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[CopingGal]

Based on all the lies you told, I now think you committed that crime you were accused of. I read some more about your personality. I guess I'm feeling pity. I go from anger to pity, back to anger to pity. I suppose I have made a great deal of progress because before it was just anger all the time.

 

You wander around in this world from job to job, home to home, and girl-friend or boyfriend, to girl-friend or boyfriend, as I suspect you have gay tendencies. You were homeless for much of our relationship. When others would have bailed on you, I stayed. You looked as my compassion and patience as something to be manipulated and boy did you go to town on that. But it's over now. Even if I run into you in my city, it's over now. No matter what woman happens to be your victim, it's over now, at least for me.

 

I happen to know that you are not capable of having a decent, honest, kind and giving relationship because when that happens you literally can't help stepping over boundaries and ruining everything.

 

I can understand why your wife cheated on you. I can understand why woman keep leaving you. I thought you were the love of my life, but I never knew you. I don't know how many women you cheated on me with but I suspect it was more than one. You have no sense of common decency and everything is a game with you. I truly, truly pity you.

 

I will go on to better relationships. You will go 'round and 'round in circles because you are not capable of doing anything else. You're sick and you're always be sick.

 

I feel sorry for you.

[River Rain]

I never realized just how controlling and passive aggressive you are. I also think that you wanted me for sex only, because that seems to be the only time you showed lots of interest in me, when we talked about sex. Otherwise it was just so-so. You're a liar too and you know it. I'm glad I said those things to hurt you because you deserved it. You are a coward, you did string me along, and you definitely don't deserve me. You won't find anyone to put up with your sh*t or to accept your lifestyle. I think you should troll around the "women with major insecurities" forums and find a doormat because that's the only type of woman who will allow you to treat her like she's a part-time hole of convenience. You're a really bad example of a man for your daughter. Your daughter is learning that her father is controlling and passive aggressive, so that's the type of man she'll seek out when she's ready to date since you are supposed to be her role model for a man. Weak coward. Enjoy your cold showers loser.

[CopingGal]

I just keep remembering what I read in several sources, about how sick you are and how your brain is dysfunctional. I feel pity for you. You will never have me in your life again. I feel sorry for you for that too.

[CopingGal]

I'm starting to feel safe again even though you are working in my town and probably living here. I'm glad you did not seek me out. You know I want nothing to do with you.

 

I meant nothing to you. You lied for years, telling me that you loved me. But being sociopathic, you don't fully understand what love is. You don't get it and you will never understand it. You only pretend like you do. That's what sociopaths do.

 

Sociopathic narcissists are just lost. You are lost. I'm starting to feel stronger again and you are lost. It's sad, but that's your life, full of manipulations and always thinking of how to use someone. I really do pity you.

[CopingGal]

I'll pray for you before I go to bed.

[Jingle14]

I never realized just how controlling and passive aggressive you are. I also think that you wanted me for sex only, because that seems to be the only time you showed lots of interest in me, when we talked about sex. Otherwise it was just so-so. You're a liar too and you know it. I'm glad I said those things to hurt you because you deserved it. You are a coward, you did string me along, and you definitely don't deserve me. You won't find anyone to put up with your sh*t or to accept your lifestyle. I think you should troll around the "women with major insecurities" forums and find a doormat because that's the only type of woman who will allow you to treat her like she's a part-time hole of convenience. You're a really bad example of a man for your daughter. Your daughter is learning that her father is controlling and passive aggressive, so that's the type of man she'll seek out when she's ready to date since you are supposed to be her role model for a man. Weak coward. Enjoy your cold showers loser.

 

My goodness, if you weren't in Canada I would swear you were talking about my ex, they sound identical and I could have written - word for word - exactly what you have!

[CopingGal]

The therapist said you didn't love me. She also said you didn't love the woman you were so ga-ga about, the one you cheated on me with, the one you were throwing in my face.

 

You always present something as wonderful, when it really isn't. I'm going to try to no longer get caught up in all the things you said to me when you threw her in my face.

 

When I think about the way you treated me the summer of 2011, it was as if we had never been together off and on for three years. It was as if you had never known me. So much aggression towards me but in a sneaky way. I stayed with you when others would had left and you admitted that. And what thanks did I get? You constantly saying things to hurt me and throwing the woman you cheated on me with in my face? You teasing me because after 3 months after our breakup I didn't have anyone and you did? We were together for 3 years. Why would I go out and get someone after a break up that occurred only 3 months prior?

 

The couple's therapist said not to put any value on what you say. Sometimes I don't. But then I forget and I let your words hurt me all over again. So you slept with a ton of women after we broke up. Big deal. Lots of animals have sex. So what?

 

So you went out and got yourself a mate while still seeing me. Honestly, that is nothing to be proud of. But you are. That's because your morals are so screwed up. You believe in stomping on people when it suits you. I'm glad we are apart because I refuse to date someone who has no morals.

 

You believe it's right to emotionally harm people. That's it's fun, and if they get hurt, well, it's their fault. I wish I had know about your sociopathic tendencies before I started dating you. Thank God for the couple's therapist who set me straight on you.

 

Go on and keep lying. Keep refusing to pay rent and car payments and then lie about them. Keep getting kicked out of apts. and be homeless again. Your dysfunction has absolutely no place in my life.

 

I'm sorry you have sociopathic traits and narcissitic personality disorder traits. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that you need industrial strength therapy and even with that there's probably no hope for you. I can't help you. I don't think anyone can. You will keep going through life causing destruction wherever you go. I'm so glad I am not around that anymore. I never knew that I was dating the devil. But I was. Being with you was a nightmare, but I woke up and did something about it. I wish I could reach out to your other victims, but I won't. All I can do is stay completely out of your life.

 

I feel stronger and safer now. You know where I live, but you won't dare come by. My roommate is serious. If you step foot on this property, he will call the police. Before I thought my roommate was exaggerating. Well now he's very, very serious. My roommate says you are a creep and he hates you. My roommate is the kindest person I ever met. But you drained him of any kind feelings he had towards you...just like you drained me.

 

You are so pathetic. I'm sorry you life is like this. I will pray for you, but that's it. You are a menance to society and you bring lies and manipulation wherever you go. I can't help you. I can't be there for you. I can't reach out to you. I can never, ever had anything to do with you...never, ever again.

Edited October 4, 2012 by CopingGal

[jennisfora]

i still miss you. you wished me happy birthday, and i asked how you were, and you ignored me. now, i feel very sad, and angry. i dont know why after 4 months you reached out, and then ignored me, unless it is some sort of power trip thing? or, maybe you did it out of politeness but then regretted it? i dont know, but id rather pretend you were dead, and dead people don't text. i doubt i will hear from you again, i just have to accept the fact that you dont love me, and probably never did.

 

my son still asks for you too. it sucks all around. some days i hate you. other days, i wish this whole year hadnt happened. but i know ill never get what i lost back. i just dont want to be hurt anymore. *hugs & kisses*

[CopingGal]

I had a day dream today. I thought about us running into each other at the store. I told you I was not mad at you any more, but that I pitied you. I didn't want to have a conversation so I didn't want to take the time to tell you why I pitied you.

 

I was calm. I didn't yell. I didn't scream. I didn't insult you. I just told you I pitited you. I was strong and refused to get into a conversation with you. I hope this really happens if I ever run into you. But I hope I never run into you. When I looked at your pictures some months back, I felt as if I was looking at the devil. I hope if I ever run into you, I will see a person and not the devil. I hope I won't be mad at you. But I won't engage in a conversation with you.

 

I find that the most untrustworthy men are the ones that demand trust. Trust is earned. In my next relationship, I won't be afraid to tell the man I don't trust him if he breaks my trust. If he is a disrespectful boyfriend, I will leave. I don't know why I believed I should stay with a man when he constantly disrespects me. Maybe it's because my father disrespected my mother on a regular basis and she put up with it. But I'm not my mom and I don't have to put up with any constant disrespect from a man ever again.

 

Of course, everyone makes mistakes. But when the disrespect is egregious and keeps happening, it's time to leave.

[radishes]

man i can't believe i got back together with you. how stupid can i be... i actually thought you had changed in a few months. man i sold myself short because i wasn't over you completely. and we just crossed our 4 year mark, and you want to go see and meet new women, because you don't want to settle. you don't want to wonder. wow. and you suggest the same thing for me too. how could you possibly do that while in a relationship with you. you know how i feel, how i still feel, how i will feel.

 

man i really don't want to do this again with you. i don't want to have to feel this way. i hope the future me remembers this, and won't screw up again. but i am strong. I won't lose myself in this.

 

i hope you find what you're looking for. i think i'm doing trying for our relationship. i've done too much work, and you've done too little.

 

but lord know how much i still love you. but its only the second day, it won't be so bad soon.

[msfreebyme]

Wondering what personality disorder you have is a tad bit difficult. It's not the self made diagnosis but the truth behind a sociopath. I came across this idea before. What I can't stand about you maybe being a sociopath is that behind those 3 years of pain...were never love =(

Sociopaths manipulate love to get what they want. I don't know what you wanted out of me... Partnership? Sex? Or someone to emotionally kick around.

 

All I know is all my years of fighting for you to change or that even the crazy idea you loved me in the end..were pointless. You don't think of me, you never cared. This is hard to think about monster when I fought so ****ing hard for you at one point. I guess I was the only one who loved. =(

 

Nothing...I did this all for nothing.

[radishes]

Man... You are one crazy ******* to dump this crazy girl who has always been in love with you. You are crazy for leaving me. I hope you find what you're looking for cause lord knows it won't ever be me.

 

I will NEVER get back with you, because if I do, all I'll think about is how, after you went through choice after choice, you didn't find someone that satisfies you, so I, ME, this WONDERFUL GIRL, will just "do". No I deserve better than that. And you always knew it too. I was stupid to not believe you, to just think you had low self-esteem and needed reassurance.

 

You were my first love, and you will always be. I will never forget that. But I will NOT get back together with you ever. I bet you won't even make that much of an effort to anyways.

[CopingGal]

Wondering what personality disorder you have is a tad bit difficult. It's not the self made diagnosis but the truth behind a sociopath. I came across this idea before. What I can't stand about you maybe being a sociopath is that behind those 3 years of pain...were never love =(

Sociopaths manipulate love to get what they want. I don't know what you wanted out of me... Partnership? Sex? Or someone to emotionally kick around.

 

All I know is all my years of fighting for you to change or that even the crazy idea you loved me in the end..were pointless. You don't think of me, you never cared. This is hard to think about monster when I fought so ****ing hard for you at one point. I guess I was the only one who loved. =(

 

Nothing...I did this all for nothing.

 

I know what you mean. I fought hard for us for 3 years and it was all for nothing. Trips to the therapists, trying to be so patient with him when he didn't deserve it...the pain, the tears, the forgiveness, more forgiveness, more forgiveness, etc. I gave him. And it was all for nothing. He never loved me. He just pretended to. I know what that feels like.

 

Maybe your ex doesn't have a personality disorder. Maybe he just has strong traits of one of more personality disorders like mine does. In the end, I guess it really doesn't matter. If he was cruel to you, didn't take responsility for his actions and has no remorse it's just good to stay away from him...no mater what he has. No remorse is a sociopathic trait. Cruelty and not taking responsibility for actions are traits from that disorder too but are also traits of other personality disorders. Whatever the case may be, we both know like my ex, your ex is very dysfunctional and he does not deserve you.

 

Take care of you.

[CopingGal]

I got off of the dating sites. I put in my profiles I wasn't ready to date, just to talk and form light friendships. But you did so much damage to me, I'm not even ready for that. Damn You.

 

Still, I pity you more and more as time goes by.

[CopingGal]

When you decided to stop pretending to care about me, you became cruel to me. It was as if we had never spent all of those years together. It was as if you were actually trying to erase me. I was already gone from you life, but you kept contacting me with cruel things to say as if you were trying to erase me. The couple's therapist said she doesn't know how your brain works. That's because people who have sociopathic tendencies have different brains than the rest of us.

 

I'm okay with that. I know your brain is defective and I am sorry about that. I'm not sorry for leaving you. I never will be. I am sorry I ever met you and I wish I could sanitize myself. I accept that I can't.

 

I'm going to continue to heal slowlyyyyyyyy. I won't rush it.

 

Years ago before we broke up, my sister told me there was something wrong with your head. She actually told me that. I dismissed it. I should not have. You have a defective brain and it's so sad. Your brain malfunctions and you think it's funny. You do very cruel things and you think it's funny and call yourself a marytr. My roommate thinks you belong in a mental hospital or jail.

[msfreebyme]

I know what you mean. I fought hard for us for 3 years and it was all for nothing. Trips to the therapists, trying to be so patient with him when he didn't deserve it...the pain, the tears, the forgiveness, more forgiveness, more forgiveness, etc. I gave him. And it was all for nothing. He never loved me. He just pretended to. I know what that feels like.

 

Maybe your ex doesn't have a personality disorder. Maybe he just has strong traits of one of more personality disorders like mine does. In the end, I guess it really doesn't matter. If he was cruel to you, didn't take responsility for his actions and has no remorse it's just good to stay away from him...no mater what he has. No remorse is a sociopathic trait. Cruelty and not taking responsibility for actions are traits from that disorder too but are also traits of other personality disorders. Whatever the case may be, we both know like my ex, your ex is very dysfunctional and he does not deserve you.

 

Take care of you.

I know for a fact I did not deserve to ever be treated like that. But through all of that I thought maybe even in the end in a twisted sort of way he loved me and would regret what he did to me. I just felt like "well even though he treated me like **** in a screwed up way he loved me and I loved him". Now I just feel if not even a manipulative jerk could never truly love me....who will? =(

Not feeling too great right now since I guess I fell in love with a imaginative figure in a way. It's a lonely feeling.

[CopingGal]

I know for a fact I did not deserve to ever be treated like that. But through all of that I thought maybe even in the end in a twisted sort of way he loved me and would regret what he did to me. I just felt like "well even though he treated me like **** in a screwed up way he loved me and I loved him". Now I just feel if not even a manipulative jerk could never truly love me....who will? =(

Not feeling too great right now since I guess I fell in love with a imaginative figure in a way. It's a lonely feeling.

 

I know the feeling. I want you to know that you inspire me. When I read your posts I don't feel as alone in my situation because you have gone through some similar things. The couple's therapist told me he did not love me. I thought my ex loved me in his own way. I did not want to believe he did not love me. But I have no choice but to believe her. She's been right about so many things regarding my ex. Besides no person could love me and do all of those things to me. Stay strong. stay strong. You are a worthwhile person.

[CopingGal]

L,

 

As the days go by, I'm getting a little bit stronger and a little bit stronger. I'm not like you. I don't need a relationship to feel worthwhile. On my own I know that I am a high quality person. I'm so proud of myself. I'm lonely and I'm in pain. But I'm strong and I have hope that one day I will be someone who is worthy of me. My problem is that when I meet someone, I stay with them, even if they are not worthy. I don't think that way anymore. I believe in dumping people who don't treat me right. You changed that. You're the reason I feel this way. When I saw how far down I went to scrape the bottom of the barrel and stay with you, everything change. When I realized what a terrible person you were, everthing changed.

 

Now if a guy doesn't respect me or if he isn't nice to me...I'm gone. I don't care about trying to understanding him or being patient with him. I no longer have patience for men who disrepect me and are mean to me. You changed that. One day I might be grateful, but right now I can't be grateful to you. I just can't be. I'm disgusted with you. I think you are a vile, disgusting person. I'm just glad you continue to stay out of my way and out of my life.

[msfreebyme]

I know the feeling. I want you to know that you inspire me. When I read your posts I don't feel as alone in my situation because you have gone through some similar things. The couple's therapist told me he did not love me. I thought my ex loved me in his own way. I did not want to believe he did not love me. But I have no choice but to believe her. She's been right about so many things regarding my ex. Besides no person could love me and do all of those things to me. Stay strong. stay strong. You are a worthwhile person.

Thank you...in a way I kind of feel more detached from him but just sad which I will just get over in time. You do inspire me too. When people around me who have never gone through the tough issues I've gone through and expect me to be okay I just can't talk to anyone I know. On the computer it's nice to know there are a lot of people who have gone through the exact same issues I have and can completely relate to my problems.

[CopingGal]

L,

 

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all the things you did to me not true. I wish I could. I wish I could magically increase your heart to a human size and instill a conscience inside of you, but I can't. I still feel damaged after all this time and I must live through the pain. I don't like it but I can handle it.

 

I imagine some day I will come across you living in the park because the landlord threw you out. I know you feel like rent and car payments are for other people and not you. I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm sorry you are so incredibly sick. I really am sorry.

[not-a-drive-by]

I thought I was starting to do well, but it's more like a cycle now.

 

I still miss you so damn much. Why aren't you back yet? What the hell happened to us? We went through so much to be together. How can you let go so easily? Oh H, I miss you so much. I'm sitting here crying, feeling so weak. I miss you...I wished you felt the same too.

[CopingGal]

Hi idiot,

 

I'm ready to take my life back.

 

F you

[itsmisterheartbroken]

Hey... I can't believe we've actually broken up for over a full week now... I left you because I know you were probably seeing somebody behind my back... which you denied fully. Now guess what? I know you have been spending time with this person and sleeping over his house... Ouch.

 

Two years.. practically three... all for nothing. I loved you so much... Clearly I still do. I for some reason put aside the fact that you cheated on me for your ex. I thought we could defy the odds. I went against what everyone told me, that once a cheater always a cheater. I saw love in you that I thought I wouldn't find anywhere else. I didn't care what anybody said. For awhile we got through it, we fought and fought, but we persevered. Now the joke's on me.

 

Why am I sending you this? I really don't know. What will it accomplish? Probably nothing. I just let you go last week because I felt like if you really loved me, you'd fight for me back. Just like I fought for you repeatedly... but of course not. You're moving right on with your life, without a peep... Where did we go wrong? What'd I do to deserve this? What does he got that I don't? How could you forget me so fast? I guess you're happier now, and you're not sitting around depressed like me... More power to you. I always told you that your happiness meant the world to me... and that hasn't changed, even if it comes at my own expense. Clearly you're doing just fine.. hurts, but at least one of us is okay.

 

I just want to say despite what you've done to me, I just cannot completely hate you. I really thought we would have a great ending, be happily in love for years upon years. I really wish you nothing but the best... I love you so much. I wish I could have been the one to make ya happy.

 

I know I said that you would never find anybody else to put up with you the way I did... and I said that all out of spite. I really do genuinely take it back. I want you to grow old and find happiness that you can keep and take with you all around.

[msfreebyme]

It still hasn't hit me yet. My wait is finally over. All of those months of painfully living in my past...thinking of you...and being depressed with living in drama is over. I am moving. It's been a refreshing 9 months since we ended things. I can't believe how long it's been. Soon enough it'll be a year. Soon enough I'll find the love of my life. It's crazy how life works....moves on. I was tempted to look at your facebook tonight...didn't =). I'm so happy! But ready for bed after packing and getting ready. I've gotta go tomorrow! WOOOHOOOOOOO! **** YEA!

[bonespockirk]

i came into this relationship as an adult that has been through it all before with a deep appreciation for all the good things that are in you. I always wanted to protect you and never hurt you because you have a precious heart. You on the other hand saw nothing in me worth wanting besides my vagina and kindness. I could have accepted you with all your faults and inadequacies and would have still wanted a life with you. Thats rare to find in another person and probably has to be mutual.

 

Good luck with other girlies that you so desperately want to meet because women are cruel creatures. One day you will know just how it feels to be used for all you got only to be disposed of because nothing you have is worth anything to that person.

 

Whatever dude, i was in love for two years, you were not. Life will find a way to make sure you understand this set up one day. Thank you for your hugs and kisses, and closure, it meant a lot to be able to accept that I am not a loved one and never was and never will be, just a special place in your pants... i mean heart.

 

I just feel like one day you will know what you could've had when some bitch uses you and leaves you heartbroken with nothing but a clear idea that you are not wanted by her and never will be.

 

Our breakup is not what hurt, it was the 2 years of unreturned feelings. I hope you understand that you will not be dealing with creatures that think you have a precious heart anymore. You will find out what a jealous selfish needy untrustworthy bitch really is and you will regret thinking of me that way.

 

I will never contact you again or bother you. I would rather love you without you ever knowing it until i find a man who sees joy trust truth life and love in me as well.

 

I dont blame you for not feeling the same way, it just hurts and its a shame.

severed.