do i trust him?????

[lisa12]

hi, about 6 months ago i found out that my partner of ten years had a faceparty account and was chatting to this girl who lived not far from us,he knew her from b4 we got 2gether and a asked him about it but he lied and said it was his mate chatting to her, i got hold of her number from his phone and spoke to her,she says they used to chat a few years back but nothing ever happend between them,she told me he picked her up from collage one night and took her home(just dropped her off) i asked him and he admitted it,he also sent her emails that he hated his life at home and in an ideal world he wud be with her.

he did tell her they cud never be more than freinds though,a few weeks later she found out we were still 2gether and makeing a go of it and she phoned me up saying he had already slept with sum1 behind my back but she didnt know who it was,she hasnt had any contact with me for about 3 months now.

i packed my thing along with our 2 children and told him i was leaving i have never seen him in such a state screaming with crying saying hes realised how much his family means to him he even wants to get marrid,things have changed he is more caring but something is still really bugging me,should i try and trust him again or will he do it again? this girl was only 17,did she make up that he had slept with sum1 just cus she was gelous or do i look deeper to find out if shes telling the truth? if so how do i do it? i have instaled a program on the internet that catches everything you do on the comp and he hasnt done anything since i found out.

its just so hart to belive and trust him,any advise wud help!!!!

thanx.

[Lizzie60]

hi, about 6 months ago i found out that my partner of ten years had a faceparty account and was chatting to this girl who lived not far from us,he knew her from b4 we got 2gether and a asked him about it but he lied and said it was his mate chatting to her, i got hold of her number from his phone and spoke to her,she says they used to chat a few years back but nothing ever happend between them,she told me he picked her up from collage one night and took her home(just dropped her off) i asked him and he admitted it,he also sent her emails that he hated his life at home and in an ideal world he wud be with her.

he did tell her they cud never be more than freinds though,a few weeks later she found out we were still 2gether and makeing a go of it and she phoned me up saying he had already slept with sum1 behind my back but she didnt know who it was,she hasnt had any contact with me for about 3 months now.

i packed my thing along with our 2 children and told him i was leaving i have never seen him in such a state screaming with crying saying hes realised how much his family means to him he even wants to get marrid,things have changed he is more caring but something is still really bugging me,should i try and trust him again or will he do it again? this girl was only 17,did she make up that he had slept with sum1 just cus she was gelous or do i look deeper to find out if shes telling the truth? if so how do i do it? i have instaled a program on the internet that catches everything you do on the comp and he hasnt done anything since i found out.

its just so hart to belive and trust him,any advise wud help!!!!

thanx.

 

Go with your gut feeling... If you want to stay in the marriage for now.. stay but keep your eyes and ears opened. He might just calm down for a while though... but if he's cheating, you'll catch him eventually. My bet is that you will catch him!