lady raven Posted April 27, 2007 Share Posted April 27, 2007 Can anyone think of anyways in which a male may show if he likes a girl. For instance i think with men, i know that there is possibility of the girl liking you if for instance you have like a piece of string on your shoulder. She will remove it to make you look better and as an excuse to touch you. Also if its done slowly then i think its a sure signal, but if quick then just friends. Here shes looking after her man!! Does work! Im female lol i know! Anything for finding out if he does like you truely, as im afraid the guy i like...likes attention and not me. Link to post Share on other sites
konfuzd Posted April 28, 2007 Share Posted April 28, 2007 A blanket question like that really has no answer, because each person is different, and it may differ by person based on their level of interest. Best way to find out: ask him out. Simple as that. It's so much better to know one way or another, rather than having it a "what if" forever. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted April 28, 2007 Share Posted April 28, 2007 Best way to find out: ask him out. Simple as that. It's so much better to know one way or another, rather than having it a "what if" forever. Yes that works. Personally I could always tell without the asking. I just knew. Link to post Share on other sites
funkify Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Ok, here's a question...how do you ask a guy out (grab a coffee, for example) making sure he knows it's actually a date rather than a friendly get together? And do it in a way that is non-threatening? Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Ok, here's a question...how do you ask a guy out (grab a coffee, for example) making sure he knows it's actually a date rather than a friendly get together? And do it in a way that is non-threatening? Do it in a non-threatening way? Oh boy. Why not ask him if he wants to go out for coffee? Pretty simple. Link to post Share on other sites
funkify Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 Do it in a non-threatening way? Oh boy. Why not ask him if he wants to go out for coffee? Pretty simple. Yes but how does he know that it's more than a friendly coffee? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 The best test is to ask yourself this question. Has he asked me out? Yes or no. Link to post Share on other sites
funkify Posted May 1, 2007 Share Posted May 1, 2007 The best test is to ask yourself this question. Has he asked me out? Yes or no. I don't get it. What if I want to do the asking first? For example, there is a guy from college and we really hit it off. Through a committee we are on, he got my email and we exchanged phone numbers. Had some great conversations (non flirty) and we kept saying how we should catch up properly for a coffee etc...so we did. Now, I thought this was a date...but the night was purely friendly, no flirting, just great conversation. It's stayed at this 'friendship' level ever since, no colder or hotter. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I don't get it. What if I want to do the asking first? For example, there is a guy from college and we really hit it off. Through a committee we are on, he got my email and we exchanged phone numbers. Had some great conversations (non flirty) and we kept saying how we should catch up properly for a coffee etc...so we did. Now, I thought this was a date...but the night was purely friendly, no flirting, just great conversation. It's stayed at this 'friendship' level ever since, no colder or hotter. You're in the friends zone. You have to break out of it by lightly flirting with him. If he backs off, he's not interested so you have the choice of moving on or remaining friends. Don't go all weird about it if he's not interested or you're going to lose him as a friend. If he is, he'll start showing interest and if you encourage it, he will ask you out. Link to post Share on other sites
lady raven Posted May 2, 2007 Share Posted May 2, 2007 I don't get it. What if I want to do the asking first? For example, there is a guy from college and we really hit it off. Through a committee we are on, he got my email and we exchanged phone numbers. Had some great conversations (non flirty) and we kept saying how we should catch up properly for a coffee etc...so we did. Now, I thought this was a date...but the night was purely friendly, no flirting, just great conversation. It's stayed at this 'friendship' level ever since, no colder or hotter. haha me too!!!!! email then number, well i took convo flirty the other day and he followed only he backed of after not replying to a certain text. He was quite over flirtier than me until i suggested he takes me out!! wooops regretting that one! so safe to say he doesnt like me, it was late and there was no question fr him to reply back to...maybe hes playin games!?? We were talking about meeting up before except he made it work benneficiant, i was like noooo but jokingly!! Im on thin ice, any ideas???? or is it that hes just not interested but he was hevay flirting! Im soo confuseedddd! Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Posted June 20, 2007 Share Posted June 20, 2007 best way i think is to keep it at a platonic level at the moment. just ask like you'd ask any of your other friends for example "hey im gonna get some coffee bit thirsty wanna join me?" just remember that its only on a friendly basis so if you think along those lines when asking it wont sound like a big deal Link to post Share on other sites
Chingy Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 Dear Lady Raven, If I was the guy, I would prefer that you come up to me one on one and communicate your intention. Males could be very poor at reading signals from time to time. But I can't say for sure, but it certainly takes care of any ambiguity associated with an alternative approach. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
azianpride143 Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 Depends on the guy. Some guys are plain shy and don't know how to react. I would take your time. You do not want to come on as too pushy. Link to post Share on other sites
Chingy Posted June 21, 2007 Share Posted June 21, 2007 Depends on the guy. Some guys are plain shy and don't know how to react. I would take your time. You do not want to come on as too pushy. One comment on that. If the female has to do the "dirty work", i.e. communicating to the male about her intentions, and if the guy still fails to act reasonably, then chances are he simply isn't ready. Just a thought. Link to post Share on other sites
solo_flyer Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 If he's always finding excuses to talk to you then he probably likes you. As a guy I often don't even realise that this is exactly what I do! Link to post Share on other sites
Tranzphasic0 Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 wth? put a piece of string on your shoulder is the test to see if they remove it? thats pretty smart. do you think guys would removed the string from the girl they like only or vice-versa Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 One comment on that. If the female has to do the "dirty work", i.e. communicating to the male about her intentions, and if the guy still fails to act reasonably, then chances are he simply isn't ready. Just a thought. Exactly. I also view it this way, at least for most of the time. Sorry but I'm not much into men who are unable or are too shy to express interest, so the balance of the times are moot. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted July 8, 2007 Share Posted July 8, 2007 I remember this from a movie, "legally blonde" I think. The old 'Bend and Snap'. In essence you drop something (pencil, napkin, whatever) then you bend over to get it, then do the hair flip and look at your intended. I tried it once with a Budweiser delivery guy (stud bud). Gosh, I miss him. I bent over to get a diet coke from the bottom of the cooler and snapped up only to discover he was bent over stocking beer. I guess we were using the bend and snap on each other. At least the cashier got a good laugh at it all. Or you could just be direct and ask the guy out. Just say, hey here is my number, I would love to hang out sometime. They might be weirded out but if they are interested they would call eventually. Think Mae West. Regards, Unders Link to post Share on other sites
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