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[someone3434]

I'm going to the gym tomorrow morning. I remember waking up with you at your house early so we could both go to the gym before work. Now I'm getting up by myself and going alone. I hate that. And I love it too. I'm going to be so dedicated to the gym that if we ever run into each other again you cant imagine the change that will have happened to me. I use to love working out and looking over at the treadmills to see you running. It gave me such motivation to work that much harder. Now, I know you won't be there and that will give me so much more motivation.

[someone3434]

Congratulations. I just moved from loving you and wishing you were with me to ****ing hating you. 3 weeks after telling me you love me and that you were sorry you were hurting me; apparently you have been seeing someone else and you've been so comfortably that he's stayed with you. 3 ****ing weeks. after telling me you had figured out our first borns name...what a great father I would be..how happy you would be with me... how comfortable you were with me and how easy I made things for you and that you love me...you do this.

 

You aren't worth another thought.

[your star]

To you:

 

My birthday is coming up next week. This is going to be so hard on me, I could never express in words what my heart has felt. I need as much strength as I can to be strong through it. This will be the 7th week and I have not heard one word from you. 6 years gone, I would never believe that you loved me because your actions say the opposite. I truly hope you dont try to suddenly pop up and contact me on my birthday. At this point, it would mean nothing to me just as how i suddenly became nothing to you.

[PollyIvy]

To my a**hole ex-husband,

the only good thing you ever made was our son, and he is with ME, and loves his stepdad and brothers.

Sorry you couldn't make it work with that pimply faced, greasy-haired bimbo you left me for. Oh, sorry, that's right, you didn't have the balls to actually 'leave' me. You chose the option of making my life living hell and beating me down to a shell of my former self before my brother came and rescued me from that stupid marriage.

Why can't I get over this??!!! ARGH

[nemo28]

GREAT IDEA....

HERE GOES.

 

Hey, it's me.

I know you don't want to hear from me or probably don't even wanna hear my name but I have so many questions that i need to get answers for because it is consuming my entire life not knowing the answers... Why did you suddenly stop talking to me? I know we had broken up but you promised me we would ALWAYS be friends and that you would ALWAYS be part of my life. I miss you so much 'J' and wish that you had kept your promise to me.. i feel so let down by you not keeping your word. When we broke up we kept seeing eachother and kept sleeping together, why did you do this when you already had not one but 2 girls waiting in the wings? I wonder did you stop speaking to me all of a sudden because i told a friend of mine about the 2 girls and maybe just maybe it got leaked back to one of them? Surely that is no reason to stop talking to me.. that is the only reason i can think of 'J'. If you knew how much i am hurting would you speak to me.. its been over 6 months now and you refuse to talk to me even though you are willing to keep working for my fathers business, the job i set you up in.

Maybe you need time to forget about all the arguing, and remember all the happy times we had during our 5 years together.. i'm going out of my mind, still can't focus on anything else but you, any guy i meet gets compared to you and you win hands down all the time..

I can't understand why you would want to be with an old hag of a woman that you are with now over me, can't you see she is damaged goods?

I'm going mad, it's not getting any easier, i just want to know why you won't talk to me...................... PLEASE TELL ME

[Newtotheblogthing]

Oh, I want to scream right now. I want to text you or your new gf. I want to tell her about how you slept with me while in this new relationship. I am angry. I am angry for even giving you a second thought. WE are OVER. I hate you right now. I am pissed you have moved on and kept jerking me around. I am angry your gf get's to sit in her ignorant bliss thinking she has found some wonderful guy! Please!!!! You cheated on her already. I can't stand you right now.

 

I am not going to give you the satisfacton of knowing that I am still thinking about it. That my ego is so bruised from your new relationship that I am having trouble moving on. That's all it is.. ego. I don't miss you. What's to miss. Football on Sunday? You being drunk.. Oh, she's so lucky. She must have patience to be with you.

I can't stand you.

[Phateless]

It wouldn't be an ex, but I'll be drinking tonight, and I know I'm gonna have an urge to call a certain someone... Hopefully this will preempt it. I think I already know who I'm gonna call instead.

[serendip]

you can say anything you want to justify your actions...but in the end you still cheated on me when we were supposedly in a loving relationship and I had done nothing to deserve that type of behaviour...in fact I was nothing but loving, generous and kind to you. No matter what I did as a reaction...it was only a response to your cheating. Your cheating was not a response to my actions b/c I did nothing to deserve it. I wish you own up to it and take responsibility for your actions and quit justifying to yourself in order to make yourself feel better..there's no fate, path or destiny...just choices. There is no justification for what you did. In the end you cheated on me...that's all there is to it.

[oppath]

I do not want to be your friend. What I want is an apology.

 

What would hurt you worse? Someone calling you selfish, or someone you were really close to saying "you, your emotions, and our relationship are nothing but a joke to me."

 

That is how I felt when you said "I was just joking." And when you asked to be friends with benefits, I felt USED and OBJECTIFIED. I felt like I was a piece of meat to you. I interpreted it to mean "I am willing to **** you, although I know you love me and want more, while I go on dates with other guys, because you are comfortable, safe, and familiar." My view of friends with benefits is that it means "you'll do until someone better comes along." I don't believe you can be friends with someone you love and want a relationship with who doesn't feel the same about you, and you certainly can't **** them. EVENTUALLY, you can be friends, AFTER there has been several months of space, when you can view the person dispassionately (that means no anger, but also no desire or attraction, which means no sex). I had never felt more belittled and devalued as a person as when you asked to use me when I was in pain. I would much rather someone call me selfish than someone imply "our relationship was a lie. It was all about sex. That was all I wanted from you. I really don't care about you at all. I consider you, your feelings, and our relationship a joke." That is how I interpreted your request. I struggle to think of another way to interpret it. You made light of my feelings by "joking".

 

It should have been obvious, if I expressed anger, that I was hurt. The only way to save face would have been to say "I'm sorry."

 

Then, a mutual friend tells me "that day she acted distant, her ex boyfriend essentially proposed to her." You know what: big whoop if I threatened to tell him about me. He'd fly into town and pick you up at 8am, hang out with you all day, and spend the night at your house, and he didn't know you were in a relationship? This happened 2-3 times after we were exclusive? He'd ask you "are you dating anyone" and you'd say "you're silly. Of course not" when you had a boyfriend. Why? Because you didn't want to hurt his feelings? You denied both of us information that could allow us to make decisions over our lives. Even if you weren't ****ing him, you were still cheating, as I have no doubts there was hand holding, cuddling, consoling, or other actions inappropriate in a relationship. You kept me invisible. When I learned about him, yes, I threatened to tell him about me because you wouldn't talk to me. In my eyes, you cheated on me, dumped me out of the blue, and then asked me to be your **** buddy when I politely asked for time and space. When I expressed anger over it, you were "just joking" with me and my emotions. I decided not to tell him. All I wanted was an apology. All I wanted was to be told "I'm sorry, I didn't use you."

 

But what I realize, is that if you didn't use me, if you were remorseful, you wouldn't have done those things to begin with. I hope you never have to endure someone you love and who you believe loves you, treating you like an inanimate object, like you are a condom to be flushed down the toilet when he is done ****ing you, because that is how you treated me.

[Newtotheblogthing]

I am writing here instead of breaking down and sending a text. I went through my email today and found pictures from a vacation.. I looked so much happier and healthier than I do now. Our relationship tore me apart. I wish it were all of your fault.. but the truth of the matter is I am playing the martyr right now. Yes, I am to blame as well. Codependent... that's what we both were. Playing our games, pushing each others buttons, trying to love one another the best we knew how. I want to let you go.

[someone3434]

Funny that today I found out in talking to your friends that you've been dating someone for 2-3 weeks and you are already complaining about him. And everyone of them to a T has told me that I am better off without you. I have been miserable for the last 3 weeks but in hearing some of the things I have heard today...shocking why I am miserable. You are the one that is apparently missing out.

 

Sorry for your loss.

[Newtotheblogthing]

So I broke NC. I sent a text yesterday and you replied. I try to act "normal" as if I just want to be your friend. You have to know what I am doing but you don't acknowledge it, you play along because you need something from me too. You want me in your life but you don't want to be "with" me. You have a new gf.. I pretend she doesn't exist. You ask me to send photos, make sexual innuendos. Why? What aren't you getting from her? When you will you decide to stop, that she is enough? Why do I let you do this? I asked you if you were taking her home for the holidays and you won't give me an answer... You are together with her but still pretending what we are doing is normal?? You just want to have me in the wings.. you want my friendship, my familiarity.. and I want more. Why do you need me sexually, you have her. Why can't I walk away from this? You know how I feel. You think that has changed in a week? I pretend, I say things like don't worry, I am ok. And your response? Do I seem worried? you should be, you should care. You loved me, we loved each other! What is wrong with you? What is wrong with me?? We are in touch again today and now i am going into a panic because you aren't responding. I crossed the line. Screw you. I am doing this to myself. Why do you want me in your life and why can't I let go!!!

[Sanslatete]

I so wanted to contact you today, I had another one of my 'can't cope' days but you were oblivious. I remember everything we did together, so vividly and the dreams that torture me are so clear, it's heartbreaking. We had something so special, not just another 'relationship'. We were bonded, entwined, it felt so natural and 'meant to be', it was a beautiful thing. I was so at home with you, so at peace, you were my soulmate and my best friend. I shared everything with you because I trusted you with every fibre of me, you were an angel and I would have gone to my death for you, would have defended you to the ends of the earth, you were all I had dreamt of and I cherished you. Everything I did, was to make you happy, everyone knew I adored you and they thought we were so suited together...'a lovely couple'.

But you had to conspire behind my back and run around with that prick. You couldn't have thought for a minute what it would do to me....what it would do to us. You came up with all these reasons why you were disenchanted with me, but it sounded like a script. All the lies you told me, the texts that said you were someplace when I knew you weren't. The way you lied to me when I was at my wits end, when I just wanted the truth and was dying inside, when the worry and anxiety were making me ill. I wanted us to be like we always had been, loving and laughing and enjoying each other's company. But you thought the grass was greener on the other side of the fence, I was no longer good enough for you. All the cliches, 'I just need space and time' 'maybe it's just a phase I'm going through', all the lies. You know me better than anyone on this earth and you knew how deeply I would be crushed by your actions, but you still went ahead and did them regardless. All the trust I had built up, the love I invested has all been ground to powder. I may get over this period in my life, but I'll suffer for years to come by the treatment I endured at the hands of the only one I've truly given my heart to. Any relationships I may have from now on will be tainted with the mistrust you've instilled in me. I'll never trust anyone like I did you, because you killed it. You shattered any innocence I had and made me bitter. I'll always judge people with the view you gave me of relationships and they'll suffer because you betrayed me. I hope your life turns to crap and your heart gets torn out and shredded like mine was by you. You deserve everything that you get because you did wrong, and lied about it to the best friend you ever knew or will know. I would NEVER have made you feel like I do, I respected you and loved you beyond words. I'll never be half the man I was with you because I'm damaged and hurt so deeply and you just kicked me to the kerb to deal with it myself. I would never have thought you so cruel and heartless, you were my precious angel and I loved everything about you and told you so on a daily basis. I was always telling you, and showing you, you knew how I felt but you still killed me. It still hurts my brain to wonder how you changed so much in such a short time. One minute you're in my arms, looking up at me the way you did and telling me you love me, couldn't live without me. The next, you're off tom-catting it with that ****ing low-life and thinking you're 'in love'. You're a ****ing moron if you can't see what you did was out of order. And to say you didn't expect any of it and for that to be okay with me. You always had choices and you chose the neanderthal over me, what a ****ing nerve. All the time I put into us and the care and attention, then I get left out in the cold like you never knew me. where do you get these ideas from? I don't know who you are any more, and I don't like who you've become. All the memories I keep recalling in my mind are poisoned by the last weeks of the torture you laid on me. I don't have a happy memory left that isn't sickened by your betrayal. I think about you all the time and I hate myself for it. I want to get so over you you become a ghost. i loved you with a passion so rare that you'll search the rest of your life to replicate it. You'll lie to yourself for the rest of your life, but someday you'll realise what you've done. If you're wondering, yes, I am bitter, I am angry, ****ing furious if I'm honest, and I only wanted to love you. i never in a million years saw this coming but, nevertheless, I hope you hurt badly in the not too distant future and remember what you had with me. I withdraw my love for you and my offer to be there for you. You deserve to agonise on your own for a long time, take up with every man who makes you empty promises if you wish, but I was the real deal. You are a mess and I hope you suffer.

[datingmum]

I really hate you for you doing this to us. I really don't understand why. Is it not hurting you too? I guess it's not hurting ENOUGH to do anything about it.

 

I want you. I miss you. I miss every little thing about you.

 

Please sort yourself out and make me proud. Please justify all this pain and confusion. Please conjure up a place that we can be happy and committed and a team.

[MattyTee]

Hey A****,

 

I miss you today. I hope you are happy and well, I pray for you every day. I would like to see you again, to hold you again. I know you needed your space and needed to find yourself. I'm not angry with you, I forgive you. I hope that you find what you are looking for. I'm here for you if you need me. I'm proud of myself for staying strong and loving you through all of this.

 

Your Matt

[Bosiell]

S****

 

You made me feel so alive again. You were my drug, I was on a highest of highs. The times we spent now seem like a dream, did they really happen. I had to pinch myself it was happening to me, I was dazed, blown away, you made me incredibly happy.

 

I would have gone to the ends of the earth for those times to have continued, for you to love me even half as much as I would have loved you. Why did they have to end, oh to soon. I will never ever know.

 

Now I am in rehab, cold turkey, coming of you is the hardest thing I have ever known.

 

You were in my life for such a short time, but the memories I have will last forever. For that, I thank you. xx

[niceguy27]

Happy Birthday K***! I still miss you and I remember what we did last year on your b-day. In fact I still have all of our cards that we had got for each other. In them you tell me how you couldnt wait to spend every Valentines, Sweetest, and Christmas Day with me. Looking back now I wish that was still true to this day!

 

I miss you and hope you have a great birthday!

[Phateless]

please just read it

 

I just have to ask why... I don't get it. You even called me at 3:40 to reassure me that you were coming! Why would you do that, only to leave me hanging? I waited around for 7 hours, til 1030... you could have called, texted, or even had Sabrina call me to tell me that you changed your mind. After all of the things we said to each other, I really think you owe me that much.

I don't care if it was all a fantasy to you, or if you think the blow is lessened because we never met in person, maybe that makes me not real to you? I don't know, but I am a real person with real feelings, and you hurt me deeply. I actually thought you were coming... The very least you could have done was text me and let me enjoy my Friday night instead of spending it alone at home waiting for you to never show. Do you know what that felt like? Have you ever been stood up? Well this is worse.

Maybe it was all for fun to you, but it felt real to me. If you never planned on meeting me, you shouldn't have said those things to me. If you chickened out, you should have said so. I don't even know what you're so afraid of? That I'm gonna be a serial killer stalker psycho? Are you afraid that it won't be what we thought and it would be a big giant let-down? Were you actually afraid that it would be amazing...? Maybe you just went home, mapquested it, saw that it was a 3 hour drive and said "ahhh, ****it"

Well whatever you're afraid of, that just makes you a big pussy. It bugs me that we'll never know what could have been. If you're actually laughing about how you manipulated some chump from the internet for your own amusement, well then you're a sick ****.

You know that if you were what I thought, I was actually willing to commit to you? After all of that, to just flake on me without a word...

 

Ouch............

 

I was ready for anything and now I'll always wonder if you ever meant any of the things you said to me.

 

-Joshua

 

ps - show this email to Sabrina and see what she thinks now...

[Newtotheblogthing]

I sent you an email last night and I felt great. I don't want this in my life anymore. you have nothing to offer me but pain so it's time to let go. We did love each other but we clearly cannot be friends now. You selfishly hang on.. you are probably happy in the knowledge that I have not let go. Even though it seems like a burden you still want to know but now it's time for me to move on. To forget this nonsense. To remember that you are a good person as well and that we don't seem to be treating each other well. We have not changed. This wouldn't work. We are doing the same stuff to each other. Games, hurting one another and ultimately I want more! I want to feel good about myself and you do NOT help me do this. Our relationship did not help me to do this. So it's time. I am pissed I sent you a few texts today, I was so happy this morning. But I can get it back. I don't need you. I never did.

 

Life goes on and I am starting over right now!

I am letting it go. I am letting it go. I am letting you go!

[Saxis]

Hi,

 

I hate having to talk to you every night, but I miss my daughter. If it wasn't for her, I'd never talk to you again! I hate that you took her so far away from me.... but I know, I could get her back any time I wanted. Just a quick trip to the courthouse! That's OK though, I'll just let you believe this divorce is in your hands for now. I know we agreed not to get lawyers to screw each other, but guess what.... I can lie too. No, I'm not going to screw you over in court. You offer nothing that I need. I just want to make sure my special little girl won't turn out exactly like you. I stress "exactly", because you were beautiful and caring person.... at times. I just don't want her to be a back-stabbing, lying b!tch, and I will do anything to be part of her life.

 

--------Intermission: Making another G&T ---------

 

I can't stress enough how well I'm doing without you now, emotionally and financially! I know you keep saying that you can't afford to do much anymore, especially without me supporting your sorry @ss, but that's what you wanted; to make it on your own. Too bad that involves leeching off your X-Stepmother and your brothers. Oh wait, that's not making it on your own! Hope you're enjoying the child support to pay off your debts while you live free. Gold-digging whore....

 

I don't have anything more to say to you.... I don't even want to say all the above to you; it's just the truth.

 

Have a nice life!

[amythan]

I understand your reasons, i think you are right. But even if you are right i would like you to be back. I know it is a mistake but i love you so much ... i miss you everyday, every single thing we did together, i miss our attraction and how you always told me i am the silly one .. i just love you. I do not care i seems difficult or not but i was happy with you and i am not anymore. Sometimes i think you do not love me enough to continue. I do not blame you, i want you to be always happy and if we can not be together i would like we can continue to be friends as we used to be. You are the best thing in my life. Take care of yourself.

 

xxxx

[Ohio_isforLovers]

Hmmm im gonna give this a shot..

 

**Riinnnngg***

 

Hey.. I need to talk to you right now..Well for the past summer youve been a complete B**** to me ignoring the hell out of me when i saw you outside. Wtf is your problem. You were the girl who told me that i was the guy who you would wanted to marry me and be the "one". Also saying that you would never break up with me or hurt me because of what happended in the past and you say everyone says that when there in love??? Oh F*** YOU dont give me that bull**** when you mean somehting you mean it. I ****ing gave everything of my time and effort on this relationship jsut for you to get rid of it like it wasnt anything! How ****ing dare you! Well now that the guy you were seeing durign the summer ****ing left you and used you your all alone now. How does it feel to have that feeling huh? You have no ****ing clue how i feel, times that by 5 and maybe you would understand. You dont **** around with people emotions and think that its okay. I cant belive how you changed for the worst! Your not the same girl that i loved 2 years ago. Well my birthday is coming up and i know you wanna wish me a happy birthday and what not...just dont okay..Im really fed up with you and ur lies. I ****ing love you to death but you treat me like im nobody. Talk to me again when you ****ing brain ticks again and comes to realization that what you did was wrong and want to work things out with me. Cause this is way to much for me im sorry you want it your way for us to be friends. But its not all about you.Oh and its funny too because all your freinds see it my way how you changed for the worst and how ****ed up as a person you are to me. They all envied our relationship we never got into fights whats so ever or we never argued. Also i treated you with the repsect that you needed and hanged out with you everysingle day of the week to just see your pretty face. But if you dont want that and just want to be screwed by another guy because i knew he was going to do that to you. But you never listened to me.Well call me when you want something back with me. I love you and i always will.. Bye

 

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**Edit

sorry for the mispells and such was kinda mad when writing..

[Precious K]

So Hi,

Yeah today we exchanged a few txt msgs and I'm super disappointed in myself. So as usual you blamed me for the break up. Im really use to dealing with this. Im tired of your lies and you cant ever accept your wrong doing. So I guess this weekend you'll have fun from what I was told. Good for you... You just sent me an "I love you" txt. Cant you just stop putting my hopes up. You will never understand how much I love you and how much I care about you. Through everything you put me through. I would give you my life, and I never cared of what you have or didn't have. I feel dead inside.

[jonsmith]

Hey, so..we havent talked in a while. congrats on getting married, sounds like everything is good for you, youre really happy. you know we moved here this past week. its kind of hard, its been a couple years, but whenever im in the same city as you, i find myself checking the face of every girl that looks remotely like you, its driving me insane. hopefully it will go away soon. i thought i was over you before i moved, i actually felt like normal again, after over 3 years. now that im here, i find myself thinking that what happened was my fault, like i couldve prevented it somehow. ive probably gone over everything in my mind a million times now, but it doesnt matter. i never thought that it would be this hard to get over someone, especially when ive got such a great person in my life now. i know im just a brief memory in the back of your mind now, but you still are pretty forefront in mine, at least lately. good luck with everything, hopefully we dont run into each other again.

[Zona76]

Well P, So glad I woke up and got rid of you and moved on.

What? Your new lady don't want you either?

Now ain't that too bad. But seems she caught on a lot faster than I did.

And yes I will continue to flaunt my love for my incredible husband to you in the "other forum"

You need therapy P. You refuse to believe something is wrong with you. Well it's NOT that you can't keep a job more than 3 months. Not that you keep telling lies to everyone that you meet. You're a compulsive lier.

It's that you ALWAYS think you're right! You don't want to be part of anything unless you're center of attention. And when anone else shines you're there to steal the show!

Your Dad left you an inheretance and you Blew it in 3 months, with Nothing to show. Now you whine because you don't have a place to go to.

Well tough Sh**

Your adult children know your bad habits too and don't want you either!

 

*Whew! Thanks that feels better!