt always enough. it takes two, when it used to take one...still miss you, babe. *hugs & kisses*

[Itsonlyme66]

I'm tired of being the only one who hurts and who is feeling the aftershock of our break-up.

 

When you said you didn't love me and wanted to leave, your eyes were dead and vacant. When I begged you to not leave, you whistled and ignored me. You're a cruel person. I'm sure I'm not the first person to tell you that you're heartless (in fact I know I'm the 3rd), and I'm sure I won't be the last.

 

I love you, honey. I do. God help me. But there's nothing coming back. A long time ago, years ago, I told you that if you don't water a flower, it withers and dies. You said I was too sensitive.

Well you know what?

 

You don't even own a watering can!

I hope nobody ever does to you what you did to me and your exes. But I still hold out hope that someday you'll regret leaving. Even more so, I pray that you realize what you did to the women you were with, because we really loved you. I needed you and you deserted me at my worst.

 

I'm sorry for the things I said, for who I became, but ugly gets ugly back... If you had loved me 1/2 as much as I loved you, we would have made it.

[msfreebyme]

Monster,

 

I can honestly say I had more love for you than you ever did for me. Even though I ended things.....who the **** goes out with a girl 2 months after a 3 year relationship. And look at what I am doing. Sitting here still healing from your abusive ass. And to top it all off I have to hear you went and screwed this chick after 4 days of meeting her. Way to go monster. You were my the one I gave my virginity to and you managed to **** that up. I am soooooo glad to be free from the abuse I would take day in and day out from you. I hope that little slut thats dumb enough to date you dumps your ass soon...plus I can't wait to take my time and find the right guy for me so I can have someone tell you I don't "jump on every dick I see"...according to you.

 

You sit there still and try to pin stuff on me like I did all these different types of things wrong like I am stalking you on the interenet. Hey buddy now if you post something about my sister apparently being a slut online..obviously you don't deserve privacy.

 

You sit there in your own little world and think that you're perfect and that you have nothing wrong with you when you, your brother, and your father are all ****ing controlling *******s. I feel so sorry for the gullible girl who falls for your **** and marries you because shes in for hell. The sad part is I will never be able to figure you out and understand how you can treat someone you love so damn much like ****. You're ****ed up in the head monster and you have no sence of true love...you care about nobody but yourself. I have let you back into my life numberous times and you chose to hurt me and...get this....including my families trust to the point where we are about to call the cops on you. You know what you are in the pits of your soul.....a monster. It's not your fault...you were raised that way. I know you don't wanna be that way but it comes too naturally to you. One can only change if he wants to. So go on and blame me for this relationship ending....when truly you're at fault.

 

The sad part is I can never hate you no matter how much you hurt me....I am just not that kind of person...I wish I could...I will always love you and forgive you because I know it'll benefit me...even though you hurt me like the monster you are. I wish to never speak to you and never see you again. You were right..you never deserved me. I can see why you were so scared to lose me...because you knew you were treating me like **** deep down inside.

 

As Marilyn Monroe once said:

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

 

SO **** YOU.....AND HAVE A NICE LIFE ASHOLE!

 

P.S. Hope you're stuck in that factory job for the rest of your life =)

[CopingGal]

Monster,

 

I can honestly say I had more love for you than you ever did for me. Even though I ended things.....who the **** goes out with a girl 2 months after a 3 year relationship.

 

It happens. My ex started dating WITHIN THE WEEK. And I hadn't even left him. He only thought I did. The second time, my ex was already cheating when I left him. He proposed marriage 5 months after he met her and 3 months after I left him.

 

I know of a man who was on dating websites looking for dates TEN MINUTES after he and his gf broke up.

[CopingGal]

I said I wouldn't talk to you any more on here. I've been only coming to this thread to see what other people say and respond. But today I am here talk to you.

 

I am going to try...TRY to understand what it is like to be born without a conscience. It is my hope that some day I will see you as something other than a worthless bastard who is cruel, stupid, nasty, whorish, and just plain disgusting.

 

I will try to forgive you and have compassion. I don't know if I can. It's hard having compassion for a filthy slut who cheated on me with a stupid, old, trashy, alcoholic tramp...but I will try.

[CopingGal]

Monster,

 

I can honestly say I had more love for you than you ever did for me. Even though I ended things.....who the **** goes out with a girl 2 months after a 3 year relationship. And look at what I am doing. Sitting here still healing from your abusive ass. And to top it all off I have to hear you went and screwed this chick after 4 days of meeting her. Way to go monster. You were my the one I gave my virginity to and you managed to **** that up. I am soooooo glad to be free from the abuse I would take day in and day out from you. I hope that little slut thats dumb enough to date you dumps your ass soon...plus I can't wait to take my time and find the right guy for me so I can have someone tell you I don't "jump on every dick I see"...according to you.

 

 

 

Why is she a slut? She didn't help him cheat on you the way that woman did with my ex. It seems to me like he's the slut.

[Follower]

Well turns out i still really miss you, so much for the big MO i thought i had turns out it was just a phase...

 

I really want to contact you and talk about stuff, anything, just want to be connected to you in some way shape or form, but alas i musnt you dont want to talk to me.

 

I just wish things could be different... I really wish we could have another shot at the relationship.

 

Still Loving you is a real pain in the ass sometimes.

[Follower]

Monster,

 

I can honestly say I had more love for you than you ever did for me. Even though I ended things.....who the **** goes out with a girl 2 months after a 3 year relationship. And look at what I am doing. Sitting here still healing from your abusive ass. And to top it all off I have to hear you went and screwed this chick after 4 days of meeting her. Way to go monster. You were my the one I gave my virginity to and you managed to **** that up. I am soooooo glad to be free from the abuse I would take day in and day out from you. I hope that little slut thats dumb enough to date you dumps your ass soon...plus I can't wait to take my time and find the right guy for me so I can have someone tell you I don't "jump on every dick I see"...according to you.

 

You sit there still and try to pin stuff on me like I did all these different types of things wrong like I am stalking you on the interenet. Hey buddy now if you post something about my sister apparently being a slut online..obviously you don't deserve privacy.

 

You sit there in your own little world and think that you're perfect and that you have nothing wrong with you when you, your brother, and your father are all ****ing controlling *******s. I feel so sorry for the gullible girl who falls for your **** and marries you because shes in for hell. The sad part is I will never be able to figure you out and understand how you can treat someone you love so damn much like ****. You're ****ed up in the head monster and you have no sence of true love...you care about nobody but yourself. I have let you back into my life numberous times and you chose to hurt me and...get this....including my families trust to the point where we are about to call the cops on you. You know what you are in the pits of your soul.....a monster. It's not your fault...you were raised that way. I know you don't wanna be that way but it comes too naturally to you. One can only change if he wants to. So go on and blame me for this relationship ending....when truly you're at fault.

 

The sad part is I can never hate you no matter how much you hurt me....I am just not that kind of person...I wish I could...I will always love you and forgive you because I know it'll benefit me...even though you hurt me like the monster you are. I wish to never speak to you and never see you again. You were right..you never deserved me. I can see why you were so scared to lose me...because you knew you were treating me like **** deep down inside.

 

As Marilyn Monroe once said:

“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

 

SO **** YOU.....AND HAVE A NICE LIFE ASHOLE!

 

P.S. Hope you're stuck in that factory job for the rest of your life =)

 

With a few minor changes thats exactly how i imagine my Ex Would talk to me.. Makes me feel like a horrible person :'(

[robkris8079]

this is in response to a text she sent me last night . . .

 

 

Your right, I don't want to talk to you. You want to be friends? We had this conversation all the time when your bro and his gf split. We asked how they can be friends, hang out and even sleep over each others houses. We both agreed it's something we can't do. I don't know about you, hell I don't feel like I even know you anymore, but I can't and don't want a friendship with you. I have enough friends.

 

After 5 years of being in a relationship and us living together you want to be just friends? Thanks but I'll pass.

[MissStackhouse]

oh, hello ex!

 

Remember all those times you said that were worried and concerned that you weren't "big enough"?

 

ummmm yeah - you have every reason to be concerned.

 

Oh what's that? Ok yeah but remember I can lose 15 pounds, but you'll always have a teeny tiny P*ni$

 

Have a nice day and LOL !!

[Itsonlyme66]

Thought I'd mention that since you left, my 8 styrofoam cups of rum and coke a day, starting at around noon, has significantly dropped down to 2 or 3 a day, and is still dropping. I'm drinking bottled water, and guess what!

I am going to the gym 5 days a week! I'm tanning, and I am feeling better every day. The pack-a-day cigarette habit is also dropping. I'm down to a 1/2 pack now and that's soon going to be ZERO. I know I can do it!

 

I'm not walking on eggshells anymore! I figured out why I had those hot flashes too! It was because of the alcohol! I never knew that. Now I do and I'm sleeping so much better. Guess it wasn't menopause after all! LOL

 

Wish you could see me now. I'm toning up, getting that nice dark italian skin, and I'm smiling more.

 

Do I miss you? Every day. But I don't miss being mocked when I would cry. I don't miss being told to shut up and leave you alone. I don't miss being deliberately ignored, nor do I miss you leaving for hours and days when we would argue. I sure don't miss waiting for the other shoe to fall anymore or being called names and threatened with abandonment, or hearing about how miserable you are with your job(s), that you hate your career, that you don't have enough money, or being neglected. Imagine someone's idea of affection is truly grabbing a woman's tit.

wow.

 

I do miss our laughs and your jokes. You are truly pro comedian material and nobody else makes me laugh like you did. I also miss our talks of the future, and feeling your body next to mine whether on the sofa watching a movie or just in bed cuddling (which we didn't do enough). I miss your chicken caesar salad. I miss your dimples tremendously and the sound of your voice. I miss your smell. Yeah, I do.

 

I hope someday you'll contact me to see how much I've improved. But I'm doing it for me, not you. I just don't want to be remembered the way you told me you would remember me. I may have faltered and fallen, but I'm back up now, and the way I was at the end was not who I am, or ever really was. And it's not who I'm destined to be, either.

 

I wish we could bring out the best in each other but it's hard - like I always said - when only one person is trying. For 6 years, on and off, I heard that you could give a f*ck whether or not we made it, so I guess this doesn't phase you.

 

I know you're with someone else. I just KNOW it. But it's not my concern. My only responsibility (and this is debatable) is telling her what to expect after the honeymoon period, but it's your life, and her choice, and frankly, I know she wouldn't listen to me. She would say I was jealous, and you would tell her I'm a bitter psycho ex. I wouldn't believe me either. She is just going to have to go through her own lesson.

 

Still, I miss you every day. you were my best friend for 6 years and I loved you.

[SilverBlueAndGold]

this is in response to a text she sent me last night . . .

 

 

Your right, I don't want to talk to you. You want to be friends? We had this conversation all the time when your bro and his gf split. We asked how they can be friends, hang out and even sleep over each others houses. We both agreed it's something we can't do. I don't know about you, hell I don't feel like I even know you anymore, but I can't and don't want a friendship with you. I have enough friends.

 

After 5 years of being in a relationship and us living together you want to be just friends? Thanks but I'll pass.

 

 

Go you!!!

[jennisfora]

i agree with silver, Rob. Good for you! Why be friends with someone who thinks they can walk in and out of your life? What I want in a friend: 1. being steadfast, 2. caring, 3. loyal, 4. non judgmental, 5. empathetic.

 

i think she fails the being steadfast, loyal, and caring (if she cared about you should would have tried to make it work.)

[mike5770]

Hey you remember me? Yeah its mike I see you haven't returned my call or text. I'm sure that's all my fault. How dare I tell you I was disappointed when you decided to blow me off for a week then send me a text to not come to visit. I mean you have only been telling me for two months how you can't wait to see me...how your mom. kids brother all love me and how your life is great with me in it. How dare i object to that. I mean its not like u led me on or anything. I deserve it I am just not good enough for you with a successful business, loving easy going personality, cool hobbies, funny, a million friends, not good enough for Lisa. U are attracted to men like ur ex who goes on the internet and screws anything with a pulse while u are home. A guy who cut off your money so now u have to live with your parents. I bet when your kids decide to paint the fridge your mom will say how bright u are by dumping me. Good luck finding a man to walk in to a situation with three kids no job no house and a psycho ex. U won't find many volunteers for that. I wish u well ur gonna need it!

[jen_r]

I don't know why you were trying to contact me earlier this week, but I'm sure you were just curious to see if I was dating ppl yet. If I had given you the time of day and actually responded to you - I would have lied. I would never tell you the truth since all you did was lie to me. You are selfish. You ignored me for months when I was asking for answers and then you just expect me to answer you? You treated me like SCUM. And whenever I asked you why you treated me that way, you ran from the question - like the little boy that you are. I'm sure you loving your bachelor life right now, so leave me alone and stop trying to pry into my life. You're not a part of it anymore and you deserve to know nothing.

[msfreebyme]

Why is she a slut? She didn't help him cheat on you the way that woman did with my ex. It seems to me like he's the slut.

 

 

haha very valid point...that made me laugh...he is a slut...he did the same exact thing last time I ended it with him.

[msfreebyme]

With a few minor changes thats exactly how i imagine my Ex Would talk to me.. Makes me feel like a horrible person :'(

 

I am sorry you feel that way...at least you can admit your faults, move on and grow

 

sadly my ex may never admit how he really is.

[msfreebyme]

It happens. My ex started dating WITHIN THE WEEK. And I hadn't even left him. He only thought I did. The second time, my ex was already cheating when I left him. He proposed marriage 5 months after he met her and 3 months after I left him.

 

I know of a man who was on dating websites looking for dates TEN MINUTES after he and his gf broke up.

 

 

I am sorry for your troubles. I know I could of had it worse but for my first love to hurt me like that...and apparently call her better than me. It burns.

[coltsfan1]

Love getting it in, but sure hate that you aren't a part of it. I wish we could decorate the master bed/bath room. I sure miss my friend sometimes.

 

But hey my new lady can pick the stuff out instead. You would be here if you wanted to be.

[SilverBlueAndGold]

It happens. My ex started dating WITHIN THE WEEK. And I hadn't even left him. He only thought I did. The second time, my ex was already cheating when I left him. He proposed marriage 5 months after he met her and 3 months after I left him.

 

I know of a man who was on dating websites looking for dates TEN MINUTES after he and his gf broke up.

 

Sheesh. My ex was out getting picked up by cougar hunters within a week, not sure if that counts as dating. I pity her because she thinks giving herself away is going to make her happy but we both know it will end up just making her feel shallow and used once the thrill wears off.

 

I don't even feel like talking to any women let alone getting on a dating site.

[robkris8079]

in response to another text I received . . .

 

No way in hell I will let you talk to my kid. She is hurting and healing over this just as I am. What is the point for you to talk to her now? You are not a part of her life anymore. All it would do is bring back more pain and sadness for her. Especially when the point comes when you talking to an ex bf's kid does not work for YOU anymore. Which that will happen!!! Just leave my family alone. You were done with us and made it obviously clear the last two weeks you lived in our house. You didn't just act different toward me and avoid me. You avoided and acted different toward her too. So basically you just want to relieve your guilt for this? Well find another way because using my kid so you don't feel like **** is not going to happen. She is my number 1 priority. Always has and always will. You knew that when we started dating and I never led you to believe otherwise all the way until now, over a month post BU. Have a good day and life!

[jennisfora]

Rob, I told my ex he could stay in my son's life, because he is the only father figure he has known, if anything were to happen between us...so when he broke up with me, he said, oh he is only three, he'll forget me, and my son hasn't seen him since. i wonder how he could just walk away like that, especially since his father abandoned him as a child. i guess maybe that has something to do with it. still, the fact she actually is curious, i wish he had that. my son misses him so much. anyway, i understand, it is tough when are kids get their heart's broken with us. *hugs*

[robkris8079]

If I truly believed she would stay a part of my daughters life it would be one thing. It was a month before she mentioned her and only asked my brother about her. Also my brother said she didn't sound like she really cared. Then only other thing about my kid was this one text. My ex is hot and cold, on and off as she would say. I do not see her being around for my kid even though she helped raise her since she was 1 year old. Especially when a new man comes into her life and she is wanting kids of her own.

[dsw31]

Even though I hate you,I wish you would love me again.No wait...F*ck You!!

[Greekman]

Ugh I forgot about that one. Another day another set-back. One day....Oh, and I miss talking! Booo. That sucks. Your voice makes me smile. So one less smile a day. I miss that one.