Sun_Conure Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 My ex and I were kind of like friends for quite a while now. For some time we had a fwb going on, but then I quit. I could not do it. Two months ago he was dumped by his short-term gf. We talked and I helped him to go through those bad times. It was very good for me as well. Anyway, by helping him I resolved my own issues with him. Since then I stopped bringing up questions about what happened in the past between us. Two weeks after that break up he started talking about dating me again. I did not really want to be involved with him so close to his break up. So I went out on a date with another guy. When my ex heard about it, he went berserk. He immediately found a date for himself and spent like three days in a row with her. That effectively ended our possibility to get back together. Well, he started dating that girl and we continued to talking. We never met, but he called and we chatted online. Two weeks into his relationship, he started again his conversations about having sex with me. How much he wanted me, etc. I said no, I am sure I do not want it that way. Then he began to tell me how much he missed me. "I miss you in many ways .. I miss our conversations." At first I thought he was playing me to get into bed with me, but then he never bothered before. So I do not know if he really misses me or not. Moreover, he recently told me that he was having doubts about the girl he is seeing now. Well, judging from what he told me about their so called dates, I am not surprised However, this information did not make me want to sleep with him. I am very firm in that respect. Also he calls now. Frequently. He did not do that for a long time... So I am curious does he really miss me? Or is he just playing me? For the record, I go on dates with other guys and I go on with my good life. What to do? Help, please! Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted April 24, 2007 Share Posted April 24, 2007 Why would you think that any happiness in your life is dependent on the love or attention of another person? I personally would drop any thought of any relationship at all for a while, stay single, alone and celibate for a set period of time, and spend it evaluating what is important and vital for you to lead a serene and balanced life. I have done this. best thing I ever did. I have a partner, but believe me, I am not happy because of him. I am already adequately happy and he is in my life. There's a difference. Pay attention to yourself in the singular, rather than you as a part of anything else. you deserve at least that! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sun_Conure Posted April 24, 2007 Author Share Posted April 24, 2007 Hmm ... Why would you think that any happiness in your life is dependent on the love or attention of another person?" Where did I say that? I like my life as it is. And I am spending my time growing personally. This is not the point though What I want to find out is does he really mean what he says? Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted April 25, 2007 Share Posted April 25, 2007 Only he can tell you that, because only he knows. And you'll have to base your response on what he tells you, and whether you believe him or not. It is impossible for anyone else to give you a concrete answer. We can give opinion or advise, but in the end, it's your call...... Link to post Share on other sites
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