do i really have nothing to offer

[joel]

i have a question? something about myself first. 26 yr old chinese canadian born guy,never had a gf or been in a relationship. met up girls mostly off the net, and u could say dated one -kissed her -was the most i did. the longest-(so called meeting /hang out, not sure if even a date) i would say is 3 months and shortest being one date. i don;t have a lot of friends/or even a network of ppl. the 2 guy friends i have are also like me-no girls, pretty much loners.

 

i ask a online friend this and also a close friend as why girl don't want me as a bf or anything longer than lets say 2 dates ? one reason is b/c i have nothing to offer.

meaniing-no money-work -but don't make a lot, is it that big of a factor not having a car - vancouver transit is top notch-can afford a cheapo car, but don't realli need one and its too expensive-insurance is 2k a yr and gas is 1.3 litre, don';t have a good job-finished my college 2 yr diploma in business ,but can't find work related to the field, since i lack work experience and also i believe a lot of the good jobs are introduced and networked throught ur own network of friends and ppl ya now.

 

i also been so called not even good looking-jsut very very average- heres my pic i have 2 of em http://www.myspace.com/47975576.

 

so is it true really, a guy with not a career oriented job,(call centre type of work is what i am doing) but went to college with a dilpoma, has no car and takes the bus everywhere he goes, has money,but not at all rich, very so called just plain average looking. oh ya and is my 2 yr dilpoma in business very just so called average educated.

 

i also was sheltered as a child , so my social skills are just like average , i mean i talk a whole lot now. i talk with everyone at work. i make chit chat about everything. i was very shy and quiete growing up and sheltered , that is why i am a late bloomer.

 

i have nothing to offer ,so no girl would want to date me for long and keep me as a bf. ): what can i do ? advice please

[Enema]

I don't think the things you have are turning women off.

 

It may be to do with social skills and personality, or maybe the women you're aiming for?

 

Difficult to say without knowing you, though I'm sure other people will have more to add.

[Trialbyfire]

There are plenty of guys out there with the same credentials as you do who are in relationships. What you need to do is to give yourself a shot of self-confidence.

 

One suggestion though, no matter how good the transit is in Vancouver, you need a car if you're going to ask a girl out for a date. No girl wants to get dressed up or even dressed casually with heels, and take public transit.

[pelagicsands]

No girl wants to get dressed up or even dressed casually with heels, and take public transit.

I don't know, there's got to be a few eco-nuts out there. Save the planet, and all that. Environmentally-friendly dating could be a goldmine. Those girls are usually vegetarians, and can never get enough protein from their regular diet, so they'll take any chance they can get to swallow a supplement. Are you catching my drift?