Hugh_950 Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 On the contrary I said from post ONE that it is happy .... .... You got some chip on your shoulder that needs to be brushed off but don't take your bitterness, hatred and anger out on me. So then you're manuvering to break up a HAPPY marriage, right? And I have to say that what you're doing is very disturbing. Link to post Share on other sites
Hugh_950 Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 ... this man is a predator taking advantage of your feelings and your fears, please for your own mental and emotional health, seek out other counceling. They're both preditors. Link to post Share on other sites
GregsBad Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 I never said to my memory that I suspect his marriage is unhappy. On the contrary I said from post ONE that it is happy aside from not knowing the very latest status from when he stopped discussing it but I assume it hasn't gone bad. You probably haven't even read the whole thread. Ooh I'm so scared if 'the doc' reads this forum. It won't be anything he doesn't know or what I woulnd't tell him myself! You got some chip on your shoulder that needs to be brushed off but don't take your bitterness, hatred and anger out on me. I took a shower - thanks. OK so my point was that you're trying to ruin a marriage that you think is unhappy. But now you've corrected that part - it IS a happy marriage - to your knowledge? I think you SHOULD tell him (before having sex, as you mentioned) about your you're ideas about him leaving the wife for you. Link to post Share on other sites
GregsBad Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 As I said, I will wait to see what happens Monday so you can in the meantime keep your immature comments to yourself. You sound 12 years old going on and on about masturbation as if you've never known of people doing it. I know boys and girls do it. But I thought it was odd hearing a woman telling another woman that she'll do it so she so she can maintain a little more self control during her plot to get a married man to leave his wife. Anyway ... the strangest part to me is that I understand that some women hold out for marriage. But I've never heard of one holding out for divorce. And then a bunch of other women egging her on! Have I got this right? BTW: I've held off from it so I could perform better for her. But I've never thought of doing it so I would be less tempted to bang some woman I'm wanting for my own. Maybe it's different because it wouln't really work. I'd still feel horny as soon as we said hello again Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 How about: E. I know she loves meand I love her too and am going to enjoy the moment. A. is no because it doesn't mean he's thinking the consequences don't matter - it happened so spontaneously he, like myself, may not have been concentrating on the aftermath although as soon as I realized what was happening I pulled away instincitively. B. is a possibility but considering how intellectual he is I doubt he acts without thinking. C. is 100% no. D. is 100% because he initiated the french part of it. What's wrong with me?? I was going to say, F. "Should I slide my hand down on to her arse?" Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Fun... I love men and think that they are great!!! So in no way is this a dig towards men or men in general. But based on your situation with the abusive ex and the now therapist who is playing you like a puppet because he knows that you are insecure and vulnerable. I would say that you need to surround yourself with strong women role models and give yourself a break in trying to find fullfilment with men that are not good for you and your future happiness. You have obviously been abused and I personally do not know what the result that has caused in reguards to your mental welness. You have some work to do to make yourself less of a compulsive personality but you can not do that if you don't know who you are, and right now I know that you are truly confused. You are attached to a man that is in no way going to be a healthy part of your life and has began to dismantle independant strong confident thinking on your part. The first thing that you need to do is accept who you are as a woman and don't be afraid of it. There is nothing wrong with being alone to do some work on your self... inside and out. I ask you what is the current reason for still continuing going to this man when the reason that you went to him was to break up with the abusive one. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 She's addicted to him. She is scared to go cold turkey because she's built him up so much in her imagination that if she throws him out of her life there will be a hole the size of China she has no idea how to fill. Also, he's like a two-headed monster to her b/c he's the "lover" and the therapist. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 She's addicted to him. She is scared to go cold turkey because she's built him up so much in her imagination that if she throws him out of her life there will be a hole the size of China she has no idea how to fill. Also, he's like a two-headed monster to her b/c he's the "lover" and the therapist. right he plays duel roles in her life... But if there is a hole that needs to be filled then she is going to have to accept the fact that she will have to fill it in slowly and not replace it with a make shift but actually work for what she would like to achieve. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 But if there is a hole that needs to be filled then she is going to have to accept the fact that she will have to fill it in slowly I couldn't agree more. You can't rush these things. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 I couldn't agree more. You can't rush these things. would you put a sock in it... and you can quote me on that... Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 would you put a sock in it... Don't you mean on it?? Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Don't you mean on it?? freak much Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Don't you mean on it?? Then it would be like a sock monkey. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Then it would be like a sock monkey. Unfortunately, many want the sock monkey off their backside. A different approach may be necessary. http://aimeemajor.com/images/photos/halloween/elephant.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 Unfortunately, many want the sock monkey off their backside. A different approach may be necessary. http://aimeemajor.com/images/photos/halloween/elephant.jpg Sock elephant? You're pulling my trunk. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 I am so happy that I had an intricate part in turning this thread I should have known better Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 OK. OK, sorry I'll fix it. Um, she needs to sock him if he tries to kiss her again. And she needs to realize he isn't the only sock in the drawer. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 OK. OK, sorry I'll fix it. Um, she needs to sock him if he tries to kiss her again. A latex sock?? And she needs to realize he isn't the only sock in the drawer. Odd socks can still have a purpose in life. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 A latex sock?? Odd socks can still have a purpose in life. They come in handy for those with three feet. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 They come in handy for those with three feet. Always the sensible one. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 A latex sock?/quote] no that would be a glove.... we are talking about socks Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 no that would be a glove.... we are talking about socks A latex glove?? I don't think he's going to give her a rectal exam. You seem a bit confused about what fits what. Would you like me to demonstrate? Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 29, 2007 Share Posted April 29, 2007 A latex glove?? I don't think he's going to give her a rectal exam. You seem a bit confused about what fits what. Would you like me to demonstrate? ha ha ha ha the only one that is confused is you Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fun2BMe Posted April 30, 2007 Author Share Posted April 30, 2007 OK. OK, sorry I'll fix it. Um, she needs to sock him if he tries to kiss her again. And she needs to realize he isn't the only sock in the drawer. To be fair and accurate, as I've stated before - I'm the one who has been initiating the kisses (except for lately when I didn't kiss him he'd ask why not and encourage me to). He turned my initiated kiss into the french kiss, so the 'fault' is 50-50. And at this point, he is in fact the only sock in my drawer (strange saying, you guys are a little crazy today, not that there's sanity on other days:) At the end of the day, I do believe he truly cares for me. On other threads from months ago, I have posted how he helps me so much. When I was so depressed over the problems with my boyfriend at that time, he had called his close friends to ask me to invite me over for dinner or lunch throughout the entire weekend for many weeks in a row so I wouldn't be alone sulking or tempted to contact my bf. This afternoon I got a call from his friend's wife who invited me for dinner this coming Friday night. I can't put into words how he really cares for me in ways I have not seen in other individuals and so I don't want to turn it into a bash festival and get pitty that poor me my therapist is taking advantage of me. He truly cares for me and is good hearted which I can detect in people. I'm very sensitive and if someone is a creep I won't hesitate to get away from them. That's why it was so devestating when my up to then caring and loyal boyfriend cheated on me. I've come to terms with it though. He was my soulmate and his time ran out so that I would meet my next soulmate, and in comparison our bond is much stronger and more loving on top of it. (ready for everyone's cynical comments. I feel much more together at this point and ready to face the music tomorrow, ask him upfront questions and draw the line and all that stuff. Thanks for all your opinions). Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 30, 2007 Share Posted April 30, 2007 (ready for everyone's cynical comments. I feel much more together at this point and ready to face the music tomorrow, ask him upfront questions and draw the line and all that stuff. Thanks for all your opinions). I wonder what size sock he is. And what kind of sock. Does he cushion you against the harsh surface of life, or slide up your calves until he's fully stretched? Link to post Share on other sites
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