no_more_tries Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 BigBear, your ex and my ex sound like a great match. :/ Cold. Irresponsible. Wants a fairytale with no effort. Take credit when they had no hand in it. GAH! Link to post Share on other sites
BigBear Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Yes no_more_tries, I am starting to get the impression we all dated / were married to control freaks. We are the communicators, that's why we're here. They don't know how to communicate, which probably means they don't know what they want either. They knew what they didn't want, but throwing that away rather than trying to fix it doesn't get you closer to what you DO want. I feel the hurt of you all, but we will pull through it. Go meet people, get out, exercise. Do ANYTHING but sit there and pine over him/her. They didn't treat you with respect, they gave up on you. Don't give your life over to them. You all deserve better. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
no_more_tries Posted June 23, 2012 Share Posted June 23, 2012 Today things are hitting me hard. I don't know why. I feel powerless, and sad... and confused. I know this will pass. It has to. I drove around aimlessly today, just drove. No destination. No purpose. I wonder if there is any moment when you think of me. I know you've kept yourself extraordinarily busy because that's what you do when you run. You keep your mind so muddled with chaos, that nothing sincere and painful can linger for long. Its one of the things I admire about you, even though it is one of the things that created such difficulty in conversing with you. I wish I could do what you do. I wish I could just flip a switch at a moments notice, and pretend real life away. But that's not who I am. I feel, and reflect, and use what I learn to change if need be. How many tears can fall for you? How many more can I possibly have left? And why, today, are they falling so easily? Link to post Share on other sites
chelsea2011 Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 How can you be done with me so easily? I feel like a snack wrapper. Why wont you contact me.... Not laughing at you Norse, but at what you wrote...lol! Snack wrapper..too funny. Link to post Share on other sites
DuchessKaye Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 I ain't even mad... You don't deserve any emotion from me... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
no_more_tries Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 I went out with a great friend tonight. She reminded me how to laugh! We had a great time, and even though you came up, it was mostly a "**** you!" scenario while we both realized there are better things out there (she's been burned, too, you know). I'd forgotten how to smile. But we laughed so hard our stomachs hurt, and I was reminded how light and joyful life was before you. i love you with my heart and soul, but i won't be held back by that. you aren't the only option. there's a world out there calling to me, and love beckons. P.S. Eat your damn vegetables. They aren't poison! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 This is a pretty okay weekend. I worked on a puzzle with my roommate while listening to cool jazz. I did humanitarian work today and met some cool people in a chatroom. I read about you last night in a self-help book and today again in the DSM-IV. YIKES, I'm glad I'm away from you...you're a sicko. Okay, this is pretty strange. I didn't put that smile up there. I just appeared on it's own. Hmm, but, okay, I'll take it! Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Yes no_more_tries, I am starting to get the impression we all dated / were married to control freaks. We are the communicators, that's why we're here. They don't know how to communicate, which probably means they don't know what they want either. They knew what they didn't want, but throwing that away rather than trying to fix it doesn't get you closer to what you DO want. I feel the hurt of you all, but we will pull through it. Go meet people, get out, exercise. Do ANYTHING but sit there and pine over him/her. They didn't treat you with respect, they gave up on you. Don't give your life over to them. You all deserve better. I agree with this. I keep seeing the same things over and over again: -controlling -selfish -no remorse And yes, the people who do this don't come here because their coping mechanism is to use another for a rebound person. Link to post Share on other sites
DuchessKaye Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Oh please, stop talking to me. I’m so damn tired of all your issues. Let’s bury this relationship and be done with it. You know I've got things to do, places to go and people to meet. You have a good life. BYE Link to post Share on other sites
CopingGal Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Remember all of those times you pretended to miss me and said you wanted to be with me, but couldn't? Remember you said that you were counting the days until you could see me again? It's hard for me to understand that since you were cheating on me and admitted to staying away from me because you really didn't want to see me. It's hard to understand that you would lead me on for 3 years. Two 1/2 years of play acting...pretending to love me. Oh my God, what would my life have been like if I had stayed with you? Oh my God what a sicko you are. I served some kind of purpose for you and when you used me all up, you became very, very cruel to me. But I'm going to be okay because you are out of my life for good. I never ever have to deal with someone as sick as you ever again. I'm sorry you have a dysfunctional brain, but that is your problem. Wheww, thank God for that trash you cheated on me with. She deserves a metal. You felt soooo cocky because you had her that you revealed the lies to me. And then a few months later, she left your a$$. Then you were back to square one. Then you got a new gf and oh man, you are gonna lie and cheat on her too. Poor thing. You just go around and around in circles never learning anything, you narcissitic bastard. Totally disfunctional and unhealthy. Good looks can only carry you so far, mutha ******! Punk a$$ bitch, f you, you crazy bastard. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 You know how you kept saying that you can't bear to be apart from me for even a second? That you will drown because air is thick and you can't breathe when I am not around? I found out today that you stole that line from a movie! Link to post Share on other sites
DuchessKaye Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Hey you Mr. Ex Boyfriend of the town! I should go to bed so LEAVE ME ALONE! Arrrr... I'm doing fine and having fun without you. No, I'm not picking up the phone. Why would you call me at this time? In the middle of my sleep? Are you serious? So you care now because I don't give a F-CK? Or what? You didn't seem to care the past few weeks while you had whores in your bed. Ugh. I'm too beautiful for your non sense so stay the f-ck away from me. Link to post Share on other sites
DuchessKaye Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Just please stay away... Out of my life! It's better this way, you acted like a jerk and I wasn't impressed. I get it you'd like to believe that we can still start out fresh. But no, you have to face it! I'm done rationalizing and justifying things. I'll just let someone else deal with all your BS. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
BB7 Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 S, You let me down. B. Link to post Share on other sites
Edtheduck Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Put simply.... Damn I miss you and the kids today. Link to post Share on other sites
no_more_tries Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Woke up feeling strong, and clear, and freed! I have a choice in how I react to this situation, and I choose to embrace what I've learned but let go of YOU! I don't need you in my life. I actually don't even want you there anymore. The path ahead is so full of opportunity, and maybe even more without you to hold me back. You aren't good for me. You may be good for someone else eventually, but I definitely became a weaker, sadder person with you around. It feels so good to see this now. It feels so good to wake up without trepidation that you will be angry. It feels good to greet the sun, and not dread the day. It feels good to know I am on the path to victory, and no longer on the path to ruin! It feels good that you are not here! And, it feels good to be me! Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 saw my ex again...i said hello,but she cant look me in the eye...i now have ALL the power back after her silly little games...i even smiled to myself cos there was no feelings for her at all......time heals big time... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 your moustache is growing well now & is more like borat instead of freddy mercury.....cruel i know....but **** you Link to post Share on other sites
Norse Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 You were great but I know I get 3 random girls numbers a day. I don't need you. Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 You were great but I know I get 3 random girls numbers a day. I don't need you. cool...we are healing & they dont mean anything...we are getting there Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 you are so ugly & old ...you are like something out of a hammer film Link to post Share on other sites
Ang.gg Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 (edited) I had a great conversation with my hairstylist at my appointment yesterday. You know, he knows everything about our relationship. He validated all my thoughts and gave me perspective I needed to help me move on. You know what's great? Is for $125 I get my hair done and 2 hrs of therapy. It's so stress relieving. It's unfreakingbelievable! I forgot to mention, and I come out looking hot!! I love what that man does for my hair!! I actually had moments of clarity yesterday that made me feel that weight off my shoulders and heart. It was again stress relieving. I actually thought about you with no emotion and that I would be ok in the end. It was happiness to be rid of the sadness and grieving over you. I WANT more of those moments and I want them to last longer. Edited June 24, 2012 by Ang.gg Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 i will never forget how you treated me....ever...you thought you were better than me...how wrong can you be.....i am imomrtal Link to post Share on other sites
billythefish Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 your mousetache iis now now like something out of MAGNUM Link to post Share on other sites
BigBear Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Hard day. All the progress of yesterday is gone. Spent the day at the amusement park with my son. Should be happy. Found myself just missing you terribly. This is family time, you should be here, its not the same without you. This feels so empty. I can't see ever finding this normal or OK. Link to post Share on other sites
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