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[Nohbody]

Goodbye, winky sweatsock.

[bikinibeach]

i hate you for the pain you put me through, repeatedly.

 

i hope you're suffering right now. actually, i know you are. and i only hope it gets worse.

 

i;m sorry.

 

and i wish that i knew how to stop thinking about you. and us. and what we lost so you could have something that is nothing now.

[0hpenelope]

Ugh. I can't believe. I can't beliiieeeeve I wasted my time on you people.

 

I really can't. That's my regret now: that I wasted time. Time that I will never get back, time that I will never be refunded for, time that I could've invested on other things.

 

I can't believe it. This is my regret. Wasting time. I guess I just never thought that I would think y'all are a waste of my time. I would like to shower this regret away. This, by the way, is how I learned to not attach "always" and "never" to personal relationships. Because I had no idea this is where our friendship would lead to.

 

Keep him. All of you deserve and belong to each other.

 

Uggghh to wasted time. Ugggghh.

[Sugarkane]

Dear G,

I've made it the whole time in NC. I bet you think I would never be able too, you think that you're the best thing since slice bread. But you're not. If you ever contact me, I'll laugh my head off. You're a complete player and I hope you die old and alone. I really do. But atleast you'll still have your money right? After all thats all you care about. I haven't contacted you after the stunt you pulled on me. I don't want to hear your BS. You're the most arrogant, selfish, Jeykll and Hyde person I've ever met. I hope your current girl can put up with all your BS. I thank god the day you dumped me by text, I wish I never gave you the time of day. I wasted a year on you and now I've nothing to show for it. What a waste of time and money.

I hope you enjoy sleeping with you money at night, coz thats all you've really got going for you. I never dated someone that treated me as badly as you did.

[Trappedinyou]

Be lucky Minnie!

I hope all your dreams come true and that everything lasts for you.

My unfaltering love for you demands that I leave you to pursue happiness.

You may no longer love me but I have comfort, in that, you will never forget me or forget the things I have done for you.

Strange that I found this strength from kind words that your Mum said to me recently.

[chloe56]

So I survived yesterday. The world keeps revolving huh? Really thought I would be so over it by now, I guess what kinda helped was the fact that you more than likely had no clue what would have been yesterday.

 

Somehow and for some reason I kept expecting you to call or drop by, don't know what I would have done if you had.... anyway, have a nice life. Wish me well too, because I am very determined to have a nice life. You stupid ogre.

[radiodarcy]

argh! four months of NC and i woke up in a funk this morning

 

i guess i'll still feel like that for time to time.

 

i know i shouldn't feel this way but i really do hope you get what's coming to you. you probably never will though.

[bikinibeach]

I hate that I'm still holding out hope for a grand gesture and heartfelt apology. Even if that happened, you'd still be a moronic dunce face. I know in my heart that I could NEVER trust you again, ever. I know that I miss you and I,be found myself expecting my dates to just get me like you did and being confused and disappointed when they don,t. I know that you check our blog everyday to see if I've posted. I never will again,told you already. Would have deleted it if I could have.

 

Remember your friend Johnathan? The down to earth, humble and gorgeous trust fund baby millionaire friend of yours? I've always had the hugest crush in him...guess what! Saw him at the bar on Monday. The first thing he asked was if you and I were still together.

 

I picture your sad ass at home crying alone while your ex is off with her new boyfriend

she knows what you two were doing was disrespectful but it was ok because she was the single one. You lost me over her , then she got a bf and blew you kisses in her rearview mirror. Lol.

 

PS: he calls me princess

pEACE!

[cerridwen]

I fuc^ing hate you.

 

Be one with THAT.

[marqueemoon4]

who'd have thunk that at my absolute height of love for you (January 7th 2007, the day our son was born) that 4.5yrs later you'd end up being someone I absolutely despise more than anyone in my entire existence? you srsly, srsly make me f-in sick.

[0hpenelope]

I fuc^ing hate you.

 

Be one with THAT.

I enjoyed this too much.

[Flowerzzz]

B,

 

Was just thinking about how you used to say "I missed you" over and over again and kiss me after we had been apart...

 

And then i started thinking about the many good years of my youth i wasted with you.

 

I mean, GD! Now I am old and lonely and I feel like I will never date again.

 

While I curse your name you are traveling all over the world with your new girl.

 

Oh, F YOU!!!!!

[dicky_fish]

I really really really miss you! Please let me wake up from this nightmare and it be 3 months ago when we were happy together.

 

I was thinking earlier on how much I used to look forward to talking to you after I finished work. It took every bit of restraint to stop myself from texting you while I was on shift earlier.

 

I just want a cuggle, for you to make your funny little noises while clinging onto my arm while snuggled into my nook that you fit so perfectly into.

 

I love you my Fairy Fi xxxxx :(

[Ginger Beer]

I dream about you every night.

 

I think I'll always love you.

[gothowitz]

Please drop off my stuff already like you said you would. It's the least you could do after everything that's happened.

[Ally-65]

So I was clearing out some stuff today and found the photos of our holiday last year. I took out all the ones of me and put the rest of them in your letterbox. I don't want anything of you here anymore.

I've been so close to inviting you in for coffee this weekend, funny that.... the idea just came into my head, almost as though I forgot we have broken up.

It still feels like that would be such a natural thing to do, coffee and a chat.

I know you are probably angry because I didn't say hello to you last weekend. I just couldn't. You are probably a bit pissed off about G's party too. But surely you didn't expect to go, after everything. Hmmm. knowing you, you probably did actually. Thick skinned as ever.

Well, it's going to be a fun party, and I am NOT going to think of you. But, I know you will think of me!!!

[Karala]

You owe me 2 grand.

[tryin to learn]

Dear (Ex) - Wow, so now i hear you're moving x-country. Hearing that (I didn't ask to know) set me back about six weeks to Day One NC and all of a sudden all of your crazy BS is forgotten and I again think you are the greatest love of my life and somehow I did something to blow it. Nothing could be farther from the truth, though, so I thought I'd write down the facts again, for our mutual reference.

 

You are either bipolar, borderline, or merely love avoidant. In whatever case, you have major issues, and your issues have issues. My bad for not steering clear in the first place.

 

You drew me in at a difficult time for me and yes we fell madly, wildly in love, our lovemaking was the best either of us ever had, we were insanely happy. But it fell apart amid the stress I was under, with my sister dying. You had weird anxiety and anger and I overreacted. But when I wanted to work to sort things out, you couldn't/didn't want to.

 

After the holidays we patched things up, culminating in an amazing, mystical night together. You said you were like in a trance. Two days later you said you were depressed, wanted a night off. then another and another. On the weekend, you broke up with me the first time, saying you only felt close to me when we had sex. What followed was a bizarre series of emails and accusations, with you upset that I had mentioned my broken heart on FB. As if I should be ashamed of it and should mourn in private.

 

A month later, you emailed in the middle of the night, saying you missed me. Silly me, I'd been waiting for this and I jumped at the opening. We met the next day and we got together again. A month after that and things were better than ever. We had an amazing weekend. Then, again, you started to withdraw. You went away to a family wedding and completely ignored me for five days. I learned you were back from your FB status.

 

Over the next couple weeks you found arbitrary and/or bizarre reasons to be angry with me, find fault with me. Then you'd apologize, suggest I call you Sybil (now I do). My role? I felt you slipping away and I got anxious but tried to give you space. I should have let you go then.

 

On a rainy night in April, you dumped me - again. Right before tho, you told me you were going to a show that weekend with an old friend ("he's like a girlfriend"). On a Saturday night. You never bothered to tell me. You seemed subdued. I asked you if everything was OK and you said yes, then no. Your feelings for me had changed. I'm toast - outta here again. My bad for coming BACK to this. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.

 

Two days later, you "liked" something I put on FB. What the? You dumped me - I don't want your contact. I blocked you, but later thought better of it. Then I see you're acting like a high school girl with your "friend."

 

I wrote something on my blog that only slightly mentioned my heartache over our breakup. It was totally anonymous, but you sent me an email rant. Again. Just because I said you were just following your nature. I saw you in one of our groups and nodded hello, but you looked away and ignored me.

 

Ironic moment: I go on a dating site, fill in matching questions, and boom, you pop up as my best match. No joke. I learn more about you from reading your bio than in the five months we went out. I later learn from your profile that you are quitting the site because you are starting up a relationship with the guy who was "like a girlfriend." My, what a surprise. Later, in a moment of weakness, I look on FB and see the two of you playing it all out with sugary love songs and ooey, gooey comments, like friggin high school kids. My bad again for even looking.

 

I spoke to you for the last time about seven weeks after our break up and we had a cordial 10 minute chat. That weekend, rant #3 from you arrives in my email. You accuse me of chatting up your friends for info on you, hacking your email or computer (you didn't specify), and putting someone up on FB to friend your new guy. I of course did none of that but spend five hours in a back and forth email discussion with you. And for good measure, you send another email the following day. I ask you not to contact me any more. You, of course, reply to say you won't, with your silly "Have a Great Day!" signature on every email you send.

 

I FINALLY go no contact - as I should have eight weeks earlier. Over the next few weeks I see you keep checking my blog, until I figure out how to block you there. I'm not writing about you at all, and I don't want you to know anything about me. Even after you're blocked, you come back periodically to see. What the heck do you want?

 

I block your email, text, etc, but at NC Day 29 I see the txt blocking program has preserved two texts you sent two days earlier. You text that your daughter saw me at the beach (we chatted), she's out there with her boyfriend, who's a nice guy. This is your message to me? You follow it up with a second, "Happy fourth" for the 4th of July. No acknowledgement of your earlier bizarre behavior. No I'm sorry or thinking of you or how are you? I delete the breadcrumbs and don't respond.

 

Finally, I hear by accident that you're moving cross-country. In an instant my 6 weeks NC progress evaporates. I cannot see why. You have been irrational, immature, demeaning, angry, accusatory, capricious, mercurial, nasty, selfish, self-centered. You take no accountabiity for your actions, never said anything to me while we were dating like "You're important to me, we can work this out but we need help - you mean that much to me." And I stuck around. Why then, and why now? I wonder which is worse, whether you will contact me to tell me your moving, or not? I actually hope you don't. Any contact with you will hurt, any attention I give you wil blow up in my face.

 

You are not worth my time or the space you take up in my head. Resentment only hurts me, not you, so I can say with all sincerity: Congratulations on making your vision of moving cross-country happen, and best of luck.

 

Now, please do not contact me again.

Edited July 20, 2011 by tryin to learn

[lovebug5502]

it's been 10 hours since we last spoke. I told you i couldn't do this anymore. i couldn't be put on the backburner. I already miss you. Iwanted to text you this:

my lunch was soooo awful! I'll be home by 5:30 and make us dinner? what do you want?

 

 

...............

[RodG]

Do you know how many girls I see when I'm working and out with friends? You're just an after thought now, Ally. It's your loss you selfish girl. I guaranfrickentee you will not find a guy like me who will stay with you as long as I did and would have stayed, forever. You've got way too many issues. Boy am I glad you dumped me, because I sure as hell would not have left you. I really needed this. Maybe in time you'll see and then boom, you won't ever hear from me again. I crave the chance to reject you like you did me. I had you on this pedestal and it blinded me from what you truly are. You're selfish, self centered and boring. You never once encouraged me to do anything. If I ever showed any ambition your first thought was how it would affect you. Dump me over text, not have one nice thing to say and now ignore me. Haha, you're a piece of garbage. What a waste of time.

 

Goodbye.

[dicky_fish]

2 months and I still love you and miss you despite everything you've done. You were the one thing in my life that wasn't going to go wrong. I always f**k up everything that happens to me in some way and you were meant to be the one time that didn't happen! Please come back to me princess!

 

I love you baba xxxxx

[RodG]

I hope you never find another meaningful relationship. You'll be unhappy and lonely for the rest of your life if you treat other people the way you treated me. I can't picture the sweet girl I was with. That's not you anymore. You're an inhuman monster to me now. A huge cow of a monster. You faked everything. Classy human being you are.

[moontiger]

You told me I was overweight, and that you were attracted to skinny women. You told me you'd like me better if I were thinner. (I'm not even that fat! I need to lose 20 lbs, not 200.)

 

I asked you to please stop criticizing my weight. I didn't get fat to offend your eyes. I had a very difficult year last year...I injured myself, and you had given me a foot infection due to your poor hygiene, so that I had trouble walking for months. I'd gained 20 lbs. I saw that 20 lbs every time I looked in the mirror.

 

You were quiet for a few months. You told me again I was fat and told me that you were reminding me for my own good. You gave me dirty looks every time I took the elevator instead of the stairs. You tried to take me for walks. I knew why you were doing it, and I felt like a dog.

 

I was humiliated. I had never gone to a gym and I was shy and timid around all the strange machines, but I found courage and I started going religiously. I've been going for four months. For the first three months, the weight didn't come off though. I am pretty sure my body was angry at you.

 

Finally, you dumped me, after 1.5 years together and four months of being engaged. You told me the main reason you didn't want to be with me was that I was physically unattractive and you liked skinny women. I bit my tongue and I did not fire back at you, though there were things I could have said that would have scarred you forever. I just told you that saying that was not nice, and it was unnecessary, and that you knew what I looked like back when you began pursuing me.

 

Now you're gone. I ought to be distraught, but I feel at peace. Maybe it's all those endorphins from working out. Finally, I'm not stressed out any more. Suddenly, I'm losing weight.

 

I've lost ten pounds. I'm going to lose another twenty--here, I've put it in writing. I promise myself that, because I love myself. And I don't want anybody ever calling me fat again.

 

At the end of the day though, there is this: My heart feels curiously light. When you left, I lost 185 pounds that were dragging it down.

 

Edited July 21, 2011 by moontiger

[Ally-65]

Hi John

 

Just thought I would write a few lines to you.

You seem so cold now. Why is it you get like that? How is it that you can, when you used to be so warm. Just a flick of a switch? That's how it seems to me. I hope you don't hate me. I have done nothing to make you feel that way. I just loved you.

I'm of the same mind as you now... I know it would never work with us and that we could try and try but it would just be wasted time. We are just incompatible. The humour was probably the only thing we had in common at the end of the day and that I can find with anyone. I wish I had never met you. Things happen for a reason apparently, and feeling now as I do.... I can't see the reason for meeting you.

Take care.

A

[Maggotface]

Somedays are worse than others but I can't ever get you out of my head. How many days has it been now since we last spoke? Weeks...

 

I keep waiting for you to come back but I know you never will, I'm miserable.