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sunflower11

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you told me you would never leave me. that night you held me and said you would never leave me. you said you loved me and you promised you wouldnt hurt me. you asked me to trust you :(

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happypanda21

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You are my first love. It took me too long to realize that I was in love with you. We had many good times and many bad times together. When you needed strength, I was there for you. When I needed comfort, you were there for me.

 

Deep in my heart, there was always a nagging feeling while we were together. It is not that I loved you but couldn't tell myself. It was how you seemed to use people, and use me. You never broke my trust with another man, not even remotely. I never once got jealous while we were together. If you wanted to go somewhere, I took you.

 

For the 2 years we were together, you never had your own transportation. You never seemed like you had money even though you were making 3 times the amount I was. I understand you had debt and were not good with money. If you were, you wouldn't have had that much debt.

 

Then it happened, you wrecked my car that I lent you. Ya I was stupid and had no insurance. That was my fault. I admit that. But we agreed on a payment schedule that you didn't follow through with. This was my breaking point looking back it what happened. I could handle so much of your BS, but this I could not. This is why I stopped talking to you, I withdrew my feelings, and became distant and cold.

 

I am sorry that I did not tell you sooner. I was scared and tried to hide from my feelings instead of dealing with them. That was another mistake I made. I don't think it would have made much difference in payments though, because you are the way you are. Just by talking to you, you wouldn't have changed. You would only change if you wanted to change.

 

There is much more that I want to talk to you about. I want to know if you had ever been abused to an ex. We never really talked about it and I was always afraid of asking, for I did not want to bring back old wounds. Some of the things you did gave me that feeling. I wish this question and many more were answered, but I must stay No Contact. I fear that if I talk to you, I'll have to start over on day1. The thought of having to go through this pain again is just to great and I cannot risk it.

 

I love you and am glad we spent 3 years of our life together.

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stunned8165

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Hello?

 

Yes, you know who it is. I just wanted to tell you that I can't wait for the day that that stupid son of a bitch you left me for kicks you to the curb for another one of his little waitresses. You were too stupid to realize he is a desperate little man with little mans syndrome who had no regard for your, or the kids well being by consistantly flirting with you and putting crap in your head. He knew you have two children with no dad who just turned 4 & 5 this past august and that I was the only dad they know. So you dumb ass, you take all that away, 3 years of history and a stable, safe, environment from all of us for a little sandwich shop owner that can't even pay their electric bill? Yes I know they come to turn off the electric everymonth where you work because my friend works for the power company.. Although you hauled butt 5 months ago, the day is coming where you two fall apart and he will push out the door like all the others and you'll have no job and no ME. Yeah, me, the one who loved you unconditionally, loved your kids as well as my whole family loved you all. So now that YOU have no family, and soon no job, you'll be right back where I found you. Alone, afraid, and dealing with all the bills yourself and the kids all by yourself. Along with the laundry I used to do, take care of your own car, your dog and teach your daughter how to write her name. Good job. Too bad the kids are gonna end up as screwed up as you are.. My original thread if your curious.. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t302201/

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perfectlyflawed459

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After all the crap that we have both put each other to, I can finally say that I am at a point where I have let all that go and forgiven you and myself for our faults that unfortuantely tore us apart. I no longer hold an ugly grudge against you or feel the need to vent about you all the time in order to make myself feel better. I have let go and if only you could see me now. Yea it has only been 5 weeks, but my life has definitely picked up since I decided to finally let you go completely. Although things have looked up, I can't help but miss you. I do wonder if you even think about me nearly as much as I think about you. I do wonder if that girl really means anything to you or if she is just more convenient at the moment. I question how truly happy you have been with your life since we split because you have adopted many nasty habits. You smoke yourself stupid now, drink tons of hard liquor, disregard any emotion you once had, and lead many girls on just to gain their attention. It can't help but break my heart to see you this way now because I can see beyond that rough exterior you put up. I know that deep down you are still that wonderful man I fell in love with, I saw it in those few times we hung out many weeks ago. I would be lying if I said I didn't have hope for us in the future, and at times that string of hope is keeps me moving forward with my life. That night when we last spoke, it felt like it was just as hard on you as it was on me. Perhaps timing just isn't in our favor right now because we live in two different worlds. Who really knows what will happen, but I can no longer expend the energy to ponder it anymore because a whole world out there awaits me. I will always love you with all my heart and more, and maybe once you realize that no other girl out there will be able to give you a fraction of love that I did will you realize that you let something beautiful go. Heck everyone can see it, even your own mother. I can't promise you I will wait forever though, because it may only be a matter of time before someone gives me the appreciation I deserve. In the meantime, I wish you nothing but the best. Until we meet again.

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Being

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What did i ever do to you to make you treat me this way?? why do you treat me like your play thing, only calling me when you want something, when u suddenly remember i exist...only when you want to hear from me ... why is it always on your terms...why do i always give into you,,,,why do you get away with it....why do i let you get away with it?? why do you keep making me hope that you might change your mind? why did you take 4 yrs of my life away when you knew what i wanted....why do i have to go through this again....why do i have to face this heartbreak myself...why dont you feel anything??? you have broken me...you have torn my soul apart and you know it...and you do nothing to help it...you keep taking what you want when you want it....why do u make me feel like i am second class to the other things in our life?? why cant i just stop feeling like this... i wish i could wipe you from my mind and from my heart, i wish i never met you....you have brought nothing to my life except pain....and soul crushing loneliness.... you are not worth these tears...

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Buttercup84

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Happy anniversary . Tomorrow I'm going to my first psychologist session , tonight I'm going out for dinner with a friend . You wouldn't have taken me out , as you are too embaressed of me . **** you .

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CopingGal

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I knew I shouldn't have trusted you. You were as terrible a friend as you were a boyfriend. You want that thing, you can have her. I told you I could not be your friend if you were in a relationship because my wounds were too fresh, so what do you do? Not only do you get back together with that bitch, you don't even tell me about it. You let me find out on facebook. You are the same selfish, disgusting bastard you always were. You are nothing to me. You are a thing, a waste of space and I hate you. You are such a bitch and a whore. You are not even a man. You are just a thing from outer space.

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CopingGal

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hello asswipe,

 

How are you today? I guess you are with that thing. You are Thing 1; she is Thing 2. You are a damn fool and a whore. You are a disgusting piece of nothing. You are nothing. You're nothing!

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What was the point in you contacting me two weeks ago? And the week before that? You even had the guts to text me and tell me to come over after everything that has happened, as if it never did? Are you kidding me?? Are you trying to **** with me? After what you did to me, why would I go to your place? You havent even ATTEMPTED to apologize to me or make things right.

 

I guess you're just so used to me taking you back so easily in the past. Well guess what, I havent caved in this time and every day that we dont speak, I find more and more reasons to NEVER go back to you or speak to you again. I've given you too much of my time to make a healthy relationship with me, but instead you wanted to keep me around while feeding your ego through other girls. Maybe you really thought you could do better than me, but you were too chicken **** to let me go.

 

You've been quiet for 2 weeks. Was that it? Was that your attempt to get me back? Two pathetic texts and a phone call late at night when you were probably bored, drunk and horny? Did you REALLY think I would answer the phone and just jump in my car and go to your place?? I guess I'm a little disappointed, that I meant so little to you when you meant so much to me, but time will heal my pain. I will always be on your record baby (literally), you'll never forget me and how great I treated you, and how ****ing bad you treated me.

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karmaqueen

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I'm on the road to not loving you anymore. It just started to happen today. Still have a huge pain and feeling of injustice but even if you tried, you couldn't make it better. I will never fall for lie after lie after lie again.

I'm glad I don't have to listen to it anymore. It was making me ill, having to work out what was truth and what was fake.

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Kamila

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Hi,

 

I wish I could just talk to you for awhile. Even hug you. But that would be too much to ask of myself. I know I wouldn't handle the heartache. Now I've reached my limit.

 

Seeing you on that picture with that girl in a sweet kiss embrace really put me off for some time. In fact, I didn't sleep well at all. As a result I almost hit a cyclist and had an accident. Way to go me.

 

Why putting such a vulgar picture on your FB ? You never ever put any pictures of us when we were a couple. It's not like you to behave like that. Or maybe you really have changed. Or maybe you just wanted to shove it in my face.

 

And for that I must say, bravo. You are moving on. I just hope you are true to your heart. And that I don't think you are. Now I know. And you made sure that I know. That's what this picture was all about.

 

It's weird how this picture is liberating. Now that I know you're that type of guy. Collecting girls, experimenting, choosing, judging, dumping, criticizing, just like at the shopping mall. You really are like you said: selfish. And you don't deserve me.

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CopingGal

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Hey, asswipe,

 

When my mother told me you were a bum, I did not believe her. When my sister told me you were a loser, I did not believe her. When my sister's husband told me you were a loser, I did not believe him. Now I know you cheated on me. Too many lies to count. Too many lies to count. You are every bad thing people say about you. I hate you. I hate you. I hate you.

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sunflower11

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Hi.

I have nothing more to say to you, and I am glad :)

You should have seen me today, I have accepted its over and not only that..I am realizing that letting go is easier than I thought and that today I was the happiest I've been in the last 2 months. You only get 2 months of heartache that is it. NO MORE DAYS HURTING ABOUT YOU!

 

*******.

 

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messymichelle

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im flippin sick of this today u cheating thieving ignorrant *******, its not long til xmas and not one word from u about our kids, your far too wrapped up in that home wrecking ugly whore of a girlfriend and her kid to give two ****s about your OWN, your not a man your a piece of **** that it stuck on the bottom of my shoe, but own kids wont always be small , you will miss them when she gets tired of ur lazy ass.

i hope u suffer, when reality hits u and u realise what your missing out on, they are so precious so innocent and you ya wanker dont deserve their love,

im not hurting for you anymore because im far better off without you im too good for u i repect myself thats why i kicked your cheating ass out and gave you to her, but do u not realise that im hurting for the pain that you are causing our kids, they dont deserve this,

you always promised that you would be there for them , so were the **** are you?

i hope you and that whore are a miserable as **** over xmas, i will look after our kids and make sure that mrs claus gets them everythig they want u *******. i hate u with every ounce of my boby u repluse me.

your not a father you dont deserve that title

ooh yeah i almost forgot i ****ing hate u

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messymichelle

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well hows things? kids done their santa lists this evening they were all excited and u missed it

well anyway after i tucked them into bed i sat down to add up how much it was going to cost, our 8 year old started his letter with , santa, ive been very good for mam, so can i please have my dad back, will u tell him i am good now and i dont mind wat else i get u can surprise me but a xbox wod be nice,

u ****ing bastard, i would rip ur head off, if i could stand to be in the same room as u

you can buy ur whore anything she wants and a bike for her kid, but u tramp all over ur own kids u selfish pig

i hate u

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messymichelle

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y r u doing this to them? u screwed everything up not me so y r u punishing ur own flesh and blood,

is it because i dont want ur cheating ass back or is it because im happy by myself and u can stand it

please stop it, think bout wat ur doing

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OK, it seems a few of us have had a rough time with the darned NC. I had fantasies today of unloading all this anger, longing, and "WTF" onto my ex. I am creating this thread as a place for all of us in pain to post instead of contacting Ms/Mr ex. It could actually be kind of fun, at least a release.

 

I had a friend with a terrier dog who used to look out the window and whenever he saw another dog or squirrel or whatever dogs want to kill he would grab the nearest object and shake it furiously, all the while glaring at the object of his hatred, and barking/growling with his mouth full. It was hilarious and poignant, and I have to say, I relate to that pup!

 

What would you like to tell him or her? Even if it's been building up for years, post it here! Rage-fest! Longing-fest! DO NOT CONTACT that frigging ex, put it all here!!

One hour ago,I was driving home and I saw places that I went with my ex. At the moment I was sad. When I came home I saw your post.You know, while I was driving I wanted to be able to call him, but I could not.When I saw this I felt support.Now I still want to call him.But I thought I'll write here.Thank you!

I want to say that I miss the time spent together...I want to go back there two years ago!

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Kamila

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I must admit seeing you on that picture with your new lover hurt me. I'm still dealing with it. I hope I hadn't seen that picture. It was a slap in my face. And it's like you intended it to be like that. I should defriend you immediately. If something pops up about marriage or something worse I swear...

But if I look at it more rationally. Aren't i just exaggerating ? Is it because you have someone new that I react like this ? Is it because i secretely hoped you would change your mind and come back to me with all the dreams i had with you.

It hurts a lot. It so freakin' hurts ! And I can't tell you. No, I must keep it deep inside. No one must know. Especially you. The source of my pain and turmoil.

It will go away, I'm sure it will. Just got to go through this dark period.

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