oakstar Posted January 4, 2003 Share Posted January 4, 2003 okay, so i meet this girl at a club, and we have a great time... she seemed to be really interested in me.. the thing is afriend of mine was really tired so we left early, around 3:00am (instead of the usual 6am) so i got her phone number.. called her two days later at around 7pm, we talked for a few minutes and then she said she had an appointment of some sort she was late for. she then said she would be home around 9-9:30 pm. i said ok, but i had a problem calling her, since i wasn't home and my cell-battery was dead. so i called her around 10:45 (the number she gave me was a cell), her phone seemed to be off, since the voice mail came on pretty quick, so i left a short voice message (sounding pretty exhausted, since i'd had a rough day) the next day (friday) i called at 8pm, this time 4 rings, no answer. i'm starting to think that something happened after i left that night at the club... maybe she met someone else, or something... i don't think she's not answering because she's not interested, it doesn't really make sense.. there's no way i could really prove anything, but it might help if someone would reply to make me feel better.. Link to post Share on other sites
velvet Posted January 4, 2003 Share Posted January 4, 2003 I would say the majority at a night club is having fun by the minute by dawn the nights over, I know I'm usually not interested in someone I just met. Maybe just dance on the dance floor, but thats it for me. Maybe she forgot you? I have had my phone blow up after going out over the weekend. These guys are calling and I cant remember a face! I slowed down now, I don't even give my number out. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 4, 2003 Share Posted January 4, 2003 This chick's a bar hopping flake. You don't even know her. Why should you even care where she is or what she's been up to...that's an insult to your good friends and the people who care about you. While bars are one of the worst places to meet people who will be lasting in your life, they are also places to come in contact with acquaintances you can fall for quickly and who will forget about you in the beat of a heart. You are only one of dozens of guys this lady's jerking around right now. If she really wanted to get to know you better, she would have taken action in that direction. She wants nothing to do with anybody right now and she's a free spirit filled with alcohol. The lady you have in your head is an illusion. The real lady you met at the club is just another ordinary, run of the mill club hopper who never stays around anybody for very long. Get over it. I hope I made you feel better...well, maybe not feel better, but to look at this deal with a more practical way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oakstar Posted January 4, 2003 Author Share Posted January 4, 2003 yeah, i guess you're right.. first of all i shouldn't be so hard on myself about this.. but, not all you're saying is true... she didn't seem like the person you've described.. she seemed like an innocent girl (who was sober btw) and we had a great time.. she showed interest in me, by giving compliments, and things like that... i was there... it seems weird though... anyway, i'm not gonna call her anymore, if she wants to make contact, she has my number... Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted January 4, 2003 Share Posted January 4, 2003 YOU WRITE: "she didn't seem like the person you've described.." People never seem that way when you first meet them. But you're quickly finding out exactly what kind of worthless flake she is. Let this be a lesson. Don't try to form an opinion of someone on first meeting. Hell, people are often married 25 years before they start hating each other. This lady met you at a bar and it was really convenient for her to be nice at the time. Because she's a user and a flake, it is no longer convenient or necessary for her to be kind and thoughtful. Be grateful you found this out about her now. Most often, users will suck your blood for a few months before showing their true colors. You lucked out, my friend. Go out and celebrate!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author oakstar Posted January 5, 2003 Author Share Posted January 5, 2003 thanks for all your help now, for the next time, how can i tell if a girl at a club is really interested in me, or is just using me? the signs she was showing seemed very real to me, but i guess i was wrong... so how can i avoid this the next time ??? thanks... Link to post Share on other sites
Bizzit Posted January 5, 2003 Share Posted January 5, 2003 I agree with tony on this one, I have been out to clubs and I have seen my friends do this kind of thing to others for a night of fun. Please guard your emotionl status when you go clubing. Find some where ealse to find a lady other then a club. There is to many ladys out there just looking to say anything not to have to pay the tab for the night. If she was really intrested she would of called by this time. I hope you find happieness:) Link to post Share on other sites
Ally Boo Posted January 6, 2003 Share Posted January 6, 2003 Well, stay away from trying to meet people at bars. Many people just go to bars to have fun...and when you go inside those dark walls, with loud music and cloudy smoke....your head gets cloudy too, and suddenly some inhabitions leave you, and someone you find to be mildly attractive could be your biggest intrest. Some people even go further than getting numbers, and actually leave with these people...hense the expression from the movie "Cayote Ugly." Do yourself a favor, and don't take these people seriously, and enjoy the dancing and flirting for what it's worth...pretty much nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted January 6, 2003 Share Posted January 6, 2003 Originally posted by oakstar okay, so i meet this girl at a club, and we have a great time... she seemed to be really interested in me.. the thing is afriend of mine was really tired so we left early, around 3:00am (instead of the usual 6am) so i got her phone number.. I met this guy at a club and we had a great time. He really seemed to be interested in me. But he had to leave early because his friend was tired. called her two days later at around 7pm, we talked for a few minutes and then she said she had an appointment of some sort she was late for. she then said she would be home around 9-9:30 pm. i said ok, but i had a problem calling her, since i wasn't home and my cell-battery was dead. so i called her around 10:45 (the number she gave me was a cell), her phone seemed to be off, since the voice mail came on pretty quick, so i left a short voice message (sounding pretty exhausted, since i'd had a rough day. the next day (friday) i called at 8pm, this time 4 rings, no answer. He called me a couple days later, but I had to run out! So we only talked for a few minutes. I told him to call me between 9 - 9:30 because that's the only time I'm going to be able to take his call. I can't have my cell phone on at dinner with my family - they get so upset. He left me a voice mail on my cell phone. He sounded kinda funny - I guess he just was really tired. But I asked him to call between 9 - 9:30 and he waited until after 10:30. Do you think he did this on purpose because he knew I wouldn't answer? Maybe he's just really inconsiderate? Or maybe he is just trying to establish that his way comes first? Or maybe the time just got away from him and in that case, I don't want to be with someone who is that thoughtless. i'm starting to think that something happened after i left that night at the club... maybe she met someone else, or something... i don't think she's not answering because she's not interested, it doesn't really make sense I don't want to call either - I'm old fashioned that way and think the guy should call. There could be a million reasons why she hasn't called you, or been available to answer your calls. Try calling her during the time frame she gave you. If you get voice mail just tell her that you are sorry that you haven't been able to connect yet and would like to get together. Ask her to call you at her convenience, give her your phone number again and end the message with something like "If I don't hear from you I guess it just wasn't meant to be and thanks for an enjoyable time at such-and-such club." Then see what, if anything, happens. PS for Tony: Your name calling is funny! I hope that others know you are kidding around a little -- none of us know if this girl is really a flake or whatever. Maybe it's one of the Bush twins! We were all young once and I'm sure not the person now that I thought I would be when I was 20 and going out to clubs! My ex-sister once told me I should try the unemployment office to look for men. one of the many reasons she is my "ex-sister" Link to post Share on other sites
Paul Posted January 6, 2003 Board of Directors Share Posted January 6, 2003 Originally posted by HokeyReligions Maybe it's one of the Bush twins! That's where I'm putting my money. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oakstar Posted January 7, 2003 Author Share Posted January 7, 2003 all of you were wrong except for hokey religions... i called again just fo the heck of it and we talked for around 30 mins... if starting the relationship turned out like this, keeping on to this relationship will be even tougher.. anyway, thanks everyone for your help... Link to post Share on other sites
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