SimonSerenade Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 simon....did you see the eariler post from blue bell. i hope you did. looks like its been removed and shes gone I saw what she said yeah, Was a little harsh and intrusive but it made a lot of sense, I even replied to what she said but for some reason it ain't showing up on here, Same with her other comments. The anger isn't helping me, Though she hasn't asked for forgiveness I will try my hardest to forgive her regardless, I don't want to feel this blazing hate for her especially when I intend to be her friend one day, As much as I hate the friend zone, It's pretty much a must for our son's sake. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 i am sorry i intercepted her message. i just thought this was a place to vent. anyway you have the right idea about forgiveness somehow. its hard to forgive those who dont ask for forgiveness. but youre so right about being friends for your childs sake. i agree completely with that. and hate just eats us alive.but temporarily its part of the healing process. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 ps i worte to her too and i dont see it here. i can understand if she wanted her post removed but i wish they didnt remove ours Link to post Share on other sites
screwball Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Dear ex, Something hilarious happened at work today and I badly wanted to tell you. I know I'll see you later this week to hang out, so hopefully I'll remember to share the story then, but it just won't be the same. I wonder what you'll be like when I see you. Last time it was nice, especially when I realized that even though we'll never be together again, you still think of me often and care about me deeply. There aren't enough people in the world to be cruel or indifferent. Do you think a friendship can work between us or will feelings get in the way? I'll try if you will. We'll be like Jerry and Elaine. I know I messed up our relationship and I feel bad about that sometimes. I never appreciated you or our life together - I was striving for some magazine cover life and thought that would make me happy when happiness was right in front of me the entire time, all I had to do was let it in. I wish it were possible for you to truly understand the level of personal growth and self-enlightenment that I have undergone as a result of you leaving. I wish it because I hope that you realize that the heartbreak and pain was worth something at least. I know that I can't express it in words though, because you'll just suspect that I'm trying to get you back. I loved the time that we had together, I appreciate every moment of it, and I'm glad that you left. You served your purpose. You made me a better person. Above all I'm glad that you're happy. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 i hate you i hate you i hate i hate you i hate you Link to post Share on other sites
lululucy Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I love you. Intellectually, I know this is the best thing for us. You have growing up to do and if I hadn't pulled the brakes we would still be heading for marriage. I have growing up to do, and travelling, and living. I just want to do all that stuff with you. I'm sorry I didn't try to fix this another way first. No, scratch that, I did. I asked you to go to counselling with me how many times? I told you I needed more respect from you, I told you that you needed to grow up and pay me back the money you owed me. I need a partner who will help me, support me, take care of me, hold me. Not one who I need to argue with for some peace and quiet to write a paper. Not one who I feel self-conscious in front of (in clothes, weirdly, not out of them). If you can change, if you can be those things.. we could be so happy together. Either way, I love you. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Even though I finally came up with a conclusion on why things ended, took most of the blame and you agreed, I still want you back so badly. I feel like the biggest fool for taking you for granted. I was married to this incredibly hot, young woman who was faithful to me, had a great personality, put me first, and was always there for me and I pissed it away. Sure, you have your issues, we both do. Maybe you weren't ready to be married, hell even though I was 37 I probably wasn't either. I hope one day you can forgive me for all the big mistakes I made and for not being there for you. It's a longshot, but I pray one day we can be a family again. I love you Link to post Share on other sites
crimsonskies Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I saw you twice today from afar and each time I panicked, I had to turn away so you wouldn't see me or the hurt I'm going through. My friend said you looked miserable. I only wish it was because you miss me and regret breaking up with me. Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 i am sorry i intercepted her message. i just thought this was a place to vent. anyway you have the right idea about forgiveness somehow. its hard to forgive those who dont ask for forgiveness. but youre so right about being friends for your childs sake. i agree completely with that. and hate just eats us alive.but temporarily its part of the healing process. Don't apologise, It was very nice of you to jump in and look out for me, I wasn't expecting my words to be questioned, Made me feel a little uncomfortable, It made a lot of sense though, I don't hate her, I wish I could to be honest, Would make my life a hell of a lot easier, Looking back she just wasn't in the right frame of mind for how serious our relationship had got, I think that's a tragedy really considering how good we used to be but if thing's don't work then they don't work, I realised it had to end, If life brings her back to me for another chance then great but if not then I geuss it's just one of those things. In the mean time I'll try and forgive her and one day in the very distant future attempt to be her friend, I don't believe there'll ever be a future without it, I've known many couple's who have had kids who gave it another go in a year or so after the break up had happened, Maybe this pain as horrible as it is, Maybe in a way it's good for me, Make's me change in many of ways that might appear more respectable to her in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
IfiKnewThen Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 what youre saying makes sense. i just felt bad because i didnt want the poster to feel uncomfortable and leave and delete the post. i only wanted her to be aware this is the place to say to them whats on our minds and in your heart. not nessarily where the comments are made on them. like yoiu said for your words to be questioned but you may have wanted to mull over her advise and now its gone . i never thought she would do that. so sorry again. i thank you for accepting my apology : ) Link to post Share on other sites
Username37 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Can believe one year ago, I use to call you my girlfriend, my best friend, and my lover. It's strange walking around seeing you with your new boyfriend. It doesn't seem real. Like you're with him because you miss me or something. I'll never know. I'm pretty much on permanent NC. Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 (edited) its ridiculously hard to accept that I f'ed up so bad that someone who loved me so much can easily go 6mos without wanting to see me or talk to me at all. i've never messed up something this bad in my life. Edited February 2, 2011 by marqueemoon4 Link to post Share on other sites
vtbrokenhearted Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Some day you will realize how selfish your actions truly are. You are not and will not break me. I am a strong, beautiful woman who can push through anything emotionally and physically. Humanity, my dear. Integrity, my dear. Dignity, my dear. Love, my dear. Look them up. Think about the meaning. Live by them. Be them. Then, I know you will start enjoying living and stop living in fear. And then maybe, just maybe, you can show through your actions the truly beautiful, courageous man you are. Until then... Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Woke up thinking of you again. Whenever I do that, it gives me motivation to work that much harder to get you off my mind. I think I don't miss you as much as I did in the past few days. It's the cycle of things, I guess. You miss people who are not there and then you forget about them because you get used to them being gone. I just know I want to keep going because I don't want to miss you anymore when I know you don't miss me. Link to post Share on other sites
lovethatgirl Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 i dont know if im writing this but i read the description and i just thought i would write some of my pain down to help how i feel my (ex) girlfriend will most proberbly never see this but atleast i will know its there and some of the pain has gone, we had to split up yesterday for reasons beyond are control and im heartbroken we was together for 4 years and madly in love, but we had to end it and i am just all empty inside now. the thing is we are still madly in love with each other and i need her back in my life my heart is hurt and only she can help me. she done everything for me, turned my life for the better when i was at an all time low and now she has gone i feel the same, i luv her with all y my heart and need her back, my story is on here titled i have had to split up with my girlfriend but we are both still in love (heartberoken).... feel free to look but please no slander i have joined this web site to seek help from people whilst my life is at an all time low ill be checking up every so often so any good advice or help will be appreciated many thanks Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 what youre saying makes sense. i just felt bad because i didnt want the poster to feel uncomfortable and leave and delete the post. i only wanted her to be aware this is the place to say to them whats on our minds and in your heart. not nessarily where the comments are made on them. like yoiu said for your words to be questioned but you may have wanted to mull over her advise and now its gone . i never thought she would do that. so sorry again. i thank you for accepting my apology : ) Don't worry about it, I pretty much had it memorised the moment I saw it, It gave me a lot to think about and since letting go of the anger I've actually felt pretty good, She gave me a hell of a lot to think about in truth. I think I'm finally facing the demons I've been avoiding and figuring it out, She may of been quite nasty at time's but if I'm honest with myself so was I, I suppose life just got the best of us and we were there to take it out on each other when it should of been the other way around and I can't blame her for wanting a life, She's been a damn good mother since our son was born and when she wasn't with him on the weekend she was with me and him in the week so at least now she can live a little, I didn't have that problem cause I'd already lived before I met her, Did things I loved, I regretted, Even just did things for the hell of it, I was ready to settle unfortunately she wasn't. Sometime's people grow apart, Maybe not both at the same time but it does happen and there's nobody to blame for it, It just happens unfortunately, I suppose the only thing to forgive her for now is the hard time she gave me after the break up, Figured I deserve more respect than that and if I keep working on myself then one day I'll get it. Link to post Share on other sites
0hpenelope Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 I was wrong. I inadvertently saw an update about you from a mutual friend's Facebook. I can't even. Noo way, I can't even still with you. I am on a "do NOT need to know" basis with you indefinitely and I think I'd rather just stay here for a while. Link to post Share on other sites
kourtney01 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Why would you give up this easily...don't you realise that YOU'RE the reason you and I have ended up in this awful place again...how can you be so bypolar that you move from one extreme emotion to next...one minute you can't live without me, the next minute you go days with NC and you try to blame our break up on me in every possible way. I'm sorry that I couldn't bring myself to tell you that I'm still in love with you and that I don't want to be with anyone else when you poured your heart out to me... but I can't make things so easy for you all the time or you will never learn your lesson! And instead of trying to find a way to make a drastic change in your life and win me back...you just give up??? HOW CAN YOU JUST GIVE UP!!! IS EVERY PROBLEM IN YOUR LIFE BIGGER AND GREATER THAN ME??? Then why can I not sleep, eat, do school work or even get out of bed without this anchor on my chest and this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach ...don't you feel it to??? I thought we were soulmates..best friends...clearly you were all talk and no effort. Link to post Share on other sites
kourtney01 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 And BTW...you will never ever find anyone better than me! NEVER. And you know that...you have never gone more than a week without contacting me..well now it's my turn to go NC..maybe this is the wake up call you finally need...only when you do wake up it might be too late! Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Happy Birthday ex-dad. Your kids don't want to know you. Hope you get some heart pangs when there are no cards from your kids. Whoops- can't happen. I forgot, you have to have a heart. Still you've always got the consolation prize of the ginger ferret and her ugly sproggy stepdaughter. May you celebrate many more...... NOT!!! Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 I feel much better now than I ever did, I feel I'm finally coming to terms with everything and letting go, We had some great times together and I'll miss those times and look back on them fondly, We were great once and to me, That's better than nothing, I suppose this wasn't our time to shine, What will hurt most now is walking away for good and never looking back, Knowing that we live different lives apart and were no longer the biggest part of each other's lives. I love you but it's time to finally put this to bed, I'll miss you, You gave me the best time's I've ever had, You put me through the worst pain I've ever endured but for the record, I forgive you, Holding on to the pain and the horror of what this break up caused just keeps me in the same old petty ways, I'm done with that now, Thank you for the good times, I hope we can be friends one day but only when you decide you want to contact me about it and when I feel I'm ready to give you that, Bye bye for now. Link to post Share on other sites
poopierabbit Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 Hey Tonya, What the hell? I'm still thinking about you and I still feel at times like something is ripping my heart out - *still* after 4 months. I love you and I need to get over this. Today was not a good day. I kept thinking about you constantly. I really hate days like today. I have so much more clarity after months apart now. I realize now that you were such a bitch - for 5 painful years you were a bitch to me. I think the evidence that backs that claim up is not giving me your heart after 5 years. Only a bitch would hold their heart out for that length of time!! I also can't help but to compare my "friend's" picture to yours to see if she's beautiful enough and skinny enough. I need to stop!! The fact is, she has x10 the boobage you have and she's good in bed. Both of those are assets you don't possess. So why the hell am I missing you so much right now?? I wish you'd read this cheesy website (I know you don't) so you could at least see how desperate? I've become just to see and hold you again. I love you, you bitch! Jordan Link to post Share on other sites
Bluebelle38 Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 I feel much better now than I ever did, I feel I'm finally coming to terms with everything and letting go, We had some great times together and I'll miss those times and look back on them fondly, We were great once and to me, That's better than nothing, I suppose this wasn't our time to shine, What will hurt most now is walking away for good and never looking back, Knowing that we live different lives apart and were no longer the biggest part of each other's lives. I love you but it's time to finally put this to bed, I'll miss you, You gave me the best time's I've ever had, You put me through the worst pain I've ever endured but for the record, I forgive you, Holding on to the pain and the horror of what this break up caused just keeps me in the same old petty ways, I'm done with that now, Thank you for the good times, I hope we can be friends one day but only when you decide you want to contact me about it and when I feel I'm ready to give you that, Bye bye for now. Was so happy to read this, Simon. You will still have up and down moments/days, but you are well on your way to recovery and I'm really glad to see it. Chin up and take care, BB. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 Dear ex, Let me know when someone dumps you by phone and the insults you via text, listing all your faults. Just like you did to me. So I can call you and LAUGH MY ASS OFF Karmas a bitch Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted February 3, 2011 Share Posted February 3, 2011 You called me crazy even though you dumped me cruelly, hypocrite much? I haven't stalked, contacted, called you once. So how am I the crazy one? I didn't treat a good person like **** and then tell them that I should've dumped them a long time ago. I can't wait for you to get your just deserts. Link to post Share on other sites
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