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[CopingGal]

I thought about you today. I when it because apparent to me that you were not as good as I thought you were, I tried to change you. I tried to turn you into a good man, a responsible, caring, compassionate, patient man. I was wrong.

 

You were right to embrace the disgusting, dysfunctional monster within you. After all, you have to be you. I'm just glad I won't be there to see that any more.

[tealover]

Dear former lover,

 

remember those days? The days when I was there for you to comfort when you were upset. Even in your darkest hour I stayed because I truly cherished you. I was always there to make sure you were alright. Tried to make you happy even tho the things you asked came at my expense? "are you ok baby" "Hubby I love you" "I wanna make you feel good" you remember that? well if you ever come back please know that those days a over now. You cheating little prick. I gave you my everything. But what do you do? You go back to your whore of a ex that cheated on you in the first place. Not only that, you both team trashed me for getting answers. I hope you both rot. You didn't even treat me like a human. Just a piece of trash that you threw out went you had no use anymore for. and if you do don't go crawling back to me for me to say this I hope you two get what is coming.

 

ahhhh that felt good ^^

Edited July 20, 2012 by tealover

[msfreebyme]

I keep waiting on life to begin. I know it will at some point but....when? My patience is thin and my heart is still hurting. I am stuck in this small town, these memories of you. I can't even leave yet because it's not time for me to move away yet. I love you but I hate you at the same time. I left because I felt like you never loved me...you treated me like ****. I feel like I am still at a standstill. I need something to make me feel alive again. I don't want to feel this sadness...this pain. I'm done with it...its like I am dead inside sometimes. But how to end it I am not sure. I want love...but I want to heal first too. But where do I begin. 6 months into the breakup and I am confused. Whats screws me up more is that you could just rebound and all this...these 4 years we've known each other...for nothing. Plus you didn't learn anything!!! You'll never change!!! You didn't even truly fight for me. But you never deserved me. **** feelings! **** you!

[goodbyesunshine]

I still love you.

 

Every day it is hard not to send you a million texts just to get a vague reply from you. Every day it is hard wondering how things could have been. How we would have been great together. How we could have a family, house, dogs, kids, living in the place of your dreams.

 

I still don't know why you became so cruel to me. And every night I go to sleep knowing that when I wake up, I just want to die.

[Mcnulty]

You know of how serious my illness has been and are using/manipulating my mum to get your sick messages to me.

 

"i bear him no ill and hope he gets better" WTF!!!!! You cheeky cow, how dare you say that, knowing my mum would tell me!! YOU cheated on me with my friend, discarded me, stopped contacting me and announced ity on Facebook to try to humiliate me...you're screwed in the head! LEAVE my family alone and leave me to pick up the pieces of my broken body and mind.....bitch.

[CopingGal]

I keep waiting on life to begin.

 

You don't have to wait...just go out and do. Do something extraordinary. I'm teaching conversational English to students in another country via Skype.

 

Go out and do something great! Your new life begins now!

[CopingGal]

There was always something weird about every relationship I've been in. With you I felt normal. I felt normal and sexy and good. Then the lies came. And more came. Then I found out the entire relationship was a lie. Only sick people in this world can't understand the devastation they bring when they lie ALL the time, manipulate, use someone, ignore them, cheat on them, and try to make it seem like person they did all of that to is the one to blame.

 

Only a sick person would do all of those things to a person and then try to force friendship on that same person. Only a sick person would force information of another woman on the woman he cheated on...force, force, force, force. Only a sick person would do all of those things with no remorse and then act like everything is still normal.

 

Only a sick man would cheat and devastate his girlfriend, and then call her to gab about the other woman like they are talking buddies. Only a sick, freak would cheat on a woman and rip her heart to shreds, and then invite her to the wedding when he decides to marry the woman he cheated with.

 

While writing this I realize in order for you to feel normal, you have to control everything around you with lies and manipulation. If you are not lying...if you are not controlling someone, then you don't feel normal.

 

You really and truly are a mentally ill person. You should get some help before you do even worse things...but I think you already have...and then lied about it.

[CopingGal]

You were never proud that I was your girlfriend. To you, I was an inconvenience. I lived an hour away. That was suchhhhhhhhh a big deal to you.

 

You were never proud of me. You kept me hidden from your friends and family...telling me we spent so little time together, so that when you saw me, you wanted me all to yourself. That was a lie because you confessed to seeing so little of me because you really did not want to see me. You confessed to having so little time for me in the end because you were cheating on me.

 

You were never proud that I was your girlfriend. Your hidden facebook page that implied you were single, while you showed tons of pics of your son...right? You said telling the world you had a girlfriend was not masculine. Remember that? You said it was silly to put your status on Facebook. Remember that?

 

I had to BEG you to put me on facebook. You used facebook to get back in touch with your ex-girlfriend while letting me believe she was somewhere in Minnesota? Rememer that?

 

My next boyfriend is going to be proud that I am his girlfriend and if he refuses to hold my hand in public, refuses to introduce me to his friends and family, etc. etc. I'm gone. I won't even have to think about it, no matter WHAT excuse he gives...I'm gone.

 

I will never date someone who acts ASHAMED to be with me. I realize now that you kept me hidden because you were always looking for a better fit. That's is why. I was nothing more than a rebound to you...you sick bastard.

 

I will never be anyone's rebound again. I will never, EVER forget what you did to me and I hope you suffer for the rest of your life. I hope that everything bad that can ever happen to you...will. You are the most evil person I've ever known and I'm SORRY I ever met you. I'm SORRY I ever let you put your filthy hands on me. I'm SORRY I forgave you over and over again until I had no forgiveness left because you drained me dry of it. You took and you took and you took and left me broken on the floor...you pathetic, miserable piece of scum. I hate you with all that I have. I hope you never know the love of anyone again as long as you live. You are the most vile, depraved, disgusting bastard to ever walk the earth and I hope you get fired from the only job you seem capable of keeping...King of the Sandwich Makers.

 

I wish I never met you. I hate everything you are. I hate what you stand for. I hate your lack of morals. I hate everything about you, from your stinkin' arm pits, to your child-like body. I hate it all...from your cold, empty eyes to your cold hands. I hate it all, from all that hair that grows out of your ears to your friggin' hemorhoids, which you like to touch. I hate you. I hate you. I hate you!!!

Edited July 21, 2012 by CopingGal

[msfreebyme]

Thank you for the advice CopingGal.

 

Alas I just need to figure out what extrordinary thing I can do. I know what lies ahead with me going to a university and moving very far away and starting anew. But thats not for months sadly. Plus I know I have my whole life ahead of me. I am from a small town where memories haunt me. I just wanna be free in my head and just done having feelings for this jerk off. I guess its one small step at a time maybe?

[pathetic1999]

HSB - Are you finally there yet? Finally at the point where you can tell me why you left? I know you told K but you were so confused you said so many things that I really don't know why you left was it because I am not the right person for you or was it because you don't know who you are?? which was it or was it both or was it because if you don't know who you are how could you know if I am the right person for you? How could you be so 150% sure for 2.5 years and promise me you would always be here for me and that I could open up and trust you and then just walk away and tell me that you hope I can forgive you one day and that you will always love me but this is what is best for both of us...best for both of us??? are you kidding me??? Trying to tell me what is best for me like you know me so well? If you did you would know this killed me, I wish I could go back and blow you off when you brought me that first glass of wine like I should have, you never deserved me I knew it then and I still let you in.

 

You were so big on promises and I let my guard down we planned our wedding we looked at wedding sites the whole time you knew you were not sure about us, how cruel you are. You told me you loved my son and yet you walked away from both us without looking back.

 

You pretended to care and worry about me and yet you haven't even one time checked in on me to see how I am. Yea sure you love me.

[Jamesblame]

Dear Amanda.

 

I'm very glad we ended up breaking up. And though it pains me to acknowledge, I know that our relationship wasn't as healthy or as happy as my memories like to paint.

 

Separating allows us to maintain the good memories while healing from the mutual damage we caused each other. You're a great woman and a good friend -- I can honestly say that I want nothing but the best for you. It's been 5 months since the official split, and only 2 weeks since I've acknowledged that no reconciliation is possible.

 

I'm not going to say you were bad luck...but I am saying that in the last two weeks I've gotten incredible promotions at work, and a dream project. I also have met tons of women who are more aligned with my personal values and goals.

 

Now this doesn't mean I don't like you. I was really sad to hear how bad you were doing after the break up. I also felt really bad that your dating hasn't gone well. I have very little emotional attachment to you at this moment. I don't think you're as pretty as I used to, I don't think your life is as attractive as I used to. In short, I've moved on. And I want you to move on.

 

You shot down reconciliation (thank you), because you didn't love me anymore. But now you need to learn that that close friendship we had was a part of the relationship and stop mourning the loss of it.

 

I want to be your friend later on. But frankly, my work, my life, my relationships are going to continue in a healthy manner away from yours. We could be close friends, but only after you've moved on. Lovely, it's time you embraced the life you were meant to.

 

I'll always be your friend.

 

I'll always be there for you.

 

And I'll always value the relationship.

 

Thanks for the good memories.

 

PS. Right now we're still in NC because while I'm "over" you, I don't want any nice conversation or lunch to send me backsliding. I'm just waiting for the residual, behavioral addictive nature of my feelings to change.

 

Plus I'm looking to trade up before contacting

[Shosh]

I feel so stupid. I know you told me from the beginning you were not looking for a serious relationship, but I never suspected this was because you already were in a relationship with someone else.

 

OK, so you say you are not exclusive. But you also say she is the girl you can see yourself marrying. Than why the heck are you not exclusive? And what the heck am I to you? The girl you can see yourself f***ing while you wait for her to move back? Did I mean that little to you? I guess.

 

How could you ask me to keep hanging out as friends? Do you remember that 10 minutes earlier you were holding my hand throughout the movie and acting like my boyfriend? And now you just want to be friends and tell me about the girl you are really in love with? Do you have any idea how rejected and unwanted this makes me feel?

 

Did you really need to say that? Couldn't you just have said you don't want to be in an exclusive relationship until you know where you are moving to? Or that you can't say but time will tell? Really, the best choice of answer for you was to tell me that you don't want to be exclusive with me because you want to marry that other girl? You are such an a**. And a two-timing bastard.

 

I wish I had never met you and wasted my time and feelings on you. Go to hell!

[CopingGal]

Thank you for the advice CopingGal.

 

Alas I just need to figure out what extrordinary thing I can do. I know what lies ahead with me going to a university and moving very far away and starting anew. But thats not for months sadly. Plus I know I have my whole life ahead of me. I am from a small town where memories haunt me. I just wanna be free in my head and just done having feelings for this jerk off. I guess its one small step at a time maybe?

 

 

Hi. I tried to PM you. I'm stuck in a small town too and I just want to get away. I'm trying to move from this chit town. Being trapped here I turned to the internet to increase my quality of life. I took free classes and engaged in volunteer projects.

 

I'm glad you have things to look forward to. Take care of you. One small step at a time...nothing wrong with that.

[CopingGal]

Another weekend. I'm feeling better.

[msfreebyme]

Hi. I tried to PM you. I'm stuck in a small town too and I just want to get away. I'm trying to move from this chit town. Being trapped here I turned to the internet to increase my quality of life. I took free classes and engaged in volunteer projects.

 

I'm glad you have things to look forward to. Take care of you. One small step at a time...nothing wrong with that.

 

PM? Not quite sure what that means. But I might look into how to sow on the internet since I am dying to learn =)

 

Take care =)....plus I saw your comment about how you imagine your ex being a better person...totally been there too! I usually become sad at first because he never was what I wanted him to be so badly.....but then I find it so funny that hes stuck being such a total cock wad and not alot of people will like him. You can only feel sorry for the butthole. lol

Edited July 22, 2012 by msfreebyme

[Frank13]

PM? Not quite sure what that means.

 

PM means private message. I think you have to have 50 posts or be a member for a certain length of time to be able to send and recieve them.

[lolano]

Thankyou for taking away the ability for me to open up and trust a fabulous boy that has entered my life. he has everything i want, but all i can think about is how much you hurt me, lied to me, were ashamed to make me a part of your family and friends, and how you walked all over everything i gave you. On top of that you begged for me back, only to throw it in my face 3 weeks later. so thanks! im mentally ****ed because of you. Ill get over it.

[Mcnulty]

I don't want to think about you so much.

 

I don't want to be patient and wait to be over you.

 

I wish i didn't love you anymore.

 

I wish my mum hadn't told me your brain tumour is back..

 

I wish i could move on in another relationship and feel good about myself again.

 

Right now, i wish i wasn't alive...the physical pain and shame from my illness is getting to me...it's beating me....I send you strength and positive thoughts to get through your illness...please get better honey.

[Gulf-Delta]

N,

 

I know you aren't a bad person. I know you aren't trying to hurt me. As we've said to one another before, I know the real you, and you know the real me.

 

I miss you. I wish we could start over. I wish we could talk. There's so much to say that wasn't said back in April...I know the real you and that's why I'm afraid. You run, sweetheart. I know that right now, I'm the last thing on your mind. But I know someday you'll think of me again...and I'm afraid you won't bother talking to me. I'm afraid that you'll tihnk my silence recently means I'm closing the door on you. You'll think I hate you. You'll think I'm too hurt and bitter to wanna hear from you.

 

I wish I could tell you that wasn't the case. I wish I could tell you I'm keeping my promise I made back in April. Always. I know our paths will cross again. It's impossible for them not to. I see you in traffic all the time. We still share our friends. I just pray that when the paths do cross again, you let it happen, instead of avoiding or preventing it.

[Shohane]

You're not that great! I must have been out of my mind to even show you that much empathy!

[Shohane]

Why did I even waste precious time on that guy? Gosh, goddamn crazy I was!!

[zanzi]

I dont really have anything left to say to my ex.

Does that mean I'm over him?

 

well Im happier now. I'd say to him.

I learned that Im too young to get serious right now.

Since you left, ex, I have had time to-

 

-Realize I am good at photograpy.

 

-Practice my music more and...

 

-make up a song with an intresting, folksy edge

-actually get my homework done for uni

-have sex with other people. Which I kind of wanted to do when I was with you, with this one guy. So now I have done it and it was really great. And it lasted longer than you used to, about four times longer. Oops? But you wouldn't care eh?

 

- make band posters because I'm going to start a band and I'll have time to practice with said band because you wont be there all the time, sending me sloppy texts, cluttering up my room playing xbox on the floor, having your tarot cards all over the place, getting weird jobs that you quit after a week, and being a gypsy in general.

- reconcile with my best freind.

- have peace and quiet in the morning, without you waking me up when you get up early to watch saturday morning cartoons. ( you are twenty one years old, why do you watch these?)

- not wake up to you staring at me. Which freaked the **** out of me the first time you did it. Romantic? No. Creepy? Yes.

-not have ciggarette smoke blown into my face.

-not be an art student who is with a farmer with no job.

 

- Realize that we didnt work out because we were never meant to.

 

- Realize that I am getting more and more glad you left me every day.

 

You abandoned me, why would I want to have you come back (not that you will) and have it happen again?

 

Its happening slowly but I'm getting better.

 

I don't know where you are or what your doing since you moved and cut off all contact after you left, refusing to answer my frenzied requests to talk on the phone. I'm starting to forget you. And I'm ok with it. I think it's what you wanted and now it's what I want to.

 

So all I really have left to say now to you, ex, is. goodbye.

[jennisfora]

my son wanted to go to your house today, had to tell him again that you chose to leave us and didnt want to be in our lives. cant sleep, kept thinking you will be back someday, even though, i dont know if you will or not, or what i would say to you after all the pain and missing you for these months. i am bitter and angry, still, and sad.

 

i remember looking over at you and thinking how lucky i was to have found you. now, i dont know if any of it was real, and i hate you for that. i hate you for tarnishing my memories. last time we met you said that you feel obligated to have a relationship whenever you are intimate with a girl, basically saying you felt compelled to go through the motions with me, but didnt really want to. why did you go into the father role with my boy then? and then tell me that that was proof you were in it for the long haul?

 

nothing makes any sense, and i know it never will. i can say you scarred me and my little boy for life. i really thought i had something real. someone that loved me for who i am, and who accepted my son as his. i thought i had something special. i thought i was so lucky. i dont know how i couldve been so wrong about you, about us. i didnt see it coming. it hurts still. life has been tortuous since january, and i thought i would be better by now.

 

i still miss you. i still hope you will show up at my door saying you made a mistake. part of me is glad you havent, because in all honesty, i have no idea how i would react after months of anger and sadness and feelings of betrayal and shock. i might spit on you, i might slap you. i might just slam the door in your face. or i might just stare at you blankly not knowing what to say. or cry,i dont really know. i hope i am in a stronger position if it happens so i can be rational, and not do anything stupid one way or the other.

 

i miss what we had, what i thought we had. now i have doubts about that being real. i just dont know anymore. *Hugs & Kisses*

[Follower]

Ellie n Euan were asking after you today, they still dont seem to understand what i mean by you are gone forever...

 

So thats made me think about you for the first time in a while...

[CopingGal]

The couple's therapist once said not to put any value on anything you say to me.

 

I know you are a compulsive liar and a manipulator, so why for a year did I let the things you told me about that trashy old hag you cheated on me with affect me?

 

I need to discount everything you say. And oh yeah, all the effort you put into that relationship, when you put almost none into our relationship, was just a smoke screen. The therapist said not to be jealous because I don't know your agenda.

 

She's right. All the things I let weigh me down this whole year and bring tears to my eyes when you treated her 100% better than you treated me. Of course you treated her better, you had more intense plans for her than you did me. It was hard with me...wasn't? Being with a savvy, intelligent, kind, moral woman was really, really hard for you. Therefore, you felt, that you shouldn't make much of an effort.

 

But being with a much older, trashy, troubled, reckless alcoholic...now that's the thing your dreams are made of. Troubled, reckless, old, and also handicapped she was...just ripe for you to manipulate to heart's desire. But whoo, hoo, you got played because she's a slut just like you are. Two sluts together isn't all it's cracked up to be is it?

 

Anything you told me about your relationship with her could be a lie because that is what you do. You lie. I think you stole that money. I really, really do. My telling you I couldn't testify to your character should have been my clue to get out. I couldn't do it because I didn't trust you, back then...and my trust is completely non-existent now.

 

So all those hurtful things you told me and you and her...why am I letting that eat me up? You are a liar. It's what you do. You are a bastard, it's what you are. So you never loved me? Yeah, it hurts like hell...but really, so what? So you never loved me. You are not capable of loving. Besides why would I want the love of a sociopathic man anyway? I actually don't want the love of a sociopathic man. Besides you probably are not capable of love. You are capable of lies, manipulation and control.

 

How lucky I am that I kicked your a$$ to the curb. How lucky I am that you are no longer in my life. My roommate said if he ever comes across you in my city, he will run you out of town. He absolutely hates you, just like I do. My family doesn't like you either. You are not welcomed in my house. You are just a pathetic loser who gets more and more pathetic as the years go by. You have nothing to show for your life except for a son who you continue to force your selfish lifestyle on.

 

You are just a sad, sad, pathetic sub-human whose only goal in life is you use and manipulate women. Gosh, what a loser you are...a real, true, pathetic, bottom of the barrel LOSER.

 

So did you current landlord kick you out as well? How many people have kicked you out of your dwelling? How many landlords have you lied to? Are you sleeping in your car again? Are you still shifting money back and forth from bank account to bank account? On my God you are so DYSFUNCTIONAL!!

 

Thank you, THANK-YOU to the couple's therapist who told me how dysfunctional you are. Thank you, that woman on some level actually saved my life...and there I was resenting her for judging you. Oh my God, thank you D. Thank you D for telling me about him and helping me reclaim my life. Thank you D so, so much for telling me he had too many problems to mention. Thank you D. Thank you D. Thank you D. You saved my life!

Edited July 25, 2012 by CopingGal