Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[drade]

S,

 

It's been three weeks of NC. I am doing so much better. I wish you and I could have experienced my most recent adventures together. But your gone, and I don't want you to know how much fun I am having, because It will only piss you off.

 

I left my number for a waitress yesterday. My first time ever doing something like that. And guess what? She texted me back. Even though we live an hour away from eachother, I may go up and grab a drink with her. What did she notice the most about me? My dimples, the SAME thing you noticed.

 

She told me she never texts guys back like that. But yet she did with me, because "dimples," she wouldn't just text me because of my dimples. Regardless, I feel alot better about myself. Here I am thinking your the only one who saw things in me others didn't, but maybe other females do.

 

I can't wait to reach many more months of NC. As hard as it is, I need this. Thanks for respecting my wishes regarding no friendship, and to leave me a lone. Thanks for realizing you were being selfish during the breakup, and recognizing that my sanity was in jeopardy. I get it, it's hard to let go of something you like, even if they "ruined" you. I had to cut the cord S, I would have never gotten over you.

 

Take care.

[Morphine]

P,

 

I was doing great for 10 days. Now when I met you I had emotional downfall. You said you are going out to buy some stuff from the corner shop and you will be back soon. I guess you were lying. Its been 4 hours and you still have not come back. I am sure you are seeing your new boyfriend. I wanted to say how much I love you when you come back. I guess I wont have this possibility anymore.

[BriNyc82]

r

 

The entire time we were together you always cared about me being comfortable or me being ok. From the smallest things. You would always get up out of bed to get me a tissue. You would get out of bed even if I was closest to put the AC on or get me water. You would find restaurants that had lots of veggie options. You always cared about my happiness and seemingly put me first.

 

Now when I actually need you to care about me and how you left me a hot mess you don't bother to ask. How you treated me when we were together means nothing bc how you left will alway be how I think of you. A coward who has no sense of self and hides from any sort of conflict. Someone who is selfish and puts up a facade of caring about others when in fact you are a loner who wants to hide in his shell. You can face the world alone now just like you wanted to. Because I know I am moving on to bigger and better things. I see your soul now and it's so ugly.

[jdids247]

Back again.....is this becoming a pattern?

 

Working with your sister in law has been entertaining.

 

You seem to care about what I'm doing and trashing my decisions. I think it's flattering that you're bringing me up to her and she's shutting you down when it happens. She knows what you threw away with your BS.

 

I'm glad you saw me with another girl, although I do feel bad about it. I want you to realize what happens when you are guarded and defensive for no reason...people remove themselves from your life and try to move on.

 

Sounds your friends are getting sick of the BS too...when are you going to learn that your way of life only pushes people away?

 

Why does your brother and cabin family come to me at the street dance and spend most of the night catching up with me? That might tell you something. Figure it out

 

Why, after almost 3 months of NC, do you text me asking if I have your extension cord? For real? I dropped everything off at least 4 months ago and you know it. I don't understand you. Did you want me to have it so we could meet up? If you want to talk, walk down the ****ing alleyway and talk. I'm done waiting for you to figure your **** out. I was always 100% in this relationship while you were guarded and afraid of being vulnerable. I get why you didn't want to get hurt again...but with me of all people? Come on...Your family/friends still go out of their way to come and talk with me when they see me and tell me how much they miss me being around.

 

I still hear your nagging words in the back of my head daily....honestly that it what is driving me to keep me strong and not contact you and keep on pushing on. I sure as hell can't deal with that again

[DK666]

V

 

So I heard that you jumped into a relationship with someone else only a couple of weeks after breaking up with me. I just wanted to say **** you for lying to my face on more than one occasion, **** you for not even trying to sort out the issues (easily solved btw) in our relationship, **** you for going along with everything your **** of a sister wants and not having a mind of your own, **** you for being such a selfish, narcissistic *******.

 

I have a long talk with a good friend of mine today, he didn't know the whole story, so I brought him up to speed. It felt so ****ing good that someone else actually sees these flaws that you bring to relationships. Inviting guys round to your place without telling me until the last minute, when you know I am in no position to be round there? Yeah that was particularly disrespectful, and I am not the only one to think so. Until you learn that a relationship is made of up of two people who both have certain needs, and not just one person who puts up with everything the other one does, then you will continue to use people and discard them when it's gets stressful and ultimately end up just tagging along all the time with your controlling selfish sister everywhere as you will have gained a reputation for being a ****, whom no-one but the insanely desperate will go near. Though maybe you'd prefer that, maybe she'll let you **** off her husband again. Good times.

 

One particularly classy thing I thought you did was introducing your new guy to your kids within days of getting together with him. Took us 5 months for you to introduce me. This tells me you're rushing into the relationship, so I'm pretty sure you're not as over me as you are making out, especially considering the look on your face as you saw me in the club with a girl, and continually walked past me (stalking dear). Hopefully the poor guy will figure it out sooner rather than later, but as the guy you've picked is a severe depressive and desperate for attention himself, I'm sure you'll actually have more problems than you bargained for considering you said you thought I was possessive. Let's see how green that ****ing grass looks after that. Especially when your kids grow up and realise just how dysfunctional you are as you have relationship after relationship that all go to ****.

 

BTW as if it wasn't obvious I am convinced you are a textbook GIGS case now, with a side of narcissist. However, when or even if you figure out that the grass isn't greener over there, it will be too ****ing late. You just lost the most loyal, dedicated and trustworthy guy you will ever meet in your desperate, needy life because you can't see farther than a couple of weeks ahead and are completely unable to sort through issues without shutting down and hoping they'll go away (that doesn't work btw). With all the things happening for me in the next year, things would have been awesome, I wanted you to be a part of it with me! But no, you have lost the opportunity now, though on the upside you have left a space in my life for someone who actual deserves and will appreciate the dedication and love I bring to the table.

 

Oh yeah btw, I'm not sure what the hell was up with your friend messaging me on Badoo and then denying that she did it, only to follow up with insulting me, if you wanted to keep up with my life, you shouldn't have cut me out of it, *****.

 

TLDR. **** you, **** your sister, you will regret it I guarantee it.

 

D

Edited July 22, 2015 by DK666

[15Love]

Why won't you call me!!!?? Why did you use me all those years!!!??? Why wasn't I ever good enough for you to actually date!!!??? Why am I not good enough?? Don't you miss me at all??? how could you mean so much to me and I mean nothing to you??? How could we feel so differently about each other??? I miss you so much.

[Throldur]

L,

 

"Pretend your happy, pretend we're fine, I guess that's easier after all this time, talk someone else and look in my eyes, I know you hold on to us inside, we watched that butterfly fly. I'd give anything just to be with you again, but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time. It'll never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right and that's the hardest part of it. I keep you in my mind and though you've gone. Holding on to nothing is easier than letting go. Stuck in the memories of what has been. Just please don't love another like you loved me. Time doesn't heal just leaves me asking why. I'd give anything just to be with you again, but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time, it will never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right time and that's the hardest part of it. And I don't know why you feel this way, if I could I'd change, believe me and I know that you feel the same, is it too late for saving? Oh here I go again.. cause I'd give anything just to be with you again but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time, it will never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right time and that's the hardest part of it.. It'll never be the right time, will it?"

 

I lie to myself every day, every night. This is the last time I think of you. This is the last time I ask for her back.

 

I tried everything. I tried to bring in good karma. I've tried every good luck charm in the world. I tried moving on. I tried self-improvement. I've talked this through. I've thought it through. I tried asking the Universe. I tried praying to God. I tried asking Angels. I tried asking spirit guides. I tried writing. I tried meditation. I tried to speak through brain-waves across the country. I tried to speak to her through my dreams. I've done every conceivable thing I can think of.. I've attacked this with as much patience as possible. The results are the same.. misery, nothing changing and just a few smoke signals of hope that are nothing more than further torment for me.

 

There's no god, there's no karma, there's no hope, this world is just a massive string of chaotic events, mathematical happenings, and it all ends the same way for all of us.

 

Every day is a ****ing failure without her and I don't really have any desire to live each day with a modicum of happiness for having the girl of my dreams taken from me for nothing.

[Itspointless]

L,

 

"Pretend your happy, pretend we're fine, I guess that's easier after all this time, talk someone else and look in my eyes, I know you hold on to us inside, we watched that butterfly fly. I'd give anything just to be with you again, but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time. It'll never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right and that's the hardest part of it. I keep you in my mind and though you've gone. Holding on to nothing is easier than letting go. Stuck in the memories of what has been. Just please don't love another like you loved me. Time doesn't heal just leaves me asking why. I'd give anything just to be with you again, but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time, it will never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right time and that's the hardest part of it. And I don't know why you feel this way, if I could I'd change, believe me and I know that you feel the same, is it too late for saving? Oh here I go again.. cause I'd give anything just to be with you again but it's not the right time. I'd give anything just to feel you on my skin but it's not the right time, it will never be the right time, will it? It might never be the right time and that's the hardest part of it.. It'll never be the right time, will it?"

 

I lie to myself every day, every night. This is the last time I think of you. This is the last time I ask for her back.

 

I tried everything. I tried to bring in good karma. I've tried every good luck charm in the world. I tried moving on. I tried self-improvement. I've talked this through. I've thought it through. I tried asking the Universe. I tried praying to God. I tried asking Angels. I tried asking spirit guides. I tried writing. I tried meditation. I tried to speak through brain-waves across the country. I tried to speak to her through my dreams. I've done every conceivable thing I can think of.. I've attacked this with as much patience as possible. The results are the same.. misery, nothing changing and just a few smoke signals of hope that are nothing more than further torment for me.

 

There's no god, there's no karma, there's no hope, this world is just a massive string of chaotic events, mathematical happenings, and it all ends the same way for all of us.

 

Every day is a ****ing failure without her and I don't really have any desire to live each day with a modicum of happiness for having the girl of my dreams taken from me for nothing.

You will get there!

[yellowhibiscus]

Dear J,

 

Glad it only took you 6 weeks to realize what an ass you were and what you really lost. Only took you trying to hook up with another girl and getting rejected too. You said you were only friends, but who the hell sends flowers to a girl who is just "a friend". You wanted to get in her pants. You texted me that you apologized for being a prick and being "emotionally void"...well yes, I agree but not sure that I will ever forgive you. I can tell you are wanting me back because I was really good to you. The grass isn't always greener and it shouldn't have to take breaking someone's heart and destroying a relationship to figure that out. You are a lost soul and I really hope you figure yourself out before bringing someone else into the mess you have going on right now. Sorry, but from now on I am saving my time, energy, and love for someone who will actually appreciate it.

[Gus Grimly]

S,

 

It was another rough day yesterday. Thought I was making progress then BAM. Back to square one. *sigh*

 

I had a dream about you last night. I was driving all over some big city looking for you. No matter where I went I couldn't find you. I asked a lot of people if they had seen you. No one had. As I drove around in search of you, weaving in and out through the heavy traffic, I tried calling you on my phone but you never answered.

 

In my car, under the dash, I kept the framed photo you had given me of yourself. Every time I looked at it I was more and more determined to find you. During the dream, the Paul Mccartney song you loved called "Calico Skies" played as the soundtrack to my dream. Just the first verse and chorus played over and over again as the melodic acoustic guitar rang out through my mind.

 

It was written that I would love you

From the moment I opened my eyes

And the morning when I first saw you

Gave me life under calico skies

 

I will hold you for as long as you like

I'll hold you for the rest of my life

 

I found some place where people had seen you, they said you might be there, but I couldn't find you. Someone gave me a GPS system. I couldn't get it to work right, but somehow I managed to find the location we had that very loving afternoon at the lake. It was our first time there together. So I figured I would drive the many long miles to see if you were there.

 

I returned to my car and put the GPS on the dash board. People were looking at me through the car window as they passed. The framed photo you gave me was laying flat, I picked it up but the picture had changed. It was a really ugly one of you; your hair was greasy and looked unkempt, your skin was bad and there were small blemishes scattered throughout your face, your appearance was unsightly compared to the pretty face I have come to know so well .

 

"Why did you change the picture" I thought to myself. I realized at that moment why. Because it was your dream-self telling me to move on. You replaced the picture to try and help me.

 

I woke up from the dream soon after. I wanted to call you immediately, I wanted to break no contact just to hear your voice again. Why do I keep having these dreams about you? Why wont they stop? It's like my brain is trying to torture me. The last two dreams were just as hard for me. I can't keep doing this. I don't know if I'm strong enough to take it anymore.

 

Please S, I beg you, please go away. I cannot bear anymore of these vivid dreams that play with my emotions. I just can't do it anymore. I'm losing sleep and my sanity. I still love you with all my heart. I wish that the next time I wake up I find that 'this' was truly the dream. That we are still happily in love, looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

 

I'm sorry to bother you, I know you don't want to hear from me. I just had to get this out. I've been walking into walls for the past 2 weeks. I hope you are doing well. I miss you so much. I love you. Goodbye.

[Remystacks]

Well I'm going to try this and hope it helps the pain I'm feeling and the urge to actually say this to you..

 

I'm not sure if I scared you or you have decided this just wouldn't work but I never would have expected you to leave this way. I miss you. Everyday. I finished my summer course and wanted so bad to tell you but I knew you don't care now.. I wish you would have respected me enough to say good bye. Either way..

 

I'm not mad.

 

You gave me the most incredible 8 months of my life. You made me want to be a better person not just for you but for myself. You pushed me to be the best I can be. Just wanted to thank you for that laughs, the teachings, the good times.. Everything we shared was incredible to me.. Even though I see now your gone you'll ALWAYS hold a little piece of my heart.. You took amazing care of it while it was yours.

I love you D

Even if you never think of me I'll think of you often..

Hug your babies for me

[Xiomn]

My situation for reference: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/539166-hardest-part-me-wondering-whether-her-reasons-were-genuine-not

 

& http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/539192-s-only-been-2-weeks-but-i-feel-like-i-have-already-learned-lot

 

Day 6 of somewhat failed no contact.

 

I can't stop looking at my ex's profile, I know it's hurting me every single time but for some reason I can't help myself. Deep down the primary reason I keep checking is to see whether she is with another guy or not. When she broke up with me she told me that she wants to be alone, single and doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore with anyone. She said she just wants to focus on herself, university and her passion for writing, alongside this she is also looking for a job. She was very adamant in telling me she was not leaving me for someone else and she had no intention of getting with anyone else.

 

However, I know she has already lied to me on one occasion. When she broke up with me we were soon planning on moving in a flat together which we had been planning for over half a year. Well, when she broke up with me she told me she doesn't want me to move in anymore and that she wants the flat to herself, to live on her own. She also told me she wants space not just from me, but from everyone. She wanted to turn the room I was supposed to be moving into, into a dedicated room where she could do her studying or writing. 6 days later I find a status on her Facebook about how she can't wait to move into the flat with one of her best female friends from back home. So much for all the talk of wanting space from everyone, living alone and all that crap....fair enough if she changed her mind after a long period of time or something, but 6 days? Nah, she must have been clearly lying to me.

 

Given I've found out about this, curiosity has got the better of me and now I want to find out whether her talk of not wanting to be in a relationship with anyone at all right now was a load of crap too, so here I've been stalking her Facebook at any sign she was telling me lies and just putting me down lightly.

 

Not long after we broke up I was on talking terms with her again in a friendly way and she was telling me how she is so stressed out because lots of guys had told her that they like her. Over the summer when we were still together she met up with an ex, I expressed my worries that she was doing so but I let her do what she thought was best because she is an independent woman.

 

Well anyway when we got talking again after we broke up she told me how when she met up with her ex they had 'heart to hearts' and her feelings came back for him but she said "he lives far away so it probably wouldn't work, thankfully I guess" Until only a few days ago I commented on a status from a page (university freshers page where you can meet up with people before going to university) and later on as I went back to check whether anyone else had commented on the status I found out she liked the status. The status was someone asking for advice because they feared their relationship might end when they go off to university and it turns into a long distance relationship. See how this all links together?

 

However, every time I check her Facebook to see if she has got back with her ex, or any other guy, it's seriously killing me, my anxiety has come back to bite me in the butt. I found out she uploaded some new pictures of herself and she looks absolutely by god a million times better than what she looked like when we were going out together and it absolutely killed me to see all the guys liking and commenting on the new pictures.

 

I know it's hurting me and I just can't help myself. She unblocked me recently after having me blocked for 3 weeks. I took the opportunity to block her back but unblocked her again later in the day because I wanted to give her the opportunity to contact me. If she doesn't contact me within the next 2 days then I'm blocking her again. But that still doesn't really solve the problem of me looking on her profile because deep down I know If my urges got really bad I could easily unblock her or at worst go creep mode and create a fake profile to stalk her on. Deep down it has to come from me and choosing not to look.

Edited July 26, 2015 by Xiomn

[NVO]

Day 6 of somewhat failed no contact.

 

I can't stop looking at my ex's profile, I know it's hurting me every single time but for some reason I can't help myself.

 

Don't beat yourself up too much about this. I've been there. And from that experience I will tell you to stop it now. Every time you will look at that profile it will throw you miles back in your recovery process.

 

You know why? Because the damn social media thing is nothing but a facade. You will only see positive things up there because nobody puts their ****ty moments online. I've seen it first hand that exes will use their social media profile to show the world how great they are doing without their former partner. But in the meantime they come home alone in the evening and cry about their pain inside. I'm not saying that this is happening with your ex right now, just trying to make clear that you will not help yourself with checking it. Delete her as a friend and resist the urge. I know this is hard, but make it a challenge. After three weeks you will feel so much better. By that time you will look at yourself and say: 'Damn, I really did it. I did not look at her profile for three weeks.' In that way, you will empower yourself instead of putting al your energy on your ex.

 

You say you are afraid that when you block or delete her, she will not be able to contact you. I know this feeling too. But this thought is still focused on your ex. It is time to make this all about you. Believe me, if an ex really wants to contact you, they will find their way to you. When you block and delete her, you are showing independence. And who cares what your ex is thinking? If she gets pissed about it, if she does not understand that you are doing that to give yourself the opportunity to heal, if she really is that selfish, I'm telling you: you are better off without her.

 

Today is the day to make a change. Get rid of the social media torture, count the days you did not look at it and get yourself a journal. You are doing well, and this is your last step you have to take. Get back in the drivers seat!

[Xiomn]

I'm trying my best to not look... It's hard. I saw her every single day almost for 10 months straight because we lived together and we only broke up 3 weeks ago so I'm finding it hard not knowing what is going on in her life at the moment. If only someone would punch me every time I try and look or even think about it..the thought of physical pain would probably scare me more than the emotional pain I'd get from looking, even if in the end I know the emotional pain would be worse.

I've been going the gym to get my mind off things but when I come back home the urges come back again.

 

 

Today is the day to make a change. Get rid of the social media torture, count the days you did not look at it and get yourself a journal. You are doing well, and this is your last step you have to take. Get back in the drivers seat!

Edited July 26, 2015 by Xiomn

[15Love]

I've been going the gym to get my mind off things but when I come back home the urges come back again.

 

We gotta find other coping mechanisms.

 

But you're not alone.

[Xiomn]

We gotta find other coping mechanisms.

 

But you're not alone.

 

 

Yeah.. I've got important stuff to be getting on with like dissertation research for university, I'm trying my best to concentrate despite her being in the back of my mind the whole time, it's proving difficult.

[DoIdeserveThis]

I feel horrible. It's been only 9 days and I feel horrible. Each day I have even stronger desire to talk everything through again. I am not sure if I miss illusion, hope, or a real person. I still have no idea who was I with and it hurts me that I won't ever find out. I just hope that he realized how much he hurt me, but since he is not contacting me, I am almost certain he did not.

[BriNyc82]

I feel horrible. It's been only 9 days and I feel horrible. Each day I have even stronger desire to talk everything through again. I am not sure if I miss illusion, hope, or a real person. I still have no idea who was I with and it hurts me that I won't ever find out. I just hope that he realized how much he hurt me, but since he is not contacting me, I am almost certain he did not.

 

I completely empathize. I'm two months post and I still wonder wtf happened??? In my case he does know how much he hurt me (bc I laid into him and told him). No contact is the best route bc he doesn't need me to constantly remind him how much of a jerk he was. And i don't blame him. It hurts like hell. Everyday. But it's for the best. I will tell you that it DOES get better

[Xiomn]

https://www.facebook.com/MikeTheSituation/photos/a.10151760227837449.1073741830.201798422448/10153097548367449/?type=1&theater

 

I tried to tell you..but you never listened.

[DoIdeserveThis]

I completely empathize. I'm two months post and I still wonder wtf happened??? In my case he does know how much he hurt me (bc I laid into him and told him). No contact is the best route bc he doesn't need me to constantly remind him how much of a jerk he was. And i don't blame him. It hurts like hell. Everyday. But it's for the best. I will tell you that it DOES get better

 

That sucks, Bri, I feel your pain, I really do. I read your posts and it seems to me that we dated very similar type of men. And right now I feel so sad and mad at the same time. I didn't push him into anything, I was reserved from the beginning. I didn't push him to say that he loves me, that I am his soulmate, that he brought me to place where he never brought any girl, that he shared some secrets only with me. He didn't have to do any of that! And two fights happened in a row, I didn't respond to few messages and that's it, he just leaves like that. Blocks me and never calls to at least apologise or anything. Hell, I would even prefer if he just called and said that he got back together with his ex, which I think is eventually going to happen anyway. I just need some closure, I want to know why his actions diverged from his words all of the sudden.

[Xiomn]

My first breakup made me realize that actions speak louder than words. Love fooled me into believing 'I love you' meant what it said. Now, I'm not saying when someone always says that they don't mean it.. but when I get into another relationship I think I'm going to have some real trust issues when it comes to my significant other telling me they love me, unless they show it.

[BriNyc82]

That sucks, Bri, I feel your pain, I really do. I read your posts and it seems to me that we dated very similar type of men. And right now I feel so sad and mad at the same time. I didn't push him into anything, I was reserved from the beginning. I didn't push him to say that he loves me, that I am his soulmate, that he brought me to place where he never brought any girl, that he shared some secrets only with me. He didn't have to do any of that! And two fights happened in a row, I didn't respond to few messages and that's it, he just leaves like that. Blocks me and never calls to at least apologise or anything. Hell, I would even prefer if he just called and said that he got back together with his ex, which I think is eventually going to happen anyway. I just need some closure, I want to know why his actions diverged from his words all of the sudden.

 

I'm with you on that. I was reserved too and he even knew that. I even asked him specifically if he was ready to be dating and he assured me yes. He was completely in control. And I was too blinded to see it. I never forced anything. I'm a very independent person and had my own life. He initiated the majority of our progression. And boom. He ran away. How do they expect us to get over it so quick? Like I'm the crazy one.

It would certainly be easier if they just went back to their exes. I wonder who was this guy? At his core. It scares me to know that I have no idea. I'm sorry you were blind sided and left with many unanswered questions. But I've accepted I won't get my answers. Mostly bc he lives in denial and probably doesn't have them. It doesn't sound like you will either. But I guess we have to call a spade a spade.

[supermaddud]

Been two weeks NC. I'm dying to text her something so I thought I'd try this. Some background to anyone reading is that we would fight sometimes and I guess I need to work on how I deal with things and handle confrontation. Things that seemed little to me, well she must have taken them hard. (Not abusive, just stuff like asking her if she ever cared about my feelings)

 

I'm not perfect, I make mistakes and I hurt people. Even the person that I care about more than anything in the world. But when I say I'm sorry I really do mean it. When I say I will change I mean it. When I say I love you I mean it. Some things can't be easy to fix, but it doesn't matter, for you I will do anything. I want to thank you for getting me to realise that some things I have said are not acceptable. I know you don't believe me, you think I'm like every other guy that just makes up random stuff to make their girl happy. But when you left me the world just got a little bit darker and colder and even sleeping hurts because you're always in my dreams. It is so hard to give you space but I have to because that is what you want. It is hard, I miss you so much, and I love you.

[anduina]

Like I'm going to respond to your texts, simply because you say you've made a mistake. Haven't responded yet and won't ever respond again. I'm so over you. Too little, waaaayyyy too late.

[Xiomn]

So I was talking to people on the university freshers page and I along with a bunch of other people were just talking about random stuff. My ex has me blocked on Facebook so we can't see each others comments but apparently she was commenting on the same status as me. Someone tagged me in a comment on the status when we were talking and she found out I was commenting on the same status from this (because my name still shows up on that persons comment, even on her side, just without the link I think.) Someone told me she then put a comment up saying 'when your ex comments on the same status but you can't see his comments because you've blocked him' she then put a sad face emoticon apparently, like this:

Do you think she'll reach out to me at some point or am I just looking into this too much? We're 9 days into NC right now.