youaremysunshine Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 I'm in an LDR (he's off in collage) and we haven't been talking much the last few weeks. just quick little (somewhat forced) convos on msn. I called him and I was like what up and he told me he has a new girlfriend as of five days ago, and she's here right now... he told me it was kayla, I girl I knew he was friends with. I always thought they were a little too close. but here's the thing, bottom line is I love him and want to be with him. I have a feeling he dosen't really like kayla, he told me before that he only liked her as a friend and was not at all atractted to her. do you think I might be able to "win" him back? Link to post Share on other sites
catrocks Posted April 28, 2007 Share Posted April 28, 2007 Let me make sure I understood right first... so you and he are in an LDR while he's at college but then he stopped talking to you for ages and now you call him up and he tells you about his new gf? First of all, how long have you been in the LDR? Did the two of you ever say that it was exclusive? If you were in an exclusive relationship then it is unforgivable that he would blatently ignore you and avoid you and then wait until you call him to say he's got another girlfriend. If he doesn't really like this girl then why would he risk what you two have on her? He could have lied before about not being attracted to her, especially if the two of you were together when he told you that. Or he could just be bored and think she's easy (or something). Either way, I think you are worth more than that. You need to find a man who will not suddenly stop calling you and magically get a new girlfriend. You deserve fidelity, explanations and love. I wouldn't even bother trying to win him back, it doesn't sound like he's at all worth it. Forget him, cut him out of your life and concentrate on finding a man who deserves you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author youaremysunshine Posted April 29, 2007 Author Share Posted April 29, 2007 yes, we were in an exclusive relationship, for almost a year. I had already told with him I'm not really the jealous type and is he wanted to have an open relationship that was cool with me, as long as we were honest with each other, but he gave me this big speach about how I was the only woman for him and that the thought of me with another man broke his poor little heart. I have talked to him, he seems to think *I* was ignoring him and that my neglecting him drove him into the arms of his friend, who was also going through relationship problems. the thing is, he got with this girl only a week and a half before he's home, possibly for good Link to post Share on other sites
ibitealil Posted May 9, 2007 Share Posted May 9, 2007 Hi, He did not tell you or break up with you before he started seeing her so technically he cheated on you, i would say. So, Ok lets say he doesnt really like her and hes going home soon not having anything serious with this girl but that still doesnt change the fact that he cheated on you and waited for you to hear about it until you call him. LDR is tough and there can be many moments that ud feel ignored but thats not an excuse to sleep with another person. Are you sure Youd still be willing to be with this guy? To answer your question yes you can win him back but by the time you win him back you might risk urself losing his respect towards you. Hed just take u as granted and may be things wont be the same as before, i.e. you ll have more problems. Link to post Share on other sites
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