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[Buzzkillington]

Hello.

 

I wish I'd never taken the time to talk to you, nearly four years of my life down the drain on someone who really just met someone else.

[vandelay]

I'm so f*cking pissed at you right now.

[IfiKnewThen]

Dear J

 

I just heard you got married 2 days ago. exactly 6 months after our break up. after 10 years together. you were my best friend in life. i wish i treated you so much better than i did. i wish i showed you how happy you made me. i wish you would truly forgive me and trust me. i miss talking with you. i miss praying with you. i miss every single solidtary thing about about you.

 

i hope we can salvage something of our friendship that we had. please J. please talk to me.

 

i do want happiness for you but i need closure. but i also want a new beginning with you. even from out disadvantage point. as real friends....all of us someday. in some measure. please God let that be somehow...please

[Anxiety]

I miss you. I miss going to sleep with your head on my chest. I miss waking up and having your beautiful face be the first thing I see. I miss the way you would look at me. I miss the funny things you would say. Even though I know your not right for me, I want you back so bad.

 

I hope you will talk to a professional to help you get over the abuse you endured earlier in your life so you can learn to trust people again.

 

I love you forever.

[SimonSerenade]

Dear Samantha

 

I geuss I'm still not completely over you, We had so much together and I was your first for pretty much anything and we had our first child together, Life was perfect for me and you and now all of this, Now I don't know what to think.

 

I could forgive you for a lot of things and I could always give you another try should you ask because that's just what you mean to me but the one thing I could never forgive you for and take you back after is if you ever got intimate with somebody else, I was the first person there and was so desperate to be the only one there but should that bond be non existant anymore then the chance of us being again will be rendered the same.

 

I can't imagine myself with someone else in any which way what so ever now your gone, I wish I could replace you but that simply isn't possible cause nobody matches up to you no matter how many "fish" in the sea.

 

Can only wait around like a fool and hope and pray for what I deserve.

[make me feel better]

dear ex best friend,

u suck, ur real immature. instead of working things out you choose to run away. you are selfish. did u even care about how ur actions might affect me? do u realize you've put me through hell these last 4 months? why does it always have to be about YOUR feelings. you've said i didn't pay you enough attention. it wasn't my fault u chose not to be my friend ever time i ask. did you not think that i would be jealous and hurt when u start talking about other guys to me knowing that i've loved you for years. so i don't think you'll even contact me to wish me a merry christmas or happy new years like what we always have done so for the past so many years. i think you've become heartless. u never gave me a reason to why you left. u never gave me closure. i'm still hurting after 4 months.i never lose hope that one day we can work things out and fix our friendship cuz i love you, everything we've been though,done,the memories that last forever, but its hurting me so much. i wish we can sit down, and talk about everything.

[soulm8]

My jaw dropped when I noticed you were engaged to her. Every now and then, out of curiosity, I'd check you out just to see how much longer you'd be "in a relationship with" her... I never expected to see "engaged".

 

I'm happy for you. I'm scared for her. I hope you never hurt her like you hurt me. Love and cherish her Jerry. Don't take her love for granted.

 

I honestly hope you've met your match and never hurt another woman.

[steammachine]

Its been 3 months since my breakup AND 3 months without ANY contact with each other.

 

I have her deleted and blocked on facebook, however on some VERY rare occasions I will search her name in google to see her facebook DP.

 

Well, turns out its the same DP since we broke up. Which is good, gives me a sense of hope that she might still be thinking of me, and that we might be going through the same thing.

 

But then it makes me feel closer to her, and makes me want to contact her.

 

I havent missed her this much in ages. I think its because its christmas and I'm thinking of the little traditions we had when it came to birthdays and christmas.

 

Oh well.

[homebrew]

Dear X,

 

The reason I am contacting you is to tell you that some of the comments I read in here from the people writing to their Exes are beyond hysterical!

 

No, I am not laughing at them... but the insults and the way they are "delivered" are classic!

[IfiKnewThen]

Dear J

 

yesterday i was sad. today i am sad and mad.

 

why were you a mute?????????? you had good smart brain and decent tongue (spoke 2 languages) and still couldnt talk to me???? i thought you had a big heart. why didnt you ever really talk to me? the silence was deafening. i know i made it difficult in the beginning but why was talking to me NEVER an option. all through our relationship you kept your feelings and thoughts hidden. how many times were you laughing at me in your head or hating me in your heart? OMG why didnt you get aggressive and speak up if you were unhappy and be specific about what i needed to change. and then say to me if you dont shape up i am shipping out. you let me believe you were ok ...loved me enough..and then threw me off the cliff with your silent decision.

 

 

 

why did you tell me she would be in town for two weeks on a visit when you were already engaged and planning on marrying her 4 days after we spoke. why did you feel you could never talk to me honestly at any given point?

 

we were such good friends for 10 years. i thought we were friends. i still love the you in yesteryear and yes i blame myself every day. I hope God can help me forgive myself...for every making you feel you couldnt talk to me. i know it was my fault. this is just so unbearable.

[Margot]

Hi Q,

 

I don't know if it's the season, or that it's almost 6 months since you left but today I feel so sad. I feel very lonely. I feel that after our 6 years together I don't even know you anymore.

 

I can't believe how you dare appear at my door on my birthday wearing all the stuff that I liked and gifts that I gave you. Was that some kind of stunt to impress me? Do you think I'm stupid? I saw some pictures of you. And you were just a whole other person from the one that came by my door. What do you want from me? What do you want me to believe?

 

Today is Christmas Eve, and I'm at home alone. Tomorrow I'm going to my parents house, you for the party they throw every year. I hope that no one asks me for you, because I'll be tempted to say that you are an as%&*#hole.

 

I imagine that you are right now with her just after you go to your mother's house. Probably you bought her a present. And I remember all the Christmas we used to spent together and all the cute games you used to do so I can find the gifts. Where that Q went? What happened?

 

I know that our relationship wasn't perfect, and that I made some mistakes. But the differences is that I'm aware of my mistakes and I apologize for them. And you, well, you just deny everything and blamed me for everything. Why you just can't admit that you cheated? I found all the evidence and you just keep denying everything. And the thing that i just can't believe is that you expect me to be your friend or something more than that and act like nothing happen. I just can't believe you.

 

You are a liar, a very manipulative person, someone who expects that he can't get away with anything. Well you are in for a big surprise, because I'm not going to be in your life as you believe, I'm going away and there is no way I can contact you in this standards, in this environment of lies and betrayal.

 

Hope you have a Merry Christmas....and hey Happy Birthday because I'm not going to call you or send you a message that they. You chose to be out of my life and that's what I'm going to do.

[cerridwen]

It will be 19 days since we last had contact. You're sticking to NC better now. Can't deny it makes me feel a bit sad---though it's also the holiday that's making me blue.

 

I miss the Will I made up in my head. He was wonderful--a fantasy (I realize now) but still wonderful.

 

You'll be 30 yrs old in a couple of weeks. You'll probably go to NY to hang out with the fellas. If we were still together, I'd be going out of my mind with mistrust/paranoia. Ahh...the good old days of stress and fear. Forgot them there for a sec, Will. How wonderful this thread is....helps me remember.

[vandelay]

**** you woman

[Leandro]

Hey K,

 

Just wanted to say Merry Christmas. I don't know why I want to say it, oh well. I don't expect a word from you today. I see your true colors too.

[BlindRage]

Thanks for breaking my heart like a piece of crap. Oh and thanks for leaving me for someone you met over ****ing facebook! I'm having a blast hating everything over you while you enjoy your life without any thought of me. I wish you the best!!!!!!! I hope your relationship last and you don't cheat on them how you cheated on me. Take care, adios.

[SimonSerenade]

Merry Christmas Samantha

 

Thanks for the Christmas text this morning, Sorry I couldn't reply with anything more than "nice one cheers", In truth I didn't want to reply but didn't want to seem ignorant on Christmas but don't expect any other replies in the future.

 

It's time like this I miss you the most, I miss what we should be doing right now that it's Christmas day, I just miss you, I miss being everything I was to you and being everything to you, I loved you and gave you all I had, Geuss time's like this I know it's really over and now it's time to get over you.

 

I wish I could of always been your first and only love and always been your first and only time at being intimate, That meant absolutely everything to me but I can't be that selfish, I just pray you find the best you feel you deserve, I hope you don't look back at me in the future and feel sorry for me, I love you deeply but I'll be fine on my own, Hard to believe you could ever want anybody else but I geuss that's life, Time to accept it and move on.

 

It's hard knowing somebody else gets my phone calls now, Somebody else gets what I held close to my heart, Somebody else gets your time and special holidays but I'm happy for you aslong as your happy, I'll miss you.

[Margot]

Hi Q,

 

I can't say Merry Christmas to you because, I know that it may be bad, I want you to feel the pain that I feel inside right now. I believe that today you will be with your family and her. I don't know if you're going to take her with you, but either way that's not my problem. Today is my family big party, I really hope no one asks me about you, because hell I don't know what to say. I can assure that I'm going to get drunk so I don't fell so down.

 

On the other hand, you will 30 next week. Happy birthday. I believe that you will hang out with your friends and that you are going to bring her along. That's the spot I used to fill, and now you use her. Sorry, but I can't say happy birthday to you. You don't deserve it my love. It will only bring more pain to my heart, because no matter what happens is not going to change anything. And for me to feel better I have to believe that I'm in control of the situation. My greetings are going to give an ego boost and I don't want that. I know that I'm not a bad person but you have to understand that I can' t do that. Sorry, thank God I will not be in our country for your birthday because I know that I couldn't deal with the fact that I'm alone at home while you are out there god knows doing what. Bye, and I know that you know that I still love you but as you said once lack of love is not the problem, but hey when you love someone you don't caused them all this pain. That's why I believe that I loved more that you ever loved me.

[vandelay]

Merry xmas, hope that grass really is greener and that you do not catch any STDs or get pregnant. I know you hate that.

[SDA]

I'm writing this letter because we didn't talk since we really broke up all break and I regret that. I'm going back up to school and now I feel like everything between us is over and I can't believe how everything changes in an instant. I wanted to tell you how much I love and care about you and how in love I still am with you. I understood your feelings and thought I respected them well by leaving you alone because I can't just be friends.

 

Like you said this happens with other people you like and how your feelings change out of nowhere and that I was the first person that it was different with and I respected that. But in order for me to completely move on if there is no hope for us anymore, I can't be friends with you. It will hurt too much not being able to say I love you before you go to sleep or let you know how much I miss you while I'm away. It's too big of an adjustment for me because of everything we've been through together and all the great times and bad times we've shared.

 

I understand how difficult the long distance is and that it is very hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I planned to make this next semester easier for you by coming home sometimes to see you and meeting you halfway for dinner or something but I know now that will never happen.

 

If you are truly happy without us being together then there is nothing I will do to break that happiness but if there still is that part that wants to be together I wish you could reconsider and I know how big of a decision it is. You are one of the best things to ever happen to me and I will never ever forget you.

 

As for now being apart is very tough for me and I can't talk to you anymore. It is just how I move on with things in my life and it is my way of getting over you. As much as I don't want too cut you out of my life completely at this time, I have too because it hasn't gotten any easier not being with you, but it is not permanent.

 

I know it is difficult for both of us and if you do want to talk about us or if you really need to talk to me about anything, I will be here for you always and I don't want you to hesitate to text, call, Facebook, or whatever. You said I was the first boyfriend you ever wanted and what I know the first person you've ever loved. And I believe strongly that there is a reason for that. You are my first love and always will be, which makes this so hard but if there is no hope for us I need to do what I have to do because I love you.

 

You won't hear from me but I will listen to you if you need to talk. I will never ignore you and I don't want us to have resentment towards each other. This is just how I heal. Everything we did together made me so happy, you're beautiful, smart, funny, and perfect. I'll miss you so much.

 

I love you always,

[make me feel better]

hi,

 

merry christmas. dont you wish we were spending it together like last year? us waking up together. i bet you're happily buying gifts for your new friends and spending it with someone new. i bet you have completely forgotten about me. 6 more days and won't care about you anymore cuz you've hurt me too much.

[durkadurka]

Hey,

 

I bet this Christmas isn't as good as last Christmas. Yep, your new guy doesn't have a place in Hawaii to take you to.

 

**** you bitch.

[cerridwen]

I was suppose to be there tomorrow. That was the plan--for me to fly to see you the day after Christmas.

It'd be exciting but nerve-wracking. You're so guarded near your family. I hate how awkward it feels.

 

Ah well. Saved myself a boatload of money.

Merry Christmas Will. I miss your Dr. Jekyll---not so much your Mr. Hyde.

[pureinheart]

I want to take this opportunity to let go of ALL of the counterfeits in my life, not just the most recent ex, but all of them. I wish you all peace, joy and happiness, that your days be filled with wonder and amazement of all of the good things that will happen.

 

For all of those that have posted on this thread, I ask that there be no more counterfeits because life is way too short. This is not the day and the hour for wasting time. There is a job to be done, and let what is real, be real and surface.

 

I ask this one good thing for myself and anyone who is in agreement, that the real deal stand up and take your place in my/our life, and when you do, I/we will know exactly who you are.

 

Merry Christmas and goodbye to the past...the worst is over and the best is yet to come:D

[Margot]

Yesterday we had an earthquake and you didn't call to see if I'm okay...Today was Christmas and you didn't call or text... And you had the guts to say that I'm the most important person in your life... Maybe that's what you are saying to her right know. You are so full of it...Thank God I'm not going to be here on your birthday and on new years...

[Sonolumino]

Merry Christmas. Ha! I swear to you, you have done nothing but give me the drive and fire to be the absolute best doctor that I can be. So thank you for that. I will never stop to reach that goal, and I hope you will look back on me as the one who got away. Is that vengeful? Maybe. But yours and mine endless proclamations of "eternal love" seem to not carry much weight anymore do they? And yes, contrary to what you may think, I actually am a human being who felt love for you, and it didn't just die overnight. It died a slow and painful death. I have a right to be pissed off about how you acted. Oh and congrats on telling the new guy you "love" him after 2 months, even though you've known him as a person for 2 months. Incredible how you can switch to "love" that quickly. I know now you never loved me, due to how you acted during the last months we were together and how you acted immediately after, and by telling him that so soon when it's obviously infatuation. I know now that I wasn't special to you at all, I was just another person fulfilling that insatiable "boyfriend need" you have. I wish I wouldn't have been so blind for 3.5 years, but hey if those years mean nothing to you, I bet I can get to a place where they are fond memories of the distant past. I may seem angry writing this, and I am a bit, but I have zero regrets about what happened between us. You will never have me back. This whole ordeal has been incredibly challenging for me in so many ways that I couldn't even have imagined, but it's turning me into a better person. Slowly but surely I'm seeing maturity in places I didn't have it before, seeing a new resolve and outlook on things, and a better more realistic attitude toward "love" (as you call it) and relationships in general. I know we're never going to say another word to each other ever again, and I have no plans on it, but if I ever was going to say something to you it would be "thank you". Thank you for giving me something this hurtful to overcome, and to come out feeling like I can do a lot more things. After you stripped away my confidence, I have a great chance to build it back up. Here's to never seeing you again and learning valuable lessons. Cheers.