LDR + I'm her 1st boyfriend ever + her kissing another guy when drunk after breakup

[dangerpanda]

Alright, fellas, help me out here.

 

This girl has been pursuing me for years. I finally told her I liked her one night on the phone, and she flew all the way from school in France where she studies abroad to come visit me and make love for 2 weeks straight...true story.

 

She grew up spoiled and sheltered, Dad is a retired Vietnam-era tough-as-nails Marine, she only slept with one other guy EVER and THAT guy was the same one she lost her virginity 2 months prior to talking to me.

 

I am the subject of blogs, diary entries, conversations with girlfriends, etc.

 

She has NEVER had a serious boyfriend. She claims I am her one and only and refers to me in possessive terms (mine, my one and only, my Michael, etc).

 

She prides her self on discipline, self control and drive and likes those things about me, saying that had attracted her to me. The only thing she doesn't like is my worrying, negative attitude towards the physical distance between us and "not having tact".

 

During the last time she dumped me, I got so angry I sent her a picture of me and another girl actually sleeping together, not ****ing, but asleep and me holding her. I knew it would make her mad, but wow, that's screwed things up. She said she had forgiven me, and then 2 days ago called me in the early morning and confessed she had kissed another guy.

 

She went into a really scary mode when I told her that girl I sent her the picture of got mad at me for sending it to her, and that she slapped me. She was drunk, and went into a thing where for 30 minutes straight, she kept saying over and over, "Nobody touches my Michael! Nobody touches my Michael!"

 

It was scary.

 

 

I love the girl, I fell in love last but I am afraid she didn't like me for me and is trying to pull out. She says she needs time to figure out what she wants, and she thought she knew what she wanted, but I've acted the same since the beginning. She knows I love her, and everytime we broke up, she made clear that she is very much in love with and just wants me to change certain things about me. I want to get nicer, be more tolerant etc but I wish she would accept me for me. I don't cheat, covet other women, sneak peeks, talk to other females on the side, and take a lot of time out of my military party time to spend it on her - on the phone mostly cause she is in France.

 

Somebody HELP.

[pelagicsands]

, "Nobody touches my Michael! Nobody touches my Michael!"

Is that her pet name for her private place?

[dangerpanda]

No...

I told her this chick had slapped me dead in the face, and she actually lost her breath and started to hyperventiliate, repeating that over and over again.

"Nobody touches my Michael! Nobody touches my Michael!"

[Javelin]

Um, what do you want help with?

[dangerpanda]

The situation.

 

Do I wait for her to figure out what she wants, and, if so, for how long?

I want to be with her.

[Javelin]

If you want to be with her, then you've answered your own question. Time basically stops in relationships where 2 people are on a break. Now it is up to you to make those sacrifices in order to stay with her. I'd suggest having a nice one on one talk with her, explaining exactly how you feel.

 

Just remember, if you're not willing to change then you might want to reconsider your answer.