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[msfreebyme]

I don't think he's a man whore. I think he's just a whore, period!

 

haha welp I like to call him a man whore because well for one thing when we were dating he used to say if I ever broke up with me that he was going to become a man whore.

[msfreebyme]

he used to say if I ever broke up with me.

excuse me I meant to say "If I ever broke up with him" lol

[CopingGal]

I don't like myself when I'm angry at you. You bring out the worse in me. One reason why I keep NC going is so I don't call you names in emails and over the phone: whore, disgusting slut, worthless, worthless whore, sick and twisted, stupid bastard, dysfunctional bastard, and just plain bastard. So I remind myself to keep NC going. I don't want to insult you any more to "your face." It's too cruel. But you are, and forever will be, a worthless whore and a skankish bombaclot.

 

F you and have a nice day

[CopingGal]

Before you I had never experienced dating a worthless bastard. Thanks for the lessons. It's good that I know what to stay away from. I never knew there were actually worthless people in this world. Thanks for enlightening me.

[jennisfora]

you texted me at 5 30am saying "still?"

 

not sure what has changed, but yeah, i guess i will continue to do NC until i feel i can handle rejection, or no response. when i dont get an anxiety attack if your name appears on my cell. when i saw the text, it made me feel good that somehow you thought of me, and couldnt resist reaching out. but, i cant reply, because i still have nothing to tell you, and feel like i still have some work to do on my end. besides, i have no idea what you want. you said we cant be friends because of what we had, and you dont wish to reconcile...so, unless something has changed on your end, i dont know what we would talk about?

 

still, if i feel i can handle it, and that it wont be a big deal, i would love to catch up. but it wont be until i feel i am ready. when that will be, i really have no idea. i am taking it day by day, and have no set time. i wish i could tell you all this, but i know if i did, you would be afraid, and tell me the same BS about how much you need to be alone. responsibility is scary. im a single parent, i know all about it. it is scary when you know someone is depending on you to be there, and count on you to do the right thing, and to think of them before you make big decisions. and, it isn't something i can run away from, because he has no one else, and i love him with all my heart.

 

you are free to run, i like to think you loved me, but, i dont know anymore. i know you certainly werent thinking of me or my boy when you bailed, so, i cant concern myself with any pain you are going through now. take care. *hugs & kisses*

[cherries1]

I hate this feeling! I broke up with you because I wanted you to be with someone who really cared for you, stop sending me weird messages in your status like I'm in the wrong, you idiot! And I can't stop checking for them so constantly because I FEEL SO FRAKING ALONE. I GOT NOBODY TO TALK TO. AND YET YOU THINK I'M ALL HAPPY AND ALRIGHT.

 

Well I am not...

[daisy088]

I am packing up all of my stuff from my house today and I am moving back home tonight for the summer. The last time I saw you, you were drunk and said some callous, cold stuff about never having really loved me, about knowing we would end, about how I am not the girl you had a future with. When you said I wasnt the girl you wanted to marry it broke my heart. And when you asked me if I felt in love with you and wanted a future with you, I honestly (embarrassingly) told you yes.

 

I keep finding all this stuff from the beginning of our relationship. Or just things which keep reminding me of the times that we were happy together. You have not contacted me once since you saw me that night and stormed off home alone. You haven't initiated contact with me once since you admitted "yeah" when I asked if you wanted to break up. Not once. Not even when you knew I had to leave town because of how heartbroken I was.

 

I keep blaming myself. I keep feeling so much regret, guilt, wishing I had done things differently, wishing I had been better. Despite what others have told me in the past- I know that youre happy. You are always updating you statuses about exciting things youre doing, being photographed smiling, with friends, going out, partying. You even accidentally let it slip "I hope that youre as happy as I am" when I ran into you a week ago.

 

I dont understand how you went from living with me, loving me, kissing my forehead every morning before heading to work, us telling each other we loved each other, head on my chest while you fell asleep- to flipping a switch and not caring one bit. Why were you unwilling to work through this with me? Why did things change so much? Why didn't you tell me you weren't actually in love with me and knew our relationship was going to end and why did you lie and say you wanted to be with me forever? Why didn't you tell me the truth all along? Why did I have to be the one to ask YOU if you wanted to break up?

 

I am so broken hearted. I am leaving and I know it is likely I will never see you again as I am going one place and you are going another. I have so much to tell you but you dont care to hear it. I have so much to yell at you about, I wish I could scream at you. You left me when I needed you most. You are not the person I thought that you were. But I still love you anyway. I am sad that I will probably never hear from you again. I am sad that that is the last image I have of you in my mind. I am sad that you dont feel anything for me. I am sad I made mistakes. I am just really really sad right now and wish more than anything for you to hold me and pet my hair the way you used to.

[xenomorph]

I'm coming closer to "never again".

 

If you had been honest with me about what really happened, this whole process would have been easier. I can accept someone falling out of love and moving on, but I can't accept being treated so terribly.

 

You have no idea how loving and understanding I can be. You chose to demonize me and drag me into the ground to make it easier on yourself since you already established a nice, cushy landing pad back home, complete with a mommy to stroke your ego, and a spare vagina to stroke your impotence.

 

Hope those "marital aids" you remembered to quickly grab in your first round of packing are helping you out, because I'm certain the guilt has been the cause of your recent "issues". Maybe you'll figure that out some day.

[Gemster]

Ugh, I was doing soooooooo well. And then I saw your post....and her....on Facebook.

 

I thought I was actually starting to let you go. I've not replied the second you texted, I was the first one to say "I have to go" on the phone, I'm even able to go long periods of time without thinking about you.

 

And one post on Facebook brought me to my knees....you're going on a date....and she is fricking gorgeous!

 

You're my best friend....I am hopelessly in love with you...and you don't love me back. The pain is unbearable right now!

[xxSRMxx]

Got into BCU today..... I know you know this because you saw my status and liked it.

 

I cried when i found out because it was the happiest thing to happen to me since you decided to leave me, yet still part of me wanted to pick up the phone and share my good news with you, I know youd have been pleased, wed have probably gone out this weekend to celebrate. Luckily im going out with my friends next week for a celebratory dinner. wish you were there.

 

Wish i could make everything better, wish you could feel sad without me, but truth is u are happy being single and having freedom and im just pretty miserable.

 

Onwards and upwards.

[CopingGal]

Thought about how very badly you treated me and then treated the ones after me so much better. It makes me very angry. But I take responsibility for staying in the relationship. I thought the therapist would help us. I can't believe you played "make-believe" in therapy and only pretended to take it seriously. What kind of worthless bastard pretends to take couple's therapy seriously and sits there and lies to the therapist over and over again? You are the most twisted person I've ever known. You are truly twisted and mentally ill.

 

The only men that live life by the motto, "while the cat's away, the mice will play" are men that are stupid, childish, evil, and are waiting in the wings to take advantage of someone. I remember when you said that to me. You wanted to take advantage of the person you were living with and do something behind their back. You are pathologically childish...so much so that you should sleep in a crib. Do yourself a favor and embrace your lies. Be one with your lies. Honor yourself by sticking a pacifer in your mouth and keeping it there. Keep the lies inside...be one with the lies. Honor thy binky!

 

I'm so lucky to be away from you. It must be hard getting dumped by women every 4 months. I was the fool who stayed with you off and on for 3 years. Others are smarter and kick you to the curb much, much sooner. I can't believe you lied to me about so many things. I can't believe you lied to me about the mice in your apartment. I can't believe you lied in therapy- again and again. I can't believe you lied about the superbowl party. I can't believe you lied about loving me, about being with your autistic son when in fact you were in the process of cheating on me, and more lies. You should register your lies with the Copyright Office at the Library of Congress. Then you should auction off your lies. I'm sure plenty of cheaters would marvel at your creative lies and want to pay top dollar for permission to use them.

 

It's sad when a person who is incapable of telling the truth goes around telling people they are "a straight shooter," "a good man," and "a marytr." It's very sad that you lie so much you actually believe your own lies. And it's sad that you are proud of your impulsivity, no matter how much your impulsive behavior brings extreme pain to other people. You have poor insight into your behavior and poor judgment. You can't keep an apartment and you will never be anything more than a glorified sandwich maker and a fool...even though you claim to have a college education.

 

You live a very stupid existence. I feel your life on earth is nothing but a big joke. Your ex-wife hates you. Your siblings hate you. My housemate hates you. And I hate you. I'm sure there are others.

 

You're a man who is hated and disliked by women...women who can't get away from you fast enough. You are a failure at relationships. You are a failure at life. You are a failure at anything more than being a sandwich maker. But most of all, you are a failure as a human being. You're foolish. You're buffoonish. You're disgusting and you're stupid. You're the only person I know whose funk enters a room before they do. You're the only person I know who acts like there is a national shortage of soap. You whine, you have problems paying your rent, you don't respect boundaries, your sports career is over, you can't keep a woman happy, you're incapable of telling the truth on a regular basis, you're a slut, and you're a sick, pathetic, evil, disgusting, has-been.

 

Thank goodness I am not saddled with you. Nobody wants you because you are a punk.

[SilverBlueAndGold]

Ugh, I was doing soooooooo well. And then I saw your post....and her....on Facebook.

 

I thought I was actually starting to let you go. I've not replied the second you texted, I was the first one to say "I have to go" on the phone, I'm even able to go long periods of time without thinking about you.

 

And one post on Facebook brought me to my knees....you're going on a date....and she is fricking gorgeous!

 

You're my best friend....I am hopelessly in love with you...and you don't love me back. The pain is unbearable right now!

 

Get that off of Facebook pronto! Block, unfriend, do whatever you have to but you owe it to yourself to prevent future blindsides like that.

 

[LadyLost]

And so there you are. Seemingly all sorted. So keen to support me as a friend. A good listener cause you 'care'.

 

I hate that you are ok without me

I hate that you think we can just be friends

I hate that you are with your wife

I hate that you have ruined my life, shrugged your shoulders and walked away.

I hate you. I want to scream it out loud and in your face. LEAVE ME ALONE to pick up my own pieces. The damage is done. There is no more you can do. Go back to your life, and your cosy family and leave this mess behind. You are worthless and a liar and you let me down. Please, please now go away.

Edited May 9, 2012 by LadyLost

[Phanpooh]

Happy late birthday, this gift is the best thing i could give you, "a space you wished for long time ago" chin up and enjoy your own life ^_^

[msfreebyme]

I'm smiling right now...I really am. I have come to a spontanious realization through thinking and my time to myself and have the storm in my heart and stomach and brain have calmed. I am really letting go...I never thought I would see the day...I count the 12th of every month as a happy anniversay as my freedom. My aunt asked me about you today and I smiled and started laughing at the thought of you in my life. She asked if I was seeing you. I blurted out "NO.....its just so funny the idea of seeing you again". You were such a negative energy and I will be so glad to let you go to make room for happiness in my life and someday...my real love of my life and best friend.

Have a good life and good luck Monster...you're gonna need it with the fact you have your drug addicted brother to look up to who is also controlling and his high school sweetheart dumped him. Also I do hope that you change for the better someday even though you won't because I wish my experience with you upon no other.

 

If I need to say more I'll let you know. Until then

 

I'm done =)

[msfreebyme]

Thought about how very badly you treated me and then treated the ones after me so much better. It makes me very angry. But I take responsibility for staying in the relationship. I thought the therapist would help us. I can't believe you played "make-believe" in therapy and only pretended to take it seriously. What kind of worthless bastard pretends to take couple's therapy seriously and sits there and lies to the therapist over and over again? You are the most twisted person I've ever known. You are truly twisted and mentally ill.

 

Amazon.com: In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People (9780965169608): George K. Simon Jr.: Books

 

You should read this...it cleared so much up for me. But My god at least you got him to therapy. My ex wouldn't even go because aparently he didn't want to lose the ability to have his gun license....Who In The Hell Should Give That Kid A Gun? He needs lots a therapy more than a gun. But my ex was a big liar too....he even lied the night I broke up with him. Hes pathetic. Lied all the time. I feel your pain.

[CopingGal]

I'm smiling right now...I really am. I have come to a spontanious realization through thinking and my time to myself and have the storm in my heart and stomach and brain have calmed. I am really letting go...I never thought I would see the day...I count the 12th of every month as a happy anniversay as my freedom. My aunt asked me about you today and I smiled and started laughing at the thought of you in my life. She asked if I was seeing you. I blurted out "NO.....its just so funny the idea of seeing you again". You were such a negative energy and I will be so glad to let you go to make room for happiness in my life and someday...my real love of my life and best friend.

Have a good life and good luck Monster...you're gonna need it with the fact you have your drug addicted brother to look up to who is also controlling and his high school sweetheart dumped him. Also I do hope that you change for the better someday even though you won't because I wish my experience with you upon no other.

 

If I need to say more I'll let you know. Until then

 

I'm done =)

 

Thanks so much. I have felt your pain to when I read your posts in this forum. But you know, while I did let out a lot of pain in that post...it made me LAUGH! I read it 4 times the night I posted it. I just laugh and laugh at the crib part and the pacifier part...and the last sentence. I just laughed and laughed.

[LadyLost]

I need you to understand, I am struggling. Properly, properly struggling. I will get through this. I just need some time. I am not coping well with life right now. You cannot help. You walked away. I am totally alone and you have other priorities now. You must look the other way.

[jennisfora]

i still miss you. and, i know you miss me too. i got your text at 5 30 am, still? one word, i didnt reply, but yes, i still need time to heal, i still am not ready to talk to you. unless something has changed, i do not know what the point is. but, i get the feeling you finally see you can lose me. yes, you can lose someone who is in love with you if you reject them enough times. i am not a boomerang, i am not a yo yo. i do not always come back, and i do not put my hand in the fire repeatedly...

 

i learn to avoid pain, to let you go. i still don't want to, and i hope soon i will feel ready to talk to you and maybe we can catch up. but i have to be ready to deal with no expectations and to know that seeing you won't change anything. if you want to come back, you have to say so. i am no mind reader. you have to stop telling me you want to be a lone wolf, have to stop the BS. if you were so content, why are you waiting for me to be ready to talk? why do you want to talk to me?

 

if we have nowhere to go, what is the point? it is not my job to relieve your guilt. it is not my job to make you feel better. if you want me in your life, you have to give me a place in it. i am not going to hang around waiting for you. you have to reach out and really bend over backwards to prove you will never flake on me ever again, because if you do, i will say buh bye, and slam that door in your face, and there will be no way in hell i will ever take a chance on you ever again.

[Coffee20]

Dear J,

you don't even know how many things I wanted to tell you and I did, told you but you just didn't listen or saw my actions.

It has been almost one month since we broke up and I know I will never understand and I know I will never get my answers.

I really wanted you to know that I thought it's you who I was going to marry and it was you whose children I wanted to have. I remember that day I saw you but you ignored me. I remember there were a lot of girls around you and I didn't know how to get your attention.

I really don't understand your call that night before you f me off again. I heard you were crying and telling me you loved me. Then you woke up and changed your mind? Told me you didn't want to see me, and f me off again? And you expected me to come back and begged you again? Was it a game? Do you remember that you were at my parent's house all the time when you had some time for me? And I almost couldn't see your family, but why, did they hate me so much? I introduced you to all my friends and you hated them all......I asked you to introduce me to your friends but you said NO. Do you know how it hurts when I saw your pictures where you were with your friends and their girlfriends and you were alone? What did you tell them? That your gf doesn't like to hang out or you don't have a gf?

Remember that time I wanted to be with you and have fun so I asked you whether we could meet earlier than in the evening? And do you remember how did make you angry? And do you remember you told me later THERE IS no fun with me although I wanted to play tennis, ping pong, swim, watch films, make trips, skate, cook or whatever and when I asked your answer was MAYBE LATER? Was it a game again?

Do you remember how you told me you don't want any sex because I don't deserve it, I tolerated your decision and gave you space and then you told me in front of my classmates: "it's a pity you aren't so sexual". Do you know what you want????

I waited for you to come and plead me at least once (do you know how many times I tried to fix our relationship, how many times I just went out of my house and run to you to tell you sorry for your mistakes, and do you know how much time I gave you and you were always the number one?).

I guess you forgot all the cruel things you did and abusive words you used.

I thought I forgave you, but there is no way for me to forgive you. I just can't understand what you did to me this Monday, did I see real you? You put all the guilt one me and in a calm voice you were able to say that you are a very nice and moral guy and I am bad. You forgave yourself everything, I remember your question and here are my answers (why couldn't I go with a girl out if she invites me - I was your gf why should you date another?, why should I pay for you, when I invite you - because you invited me and hey you forgot that you were invited a lot of times by me and I brought you small gifts , I brought you a small chocolate and you weren't even happy - you bought me a small chocolate after 5 months and yes I WAS VERY HAPPY, I hugged you, kissed you and thanked you, did you just forget?).

So I can't understand....so these three things made you angry? We had so many fights about completely different and more important things that those just made me laugh.

And then you told me I want your money? Oh honey just tell me when I asked for them??? I have never wanted your money, I wanted your love.

One week ago I was walking through the school and I heard in whisper: "look at her that's the bitch" I don't know what you told all your friends but I felt like a complete crap. I have never asked for material things, money, gifts, etc, I almost never let you pay for me, when I needed your help you weren't there, when I wanted to have fun with you, you didn't want, when I wanted to be intimate you didn't want for many reasons you were nervous, then tired etc...You change your mind very quickly all the time.

Your friend is looking for you.....that friend you thought I would cheat you with. Why did you avoid him? Deleted him from your life? He has never said a bad word about you!!!! But you were very vulgar towards him. He still likes you and wants to play tennis with you. But you hate him now. Do you know what friends do you have? I spoke with some of them. Do you want to know what they say about you? Do you still think that they are your real friends???

On Sunday I would still think that I am really sorry that it had to end it like this, I love you and miss you and need you...but now I have to say I should be happy, I still think about you but I don't love you, I hate you. You treated me like a crap, abused me with your words and made me feel ugly. I don't want to see you or hear your voice anymore.

I still feel like crying but this time not because I miss you but because I let you to walk over me.

I know well you don't care and miss me or love me because you have never done it.

I would like to wish you well but I can't, I don't wish you bad though.....

Regards to your family, because I really liked them all, they were very kind to me.

Hope not to see you because I will never say "hi" anymore.

[jennisfora]

couple more texts, and you want to meet up..but no word on reconciliation, just regret, you want closure (hey, you dumped me!! wtf!!) and forgiveness...

 

forgiveness i can give, the closure? i dont think i can give that, but im for meeting if it will help you. i am going to try my darndest to not make any silly assumptions or hope anything comes of it. if it is closure, maybe seeing me one last time will do it, and i wont hear or see you again. i cant make you want to be with me, and i am not going to try. i am going to wing it, and just try to have a good time, and have one more memory and let it go. if you want to try again, you will have to bring it up, and you will have to convince me that it is a good idea...it would be a risk, and i am not sure either way. i would love to try again, but i dont want to get hurt again. plus, i dont want you to take me for granted, or to assume, you can come and go out of my life like that. i have a kid to think about, who still asks for you.

 

i dont know if i can get past you bailing on me. but, it is a moot point until you actually say you want to try. until then, i am going to assume you don't. because anything else is just wishful thinking. i wish you luck with your training, i hope you think of me.

[JeannieD]

T -

 

You sent me an IM at four in the morning to tell me that "my book was just part of a collection". LOL, all that tells me is that you're an *even bigger* loser with *even more* time on your hands than I originally thought. And your book? You don't even rate a chapter.

 

[Gemster]

Get that off of Facebook pronto! Block, unfriend, do whatever you have to but you owe it to yourself to prevent future blindsides like that.

 

 

 

I blocked him today. I hovered over that darn button for about 20 minutes...but I did it!!! The only problem is that we have so many friends in common, I know he will show up in someone else's picture...probably with her.

 

I should have done it a long time ago. I can't have another set back like this again...since I've actually made some progress, I thought it wouldn't hurt as much....wow, I was wrong. Knife through the heart kind of wrong.

 

So tonight I'm going out with some girlfriends to try and keep my mind off of him being out with her. Wish me luck!!!

[marsha80]

Oh, and BTW, I know you cheated -- the BIGGEST reason why I didn't give a rat's ass about anything afterwards. I NEVER cheated on you. EVER.

[marsha80]

(wow, this is cathartic!)

 

 

I also want you to know that if I had met you now (instead of back then), I wouldn't have been remotely interested in a second date with you. The biggest reason being how you've changed... you're someone I don't recognize anymore. You were a much better man back then. That makes me sad to learn, but also helps me move on A LOT faster! And, yes... I was dishonest when I agreed that I, again, felt something more for you. The reality is that I wanted the easiest route to walk away from you... i've made my (many) mistakes, and you've spared me... I though it would be best to reciprocate. You will never know the real me. As sad as that is, I have always felt (and still do) that not everyone deserves a front row seat to ones life... least of all someone like you.