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[jennisfora]

i still miss you babe. i know it is for the best we aren't in touch. i can only imagine the pain i would feel if i knew you had moved on. but, im starting to accept it. i still miss you, but it is no longer the end of the world. i know i will recover. and when i least expect it, someone new and exciting will come along. the trick for me is to not put the cart in front of the horse, and take it slow.

 

we were both in such a hurry to get to a stable place. and then when we got there, you werent sure it was what you wanted. i hope you find what you need. i hope you learn to love yourself. you are worthy of love. and everything isnt ruined. you do have to come to terms with your mistakes, and you have to let the past go, as do i.

 

40 isnt old. and you dont look 40. hope you have a good day, hope when you think of me, it is of the good times not the breakup. hope someday i will be able to talk to you. *hugs & kisses*

[Follower]

SO DITTO.

I feel you, believe that.

 

I was just so so shocked to have her sitting there giving me this big sob story about how sh*te it is for her now about how hard its been and that noone understands... I So badly wanted to turn round and go well you know what you caused all this...

 

Im not as angry now, thankfully. It just humours me that she seems to think she diserves all this love and attention from her friends and her family because she broke up with someone?

 

She spent most of the night telling me how her her words btw "So called friends have vanished", i was like, because they have there own lives to leed...

 

Meh she realy isnt worth the time right now, she has too much ego and as i would discribe it princess head about her right now.. Me me me me me, wait there is 2 people involved in this isnt there?

[Itsonlyme66]

No. To them one person is involved. The Holier Than Thou Almighty. Themselves. That became clear to me when he would start little nit-picking with me, and then announced that he didn't love me. He saw how those words crushed me, and he was stone cold, much the way someone would be who had "checked out" emotionally months before, unbeknownst to the poor bastard (or bitch in my case) who was clueless with them.

 

I recall him saying once, "If I want to be a d*ck, let me. Leave me alone. Walk away. Why can't I be an a-hole and you remain a mature lady and be quiet until it passes???"

 

Yes, true story.

 

And when he left me, he cried that he was "driven out". oh please. The night before he decided to bail out on me again, I asked him if we could please try to work things out by being RESPECTFUL going forward. Would he do that one more time? Please?

 

His response?

 

He ignored me, looked through me, over my head, and WHISTLED. Then walked away.

 

So after he left I was stuck with all the bills and asked him if I could borrow his truck on the weekends like I always used to, just so I could keep money generating in the household to cover HIS end of the bills. His response?

 

"You're worried about a truck? I'm homeless!!!"

 

so it's all about them, and only them. like, ALWAYS.

[Follower]

Muahahaha just wanted to tell you not felt sad about you not being around in a whole day, iv got the big MO now so F*ck you, bet your just started to regret it now... shame that boats starting to sail...

[The Great Gazoo]

**** **** ****

 

I miss you so, so much. I miss talking to you, sharing our days. I miss holding you, the sound of your voice and the way your body feels against me. I miss the funny faces you made, the way I'd make you laugh. The way you smell and taste. The way you bit my face and neck when we made love..... Why couldn't you just love me? You said you did... then ran away. I need you so much. The world just feels so empty without your smile and your touch. It hurts so bad. Why can't you just let go? Take a risk? Why?

[Greekman]

You lied to me, used me up, led me on, and then blamed me. It's sad. You are selfish beyond words. A user. I was so vulnerable, you knew that, but you didn't care as it's all about you. You only want your needs met. No wonder all your relationships fail.

 

Despite all that ^^ I still miss you and our talks. I miss our friendship and connection as friends. I was content with that. I enjoyed that so much.

[CopingGal]

You lied to me, used me up, led me on, and then blamed me. It's sad. You are selfish beyond words. A user. I was so vulnerable, you knew that, but you didn't care as it's all about you. You only want your needs met. No wonder all your relationships fail.

 

Despite all that ^^ I still miss you and our talks. I miss our friendship and connection as friends. I was content with that. I enjoyed that so much.

 

I think your ex should get together with my ex. Sounds like they would be a perfect couple.

[jennisfora]

missing you alot today. maybe because i dont work sundays, maybe it is because GOT is on HBO tonight, and we always watched it together. If you download it illegally, i hope when you watch it you think of me, oh, and you still have my paperback copy. i know it wasnt in good shape, but it was the only copy i had.

 

i am pretty sure you will attempt to contact me sometime next week, to return the book, and ask me if want to watch the show, since you know i dont have hbo. i will find another way, we cant cuddle after my son is asleep and eat ice cream and watch it in bed, now can we? and i will not do the FWB thing. if you want my companionship, you will have to earn it, and accept the terms and conditions. i am not a cruel or vindictive person, i am not a mean girl.

 

I just will not do an underground relationship with no one ever ever again after that other guy, i cried on your shoulder and told you abotu how much he yanked my chain, how hurtful it was. i wont go back there for you or anyone else, you have to be in a relationship with me, or leave me alone. if i can be friends, it will be down the line and it wont be the same. it will be fb acquaintences at best.

[blindesided]

missing you alot today. maybe because i dont work sundays, maybe it is because GOT is on HBO tonight, and we always watched it together. If you download it illegally, i hope when you watch it you think of me, oh, and you still have my paperback copy. i know it wasnt in good shape, but it was the only copy i had.

 

i am pretty sure you will attempt to contact me sometime next week, to return the book, and ask me if want to watch the show, since you know i dont have hbo. i will find another way, we cant cuddle after my son is asleep and eat ice cream and watch it in bed, now can we? and i will not do the FWB thing. if you want my companionship, you will have to earn it, and accept the terms and conditions. i am not a cruel or vindictive person, i am not a mean girl.

 

I just will not do an underground relationship with no one ever ever again after that other guy, i cried on your shoulder and told you abotu how much he yanked my chain, how hurtful it was. i wont go back there for you or anyone else, you have to be in a relationship with me, or leave me alone. if i can be friends, it will be down the line and it wont be the same. it will be fb acquaintences at best.

 

Sigh - your post hit home with me - its the routine & the little stuff I miss the most - I miss the companionship - someone to share little moments with. Ugh - I hope one day soon I can think back to those memories and be happy & thankful instead of now - every memory I think of just brings me a deep sadness

[jennisfora]

same here, we used to chill in the evenings with a bottle of wine, usually moscato, and eat ice cream, and then make out, and get intimate. the saddest thing of all, is i am agnostic, and he was very very christian, so, i thought what we were doing was bothering him, i thought he wanted to legitimize things with marriage, and then come to find out he didnt want to advance things, but then believed i wouldnt be happy with any less...so messed up, in so many ways. i wish we had really thought it over i wish he had voiced his misgivings. *sigh* so many misunderstandings, and now i have clarity, but am unable to do anything. its very frustrating.

[jennisfora]

missing you tonight, hope you are well, probably working. working long hours probably helps you to avoid thinking of me. i wonder if you think of me at all, i wonder if you want to reach out?

 

i wonder when i will stop wondering. i hope you are doing okay, although i imagine you are keeping busy, and not giving yourself much time to fret. part of me hopes you will call tonight, part of me is glad you probably wont. you meant a lot to me. i never felt so sure of anyone before, dont know if i will again. you always treated me well, i cant say you didnt, because you did.

 

t tell myself i will find someone better, but i really dont know, maybe different is a better word. like when you asked me about the grass being greener, i told you that you know its not, its just different, the grass is different. i hope if you want to try again, i hope you dont wait too long. if you wait too long, i may not be able to risk the pain again. i will have all this progress, i will be reluctant to go there. if you do want to try again, you will have to get counseling for these past issues. i need to know that they are dealt with, that you really want to get past them. and the anxiety, i need to know you want to trust and love, that you want to work on it. i love you, i miss you. farewell, sweetheart. *hugs & kisses*

[The Great Gazoo]

God I hate Sunday nights. I miss you so much. Miss making love on every Sunday night. Holding each other and talking about life. Then you ran away. **** I feel so alone, stupid and sad. There are a few other women interested but I just don't care... I just really miss you. Damn your scared, cold heart.

[Exit]

Dear ex, I've realized the best word I can think of to describe you is "empty". I would also associate your general existence with the color black.

[CopingGal]

Hmmm, black is an elegant color.

[Life Person]

I had a few days in which I was going very nicely, but now I'm missing you. And it's a strange mix of missing you and being resentful. I just wish you could relate to how I'm feeling, you didn't need to cheat, to lie, to hide, to hurt me that much. I just loved you. Really did. Four goddamn years and you throw them away just like that... so quickly, so brutally, without considering how I would be devastated by the way you would do that. You spat on my dignity and on our beautiful relationship.

[SilverBlueAndGold]

I really don't know what you want from me anymore. Tried my best to go no contact and I was suceeding so that email from you about your counseling sessions was a big surprise to me. I didn't want to give you any false hope so I tried to be as cordial as possible.

 

The flurry of emails and texts over the weekend was killing me. I know you are hurting, I am too. But it just didnt work out between us, it doesn't mean we are bad people and it certainly does not mean that i used you, lied to you and never loved you. How can you say that? If you decide that everything I said was a lie then what does that say about the things you told me?

 

I think we both know that is the pain talking. When I saw you driving by my place I got a little scared. The real reason I called was to keep you from coming over because neither of us need that right now, emotions are running high and it could be dangerous.

 

No, I am not seeing somebody else. No I have not moved on already. Yes I miss you. But please. PLEASE. Stop tormenting me and making this harder for both of us .

[jennisfora]

missing you still. wish you would try to check in so that i would know this was hard on you too. you must have found a new confidant, or are just keeping really busy. right now you are probably sleeping.

 

i gotta get back to work. i miss being able to text a hi thinking of you message. i miss getting a good night text, and a good morning text. i miss looking forward to you coming over. i miss you opening the door, and saying, im looking for (my son's name) is he here? and scooping him up and giving him a kiss on the cheek. i miss cooking dinner for you. i miss going to the park, i miss walking with you. i even miss your complaining. life is maintenance, you would say. your view on life was always so negative, always so dark.

 

i was always saying it is so much more than maintenance, your smile made me smile, brought me real joy. your love and generosity made me want to be more loving and generous. we were both givers, we both had been through takers, and some form of abusive. you more so than i. mine was a walk in the park compared to what you went through. i still miss you, i still love you. good bye, sweetie.

[SilverBlueAndGold]

. i miss being able to text a hi thinking of you message. i miss getting a good night text, and a good morning text. i miss looking forward to you coming over. i miss you opening the door, and saying, im looking for (my son's name) is he here? and scooping him up and giving him a kiss on the cheek. i miss cooking dinner for you. i miss going to the park, i miss walking with you. i even miss your complaining.

 

These are the things that are so hard to get used to. Yes, even guys can miss things like this.

[coltsfan1]

There are still times...... There are less and less but times. Got a strange reminder recently, whole month will be one long reminder.

 

Almost done with the reno's on the house, I sat on the stairs Sunday and wondered how different it would be going if it was both of us. Would we be picking out colors for midget mans room, what would you do with the master bath, I even laughed thinking about us fighting over how we would seperate the walk-in closet. Then I realized I would share the experience with someone else and so would you. I know now that it was for the best but I still wish things would have ended a bit better.

 

I also realized you ended it best you knew how. It not all your fault that you were not taught any better, but you have seen better now. Good luck and I hope you find whatever it is you need.

[jennisfora]

shutting the phone off for the night, thinking of you, wondering where you are, if you are at work, or at home. wondering if i ever pop into your head, do you have the urge to find out how i'm doing? do you ever wonder if im okay anymore? my son stopped asking for you, and seems to finally be adjusting. wish i could be as well. ive got to remind myself that not much time has passed in the scheme of things, and that i did just fine alone for three years before you, and if need be, can again. i am stronger than i realized. i dont know why tonight is so hard for me, but i find myself crying again, and i havent shed tears for you in days. i miss you, babe.. good night. *hugs & kisses*

[Greekman]

Really? I don't think that's nice nor fair to me. Have some respect for my feelings, just a bit. It's doesn't cost much and won't hurt. In contrast to that hurting me and costing a little more respect.

[Nohbody]

I forgive myself.

 

And as a result of that,

 

I forgive you.

 

Because we cannot help what we are

 

anymore than water can help

 

being wet

[staringspace]

I'm so angry with you right now, but at the same time I want to contact you. I know I can't because then it'd make me feel like such a doormat. I just can't stand the way that you've treated me, and even after we've broken up, you've hurt me and I just don't know what to do.

 

I know I don't want you back. I know I deserve a better person than you, especially after you've moved on so quick. You say that you 'haven't replaced me' and that you 'don't know how long this thing is going to last' with this other girl, two freaking weeks after we ended things, but at the end of the day you kind of have replaced me - even if it is a rebound. I'm glad we met up for coffee the other day so I could give you your stuff back - it was good to catch up with you, even though it hurt and I didn't really know how to act.

 

I've realised that I do miss you - but not the you that you are now. I miss the person that you used to be, and the fact that you've changed into a person I'm not that keen on hurts the most - I feel like you just take the friends that you have for granted and you don't take them for who they are, and you are going to lose friends because of this, especially me. I really do want to be friends in the future because of the things we've been through - but I want you to realise the person you've changed into isn't the best person you could be.

 

I'm glad we broke up. Your plans for the next year would have made it even harder for us to work, and I think it would have got to the point where I would have actually gone crazy. But now, I think I actually have the chance to move on and find someone that really appreciates me in a relationship - I just hope, in the future, you can appreciate me as a friend and show it.

 

But we'll see. I'm holding no hopes up - but I really hope things sort themselves out. I'm not myself at the moment and I'm sure I'll get myself in order eventually, but right now I need to go through this. I do care and I know you do too, deep down; but things are too raw for us to have any kind of proper friendship right now. 3 1/2 years went too fast and things ended messy - but I think we both want to try and work something out, even if we know it's going to be hard.

 

Good luck for now - I am so furious at you, but I want you to be happy. Emotions are funny things.

[Itsonlyme66]

How are you going to do this to me?

I gave you 6 years of my life! I was faithful! I loved you! I tried EVERY DAY!

 

Now, you're incognito. You've literally disappeared, along with all my hopes and dreams for our future.

 

You were never "IN". Someone as self-absorbed as you, always worrying about YOU could never have the substance to care about anyone else.

 

I hope and pray daily that the residual negativity you have created will haunt you for years to come. I cry for you every day. Did you know that? Would you even bat an eye??

 

I can't put the radio on in the car! You left me February 17th. It's now April 4th and I still cry. I still have you in the forefront of my mind. I hate you for that. I hate you for leaving and never staying in touch, never hurting too! You don't hurt! You are hiding somewhere with a new girlfriend; I'm sure of it. Who breaks up with someone after 6 years of living together and doesn't give the ex their new address? Someone who was screwing around the entire time, most likely...

 

Well, for what it's worth, I loved ya. I would still give you a kidney today. I would still come rushing to the hospital, if, God forbid, something happened to you today. TODAY.

But where are you?

 

I'[m the only one who has been in our relationship for a very long time, I fear. The fact that there is no remorse, no feelings from your end, shows you to be the Narcissistic piece of using manipulative crap that you really are.

 

I will not forgive you for a very long time. No matter to you, I'm sure. But I'm just letting you know. You hurt yet another woman. Between 1st wife, 2nd wife, and me, you broke a THIRD heart.

 

Nice going.

[Itsonlyme66]

I can't believe you never even called after you left. not one time.

 

6 years. births. deaths. weddings, anniversaries, memories.

 

not even a ****ing phone call.

 

thanks. I appreciate knowing that i meant so little.