I kissed a married man and am falling in love!

[Storyrider]

What if it was the same guy?

[pricillia]

What if it was the same guy?

 

 

You see this man(therapist) has no right to be doing what he is doing to F2BM...

 

taking advantage of a doc/patient relationship is just wrong wrong wrong...

 

she will end up getting hurt, hopefully she will be alright.

[pricillia]

http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0876307241/ref=sib_dp_pt/102-9899328-6452947#reader-link

[Hugh_950]

This stuff is better than pay per view.

 

I'm not making this up, but years ago, I visited a female shrink, looking for some insight. I sorta' secretly wished I'd get hit on ... and I did, it was more than 15 minutes too. It was good.

 

Do ANY of you girls feel sorry for me?

Should I have taken a rape shower?

 

... we've got three girls that have banged their shrinks.

 

Now everyone's out to lynch the SOB because he's a professional and the girls are pooooooooor victims.

 

One's trying to collect evidence - yeah, exactly like Monica (trying to convince us that she was taking the stuff to a better trash can) gonna take a tape recorder next time too. She's a little miffed because he didn't let her keep the spooge.

 

Gimme a break. You're not children!

 

My whole point is that I suspect that each of you sorta' secretly wanted to get hit on too.

 

If what I'm saying doesn't make you mad yet ... wait till you hear this next part. Afterward I said I wouldn't pay - the sex was my payment. She said, "OK fine".

 

See how easy it is ... you dummies are paying the bill

[pricillia]

This stuff is better than pay per view.

 

I'm not making this up, but years ago, I visited a female shrink, looking for some insight. I sorta' secretly wished I'd get hit on ... and I did, it was more than 15 minutes too. It was good.

 

Do ANY of you girls feel sorry for me?

Should I have taken a rape shower?

 

... we've got three girls that have banged their shrinks.

 

Now everyone's out to lynch the SOB because he's a professional and the girls are pooooooooor victims.

 

One's trying to collect evidence - yeah, exactly like Monica (trying to convince us that she was taking the stuff to a better trash can) gonna take a tape recorder next time too. She's a little miffed because he didn't let her keep the spooge.

 

Gimme a break. You're not children!

 

My whole point is that I suspect that each of you sorta' secretly wanted to get hit on too.

 

If what I'm saying doesn't make you mad yet ... wait till you hear this next part. Afterward I said I wouldn't pay - the sex was my payment. She said, "OK fine".

 

See how easy it is ... you dummies are paying the bill

 

 

exactly my point Therapist are people too... they make the same mistakes we do but get paid to make everyone think they know what the best thing to do is...

 

The whole profession is a crock....

 

sorry venting here

[norajane]

Back to the sex we had...It was a quickie and it was great. I felt exhilarated. He went to the bathroom to pull himself to together and I made sure to wrap the condom in a kleenex and put it my purse to throw away on my way home so no evidence could be found in any of his office trash cans. However, he insisted on following me to a gas station near his office and watching me discard the used condom in a trash can there as if he thought I were going to try to Monica Lewinsky him or something. I could tell he was nervous obviously having never done this before but that really insulted me---I trust him implicitly and I thought he trusted me, too.

 

Where did that condom come from - did he have one in his office? Why would a MM have condoms in his office if not to use them...? Maybe he has done this before.

 

And why - if he went to the trouble of following you to the gas station to watch you throw it out - why didn't he just take the condom to throw it out himself in the first place??? Why were you supposed to do that? That makes no sense to me.

 

In any case, no, he's not going to trust you. You are his patient. He is married. He has a lot to lose if you expose him.

[pricillia]

So we know that therapists are lonely people who feed on thier patients time and energy....

 

using them for sex and a self esteem pick me up...

[whichwayisup]

Sharazad, you should make your own thread about your situation. You'll get more replies that way and also, it's not fair for FUN that she has to share her thread with someone else.

[Touche]

Hugh, what a priceless post. I agree. These gals obviously had some issues to begin with because in my wildest dreams, I can't imagine that I'd ever pay someone that I was sleeping with.

 

I mean it's insane. If these ladies were dating (sleeping with) a lawyer and got a ticket say...would they expect that their b/f would charge them a fee for taking care of it? They'd be outraged. This is no different. Why can't they see that they're being used?

[pricillia]

Hugh, what a priceless post. I agree. These gals obviously had some issues to begin with because in my wildest dreams, I can't imagine that I'd ever pay someone that I was sleeping with.

 

I mean it's insane. If these ladies were dating (sleeping with) a lawyer and got a ticket say...would they expect that their b/f would charge them a fee for taking care of it? They'd be outraged. This is no different. Why can't they see that they're being used?

 

 

Therapist and patient are being used... but therapist has upper hand until patient realizes that therapist is taking advantage and pulls some creepy movie like phyco thing...

 

I hope fun pulls herself away from this guy and realizes she can find someone better both therapist and lover/friend

[SadandConfusedWA]

Hugh, what a priceless post. I agree. These gals obviously had some issues to begin with because in my wildest dreams, I can't imagine that I'd ever pay someone that I was sleeping with.

 

That's because you are happily married. You were lucky enough to find the one. Those girls haven't (yet) and are a bit lost. It's amazing how your judgment gets skewed when you are infatuated with someone. You find justifications in your mind for their every action, but it's very easy to see things clearly when your own emotions are not involved.

[Fun2BMe]

I'm not in love with my therapist but I'm certainly in lust. And he is also a MM. He's been my therapist for 5 months now and he's more than 10 yrs my senior. The subtle flirting between us started about two months ago but nothing more. Then a month ago, I revealed having had sexual thoughts about him. He initiated kissing/fondling me after that session and we discussed wanting to sleep together. He brought up the fact that we should meet somewhere outside of the office, but claims his wife keeps him on a very short leash and he's having a hard time trying to figure out how he could get away for even an hour or two to see me. Two more sessions followed culminating in kissing/intense fondling. Then last weekend we finally had sex during the last 15 minutes of my session.

 

<b>For all of you who seem not to believe FUN when she says she still has her regular therapy session I am living proof. We always spend the majority of the session like normal talking about my week and whatever other issues are important to me. It's only at the end of the session that it becomes sexual. And, although I'm sure it's hard for you to believe this, I have honestly had the most positive progress in my therapy with him. I understand his duty as a medical professional to not become involved with a patient, but I guess I also see him a man with the same feelings as any other man. I don't have any delusions about him leaving his wife for me...I really don't want that. I just feel extremely drawn to him sexually.<b>

 

Back to the sex we had...It was a quickie and it was great. I felt exhilarated. He went to the bathroom to pull himself to together and I made sure to wrap the condom in a kleenex and put it my purse to throw away on my way home so no evidence could be found in any of his office trash cans. However, he insisted on following me to a gas station near his office and watching me discard the used condom in a trash can there as if he thought I were going to try to Monica Lewinsky him or something. I could tell he was nervous obviously having never done this before but that really insulted me---I trust him implicitly and I thought he trusted me, too.

 

When I paid him that day I must admit I had feeling of anger/revulsion/humiliation. I had never been with a MM prior to this nor had I ever payed for sex. I tried to tell myself I wasn't paying for sex, I was paying for my therapy session which just happened to have been truncated to 45min instead of the usual hour. But after reading the responses on this post I feel a little sick to my stomach again about what is actually happening. Next session I plan to tell him I'm can't continue paying for my sessions if they're going to turn sexual. I'm sure that will successfully bring an end to the whole affair. I'm also going to conceal a tape recorder in my purse to record our conversation and/or any sex that occurs, not to turn him in (I refuse to do that), but to keep it as my own secret collataral just in case. I'm not planning to go to a different therapist right now. At this point I think we are both just two adults who made a mistake in judgement and since there are no love feelings involved we can put this behind us and move on.

 

Wow, I can so relate to your experience. I guess I'm not alone. It's like we have a regular session as if we are platnoic, then in the end it gets sexual.

[Fun2BMe]

http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0876307241/ref=sib_dp_pt/102-9899328-6452947#reader-link

 

This looks like an interesting book/author. I just placed an order for 4 books by him. Thanks.

[Fun2BMe]

Sharazad, you should make your own thread about your situation. You'll get more replies that way and also, it's not fair for FUN that she has to share her thread with someone else.

 

I really don't mind. It's actually interesting to see that my case isn't so unique, I mean her despcription sounds just like mine, kind of scary when she labels it as 'lust.'

 

I'm curious Sharazad, has your therapist ever told you that he loves you??

[Fun2BMe]

This stuff is better than pay per view.

 

I'm not making this up, but years ago, I visited a female shrink, looking for some insight. I sorta' secretly wished I'd get hit on ... and I did, it was more than 15 minutes too. It was good.

 

Do ANY of you girls feel sorry for me?

Should I have taken a rape shower?

 

... we've got three girls that have banged their shrinks.

 

Now everyone's out to lynch the SOB because he's a professional and the girls are pooooooooor victims.

 

One's trying to collect evidence - yeah, exactly like Monica (trying to convince us that she was taking the stuff to a better trash can) gonna take a tape recorder next time too. She's a little miffed because he didn't let her keep the spooge.

 

Gimme a break. You're not children!

 

My whole point is that I suspect that each of you sorta' secretly wanted to get hit on too.

 

If what I'm saying doesn't make you mad yet ... wait till you hear this next part. Afterward I said I wouldn't pay - the sex was my payment. She said, "OK fine".

 

See how easy it is ... you dummies are paying the bill

 

You're telling me that your female therapist had sex with you on your FIRST visit? According to the literature, female threrapists make up less than 5% of therapists who report to have sex with their patients, and on top of it on your first visit? And NOW you share this info? Sorry but that's highly unlikely.

 

You just think it's so easy for a vulnerable patient with major issues who after 7 months of seeing her therapist, being told he loves her, to suddenly say "I don't want to pay you for the sexual conduct that takes up a small percentage of the time at the end of the session." Sorry but in real life, things aren't that straight forward and simple, especially if you are not in the position to really understand obviously.

 

Based on your story, you must probably go therapist hopping every week to get your free sexual thrills by a trained PhD for free. Interesting.

[Fun2BMe]

The scary thing is they often use thier position to make or break you and or manifpulate you, if your mind is weak, they can treat you like a puppett... and make you do anything, have sex fall in love fall out of love and also numb you to feelings that you should be going through to get to the other side.

 

Yes, that is a scary thing. I am feeling very confused. The comments have had a huge impact on my psyche. By the time I went to my last session, I was feeling confused and upset. He had rescheduled it and I found it strange that his secretary wasn't in the office, we were all alone. He was trying to get close at the end and I pulled away and he made it a point that he didn't have another patient after me, as if to make me feel like the sex would be outside our hour and I'd be more willing.

 

He started out by asking me about our last encounter. I got upset, I felt like he was putting me on the spot, as if he was cheapening the experiencing by turning it scientific and picking it apart. I told him I was feeling guilty about it, and didn't know if I upset him by what happened. I was trying to take the guilt and acknowledge it was wrong, but he thought it wasn't and I just felt very upset at how he wanted to discuss it like any other issue when I was thinking we were in love with each other.

 

I refused to touch him the whole session, and pulled back when he tried to hug me both at the start and at the end of the session. I am feeling very violated and disgusted with him and myself one minute, then feeling guilty for having those negative feelings, wondering if I am reading too much into what should be a good thing for two people who love each other to be expressing.

 

He asked if I wanted to schedule a second session that week and I feel proud for saying no. I haven't thought about him sexually ever since our last session, BUT, as you say pricilla, I don't know if he is manipulating me to feel this way? Is he manipulating me to now 'fall out of love' with him like a puppet, and will at will make me fall back in love? I almost feel like an experiement or a puppet. I feel like I am losing my mind and feeling very depressed and disappointed in myself, all the while with the thought his life is moving on regular with his wife. He no longer contacts me outside our sessions, I feel used and tossed aside and am wondering if I should tell him I want to end our therapy.

 

I hinted in that direction by telling him how much he's helped me and I wasn't bringing up anything new to discuss, kind of like 'ok, I'm healed I don't need your sessions anymore' to which he responded by giving me 'homework', stuff he'd do at the begging when I first started seeing him, to write down things, talk about things and so on. THis almost guarantees I'd keep my next appointment so that I can turn in my homework. It seems almost like a scam I am seeing through. I would still be head over heals into him without this thread, but the whole time I was with him I was thinking of all the comments here to the point that for the first time ever I didn't even let him hug me.

 

On the other hand if he were to give me the same attention as before, I have a feeling I might respond positively towards him again. It's as if I'm artificially upset at him, waiting for conditions to allow me to feel the loving feelings again. I dont know, i feel messed up.

 

As you will recall, my exbf had referred me to him for help. Now when I bring up my ex he doesn't want to discuss him, almost get the vibe he feels threatened if we get back together but not if for my own good but for him? I feel like calling my ex to get consolation and feedback about what is happening with the T. Suddenly he doesn't seem so bad in my eyes and I am starting to miss him, want him to 'save' me or something.

[Reckless]

Fun,

 

Did you prepare and ask any of your questions?

 

Did you raise any of the issues that have come up in this thread?

[Fun2BMe]

Reckless, the same day of my therapy he called to reschedule it earlier, so I got in a frantic to make it in time to get to his office. I completely forgot about asking any of my questions. In fact I forgot all about it until this moment.

 

As far as raising any of the issues. The session started with him asking how I felt about our 'encounter' and the questioning he gave me made me feel very very upset. It was like he was someone else sitting across from him asking about something that happened between me and someone else. I couldn't even speak, he said 'I don't mean to put you on the spot.' which was EXACTLY how I was feeling. I coudln't think clearly much less articulate any questions.

[norajane]

He started out by asking me about our last encounter. I got upset, I felt like he was putting me on the spot, as if he was cheapening the experiencing by turning it scientific and picking it apart. I told him I was feeling guilty about it, and didn't know if I upset him by what happened. I was trying to take the guilt and acknowledge it was wrong, but he thought it wasn't and I just felt very upset at how he wanted to discuss it like any other issue when I was thinking we were in love with each other.

 

That's called 'conflict of interest'. He can't be a proper, objective therapist when the issues in your life and mind that you need to discuss are HIM. And you can't be honest and upfront because you are having issues with him as both your therapist and love interest.

 

I feel like I am losing my mind and feeling very depressed and disappointed in myself, all the while with the thought his life is moving on regular with his wife. He no longer contacts me outside our sessions, I feel used and tossed aside and am wondering if I should tell him I want to end our therapy.

 

If the cause of your depression and the feeling that you're losing your mind is your therapist, YES, you should tell him you want to end your therapy and find someone else to go to. Don't ask him for a reference - get a reference from someone else so you can feel free to be honest and not worry about him having any ties to new therapist. And please, find a woman therapist so you don't end up in the same situation again.

 

As you will recall, my exbf had referred me to him for help. Now when I bring up my ex he doesn't want to discuss him, almost get the vibe he feels threatened if we get back together but not if for my own good but for him? I feel like calling my ex to get consolation and feedback about what is happening with the T. Suddenly he doesn't seem so bad in my eyes and I am starting to miss him, want him to 'save' me or something.

 

Your boyfriend is the same guy that he was before - and as I recall, he wasn't exactly filling you with joy and peace. Don't regress and go back to him. You don't need him to save you, nor anyone else. You can make it on your own

[whichwayisup]

Yes, that is a scary thing. I am feeling very confused. The comments have had a huge impact on my psyche. By the time I went to my last session, I was feeling confused and upset. He had rescheduled it and I found it strange that his secretary wasn't in the office, we were all alone. He was trying to get close at the end and I pulled away and he made it a point that he didn't have another patient after me, as if to make me feel like the sex would be outside our hour and I'd be more willing.

 

I'm glad that what is being said here is popping into your head during your therapy sessions. We are pointing out all that is wrong and it's making more sense to you.

 

Fact that he isn't willing to see you outside of the office says alot, doesn't it?

 

He started out by asking me about our last encounter. I got upset, I felt like he was putting me on the spot, as if he was cheapening the experiencing by turning it scientific and picking it apart. I told him I was feeling guilty about it, and didn't know if I upset him by what happened. I was trying to take the guilt and acknowledge it was wrong, but he thought it wasn't and I just felt very upset at how he wanted to discuss it like any other issue when I was thinking we were in love with each other.

 

See, this pisses me off, once again you having him as your therapist to talk about you, your life, your issues, feelings and thoughts now HAVE to revolve around him. He's made sure of that! Listen to us, listen to your head, not your heart or emotions...You're seeing things differently now, so trust your gut and see the red flags.

 

I refused to touch him the whole session, and pulled back when he tried to hug me both at the start and at the end of the session. I am feeling very violated and disgusted with him and myself one minute, then feeling guilty for having those negative feelings, wondering if I am reading too much into what should be a good thing for two people who love each other to be expressing.

 

You have insight into your own situation, which you didn't have before! That's a good thing FUN! You know what he is doing is wrong and instinctively, you'll pulling away from him. DO NOT let him manipulate you into another session. Infact, since the nice weather is here, maybe you should tell him every 2 week or even every 3 weeks, you'll do a session. Right now going once a week isn't doing any good anymore. The focus of your therapy has changed completely and he can no longer help you the way he did before. He's personally involved and too close. His feelings are getting in the way, as is yours.

 

He asked if I wanted to schedule a second session that week and I feel proud for saying no. I haven't thought about him sexually ever since our last session, BUT, as you say pricilla, I don't know if he is manipulating me to feel this way? Is he manipulating me to now 'fall out of love' with him like a puppet, and will at will make me fall back in love? I almost feel like an experiement or a puppet. I feel like I am losing my mind and feeling very depressed and disappointed in myself, all the while with the thought his life is moving on regular with his wife. He no longer contacts me outside our sessions, I feel used and tossed aside and am wondering if I should tell him I want to end our therapy.

 

I'm glad to hear that you haven't been thinking of him sexually! That is another step of getting away from this guy. His actions, him not seeing or talking to you outside of the sessions SHOWS YOU what he is about. IF he really wanted more, he'd be seeing you outside of the office hours and not taking your money.

 

Definately tell him you don't need therapy like you used to. Again, he cannot help you like he was doing before.

 

I hinted in that direction by telling him how much he's helped me and I wasn't bringing up anything new to discuss, kind of like 'ok, I'm healed I don't need your sessions anymore' to which he responded by giving me 'homework', stuff he'd do at the begging when I first started seeing him, to write down things, talk about things and so on. THis almost guarantees I'd keep my next appointment so that I can turn in my homework. It seems almost like a scam I am seeing through. I would still be head over heals into him without this thread, but the whole time I was with him I was thinking of all the comments here to the point that for the first time ever I didn't even let him hug me.

 

See, he IS manipulating you by giving you homework. WTF. It is a scam, I'm glad that you're atleast pondering that side of what is really going on.

 

On the other hand if he were to give me the same attention as before, I have a feeling I might respond positively towards him again. It's as if I'm artificially upset at him, waiting for conditions to allow me to feel the loving feelings again. I dont know, i feel messed up.

 

Don't let your heart take over. Listen to us, listen to what you feel and know already. Trust that.

 

As you will recall, my exbf had referred me to him for help. Now when I bring up my ex he doesn't want to discuss him, almost get the vibe he feels threatened if we get back together but not if for my own good but for him? I feel like calling my ex to get consolation and feedback about what is happening with the T. Suddenly he doesn't seem so bad in my eyes and I am starting to miss him, want him to 'save' me or something.

 

There's the pattern.

 

You don't need another man to save you or to get you out of this situation. All you have to do is take charge and say NO MORE! Call the T tell him you won't be seeing him anymore, goodbye. He cannot force you to come see him.

 

FUN, don't even entertain the thoughts of going back to the ex. You need to start fresh like you did BEFORE this all happened with your T. You need to be alone and not have a man in your life. Gotta hang out with family, close girl friends and bond with those who are in your life, trustworthy people!

 

As far as raising any of the issues. The session started with him asking how I felt about our 'encounter' and the questioning he gave me made me feel very very upset. It was like he was someone else sitting across from him asking about something that happened between me and someone else. I couldn't even speak, he said 'I don't mean to put you on the spot.' which was EXACTLY how I was feeling. I coudln't think clearly much less articulate any questions.

 

Paying your T to talk about you and him is nuts. It's him taking your money gladly. That is pure bullsh.it and he knows what he is doing. He's not stupid at all.

 

Stay strong FUN and fight those feelings. Keep reading the replies, and listen to the stronger part of you that is telling you "GET OUT AND RUN". I have faith in you that soon you'll walk away from him and this situation.

[serial muse]

exactly my point Therapist are people too... they make the same mistakes we do but get paid to make everyone think they know what the best thing to do is...

 

The whole profession is a crock....

 

sorry venting here

 

 

This is terrible...I know plenty of therapists who are very conscious of their responsibilities and want only to help their patients, and who do in fact help them quite a bit. I find this, and your earlier statement Pricillia about how therapists "often" prey on their patients, to be really offensive. I'm sorry if you may have had a bad experience but it doesn't make sense to extrapolate it like that. It's weird to me how therapists have become a favorite whipping-boy, like lawyers - it's such a cliche. But that doesn't mean that there aren't good people with integrity out there.

 

I understand that some people may have negative experiences, because yes, therapists are just people and they're as variant as people themselves are. But that's why you have the power to stop going to the ones who aren't helpful and beneficial and find someone who is. And the thing is, everyone is just a "person," but we're all trained differently, whether as scientists or lawyers or teachers or therapists, and that training does indeed make a difference when it comes to sorting out the complex motivations or needs that can torment someone. Training matters.

 

Not all therapists are leeches or lechers; maybe it's hard for people to remember that amid a sensationalist, disturbing story like Fun's. But come on people. Fun has the option, which she should take, of seeking someone who doesn't have a conflict of interest. So does anyone whose therapist crosses a line. You are an active participant in your own healing, or else it won't work.

 

And what WWIU said above is true, Fun - that you're now thinking of your exBF as someone who can "save" you is exactly the pattern that you need to work on. You need to realize that you have the power to save yourself. You can remove yourself from this situation all on your own, and I hope you will.

[Sharazad]

FUN, I'm sorry. I definitely didn't mean to distract from your post---I just got overwhelmed to see how similar our situations are. No, he's never told me he loves me and I've intentionally not asked about his family situation because I don't want to know too much...but there is a deep affection between us. Strange how the people here keep pointing out that we must have had "some issues to begin with". Well pardon me for stating the obvious, but I wouldn't be in THERAPY in the first place unless I had some issues to work out. And I hate how all of the positive progress I've made during my therapy is now being overshadowed by this situation. But I'm still grateful to have run across this post because it has really brought me back to reality. Anyway, my session is today in a few hours. I'm going to try to focus on asking some of the questions suggested here.

[pricillia]

This is terrible...I know plenty of therapists who are very conscious of their responsibilities and want only to help their patients, and who do in fact help them quite a bit. I find this, and your earlier statement Pricillia about how therapists "often" prey on their patients, to be really offensive. I'm sorry if you may have had a bad experience but it doesn't make sense to extrapolate it like that. It's weird to me how therapists have become a favorite whipping-boy, like lawyers - it's such a cliche. But that doesn't mean that there aren't good people with integrity out there.

 

I understand that some people may have negative experiences, because yes, therapists are just people and they're as variant as people themselves are. But that's why you have the power to stop going to the ones who aren't helpful and beneficial and find someone who is. And the thing is, everyone is just a "person," but we're all trained differently, whether as scientists or lawyers or teachers or therapists, and that training does indeed make a difference when it comes to sorting out the complex motivations or needs that can torment someone. Training matters.

 

Not all therapists are leeches or lechers; maybe it's hard for people to remember that amid a sensationalist, disturbing story like Fun's. But come on people. Fun has the option, which she should take, of seeking someone who doesn't have a conflict of interest. So does anyone whose therapist crosses a line. You are an active participant in your own healing, or else it won't work.

 

And what WWIU said above is true, Fun - that you're now thinking of your exBF as someone who can "save" you is exactly the pattern that you need to work on. You need to realize that you have the power to save yourself. You can remove yourself from this situation all on your own, and I hope you will.

 

 

SM... get a clue, this had nothing to do with you, so don't take it that way. I am trying to help Fun...

 

Let's not make this about all therapists... like I said I was venting

 

I can not believe that you were offended by my statement.... I was trying to get fun to realize that this person (with therapist title) is truly no more together than she is...

[whichwayisup]

Not all therapists are leeches or lechers; maybe it's hard for people to remember that amid a sensationalist, disturbing story like Fun's. But come on people. Fun has the option, which she should take, of seeking someone who doesn't have a conflict of interest. So does anyone whose therapist crosses a line. You are an active participant in your own healing, or else it won't work.

 

Ofcourse not all therapists are like that. Just like not all Priests, teachers, and others in positions of authority are not all sexually abusing younger kids. There are good people and there are messed up people...FUN's therapist may be a good therpist to some, but to HER he is not. She IS realizing this on her own, and with the help of us replying to her. And she is seeing firsthand how UNprofessional her therapist is. I just hope that this experience doesn't ruin and mess her up that she won't find another therapist in the near future. Crap, if she lived in the same city as me, I'd hook her up with (female) therapist as she is the BEST and has helped me so much with my anxiety disorder.

[hunnybun1980]

dont know how much help this will be to you.... i only came on cos i wanted to tell my story too... and yours caught my eye. i'm in a similar situation, but i'm the married one, and have been seeing a guy for nearly 9 months on and off - or really when we can get time. we both said at the start that nothing could ever happen and we both said we wanted it too, it never for ages until one day he kissed me and it all started from there, and although we are having great fun, i'm falling for him big time. and i want us to be together....anyway i dont really have an answer for you but if you have nothing to loose do what you think is right as long as no one gets hurt, keep your eyes open for my post for full details of my life!!!