Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 It takes two to tango. I really like the idea of a rock bottom, but I would recommend that she avoids public transport like the plague. For a while, anyway. Two maybe tangoing but there's a third innocent party in this matter. No need to avoid public transport. Where she currently lays is far lower than public transport could ever drive her... Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Variety is the spice of life. See if you can get another one on the side, like him. It will help keep the relationship "fresh," and you will hopefully avoid getting bored with him. Yup...it'll be the spice of life for her alright...until some wife of one of the husbands she is f#cking beats her to a bloody pulp. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Two maybe tangoing but there's a third innocent party in this matter. I haven't been to a party yet that was innocent. But I hang out with all the wrong people. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Well it if it works for you and yours, and it makes you happy go for it! Is this a joke? Are you actually condoning this woman f#cking another woman's husband? Sure the husband is a bastard and is the main problem..but that doesn't make what she is doing any less despicable. You are actually being a cheerleader for betrayal? Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 It's not always about being selfish. What's the point of living, if you don't feel alive? So thats it...to be alive you have to hurt and betray others? And yes...its very selfish....maybe the wife will take a frying pan to both of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Why is everyone so hard on her? Unless its the spouses talking....... At least she decided that she won't listen to his lies and promises like the rest of us. She knows what the hell is going on and accept this. I think this is the best way to be in an affair, and be stay sane. Sorry to the spouses who think this is wrong and who are waiting for the affair to die off, it won't under these circumstances. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 maybe the wife will take a frying pan to both of them. :lmao: I can see and hear a cartoon version of this. *thunk, thunk* "Ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch" Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 *thunk, thunk* "Ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch" Anal sex is twice as painful if you don't relax. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Anal sex is twice as painful if you don't relax. Which is why I don't indulge in anal sex. Getting it up the wazoo is not a good feeling... Link to post Share on other sites
Author scaredinlove Posted April 26, 2007 Author Share Posted April 26, 2007 Maybe his wife will find an OM for herself and have abit of fun on the side as well. Why should he be the only one to have 2 women in his life, to have his cake and eat it too? She had a OM for many yrs, Hey she may go back to him. Who knows? Link to post Share on other sites
Author scaredinlove Posted April 26, 2007 Author Share Posted April 26, 2007 Implies commitment on your part, at least one person in your relationship can show commitment. Have you discussed this with him ? yeah we did discusses., Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Getting it up the wazoo is not a good feeling... I just pray that it doesn't happen to me one day. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 I just pray that it doesn't happen to me one day. Best to relax, if it does... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 yeah we did discusses., What was his feeling on the discussion ? Was/Is he okay with you putting your life on hold for him even though he isn't putting his life on hold for you ? Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Best to relax, if it does... Your advice is most appeciated, as are you. And your facial expression will ram the point home for me. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Your advice is most appreciated, as are you. And your facial expression will ram the point home for me. Ah, you're beginning to understand the assertive side of me... Link to post Share on other sites
mrmaximum Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Marriage is all about compromise. Wonder if you'd have such an attitude if YOU where the unknowing spouse, HMMM? So by this logic when people break lawful agreements THAT is a compromise? Try again, you lack of compassion for other people is quite amusing. Link to post Share on other sites
Storyrider Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Maybe I prefer to think it should be a joint decision, if possible - the relationship kind of belongs to both of them. Life isn't perfect, and sometimes we believe we are doing the best thing for all concerned. Something like a "sum of the good outweighs the evil" thing. It's not always about being selfish. What's the point of living, if you don't feel alive? I didn't mean he should jettison her and lock the door. My point is, if he loves her, he cares for her well-being and happiness. Even if it would hurt him. He wants what is objectively best for her. And surely that isn't waiting in the wings for him forever when she has the potential (even if hypothetical) for a real relationship with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 You have GOT to be joking!! Quote: Originally Posted by pelagicsands Marriage is all about compromise. Um yeah Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 but how does one go about being someone's mistress "forever"? Is there a ceremony for that? Some kind of legally binding agreement? Vows that are spoken before your closest friends and families? Wow, who knew.... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Vows of an OW: I promise to..... Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted April 26, 2007 Share Posted April 26, 2007 Vows of an OW: I promise to..... Be lied to whenever the need arises for MM's well being. Allow MM to make you feel that what goes wrong is all your fault to give him peace of mind from guilt. Never ever ask any questions that you have the right to know because you will ruin his whole day because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 27, 2007 Share Posted April 27, 2007 My point is, if he loves her, he cares for her well-being and happiness. Even if it would hurt him. He wants what is objectively best for her. And surely that isn't waiting in the wings for him forever when she has the potential (even if hypothetical) for a real relationship with someone else. Maybe I see your point. And maybe I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
pelagicsands Posted April 27, 2007 Share Posted April 27, 2007 Vows of an OW: I promise to..... Hmmm. Five dots. Let me think. How about a space, followed by a four-letter word? I give up. There's really not a lot of room for promises... or is it meant to be open-ended? You didn't run her over in mid-sentence?? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted April 27, 2007 Share Posted April 27, 2007 WWU I won't miss out. I have been married , I have kids, I have a god job. I want to be single. My kids have a father and he is trying to improve his relationship with them. So they don't need another man in their lives. They have uncles and cousins and a grandfather. I have ben married for 14 years and I have lived w/ another man before that. I love being with the kids only. I don't feel like living with anyone else. I talked w/ MM and we agree that even if for some crazy reason he become single we would live in separeted places. Thanks for wising me good luck .But honestly I think this is the best situation for me right now! There's something I wish to point out from what you have posted. Are you aware of how many I's you have used? You have mentioned that they have a father, who is now more apart from them than before because of something he didn't do wrong, or justification was made by you so you could do what you did to cause this to happen. 1. To destroy your and your husbands marriage, despite his faults. 2. To destroy OM's and his wifes marriage, continue affair, and allowing his wife to live a lie. 3. To cause your children to not see their father like they should, to interact, to have fun, to spend quality time with him. 4. Your husband doesn't get to tuck them in at night, and read them bedtime stories. 5. This is an extremely selfish attitude, to help cause the suffering of so many people, whether they have faults or are innocent is not relevent, they do not deserve to suffer like this. 6. Welcome to the Dark Side of the Force! Link to post Share on other sites
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